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It doesn't matter what anyone thinks of me....I should have just focused on learning to be emotionally intelligent all my life

Being older brings a lot of better understanding

MikeofKd:
Don't come and start telling pple to avoid relationships as a young struggling guys bcus urs failed miserably.

The reason ur ex was billing u helplessly even when you were earning really low income was bcus you think you don't deserve love , your ex also knows this and finished u with senseless billing too. look I've dated girls that before I even give them money i would have to beg them first bcus they wouldn't accept it at all, that's how much they loved me, even to the extent of buying gifts and giving me their money, yes. and all this happened while I was still broke and struggling but I didn't let that define my reality nor my perspective about what love is about , I knew I was worth it anyways and I attracted all that good good love.

"if you don't know ur worth in this life you will become worthless"

-mikeofkd 2025

You might be lucky dating broke girls, but some might be unlucky. Even though you know your worth, some broke girls will still overbill you. That's fact.

richeeyo:
Yahoo oooo, i heard access to internet wa back when people go to Cafe, but we always home
Format no reach outside

It's sad that then and now, you still no get wisdom

How I wish I had Quranic knowledge at my earlier stage, though, I got it at late 40's, I still thank God.

I really wish I walked closely with God by personally studying and following precept by precept God's divine inspired Word and fasting and praying more. I am now 48 by the grace of God and I have discovered that this is my main error. Not that I was not close to God but I would have been far far more closer. Cheers and blessings...

I wish never met cultists in my first year in school.

Jápa

1. Trust nobody
2. You are all you have got when the chips are down.
3. Humans wear masks, nobody is entirely genuine.
4. People worship money.
5. Be selfish,be ruthless,be firm.
6. It's a crime to care too much or love too much and you would be punished for it.
7. Betrayal comes from people close to you, people you call friends.
8. Do not keep friends,keep disposable pieces.
9. Every relationship or interaction is transactional.make sure you are benefitting or cut it lose.
10. A man is only valued by what he provides. So before you provide make sure it's truly worth it.
11. Your colleagues in the office are not your friends. Do your job,get paid and go home.
12. All Women are natural manipulators,be cautious when dealing with them.
13. Sometimes,the major breakthrough you need will come from a place you least expect it, possibly from strangers.

Looking back I regret not getting closer to God

I wish I had know dat no one really give a Bleep about you except your immediate family, it would have helped my progress in life.

Know no one gives a Bleep about you will obviously make you focus and not to impress anyone

DoctorStanley:
Easier said than done. Suppose broke girl is the only girl you "love"?
I'm in my early 30's and a medical doctor and I wish I studied something else.
I wish I knew not to study something simply because it is prestigious and in vogue

Early thirties?

Young man, you have enough time to change to what you prefer.

Why do some of our men have this belief that a lady who isn't broke won't be demanding or bill you?

Being a demanding or billing babe has nothing to do with a woman's financial status. Women are generally billiers. I classify them as an expense.

I wished i learned a trade or a handiwork just after my secondary school in 2008.
I wished i never traveled to Lagos State during my teenage years to go do house boy ( omo odo) for years, could of used that years to learn work, today i for be Oga on my own.
I wished i used 2016 - 2017 take go HK especially 2017 and forget about working at the hotel then.

bigdawg7:
Never date girls from poor family

The majority of Nigerians are poor. You people type this as if Nigeria is Switzerland.

DoctorStanley:
Easier said than done. Suppose broke girl is the only girl you "love"?
I'm in my early 30's and a medical doctor and I wish I studied something else.
I wish I knew not to study something simply because it is prestigious and in vogue

Me too, studied Chemistry. I would have studied Economics, I was and still good at it.

When I was in Unilag, I usually envy my roommate. They can party eh, I will be forming booky.

Gerrard59:
Why do some of our men have this belief that a lady who isn't broke won't be demanding or bill you?

Being a demanding or billing babe has nothing to do with a woman's financial status. Women are generally billiers. I classify them as an expense.

The thing is men are now setting standards for themselves just like women. It is very good. Women in their teens will all tell you they wanna marry a rich man. It is with time and after experiencing harsh reality they begin to lower the bar. I know most women bill,but there are some kind of billings I hate to entertain. Billings like airtime, sanitary pads,food e.tc. An adult female should be able to cater for such personal bills else she is not worthy to be in a relationship.

