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CorperKola:
You are always gambling in life, nothin is certain and you will never know for sure till you try. Thats the power of the male , the permission of society and then practiced ability to try your luck with different options anytime. Thats your own power as a nigga
The power of the female is to say yes or no

Your mindset when you see a girl that looks good is lemme try my luck with her not i am already in love with her
Some random babe u barely know

Cool, but no I've got pride also as a man. When I make that money I'll not have to chase they'll gravitate then i pick from the crowd

occfx:
This nipples don do you something..
But you no fit avoid am.

You see all these lecturers dieing in hotel room..na because they no get enough nipples during there 20s. They chased the bag, now they came back after 50yrs for revenge and the nipple send them to great beyond.

Nipple is a must... E no get solution. If you carry am over, you must come back for it.

i understand your point
that if you dont do it when your peers are doing it you might likely do it when your peers have stopped do it...
now there men that would do it in thier youth and still do it @ thier 50s....
avoiding it is different from having the chance to do it and not doing it
and not doing it because you cant do it because u were not man enough to do it then...
its all about self control as a man...
controling yourself is what makes u a man in anger and decision making

No masturbate..it kills Ur dick when you need it
No gamble... every gambler is a looser
No do drugs... this one will render you useless

moscow007:
Build connections, attend public functions especially the ones within ur career.(Interviews can't give u good high paying jobs, connections can)

Do not take ur alumni network for granted if u attended great high school.

Travel as much as u can and take as much videos and pics as u can, makes for great stories.

Integrity pays... despise and flea from all get rich quick scheme instead learn a skill u really love and become master at it.

Always call home, no matter how busy u are.

How do I tap into my alumni network please?

Whatever you do, DO NOT GO TO JAIL/GET A CRIMINAL RECORD.

It dents one's life

davillian:
i understand your point
that if you dont do it when your peers are doing it you might likely do it when your peers have stopped do it...
now there men that would do it in thier youth and still do it @ thier 50s....
avoiding it is different from having the chance to do it and not doing it
and not doing it because you cant do it because u were not man enough to do it then...
its all about self control as a man...
controling yourself is what makes u a man in anger and decision making

Yes self control in all things is a must

Never believe in luck. You make your own luck.

osuofia2:
I gamble but i don't smoke, i don't womanize, i don't drink. am i safe?

Trust me..that Gambling is a big trap.

rossovu:
I'd rather gamble with sense than smoke and drink

read up dopamine pathways. Gambling acts on the brain just like smoking

GenderMix:
Learn to be early for meetings always

Everyone you meet is a potential link to your greatness. Treat them we'll and with respect

Buy stocks, shares. Invest in mutual funds no matter how little

Control your sexual libido always. Be in charge

Good morning.

Please you see this investment thing, I have been burnt severely.

First I invested in cryptocurrency, the likes of Solana, Polygon, Dogecoin and Litecoin. Out of all 4 I only had a big break in Dogecoin when it appreciated +100%, but the rest I lost money.

Now I wanted to invest in stocks, but I am not familiar with how the whole thing works or should I say I am skeptical. Though my present investment is on cassava and potatoes(I got the ones that produce after 3 months), though the potatoes are for personal consumption, but I sell the cassava tuber to fufu sellers.

If you have legit resources on the stock or bonds investment, I'll really appreciate.

Pray to God to speak to the land to direct your part to where you belong ... all looks good at the beginning but the end is unpredictable, and try to move with people who have gone ahead of you. It makes your journey easy.

franchasofficia:
If you are born into a poor family background, as in, your parents are not rich, please don't marry just because of love.

Love is a fallacy that led so many men into marrying ladies that ended up hampering their lives and keeping them poor or dragging them backward on daily basis.



If your parents are not rich as a guy, marry with purpose and future in mind.


Go for financial, career, business focused lady.


Marry a lady with the potential of helping you become better financially not one that will drain you and take you back to square one.


