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What's this new trend with ladies these days,you can't ask a lady out and she won't begin billing you, some will tell you they have a boyfriend but still ask you for help,

The new one is if you give her greenlight she will tell you let's be friends, because she can't date for now, and next day she will ask you for help.

So for us to find love now we must first send like 10 girls our money. I don't blame those who don't marry. You will think church sisters are different, but now they're worse, they will tell you let us see how it goes, and billing will begin.

Well my strategy is if we don't get very into ourselves, nothing drops.

Some of us have been billed by both genders and didn't cry, but wena you're here crying because of a single gender? Come on, don't be such a cry baby.

I've had a whole married woman asking me to buy her child pampers diapers and a whole grown man asking me to help him with his electricity bill just to mention the few... And neither was I related nor friends with the people... Just say you're broke.

All because of their entitlement mentality.
Some women just feel that it is a man's place to take care of them whether by hook or crook. But kudos to the tiny minority of women who understands that life happens to everyone irrespective of your gender and therefore mind their business and maintain their integrity.

Samantha125:
Some of us have been billed by both genders and didn't cry, but wena you're here crying because of a single gender? Come on, don't be such a cry baby.

I've had a whole married woman asking me to buy her child pampers diapers and a whole grown man asking me to help him with his electricity bill just to mention the few... And neither was I related nor friends with the people.

My good friend i think you are missing the point that the op is trying to put across.
If i understand him correctly,i think he is referring to those group of ladies who see men as their meal tickets and general life problem solver. It's now a pandemic, you ask a lady out and next day it's her birthday, her rent is due, she is hungry or her "late father" is undergoing an emergency surgery🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️ and she needs help from you. My dear the list is endless. Even female neighbors, church sisters,or just any female friend are not left out. This is opposed to people who approached you for assistance which i understand is the angle you are coming from.
Cheers 👍

Mumu people lazy people want the best things nonsense

My brother na so me too dey see am over here. She get boyfriend but go dey ask from help every time from me.

You're obviously still a learner in the game. There is serious hunger in the land. So you don't ask girls out cos that's like opening the door for unnecessary billing.

But you can still get her laid without spending shi shi. The problem with most of you guys is that you're too impatient. You want her for yourself, you want an answer now, you keep bugging and disturbing her every 30 seconds for a reply. No be so my guy...

If you see a girl you like, just vibe with her and avoid mentioning anything relating to love. And as you do, keep complaining about the economy and how things are difficult. That way she won't mistakenly bill you.

Now the question is if she isn't billing you, what is she gaining from you. She should be gaining something from you. This is where my next paragraph comes in.

In Lagos today, just have a good well furnished apartment and if possible a car and like I sad before you won't spend shi shi. Infact she's the one who would be calling you that she wants to come over for weekend. Just respond by telling her you don't have money and she'll tell you no problem and come with her money. Just ensure there's provision in the house so she'll cook when she comes, open your wifi or Hotspot for her, share Netflix with her... Etc.

She'll spend the entire weekend with you and your wallet wouldn't blink.

Now to the issue of dating, you must make sure she genuinely desires you. If she does, you can take it further. If she doesn't just keep enjoying your free coochie until either of you gets tired.

People who suffer the most in the hands of girls are broke guys who are struggling to find their feet. You can't be in that state and be talking about love and relationship. Find your bearing first, then love can come later.

Let the women bashing begin in 10,9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2,1



And go!!!!!

IF u can pay continue if u cant pay just stop talking to her.

No matter how fine u are or how interested in you I am

If u ask me for money and i dont have it i just say so.

Whatever u do after that is the destiny of the relationship

There are some girls if their msg pop up on my WhatsApp I am 97 percent sure it's billing. They can barely have a chat that won't end up in billing.