DoctorStanley:
I definitely "don't have a passion for medicine"
Wish I studied something I'd travel around the world and have a lot of fun. That's my passion.
Make a career change out of Medicine? Easier said than done

You must be brilliant to study medicine successfully.

Take a course in tech and you will pass in flying colors.

Hhh4444:
The thing is men are now setting standards for themselves just like women. It is very good. Women in their teens will all tell you they wanna marry a rich man. It is with time and after experiencing harsh reality they begin to lower the bar. I know most women bill,but there are some kind of billings I hate to entertain. Billings like airtime, sanitary pads,food e.tc. An adult female should be able to cater for such personal bills else she is not worthy to be in a relationship.

It's actually good men are setting standards. After the reign of online feminazism and a harsh economy, men are demanding more than just being a "woman". Whether this online rhetoric applies in real life, I don't know.

Sure, an adult female, just like every adult, should be able to cater for the basics of life's necessities. However, women still bill. It's innate in them.

Gerrard59:
It's actually good men are setting standards. After the reign of online feminazism and a harsh economy, men are demanding more than just being a "woman". Whether this online rhetoric applies in real life, I don't know.

Sure, an adult female, just like every adult, should be able to cater for the basics of life's necessities. However, women still bill. It's innate in them.

If I may ask,when did this feminism become popular in Nigerian social media? I guess it's recently.

How to say no to friends and stand on your principles. How not to allow them continually leech off of you.

I wish l never heard of forex trading, last 6yrs of hustling all gone down the drain. In my delusional state, l kept hoping that l would make money from trading the forex market, the more l gets obsess with trading to recover lost money, the more losses l records. At 45yr, got nothing to show for. I look back and l say to myself that l have wasted 45yrs of my life and how many years do l have to spend on earth? I curse the day l heard about forex trading. Who will deliver me from the destructive path l found myself?



[quote author=Ericmaestrooffi



post=136460957]Good day everyone.

Was having this thought today and decided to share.

What is one thing you wish you learnt earlier in life ?

For me , I wish I avoided women during my hustling days, would have made more progress in my life financially and otherwise.

One of the biggest mistakes I made in life was to date a parasitic girl during my hustling and struggling days.
I was a young graduate of 22 years earning 40k back then which was quite little but I had a girlfriend who was very demanding. She billed me to the point where I couldn’t even save a single penny , I really loved her then and would literally give in to all her demands even when it wasn’t convenient.

Last last she still cheated on me and got pregnant for another guy, the heart break really shattered and it took me two years to recover.

Currently I’m in my late twenties, got a very good job and earn very well and my advice to young men starting life is to be ruthlessly selfish. Be selfish with your time , resources and ambitions.
I wish I learnt that early in life , I would have walked away from that liability of a girl and focus on myself.

Avoid dating broke girls who add little to no value to your life, be more interested in your growth and development.
(If possible avoid relationships during your struggling days)

What’s is something you wish you learnt early?[/quote]

Zero regrets. So far there is life, there is hope and endless chances for self improvement.

I wish l never heard of forex trading, last 6yrs of hustling all gone down the drain. In my delusional state, l kept hoping that l would make money from trading the forex market, the more l gets obsess with trading to recover lost money, the more losses l records. At 45yr, got nothing to show for. I look back and l say to myself that l have wasted 45yrs of my life and how many years do l have to spend on earth? I curse the day l heard about forex trading. Who will deliver me from the destructive path l found myself?



[quote author=Ericmaestrooffi



post=136460957]Good day everyone.

Was having this thought today and decided to share.

What is one thing you wish you learnt earlier in life ?

For me , I wish I avoided women during my hustling days, would have made more progress in my life financially and otherwise.

One of the biggest mistakes I made in life was to date a parasitic girl during my hustling and struggling days.
I was a young graduate of 22 years earning 40k back then which was quite little but I had a girlfriend who was very demanding. She billed me to the point where I couldn’t even save a single penny , I really loved her then and would literally give in to all her demands even when it wasn’t convenient.

Last last she still cheated on me and got pregnant for another guy, the heart break really shattered and it took me two years to recover.

Currently I’m in my late twenties, got a very good job and earn very well and my advice to young men starting life is to be ruthlessly selfish. Be selfish with your time , resources and ambitions.
I wish I learnt that early in life , I would have walked away from that liability of a girl and focus on myself.

