₦airaland Forum

olabrad:
➜You expect the responsibilities above to attract a cost from the man, but still expect the man to carry his own plate after he has paid all the costs above? You are a double-standard hypocrite! Peeps like expect traditional treatment without fulfilling traditional responsibilities.

Your retort makes absolutely no sense! 😩😩😩

Kobojunkie:
Your retort makes absolutely no sense! 😩😩😩

Of course! Excess exposure to junk can deflate comprehension capability. You need quick psychological evaluation

TheBillyonaire:
After watching Peter Obi's home routine, I decided to take my 'plates' to the kitchen by myself, my domestic staff and my wife gave me a funny look that speaks louder than words.

I have done it up to 3 times this year. It feels off. Especially with multiple domestic staff on payroll.

I feel that it is a choice, I personally prefer a stoic and minimalist lifestyle, but I cant impose my philosophies on others, hence the need to adopt a bespoke character to modulate the resonance lifestyle of the home front.

all this English for "carrying plate to the kitchen"?

Nice one!

He shouldn’t except he went to the kitchen himself to fetch the food…

descarado:
➜See kweshion.
Well, oga specifically told me during courtship. No serve me. You aren't my maid but going to be my better half.
Don't even know how long we have been married and I have never washed his plates. I don’t dish out food for him. Anybody who is washing at that moment can wash all. And you must thank the person for doing that for you. Be it the kids. As for dishing out food,nobody dishes out food for anybody in this house. If you want to finish the whole pot, na you sabi. There is always an alternative.
We make marriages so hard with some unrealistic expectations that the moment we don't do them anymore,westart seeing cracks and we wonder why.
I have mentioned it severally,whether hands or machine, I do not wash his clothes. He wash and sort them out. It is a union. Partnership. I no be anybody slave. The day I feel like making speciality, I do. Nobody pressures me. If you come and there is no food, both you and the kids know what to do. You even make and give me.

It is all that traditional/religious nonsense to blame for why many people — particularly women— are unable to think for themselves in life and in marriage.

favour32:
➜In the Olden days men nor dey take plate go kitchen. But since this contemporary time,some men nor only take plate go kitchen but also dey wash am, especially those men wey nor get financial resources.

It ain't just that. Women are no longer mouthing off the same old brainwash that their grandmothers and mothers before them had always done. And that has made a bigger difference.

Yes in the land of mad beings

No in the land of human beings

My husband takes his plate to the kitchen and even washes them...most times,when I'm not at home or close by when he is eating.
There is no big deal about that.

Na women win this case here o

Let me leave here for the lazy and deceived ladies of our generation

Later una go d complain of husband scarcity

Humble una sef, una d form

Who wan marry a disobedient woman sef?

Honour your hubby and see the best of we men

Take my advice and enjoy your marriage o

mamawa123:
➜Just as I or some men don't have any problem taking plates to the kitchen after a meal, our spouses shouldn't have any problems contributing half of the monthly home expenses either.

Interesting submission! So, you are saying that as is, the average man's average contribution more than covers the cost for all the work done by the woman in the marriage, so, his taking his plate to the kitchen necessitates that she take on at least half monthly home expenses?

Care to tell us how much you currently pay for your home expenses, either as a single or married person?

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FYI, the average unmarried man out there finds himself meeting the following needs for himself. (He also has the option of paying others to handle many of these on his behalf.)
➜ Housekeeping or home care
➜ Cooking
➜ Maintenance needs
➜ Managing his emotions and frustrations
➜ Getting his sexual needs satisfied
➜ Handling day-to-day chores outside of his primary career duties...

Kobojunkie:
1. Most women marry to have themselves a partner, not to live as servants or slaves to another human being.

2. The average unmarried man out there finds himself meeting the following needs for himself. (He also has the option of paying others to handle many of these on his behalf.)
➜ Housekeeping or home care
➜ Cooking
➜ Maintenance needs
➜ Managing his emotions and frustrations
➜ Getting his sexual needs satisfied
➜ Handling day-to-day chores outside of his primary career duties...

No sane woman forces a man at gunpoint to marry her.

3. This generation of ladies rightly do not want to live as imbe_ciles and fools like those before them. They were wise enough to realize the foolishness of the old ways to decide they would not continue to perpetuate the same curse women had in the past on themselves.

From your point, I can see reason for plenty single mother. As African, the past mothers are not fools but the present ones. An African lady should not marry if she is not ready to do all the work of a woman. It does not start today, if today women now copy another culture, then they should copy the contract marriage and divorce that follows. Man is man and woman is a woman. Women should know their role as African woman. Enough of packaging. It's not compulsory to have kids if woman is not ready to act as a mother. Lazy youths of today.

phemray:
➜From your point, I can see reason for plenty single mother. As African, the past mothers are not fools but the present ones. An African lady should not marry if she is not ready to do all the work of a woman.
➜ It does not start today, if today women now copy another culture, then they should copy the contract marriage and divorce that follows.
➜ Man is man and woman is a woman. Women should know their role as African woman. Enough of packaging. It's not compulsory to have kids if woman is not ready to act as a mother. Lazy youths of today.

1. So, are African ladies meant to exist cursed to continue living life as their grandmothers and mothers before them? They are not allowed to abandon those old chains, no matter what?

2. Divorce is already on the rise in Nigeria and among Nigerians abroad. It's already here!

3. Soon, those lazy women/babymamas will soon learn to give full custody of your children to you as well, so they can match off to live and enjoy their lives after dealing with you.

richiemcgold:
Married man get levels

There are big married men and there are ordinary married men. You can't ask Ned Nwoko to pack the plates, can you?

