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Who cares!

As far i stay my lane and don't need anybody for intervention.

Na commissioner daughter i dey find sef. Who get time for poor girl!

SpencerForbes:
Nigerian man shares the advantage of not marrying into a poor family as he hangs out with his rich father-in-law.

No be that Davido boy be this?

I will rather befriend a family that's way wealthier than me than marry into them. I know I have bad habits, let me keep my bad habits to myself and those I can easily control, and do fake smile outside to get opportunities.

SpencerForbes:
Nairaland mod let's take this to front page and I don't have 5 more characters

Count the characters here

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

I doubt he solely married her for the money. The money was the icing on the cake.

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

It's better,poverty is a curse to mankind.It is a plague,you're useless to yourself,family and society.Avoid poor people at all cost.

shortgun:
Marrying Into a Family that's richer than you?
Think Twice, Brother.
That guy just made the biggest mistake of his life.

No matter how nice they smile, he’ll never be truly respected in that family. To them, he’s not the man their daughter should have married he’s the one she settled for. Behind closed doors, her parents are quietly disappointed and her father probably mocking him in silence.

The ugly truth is, when a man marries "up," he often sacrifices his dignity for comfort. Every small disagreement becomes a reminder of what he didn’t bring to the table. The power dynamic is off from day one.

My advice to men:
Never marry into wealth thinking it’s a win. It often comes at the cost of your pride.

A man is nothing without his dignity and respect. Never trade that for fancy dinner tables and empty smiles.

you could be wrong bro,
no real woman wants her man disrespected,
the only thing that matter is that the wife loves and respect him, her family will follow her else bleep them , the couple keep their distance.

Hmmm lol

ednut1:
My friend married into a rich family. He constantly had to spend to maintain his wife’s standards. He is divorced and broke now

You are lying bro

HacheNoire:
If you still don’t meet up, you will be a slave to the family. You will have no say!

Their many instances of people who find themselves in that helpless position and remain a maid or house boy.

The point is working hard on yourself to be able to afford a top lady.

Forget what you see from outside, most men and ladies who fall into those circumstances are maids and houseboys.

You lost me at 'afford a top lady's

Niggas and buying love with money mindset

Marrying from a rich family might be something but that doesn't always mean Marrying from a good family. Hopefully he gets both

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

This post really touch you

I wonder why

luminouz:
You lost me at 'afford a top lady's

Niggas and buying love with money mindset

You misinterpreted my contest. You have to be at a level to meet a lady at your level. You not buying a woman but attracting same energy as yours.

It is not by marrying a woman from a rich household, especially as a man who has built himself. But by marrying into a family with fewer children. Marrying a woman who has too many siblings, especially young ones, is a red flag to me.

LofP:
Context is important.

First, the guy isn't living in Nigeria. He is a doctor in the US.

Second, his wife is not Nigerian, she is American either Haitian or some other central American country, but she isn't Nigerian. The guy just wants to pepper you guys and everyone is arguing about this. The rich father in law he is talking about is just another American citizen living a great life in America, not under T-pain's reign. See why I said context is important?

These are important aspects people should understand. I have followed most of the tweets recently and many are so unrealistic for the vast majority in Nigeria. Also, they don't reflect real-life experiences as people still marry within their class in Nigeria.

Many netizens forget that Nigeria is a country full of poor people.

Very simple as a guy hold your side tight , be man of value and high integrity.. never marry a woman for money ( be it her father’s wealth or her own money).

Otherwise you are doomed for life !

That said, marrying into an influential family be it a male or female does have heaps of advantages!

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

People think gold digging is cheap... If you are looking for easy route, you will find difficulty. There is no short cut to success. For me, I want to be like Ned kwoko... Father of all

kolente:
The risk and probability of divorce and separation when marrying into a rich home is higher than a person from a poor or average home.

Living with a rich spoilt child is not fun and is frustrating.

You can say that again!
May of those rich spoilt brats turn out to be very narcissistic in nature; they often think and act as if the world revolves around them.

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

I think in life it’s best to pick your struggle. While you are condemning him you fail to recognize the fact that he has been saved the stress of battling with a poverty stricken family even if it is in exchange for being a submissive husband.

In the end just pick your struggle and let others enjoy their own choices. Not all men must marry broke women. Don’t hate!!!

JovialJune:
That nomenclature Op quoted married a carribean woman, then decided to keep disgracing his lineage on X, insulting Nigerian females, his mother included, extreme nonentity of a person.

So many naija ladies from rich homes, they don't want those ones because of deflated ego and low self esteem, they'd rather simp lick the feet of a semi white woman and her family mainly because she isn't the colour of their skin,

Coonish clowns.

