₦airaland Forum

From the comments, I can see the reasons why some ladies finds it so hard to see a man to marry them.
Out of wokeness and feminism, they have turned themselves to unmarriageable. Yet they will still need to humble themselves just to get sperm to become baby mama.

Culturally, biblically and even socially the roles of man and woman are outlined in marriage. And each know their roles.

Chilipepper:
Should a married man take his plate to the kitchen after eating?:Lady asks

In Africa yes but in the abroad don’t try it oo . Police go come knock on your door the following and charge you for domestic violence. because those re trained to be independent not a slave .

Una just dey waste una sleep over trival issues

Una well done Io Set in una reason enter who go remove plate after eating.?

DoctorStanley:
Is it this video?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eFujFBSAtKM?si=FGA-lfsi-BuFz0MH

Yes, the long version of it.

YES

NOOOO...

Married man shouldn't take his plate to the kitchen when wife and children are not around. He should leave it on the table till anyday even if it is a year they comes back to come and take the plate to the kitchen themselves!

Beremx:
It depends on when the food was served. If the wife serves him, she should be the one or the kids to take the plates to the kitchen. If he eats in her absence, well he or the kids should take the plates to the kitchen.

My son takes his father's plates to the kitchen if I'm not readily available. Sometimes he does it himself.

How about before the kids came?

Kobojunkie:
When he was single, who took his plate to the kitchen? That should be the same person that takes his plate to the kitchen even in marriage, unless his wife decided in marriage to elevate him to god status. And this elevation to god status for men is typical among the religious/traditionally brainwashed women.

See senseless response
When he was single, did he take responsibility of another person's daughter?

Sammy5413:
From the comments I read here, all those saying the man should take the plate to the kitchen are insane and lacks discipline. During the time of our parents, the mother makes the meals, serves her husband and clears the plates when the husband is done eating. I sha blame some men who say they send the plates to the kitchen themselves after eating, they actually don't know who they actually represent in their homes. After God, you as a man you're next and don't let anyone fool and trick you into seeing less of yourself. This is exactly what these GenZ girls of these days want to turn you into. If you must pack the plate to the kitchen, it must be out of support not MANDATORY just as a man can still help his wife in washing dishes, cooking and washing clothes as well but not as a MANDATE!!!

You are even wasting your time replying them. The man works his fingers to the bones to provide for you and the kids, rent, fees, food, clothing and just to cook and serve him and take the plates back to the kitchen is slavery and some shameless men here are defending it too. They should also go and wash the bras and pants too. mstchew

Fundamental problem of marriages is comparison. Do what is keeping your marriage going and stick to it.

BodyCount:
➜See senseless response When he was single, did he take responsibility of another person's daughter?

That he is married does not mean he took responsibility for another person's daughter, though. What aspect of marriage gives you that nonsensical idea?

Questions and thoughts that complicates live.

We dey wash toilet, wash pikin clothes and wife clothes (with or without machine), sweep and mop floor. My guy, with his Yankee PhD, dey park his Lexus one side, enter bush market.

Infact, husbands do not just exist, they live.

Blue pill talk
Sounds like a dishwasher

Kobojunkie:
When he was single, who took his plate to the kitchen? That should be the same person that takes his plate to the kitchen even in marriage, unless his wife decided in marriage to elevate him to god status. And this elevation to god status for men is typical among the religious/traditionally brainwashed women.

She got a response. Why is the question here?

KingRabota:
Blue pill talk Sounds like a dishwasher

Wetin be blue pill again, and what has a man taking out his own dishes to do with him being a dishwasher?

Kobojunkie:
That he is married does not mean he took responsibility for another person's daughter, though. What aspect of marriage gives you that nonsensical idea?

The part of marriage that's universal.
You won't know if sense and head dey pain you .

BodyCount:
➜The part of marriage that's universal. You won't know if sense and head dey pain you .

The only aspect of marriage that is universal is the aspect that pretends it is meant to be approved by way of a legal certificate for it to be recognized. The rest is up to the individuals in the marriage to decide for themselves.

So, endeavor to assess your thoughts for sense before responding next time, abeg.

olabrad:
➜But you want him to give you up keep money as his wife, right?!

The responsibilities of the typical wife can be broken down as follows.
➜ Baby mama
➜ Nanny
➜ Housekeeper & Governess
➜ Cook/Chef
➜ Emotion dumpster/Counselor
➜Sex partner
➜Personal Assistant....