Anijay1212:
My good friend i think you are missing the point that the op is trying to put across.
If i understand him correctly,i think he is referring to those group of ladies who see men as their meal tickets and general life problem solver. It's now a pandemic, you ask a lady out and next day it's her birthday, her rent is due, she is hungry or her "late father" is undergoing an emergency surgery🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️ and she needs help from you. My dear the list is endless. This is opposed to people who approached you for assistance which i understand is the angle you are coming from.
Cheers 👍

You dey reply that one
You get time o

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I laff in Swahili

That's Nigerian girls tactics sha, I don't blame them there are some simps guys that always press money for them immediately they make such move cos they want to go in-between the legs nah.

Here’s why it’s becoming more visible:

1. Economic pressure is real
With inflation and cost of living rising, some people (men and women alike) now see relationships — or even just male attention — as an additional source of financial support.

2. Social media influence
Platforms glorify “soft life,” “spoiling me,” and “if he likes you, he’ll spend” narratives. It shapes expectations, especially for those who measure affection in monetary terms.

3. Low commitment culture
Many avoid exclusive dating while still enjoying benefits (attention, help, gifts). “Let’s be friends” is often a safe zone to avoid accountability while still receiving perks.

4. The “Church Sister” factor
Religious communities aren’t immune to these trends. Some cloak the same habits in polite or pious language, which can make it even more surprising when the billing starts.

5. Testing generosity as a filter
Some genuinely believe that if you won’t “help” early, you won’t provide later in the relationship — so they test before commitment.

Your “no deep connection, no spending” strategy is actually wise in this climate — not as stinginess, but as boundaries. Love should be mutual investment, not an entry fee. The real shift is learning to filter quickly, so you can spot whether someone is genuinely interested in you or just your resources before you waste time or money.

Towncrier007:
What's this new trend with ladies these days,you can't ask a lady out and she won't begin billing you, some will tell you they have a boyfriend but still ask you for help,

The new one is if you give her greenlight she will tell you let's be friends, because she can't date for now, and next day she will ask you for help.

So for us to find love now we must first send like 10 girls our money. I don't blame those who don't marry. You will think church sisters are different, but now they're worse, they will tell you let us see how it goes, and billing will begin.

Well my strategy is if we don't get very into ourselves, nothing drops.

Samantha125:
Some of us have been billed by both genders and didn't cry, but wena you're here crying because of a single gender? Come on, don't be such a cry baby.

I've had a whole married woman asking me to buy her child pampers diapers and a whole grown man asking me to help him with his electricity bill just to mention the few... And neither was I related nor friends with the people... Just say you're broke.

were you asking the married woman and the full grown man out or trying to date them and they used that as a pretext to bill you?

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As a man, understand that Your girlfriend is only with you right now because of what she's gaining from you. stop giving her money, data, gifts etc and watch her gradually speed off like flash.

A girl cannot stay with a guy they're not benefiting anything from (monetary).

Lol.

The kind of shame and insults these lazy brats bring upon everyone is disturbing.

You only attract your type, that's all I can say.

There are many perspectives to this - however the one that holds true the most is the fact that there is a gross sense of entitlement and discontentment across board in the country. No one wants to live within their means anymore.

Everyone wants to eat heavy, dress well, live big without the prerequisite means of income. Bar tenders, waiters, house helps, factory workers etc see their bosses and customers with big cars, nice houses & they want it for themselves too. They think they deserve it just because they're human beings so they want it, not taking into cognisance the years of study, apprenticeship, hardwork these people have put in to get to that level.

Girls who beg while in a relationship may be gettinf money from their man but it is sometimes ojukokoro. A lot of young girls these days don't have sense. Many are doing ajo without jobs, how? They want hair, iphones, skincare but do not have the educational qualifications or skillset to afford the lifestyle. Instead of making do with what they have and concentrate on upscaling income, they go begging. We are not talking about boys who beg for money just to use it to buy loud or drugs. You like the life but you cant afford it, why not just leave it?

