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Before I got into university, I used to have game. Things changed when I arrived on campus and realized just how big the world really was. First, I noticed how short I was at 5'6 (because in secondary school we were all more or less the same height). Second, I realized I was broke and constantly struggling financially.

Those two things fed into my insecurities, and they ate away at me. In my first year, I even let go of my high school love since it was long-distance anyway. I started wearing a face mask all the time just to avoid people seeing me. The only thing I did back then was read.

By 300 level, it hit me that I should have been learning other things as a fresher, like talking to girls and maybe even building some real romantic experiences. Now I am in my final year, and honestly, I have no idea how to start a relationship or even make a move physically.

Its really embarrassing. I am not ugly, so that is not the problem. But I am still broke. I have been into tech for months but have almost nothing to show for it financially. I feel like my biggest problem is confidence, but I do not know how to overcome it.

Transformer777:
Before I got into university, I used to have game. Things changed when I arrived on campus and realized just how big the world really was. First, I noticed how short I was at 5'6 (because in secondary school we were all more or less the same height). Second, I realized I was broke and constantly struggling financially.

Those two things fed into my insecurities, and they ate away at me. In my first year, I even let go of my high school love since it was long-distance anyway. I started wearing a face mask all the time just to avoid people seeing me. The only thing I did back then was read.

By 300 level, it hit me that I should have been learning other things as a fresher, like talking to girls and maybe even building some real romantic experiences. Now I am in my final year, and honestly, I have no idea how to start a relationship or even make a move physically.

Its really embarrassing. I am not ugly, so that is not the problem. But I am still broke. I have been into tech for years but have nothing to show for it financially. I feel like my biggest problem is confidence, but I do not know how to overcome it.

I am more shocked that someone is thinking this way honestly.
You are into tech? What area?

The journey to 1,000 steps starts with a step and the right direction that's what the wise people say.

So from a look up things I can say you're under 25.

So there is nothing that is really wrong with you but to start you need to have some cheese in your pocket.

Take life for instance.

Everything involves practice.

To build confidence you need to practice confidence.

It may seem awkward but at time goes on you are going to build confidence.

The fact of the matter remains that you are okay, just old fashioned because a lot of guys have started way more earlier than you like 10 years back.

This shouldn't take away anything from you in fact he's going to add to your personality good luck

Go and make money. women don't want too much talk. Na your money go do the talking.

Hampers001:
I am more shocked that someone is thinking this way honestly.
You are into tech? What area?

Seconded, which area of tech are you into?
I think your concern should be about that "still broke" not about relationships.

Talk about your tech skills... Maybe you're not doing some things right

Relationship these days is based on pay as you go. If you are not bold enough to politely ask her what a night with her will cost, then do come and marry. Come and marry is complicated and you will still end up spending money so look for girls that are reasonably financially secure to do it with. University and NYSC are the periods you will get girls the most. Once you graduate, you start building your career, you're still in the game though.

You must find the constant courage to talk to girls, start with the ones you're already talking to.

Walk up to 10 girls everyday, say you'd like to hang out with them, forget you are broke, just be collecting their numbers, don't call. This exercise is to embolden you. It does not matter if they are older. Talk to any girl you like. Sort what you can afford. If not for economic hardship, uni babes were a lot more decent.

If you're having any difficulty, quote me, I will reply with practical steps. Also know girls are very confused people, another gist. But fimd the courage and follow up. No dull yourself. Them go get you down you go fear self.

Hampers001:
I am more shocked that someone is thinking this way honestly.
You are into tech? What area?

web development (backend)

AffiliateGuruNG:


The journey to 1,000 steps starts with a step and the right direction that's what the wise people say.

So from a look up things I can say you're under 25.

So there is nothing that is really wrong with you but to start you need to have some cheese in your pocket.

Take life for instance.

Everything involves practice.

To build confidence you need to practice confidence.

It may seem awkward but at time goes on you are going to build confidence.

The fact of the matter remains that you are okay, just old fashioned because a lot of guys have started way more earlier than you like 10 years back.

This shouldn't take away anything from you in fact he's going to add to your personality good luck

Thank you

SocialJustice:
Relationship these days is based on pay as you go. If you are not bold enough to politely ask her what a night with her will cost, then do come and marry. Come and marry is complicated and you will still end up spending money so look for girls that are reasonably financially secure to do it with. University and NYSC are the periods you will get girls the most. Once you graduate, you start building your career, you're still in the game though.

You must find the constant courage to talk to girls, start with the ones you're already talking to.

Walk up to 10 girls everyday, say you'd like to hang out with them, forget you are broke, just be collecting their numbers, don't call. This exercise is to embolden you. It does not matter if they are older. Talk to any girl you like. Sort what you can afford. If not for economic hardship, uni babes were a lot more decent.

If you're having any difficulty, quote me, I will reply with practical steps. Also know girls are very confused people, another gist. But fimd the courage and follow up. No dull yourself. Them go get you down you go fear self.

Thank you very much.

I will reply with practical steps.

I wouldn't mind this

Focus on the bag bro ..let that be major

Woman matter....minor


Cos no matter the love, at the end of the day...the money remains the most important stuff to these genders full of wonders...

Transformer777:
web development (backend)

what stack? MERN?

Gabrielshow24:
what stack? MERN?

No, django/flask

First Things First

Naija is tough. Focus on finishing with a giod grade and developing your tech skills


Thats major now

Listen
It's all in the mind , if you think you have game it would reflect in reality if you think you don't it would reflect in reality.

It's your mind building all these insecurities and you feel like Ur not really cut out for the kinda life u think u should be leading.
Train your mind , feed it with positivity and watch Ur life turn around for the better.

Back In my 100 level , I had 3 different girls chase me , at GST classes they would come sit next , I didn't approach any of them. I just fed my mind with positivity that I was worth it and reality blended in and that was it. Fix Ur mind.

Your finances too would improve when your mind does.

Transformer777:
web development (backend)

You got a good skills...
Just keep at it oh...

Are you in Lagos?