The man does not have to give his wife keep money. He could instead find himself other people to carry out the responsibilities of a wife for the full cost of what she does. And all is well!

However the couple decides, although, some women actually don't like that for their husbands.
Especially when they eat together.

Goldeno:
Did he eat the food that came from the kitchen?
Did he eat from the plate?

So he finished eating and he is to big to carry is plate to kitchen

Its normal to have young ones or wife assist out of respect in taking the plates but it is not a right that it must be done

Did your father take his plate to the kitchen, too?.
Shidren of nawadays.

Kukutente23:
➜Where you come from, do gods eat with plates? What problem do you have with carrying your husband's plates? If you work in a restaurant, won't you carry the plates of strangers as part of your responsibility?

That analogy there is flawed since I pay the person at the restaurant to both serve me and take away my plates. Does a husband pay his wife to serve him and take away his plates? If that is the case, then is she really a wife and not a mere servant? 🥱🥱

phemray:
➜Why then the woman need to marry a man?
➜ She should stay alone and allow men to rest and go to kitchen by self. I can't be spending on you and still be doing your known job you are trained of from cradle.
➜ This generation ladies are very lazy and don't know how to cook reason they wanted men do Thier job.

1. Most women marry to have themselves a partner, not to live as servants or slaves to another human being.

2. The average unmarried man out there finds himself meeting the following needs for himself. (He also has the option of paying others to handle many of these on his behalf.)
➜ Housekeeping or home care
➜ Cooking
➜ Maintenance needs
➜ Managing his emotions and frustrations
➜ Getting his sexual needs satisfied
➜ Handling day-to-day chores outside of his primary career duties...

No sane woman forces a man at gunpoint to marry her.

3. This generation of ladies rightly do not want to live as imbe_ciles and fools like those before them. They were wise enough to realize the foolishness of the old ways to decide they would not continue to perpetuate the same curse women had in the past on themselves.

ottersberger:
➜ Did your father take his plate to the kitchen, too?. Shidren of nawadays.

Yes! I am talking of the period as far back as the late 70s/80s in Nigeria here.

Gbadebo19:
➜ And what exactly is wrong with being traditional or religious minded? 🤷🤷

Did I say there is anything wrong with that? Those are individual choices for whatever reasons such people decide. However, my argument has instead been that those folks and their many ritual do not define marriage for all individuals and couples out there.

am married, my wife should be the one to take the plate after eating.

sometimes i take it myself to the kitchen, those people dey try.
take care of children, cook, wash etc as a man anyways u can help do am.

sometime i wash plate if i see she is busy doing something else, and after that she
would cook, i go help her any means possible to ease the stress.

but not every time after all she no dey help me for work

tanigororo:
➜ First Time your comments is partially reasonable. When he was single he clears his own plate, cook his own food. It's not brainwash or stupidity for her to clear the plate, it's willingness and submission. it doesn't matter who clears the table, washes the dishes, or cook.

Your willingness and submission rhetorics against women are products of brainwashing.

Chilipepper:
Should a married man take his plate to the kitchen after eating?:Lady asks

yes, even wash sometimes

Kobojunkie:
When he was single, who took his plate to the kitchen? That should be the same person that takes his plate to the kitchen even in marriage, unless his wife decided in marriage to elevate him to god status. And this elevation to god status for men is typical among the religious/traditionally brainwashed women.

See them

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
You are even wasting your time replying them. The man works his fingers to the bones to provide for you and the kids, rent, fees, food, clothing and just to cook and serve him and take the plates back to the kitchen is slavery and some shameless men here are defending it too. They should also go and wash the bras and pants too. mstchew

Vast majority of those who say the man should take the plate are kids, or unmarried girls,

Kobojunkie:
That analogy there is flawed since I pay the person at the restaurant to both serve me and take away my plates. Does a husband pay his wife to serve him and take away his plates? If that is the case, then is she really a wife and not a mere servant? 🥱🥱

Where did you get the idea that you pay the restaurant to serve your and take away your plates?
How come the waiter's salary remains fixed regardless of the number of customers if you claim that everyone pays the customer to serve them.
Besides. in Africa, the bride price is the money paid by the husband to acquire his wife and enjoy all the rights of the husband including being served food and having his plates packed