You 'wrote' that with a British accent .
I wonder if you have ever had an encounter, that did not end well, with someone like the Ops.

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

exactly my thoughts.

Firebox123:
is your husband or your father in law Rich

Abeg no mind broke feminist.

franchasng:
All the things you mentioned are no big deal, neither are they too much sacrifice to pay for lifetime financial security.


If you know what men born into poor family go through to overcome poverty and financial lack, then you will see those things you wrote up there as a privilege.


Can you compare those things to carrying drug to cross Malaysian airport where it is boldly written that if you are caught you will be killed instantly? Can you compare it to swallowing pills of hard drug to board an 8 hours or 16 hours flight to a foreign land?


Can you compare it to staying awake looking for people's account to hack or sending unsolicited emails to people all around the world hoping to get a response? Can you compare it to being an internationally wanted internet scammer who lives a fearful and vigilant life all year round? Or is it equal to sitting in one shop from morning till night praying for a customer to come buy your goods? Or can you compare it to a boy turning himself to a girl or qay just so he can get men to rim him for some money?



Ebuka Obi can squander all the money he makes from hosting Big Brother today knowing fully well that whether he makes money or not, the future of his children are secured just because he married the daughter of a billionaire (owner of Young Shall Grow Motors)

Is this what hustle is for you drug fraud and what not.

I shake my head for Nigeria youths. Typical Nigerian low mentality.

What can I say we have a criminal at the top.

shortgun:
Marrying Into a Family that's richer than you?
Think Twice, Brother.
That guy just made the biggest mistake of his life.

No matter how nice they smile, he’ll never be truly respected in that family. To them, he’s not the man their daughter should have married he’s the one she settled for. Behind closed doors, her parents are quietly disappointed and her father probably mocking him in silence.

The ugly truth is, when a man marries "up," he often sacrifices his dignity for comfort. Every small disagreement becomes a reminder of what he didn’t bring to the table. The power dynamic is off from day one.

My advice to men:
Never marry into wealth thinking it’s a win. It often comes at the cost of your pride.

A man is nothing without his dignity and respect. Never trade that for fancy dinner tables and empty smiles.

Marrying into a poor family does not guarantee peace of mind also. Poverty mentality can give you high blood pressure too

Firebox123:
is your husband or your father in law Rich

Thank you for this . Many are suffering in silence under their so called rich inlaws especially the mother inlaw except for few that have the fear of God and are independent minded that treat the son inlaw like their own son

shortgun:
Marrying Into a Family that's richer than you?
Think Twice, Brother.
That guy just made the biggest mistake of his life.

No matter how nice they smile, he’ll never be truly respected in that family. To them, he’s not the man their daughter should have married he’s the one she settled for. Behind closed doors, her parents are quietly disappointed and her father probably mocking him in silence.

The ugly truth is, when a man marries "up," he often sacrifices his dignity for comfort. Every small disagreement becomes a reminder of what he didn’t bring to the table. The power dynamic is off from day one.

My advice to men:
Never marry into wealth thinking it’s a win. It often comes at the cost of your pride.

A man is nothing without his dignity and respect. Never trade that for fancy dinner tables and empty smiles.

Word!

You've said it all. That's the man accepting a greek gift, it will surely sting him one day especially when he's not expecting it.

Firebox123:
I'll rather ignore you to avoid spambot wahala

Abeg no ignore, 😂 stretch hin yhansh

This what happens when you are poor and come from poor family,the go turn this albino to slave last last,maybe way dey jobless sef,all this gigolo and loverboys who are lazy to work,y can't you create and let the family make you rich so you have standard and maintain the wealth

On the surface, you may appear successful with cars, but in reality, you are just a chauffeur running errands, taking cars for maintenance, or driving them to car washes and mechanics. The toughest part is when the wife disrespects you, made worse by the fact that her family supports your household financially. To me, this situation feels like a blow to a man's masculinity and sense of self-worth.

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

Not necessarily the case, don't hate.

Mariangeles:
"A day with my father in-law love it!"
He has probably never spent a whole day with his own father.

What men like this won't tell anyone is how they're ass-kissing errand boys for their wives' family.
They can call them at any time, and they have no choice but to answer.
This online rant is to console himself, and "pepper" the unsuspecting.

Abeg, make we hear word!!!!


Who said he doesn't have his own money.. He is just glad he doesn't have to gbe egun e Le gun like his life depends on it ...

JovialJune:
Oh so now men are also gold diggers, good to know they aren't the only one wanting financial security in marriage.

Calm down. All his saying is that he won't have to bear the responsibility of the wife's family. Simple.