See rich men na dem dey do am pass sef

Every little chance to act like a normal human being, them no dey dull am ooo

Cos their status don make them dey out of reach totally

Chilipepper:
Should a married man take his plate to the kitchen after eating?:Lady asks

I take my plates most times. Even when my wife rushes to take it from me, I tell her not to bother.

There's nothing there. Most times, she comes the moment I'm done and takes it away.

Kobojunkie:
Your willingness and submission rhetorics against women are products of brainwashing.

Dey play, madam brainwash

tanigororo:
➜Dey play, madam brainwash

I simply stated a fact! What play is there in that?

folake4u:
Omoo, people dey.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Sometimes they joke about it not knowing they are bent on it.

No.
Married men can eat their plate after eating to avoid the stress of taking the plate to the kitchen.

It's a good virtue for a man to do that. But women don't deserve too much respect and show of love . 99.9% of them misuse the gesture.
Many of them are demonic.
They respect men who treat them otherwise.

Speaking from experience.
I regret being too loving and too caring . It backfired on my face.

Depends on age ,location status and socioeconomic circumstances

If you have children you need to think about what kind of example you want your children to imbibe and what lessons you want them to learn

Ordinarily when a man has money and status he won't have time for such but occasionally your children should see you do everything especially if you are young whether it s ironing washing cars or toilets
So many big men in Nigeria give the wrong signals to their kids
Ideally it is best to raise kids without servants but this is quite challenging in Nigeria when you have a big house

TheBillyonaire:
After watching Peter Obi's home routine, I decided to take my 'plates' to the kitchen by myself, my domestic staff and my wife gave me a funny look that speaks louder than words.

I have done it up to 3 times this year. It feels off. Especially with multiple domestic staff on payroll.

I feel that it is a choice, I personally prefer a stoic and minimalist lifestyle, but I cant impose my philosophies on others, hence the need to adopt a bespoke character to modulate the resonance lifestyle of the home front.

.can you post the video as a topic or headline in nairaland front page

Chilipepper:
Should a married man take his plate to the kitchen after eating?:Lady asks

If he's alone YES... If NOT and he's with his family, the order of family heirachy in an African family dictates that the kids, house maid, or wife (or wives), do that.

There's NOTHING wrong in a married man taking his plates to the kitchen for washing if nobody is around or his wife is indisposed. Period.

Beremx:
It depends on when the food was served. If the wife serves him, she should be the one or the kids to take the plates to the kitchen. If he eats in her absence, well he or the kids should take the plates to the kitchen.

My son takes his father's plates to the kitchen if I'm not readily available. Sometimes he does it himself.

Succinctly stated.

richiemcgold:
Married man get levels

There are big married men and there are ordinary married men. You can't ask Ned Nwoko to pack the plates, can you?

So, Ned Nwoko will leave the plates on the dining table for two days in a row if NOBODY is home except him (in a WORSE case scenario)? Many of us men went to boarding schools, and did this plate packing while growing up at home before becoming self-made millionaires, multimillionaires, and billionaires... just generally wealthy men.

On the contrary, based off of instincts or reflex action, Ned would instantly pack the used plates for washing in the kitchen sink or the dish washer.

TheBillyonaire:
After watching Peter Obi's home routine, I decided to take my 'plates' to the kitchen by myself, my domestic staff and my wife gave me a funny look that speaks louder than words.

I have done it up to 3 times this year. It feels off. Especially with multiple domestic staff on payroll.

I feel that it is a choice, I personally prefer a stoic and minimalist lifestyle, but I cant impose my philosophies on others, hence the need to adopt a bespoke character to modulate the resonance lifestyle of the home front.

You are definitely very comfortable financially the way you sound.... Shey me for my room and parlor self contain go dey look for who go carry plates for me...... God time to elevate me to next level....

Yall just create unnecessary problems and drama

Wtf is this question now?
Who should take married man’s plate after eating, are you guys for real?

And yall are really debating it? Osanobua

Table and woman question don tire Una Abi, now na plate.

Mtcheeeew

Kobojunkie:
When he was single, who took his plate to the kitchen? That should be the same person that takes his plate to the kitchen even in marriage, unless his wife decided in marriage to elevate him to god status. And this elevation to god status for men is typical among the religious/traditionally brainwashed women.

when he was single he do served himself food too right?

Is dis suppose to be a debate self. I dey carry am go once in a, while ....

Kobojunkie:
The only aspect of marriage that is universal is the aspect that pretends it is meant to be approved by way of a legal certificate for it to be recognized. The rest is up to the individuals in the marriage to decide for themselves.

So, endeavor to assess your thoughts for sense before responding next time, abeg.

Orr deh
Who told you so?

Who takes your Daddy's plate to the kitchen? No insults intended

We (Men) have diff views on how we run our homes. What works for Man A will not necessarily work for Man B. I don't also know why someone will bring religion/culture to this cos to me it has nothing to do with. How did U c parent while growing up cos if U really watch dem growing up, then this question shouldn't had been asked. Marriage is never a scam and will never be a scam. Na U knw why U call am scam or overrated maybe U wia over expecting or smtin else.
My wife serves me food when I am at home and food is ready and she or myself clears the table when I am done. So pls it's simple. If she's available after I'm done eating, she packs the plate and if she isn't close, I do that. Even cook. Discus my humble and honest submission.