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You be toy?... How can colleague aroused you. Before a man goes on a woman he already sees the signs of compliments. So work on your self

Samantha125:
You being married doesn't mean you wouldn't get attracted to other men, what matters is how you react to the feeling.

I'd advise that you distance yourself from the colleague... Let everything between the two of you be strictly professional and only work related.

You're right, she should distance herself from that colleague.
Cos I believe after that move, he's surely planning another move, so she should be careful

Hmmmm.
Just sooner or later

I don forgive you, hope you fit forgive yourself

Onegai:
No you haven't. You're human, being attracted to another person will happen.

What you NEED to do now is to start treating that colleague like he has leprosy, in your mind. The devil will try and use him and he will come and be asking you "what's wrong nau, are we quarrelling?". Smile and say "no" but let that be the absolute last time you are ever alone with him or speak to him privately. I'm dead serious, don't even THINK of downplaying this and saying "there's nothing going o, let me be matured". The devil will laugh and realize you're No 2,637,879th victim he's just caught.

Go home to your husband and become playful with him. Why? Because your colleague gave you 20% of what you wanted (Playful Affection and Attention) and you're about to throw away 80% of what you have for that 20%.

And that's just bad Math for life

So go and get that playfulness from your legal man: buy some lingerie (lacy nonsense), tight mini jeans shorts, rub your body on your hubby anyhow, share jokes with him, wear perfume and lipgloss around the house.

You really sabi them.

Though the OP is a troll.

Go confess and get kicked out of that marriage. Do this and both of you'll get peace of mind.

Madam you don't get wet to a man u don't love.you are lien

This is how paternity fraud begins.
When some of us insist women should be restricted to being house wives, you will say we are selfish husbands

Not yet but you will. You were aroused by the touch and even if he doesnt repeat it, you'll yearn for that feeling again cos you are human and humans love pleasure and you got a huge dose of pleasure that resulted in you getting wet.

So you'll go to get touched and you'll get wet and when you get wet, you want something inside and you'll either get a cucumber or take him tonthe staff bathroom.

Solution...Resign from that office!

...don't believe a word i wrote please

You have cheated in the sight of God but there is no need telling your husband, if I am your husband save me and yourself the stress, I don't want to hear such stories no matter your motive

Preciousgirl:
It's hard for me but I will confess here. My colleague of course male colleague playfully held my waist at the workplace and I got aroused. I have never had feelings for him though. I was a little wet. Have I cheated? Should I confess this to my husband? What really happened since I don't have feelings for the guy? Could that me juju at work?

So, Everytime you husband sees beautiful ladies and have a normal erection he should be confessing that he cheated abi?
It is normal to be aroused sexually; it is in the human nature.
My Advice: Call your male colleague and draw a boundary (you are a married woman for crying out loud, a sensible and sensitive male colleague should be discretional). This will help. Don't test the trust of your husband be telling him something unserious but capable of damaging the trust in you marriage.
WISDOM IS PROFITABLE TO INSTRUCT.
No Be Juju Be Dat?

He has succeeded in making the first advances on you, watch out for his next dangerous and seductive move. U need to cut all ties with him immediately and stop giving him attention. He should be able to read between the lines and step back.

You want to confess that you got wet and asking if you cheated? Is this not childish? May be there is something you are hiding or may be your husband usually confess to you when he had erection for another woman
Otherwise I don't know what you want to confess.

Preciousgirl:
It's hard for me but I will confess here. My colleague of course male colleague playfully held my waist at the workplace and I got aroused. I have never had feelings for him though. I was a little wet.

Have I cheated? Should I confess this to my husband? What really happened since I don't have feelings for the guy? Could that me juju at work?

Is that you and your husband in the profile picture?

Or you and your flirtatious colleague

Juliearth:
That's another angle, but ovulating women don't react that way.

How do they react? I am very much interested in learning and finding out.

macphilip:
This is how paternity fraud begins.
When some of us insist women should be restricted to being house wives, you will say we are selfish husbands

Restrict your own and lock her in a tower like rapunzel. 🙏

Do u know how many married men have gotten aroused by just hugging a female colleague of theirs?

Do u know how many married men have gotten aroused from just the touch of a female friend of theirs?

Be calming down.

If it were ur husband that got aroused from a lady's touch, he will not tell you.

Men are so cheap.

How....

Just go to ur married male friend tomorrow and put your hand on his waist when he is alone and see if he will not be smiling.

How do y'all guyz flirt with married women sef, it's a turn off for me.....
Na pesin wey no get brain dey run dat kind thing...

And to mama wey dey wet ontop ordinary waist grabbing, first thing first, u are human, it's okay if ur body react to some touches but try dey set boundaries, ur body belongs to ur husband and ur husband only, set unlimited boundaries make some random brainless guyz no dey touch am anyhow....

Preciousgirl:
It's hard for me but I will confess here. My colleague of course male colleague playfully held my waist at the workplace and I got aroused. I have never had feelings for him though. I was a little wet. Have I cheated? Should I confess this to my husband? What really happened since I don't have feelings for the guy? Could that me juju at work?