Avoid dating broke girls who add little to no value to your life, be more interested in your growth and development.
(If possible avoid relationships during your struggling days)

What’s is something you wish you learnt early?[/quote]te author=Ericmaestrooffi post=136460957]Good day everyone.

Was having this thought today and decided to share.

What is one thing you wish you learnt earlier in life ?

For me , I wish I avoided women during my hustling days, would have made more progress in my life financially and otherwise.

One of the biggest mistakes I made in life was to date a parasitic girl during my hustling and struggling days.
I was a young graduate of 22 years earning 40k back then which was quite little but I had a girlfriend who was very demanding. She billed me to the point where I couldn’t even save a single penny , I really loved her then and would literally give in to all her demands even when it wasn’t convenient.

Last last she still cheated on me and got pregnant for another guy, the heart break really shattered and it took me two years to recover.

Currently I’m in my late twenties, got a very good job and earn very well and my advice to young men starting life is to be ruthlessly selfish. Be selfish with your time , resources and ambitions.
I wish I learnt that early in life , I would have walked away from that liability of a girl and focus on myself.

Avoid dating broke girls who add little to no value to your life, be more interested in your growth and development.
(If possible avoid relationships during your struggling days)

What’s is something you wish you learnt early?[/quote]

How to make money

Coolis:
I wish l never heard of forex trading, last 6yrs of hustling all gone down the drain. In my delusional state, l kept hoping that l would make money from trading the forex market, the more l gets obsess with trading to recover lost money, the more losses l records. At 45yr, got nothing to show for. I look back and l say to myself that l have wasted 45yrs of my life and how many years do l have to spend on earth? I curse the day l heard about forex trading. Who will deliver me from the destructive path l found myself?

😂😂😂😂,man life no easy bros

Naso

Seunpapa65:
No matter the amount of love abegi I beg you in the name of anything you serve never make a mistake of not knowing your genotype before getting married
If you be AS abegi no marry your fellow AS love and money is not enough

This nonsense Genotype has made my brother lose 3 good relationships.

He is AS.
All ladies are AS too.

The guy just weak.
Like say na only AS full for outside.

Deltavariant:
only a few would understand, even though its late to starting investing in Au, I have started a little by little even if its for my unborn generation

Exactly. The possibility of your initial investment doubling in a 18 months is high. Better late than never.


Please make sure to buy from legit vendors only. Ditch 18 karat also, it may be cheap, but if you're buying as a form of investment, it's best to buy from 21 karat or 24 karat (Au bars only)

MikeofKd:
Don't come and start telling pple to avoid relationships as a young struggling guys bcus urs failed miserably.

The reason ur ex was billing u helplessly even when you were earning really low income was bcus you think you don't deserve love , your ex also knows this and finished u with senseless billing too. look I've dated girls that before I even give them money i would have to beg them first bcus they wouldn't accept it at all, that's how much they loved me, even to the extent of buying gifts and giving me their money, yes. and all this happened while I was still broke and struggling but I didn't let that define my reality nor my perspective about what love is about , I knew I was worth it anyways and I attracted all that good good love.

"if you don't know ur worth in this life you will become worthless"

-mikeofkd 2025

You just dey rack like you own the life,but if dem check well he go surprise people say you never see anything .

Hhh4444:
If I may ask,when did this feminism become popular in Nigerian social media? I guess it's recently.

Online feminism kicked off from our women based abroad. For those in Nigeria, it kicked off starting from 2015 and skyrockted in the years leading to COVID. Let's just say it grew alongside social media popularity and smartphones penetration.

I'm focused on the online aspect as the offline aspect is very old.

Failure is part of success if you don't give up on life.
You should evaluate your risk level if you are overambitious and overreaching yourself unrealistically in your trades.
You don't trade forex or crypto as if your life depends on it.
Take it easy and don't be too hard on yourself.
Those trading in crypto will tell you how they bled with Trump Coin earlier in the year.

Coolis:
I wish l never heard of forex trading, last 6yrs of hustling all gone down the drain. In my delusional state, l kept hoping that l would make money from trading the forex market, the more l gets obsess with trading to recover lost money, the more losses l records. At 45yr, got nothing to show for. I look back and l say to myself that l have wasted 45yrs of my life and how many years do l have to spend on earth? I curse the day l heard about forex trading. Who will deliver me from the destructive path l found myself?