Though there are times when one can need help and its okay to reach out but believe me when i tell you that most people these days beg to sustain a lifestyle not just to survive or get paste a rough phase.

Samantha125:
Some of us have been billed by both genders and didn't cry, but wena you're here crying because of a single gender? Come on, don't be such a cry baby.

I've had a whole married woman asking me to buy her child pampers diapers and a whole grown man asking me to help him with his electricity bill just to mention the few... And neither was I related nor friends with the people... Just say you're broke.

End of story. They are the ones always crying lmao. 😂😂😂

lexy2014:
were you asking the married woman and the full grown man out or trying to date them and they used that as a pretext to bill you?

Hahahaha, See correct question, continue on this path, you are doing Celestial assignment, Dem go get sense by force...... Muchecheche 😂

The thing is very predominant in Nigeria. White girls do not do such.

You guys gave those ladies the impression that there's no genuine relationship without money... Nigerian men are known for using money to entice ladies, so why are you now crying when you made your own bed?

Anijay1212:
My good friend i think you are missing the point that the op is trying to put across.
If i understand him correctly,i think he is referring to those group of ladies who see men as their meal tickets and general life problem solver. It's now a pandemic, you ask a lady out and next day it's her birthday, her rent is due, she is hungry or her "late father" is undergoing an emergency surgery🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️ and she needs help from you. My dear the list is endless. This is opposed to people who approached you for assistance which i understand is the angle you are coming from.
Cheers 👍

DEROX:
Mumu people lazy people want the best things nonsense

Lolololokokokokokikikokikikikillololololol

Have you wonder why no country men want to date a Nigeria girls? But rushing Nigeria boys for a date? Na Nigerian boys cause am. We use money to show love. Over the years it became a culture. Afrobeat and nollywood. Have you wondered why South Africa men hate Nigerians guys they said Nigerians have spoiled their women similar thins is Ghana. The worst part they don’t have anything to offer other than smelling and over use pkekus. Some will even tell you since you don’t send them money you shouldn’t come ask them to come to your house.

It needs to stop. If Nigerian guys want it to stop they can. The worst part is when they are old and family pressure start thats when they come to their sense and looking for just any man. But most time it’s already too late only married men will be
interested in them just to use them.

Sadly all of them are posting Davido and Chioma. Using it as standard to compare relationships. It must start with afrobeat song like the chop my money.

Towncrier007:
What's this new trend with ladies these days,you can't ask a lady out and she won't begin billing you, some will tell you they have a boyfriend but still ask you for help,

The new one is if you give her greenlight she will tell you let's be friends, because she can't date for now, and next day she will ask you for help.

So for us to find love now we must first send like 10 girls our money. I don't blame those who don't marry. You will think church sisters are different, but now they're worse, they will tell you let us see how it goes, and billing will begin.

Well my strategy is if we don't get very into ourselves, nothing drops.

If not for urgent 2k it would be data subscription, and if you decline, it becomes amagadion war, the entitlement orientation is worrisome and alarming.

Towncrier007:
What's this new trend with ladies these days,you can't ask a lady out and she won't begin billing you, some will tell you they have a boyfriend but still ask you for help,

The new one is if you give her greenlight she will tell you let's be friends, because she can't date for now, and next day she will ask you for help.

So for us to find love now we must first send like 10 girls our money. I don't blame those who don't marry. You will think church sisters are different, but now they're worse, they will tell you let us see how it goes, and billing will begin.

Well my strategy is if we don't get very into ourselves, nothing drops.

Boyfriends are for sex.
The girls aren't asking you for sex.
They're asking for help.
So it's either:
1. you help them as much as you can because you a good person, or
2. You refuse to help them because you are a bad person.

I represent option 2. with my full chest!!
They have tried to blackmail me by calling me names and I always thank them for the wonderful compliments.

We mooove!!!!

U should ask why do girls ask for help when they've two hands to work....or brothers and father to support them instead of disturbing their sin partner called boyfriends