In summary, if your parents are not rich, when you want to marry as a young man, consider:


1.) The girls family background

2.) The girls career or job

3.) Her source of income

4.) Her academic background

5.) If she have a western country passport to help you Japa if push comes to shove

6.) Is she financially wise and smart


7.) Is she a money maker or a layback, lazy, unambitious girl that just want to eat, sleep, have sex, get pregnant and give birth and be monitoring you her husband to know how many girls you are chasing outside. If she is one run for your life

8.) Until you have secured a good job, career or established a thriving business, don't ever keep a girl in your house. Don't have a live in girlfriend. Let her come and go. She must not spend more than 2 days in your house until you re ready to settle down.


9.) Make use of condom a habit as a single guy until you marry to avoid marrying the wrong girl out of pressure of "I am pregnant"

This is some gem there.

I have left some ladies when I saw that they are not from financially strong background. The truth is when someone is with a lady that has some solid financial background, it makes the male financial intelligent and you can have good access to credit support.

Eastcoastboy:
Cool, but no I've got pride also as a man. When I make that money I'll not have to chase they'll gravitate then i pick from the crowd

That pride will be your undoing
Its shame and fear of rejection that you hiding and calling pride
Man no suppose geh shame
Except you dont like sex sha
Waiting to choose is passive and feminine, i jst told u that my nigga
You can do that sometimes but it cannot be your only strategy
It will give you scarcity mindset
Ideally Walking up to a girl and asking for number should be as easy as breathing oxygen for a nigga

njelrapheal:
read up dopamine pathways. Gambling acts on the brain just like smoking

I understand!
I'm gamble aware, I know the dangers and I have it under control. I only gamble once in a while and I do so with money I can afford to lose, mostly between 50 and 500 naira.

Give or help with caution, "use your heart and your brain"

Those you give or help will not be the ones to return the favour, know this and know peace

BreakingNews21:
Op, never spend your last Naira because then you'll be broke. Save, save, save, stay away from gold diggers. Money makes money invisibly. Never trust a big yansh and a smile 😃 Don't gamble, the odds are against you. Play positive affirmation recordings as much as possible. Give charity to those in need, not some rich smooth talker quoting scripture.

Hmmm, I just beat myself up for not staying to that positive affirmation recordings.

I used to listen to Bob Proctor every day then. He helped my mind development. Alignment, vibrations and energy

If u can avoid women, please do. You will be solving 80% of ur life problems.

Fryx:
Sales have always been the best gift any man could possess. I had to learn it myself even though it’s naturally not in my blood.

A good sales man will never lack.

Correct

ultimateprof:
If possible, avoid any private salary job and if possible be a business owner.

Why?

SoftHeart:
Know your place (position) in the universe and if you're not happy with it, do something about it.
Hint: To go higher in the universe, you need a deeper root network.

How?

occfx:
I wasted my 20s working for one man. The greatest regret ever.

Private firm or a sole business owner?

tompat86:
“Verily, verily, O denizens of the vicennial chronological spectrum, I entreat thee to cultivate the horticulture of autodiscipline with alacrity and assiduity, for in the concatenation of life’s odyssey, procrastinatory somnambulism is the primordial progenitor of mediocrity!
Intertwine thine quotidian existence with salutary alimentation, cerebral fortification, and fiduciary circumspection, lest thou transmogrify into a septuagenarian mendicant in the amphitheatre of regrets.
Shun the sirenic blandishments of romantic entanglements that are replete with cataclysmic dramaturgy, and cleave rather unto associations that are symbiotic, pacific, and purpose-propelling!”

Are you a Kegite?

Eastcoastboy:
Private firm or a sole business owner?

To be honest, I don't know the difference

All I know say na one man business.

CorperKola:
That pride will be your undoing
Its shame and fear of rejection that you hiding and calling pride
Man no suppose geh shame
Except you dont like sex sha
Waiting to choose is passive and feminine, i jst told u that my nigga
You can do that sometimes but it cannot be your only strategy
It will give you scarcity mindset
Ideally Walking up to a girl and asking for number should be as easy as breathing oxygen for a nigga

I easily do that. But I end up not calling or following up. I don't like to give off desperate vibes and you know one thing with these girls. Once they know you're not too boxed up. They want you to over proof yourself, call, profess and spend. Nah! I know my worth na just say money no dey yet.