This is serious o. You erred by not telling him there and then not to do that again. He will want to do that again. Mark my words.

This is the one if the reason my Faith doesn't allow a man to touch the opposite sex other than his Wife, daughters and close Relatives.

Madam, the deed has been done but don't go back to tell that Colleague not to do it again for he will know that he did connect with you that day, wait for the next time he will want to do it and then warn him sternly. As sternly as possible never to attempt that with you again but then ...........

Omo see gobe.
O ti bo sinu gobe.
Omo kilode.

Sonnobax15:

You got wet for another nigha?

Meaning if he had toasted you,who knows, perhaps he would have roasted you

Madam, you should have scolded the colleagues right there...but since you didn't,well let's say your sins will be forgiven since you've confessed

BARS !!!

Don't be naive. A man touches u and u got wet. You already have feelings for him. Build a barrier btwn the both of you, politely tell him you are a married woman and you will not tolerate such again otherwise you will report him. He will stop because no man wants to lose his job on account of this. It's called sexual harassment in the work place.
Finally, do not tell your husband about this. Safe him the stress, he ll feel unsecured about you and your work and colleagues.

dollynnn:
Hmm
How do we judge this matter?
But, I would suggest you be more careful next time. Steer clear off that male colleague and never allow any male touch you in inappropriate places.

TribalChair:
How do y'all guyz flirt with married women sef, it's a turn off for me.....
Na pesin wey no get brain dey run dat kind thing...

And to mama wey dey wet ontop ordinary waist grabbing, first thing first, u are human, it's okay if ur body react to some touches but try dey set boundaries, ur body belongs to ur husband and ur husband only, set unlimited boundaries make some random brainless guyz no dey touch am anyhow....

Lukuluku69:
This is serious o. You erred by not telling him there and then not to do that again. He will want to do that again. Mark my words.

This is the one if the reason my Faith doesn't allow a man to touch the opposite sex other than his Wife, daughters and close Relatives.

Madam, the deed has been done but don't go back to tell that Colleague not to do it again for he will know that he did connect with you that day, wait for the next time he will want to do it and then warn him sternly. As sternly as possible never to attempt that with you again but then ...........

FameGlory:
Do u know how many married men have gotten aroused by just hugging a female colleague of theirs?

Do u know how many married men have gotten aroused from just the touch of a female friend of theirs?

Be calming down.

If it were ur husband that got aroused from a lady's touch, he will not tell you.

Men are so cheap.

How....

Just go to ur married male friend tomorrow and put your hand on his waist when he is alone and see if he will not be smiling.

pocohantas:
Restrict your own and lock her in a tower like rapunzel. 🙏

I don't know why you people continue to give attention to this story teller. Go through her account and see how she ( That's if she is a woman) has been telling one story after the other.

Preciousgirl:
It's hard for me but I will confess here. My colleague of course male colleague playfully held my waist at the workplace and I got aroused. I have never had feelings for him though. I was a little wet. Have I cheated? Should I confess this to my husband? What really happened since I don't have feelings for the guy? Could that me juju at work?

You don dey cheat tey tey na... By flirting with the guy to have the audacity to hold you by the waist. You are actually second hand OS. Tell him at your peril but stop flirting with men. Goto work, do your work and go home. That's what you have come to do

Preciousgirl:
It's hard for me but I will confess here. My colleague of course male colleague playfully held my waist at the workplace and I got aroused. I have never had feelings for him though. I was a little wet. Have I cheated? Should I confess this to my husband? What really happened since I don't have feelings for the guy? Could that me juju at work?

You need to knaack your colleague ASAPU, then you can report yourself to your husband after.

Good luck.

Skeyskey:
I don't know why you people continue to give attention to this story teller. Go through her account and see how she ( That's if she is a woman) has been telling one story after the other.

Lol! I know her. I think years ago she created a thread of one weird food she fed her imaginary husband. Said she is Ghanaian. 😂😂😂

weslay:
The fact that a male colleague will grope you-a married woman, shows that you have a problem setting boundaries.

I see this happen every day in my office and just feel sad for the husbands. Because most women today don't have self awareness, they accept anything. You see them laughing sheepishly instead of confronting the male colleague.

"You're feeling sad for their husbands".

Same way another man could be feeling sad for you. Pray your wife isn't what you just described about other married women.

This is one of the reasons some men don't allow their wife to work.
Fear who no fear woman.

Preciousgirl:
It's hard for me but I will confess here. My colleague of course male colleague playfully held my waist at the workplace and I got aroused. I have never had feelings for him though. I was a little wet. Have I cheated? Should I confess this to my husband? What really happened since I don't have feelings for the guy? Could that me juju at work?

Why would you allow a foolish man that knows you are married grope you around your waist without resisting? And you even went ahead to get aroused for him? Something is wrong with the both of you. This is a precursor to cheating that's if you guys have not started self. What conversation were you guys holding that let to that? You have started cheating emotionally and I know you really loved the fact that he grabbed your waist hence you getting aroused.
Stay away from that devil of a man if you value yourself and your marriage. I don't know why women of these days lack self value and the men have turned to dogs running after married women. It's the fastest way to destruction dating a married woman.