But I get your point, I'll try it when necessary. But omoh, na non chalant guys e dey easy for. Who chalant na him them they use rub ground.

Thing is it's most girls that I met at my earlier age that spoilt me. Asking me out and showing interest made it quite easy for me.

And as for sex, I feel like f**king in this condition is irresponsibility. Plus my spiritual journey has made me abstain.

CorperKola:
Terrible advice
Very very terrible advice

Lol.

I think he’s right.

Eastcoastboy:
I easily do that. But I end up not calling or following up. I don't like to give off desperate vibes and you know one thing with this girls. Once they know you're not too boxed up. They want you to over proof yourself, call, profess and spend. Nah! I know my worth na just say money no dey yet.

But I get your point, I'll try it when necessary. But omoh, na non chalant guys e dey easy for. Who chalant na him them they use rub ground.

Thing is it's most girls that I met at my earlier age that spoilt me. Asking me out and showing interest made it quite easy for me.

And as for sex, I feel like f**king in this condition is irresponsibility. Plus my spiritual journey has made me abstain.

We actually have similar stories o
There was a point i was spoiled too, i dont look bad and i was now popular due to always winning prizes in school
This shit is crazy, if i ever get to spend time with a girl for a lot of time , omoh, things usually happen
Neighbours and co workers or classes mostly
Buh there will come a time u'll lnow u need multiple strategies

Even the collecting numbers and not calling still happens to me sometimes now
Buh it gives you control over your dating life and and abundance mindset

CorperKola:
We actually have similar stories o
There was a point i was spoiled too, i dont look bad and i was now popular due to always winning prizes in school
This shit is crazy, if i ever get to spend time with a girl for a lot of time , omoh, things usually happen
Neighbours and co workers or classes mostly
Buh there will come a time u'll lnow u need multiple strategies

Even the collecting numbers and not calling still happens to me sometimes now
Buh it gives you control over your dating life and and abundance mindset

True sha. Let's see how it goes. But omo enn! My desire to be better in all ramifications of my life trumps any form of feeling I can develop for a lady. The way I move on ehn, they fear me.

But man needs to grease some.... sometimes. I've just been restricted by some factors. I pray that God leads me to the one for me.

DaveSolarSoluti:
Please explain more on deep root network

Eastcoastboy:
How?

Let's break it down a bit.

Know your place (position) in the universe
Be self-aware. Know your current reality; your skills, limitations, strengths, and where you stand socially, financially, emotionally, or spiritually. Don’t live in denial about your life situation.

If you're not happy with it, do something about it
Once you’re honest about your current position, take responsibility to improve it instead of complaining or comparing yourself to others.

To go higher in the universe, you need a deeper root network
This is complex, it's better you figure it out by yourself, but I will try to explain.
"Higher" could mean achieving greater success, wisdom, influence, or fulfillment.

The "deeper root network" means to grow upward you need strong foundation downward, just like a tree grows taller when its roots go deeper.

In practical terms, deeper roots mean:
Stronger values, character, and principles.
Better relationships and connections.
A solid knowledge base and skills.
A strong spiritual grounding.


A dark twist: At times success in life is not just about what you know, but about who you know and who knows you. Greatness is conceived in the dark and celebrated in the light.

Let's break this down on a lighter note:
Roots: A man in his 20s spends years building strong values, deepening his relationship with God, learning discipline, and building genuine friendships.

Conceived in the dark: Late nights praying, studying, and working quietly without recognition.

Celebrated in the light: Years later, he’s a respected leader, his integrity and wisdom known to many. People see the fruit, but they didn’t see the root work

Or the darker side:
Roots: He connects with a closed, influential group (political cabal, criminal network, or occult society).

Conceived in the dark: Rituals, bribes, or morally questionable acts that bind him to this group and give him influence.

Celebrated in the light: Public success, wealth, or political power, but the true source of his rise remains hidden from the public eye.

Eastcoastboy:
Why?

One of the reason why you should avoid any private salary job is because you hardly have time to think out of the box and once you are trapped in it as a married personal and bills start coming, its finished that's how you be till your dreams of a financial freedom will become a mirage. Salary is a medicine given to you to forget your dream.