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brain54:
Reminds me of one guy wey dey count meat for pot give him wife...

The day I lost all respect for him was when I burst into his kitchen and 'caught' him dipping his fingers inside the soup pot to count the meat left.

Na that day I know say no be only psychiatric hospital mad men dey. Some are roaming freely.

It's not uncommon to see this particular guy quarrelling with his wife over pieces of meat and such trivialities.

So annoying to me and I felt disgusted.

Food is a basic necessity of life. Even if person one dey stingy not with food...as long as there isn't wastage and done in moderation.

Honestly to me na poverty mindset dey cause such over kaku!

hahaha 🤣 no kill me wit laugh.

Freshtruth:
My wife be like I dey over give u money go that market I done note down how many length go remain if u cut 5m commot

Yam dey reach 5m?

The Bible also asked you to accuse without provide a evidence?

JagaLove:
Mumu people dey follow gehgeh. gehgeh we dey hide give woman money.

1 Timothy 5 vs 8 says. If anyone does not provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

motymop:
the mentality of people who think resources are limited.

So, resources are unlimited abi?

Hamachi:
Point noted, but it’s not always about poverty or background. Sometimes a man counting meat in the pot is more about personality, upbringing, or even control issues than financial lack. There are people who grew up comfortable yet still have stingy, calculative habits. Likewise, some who came from real scarcity are very generous once they have enough.

So, while a “poverty mindset” can explain some behaviors, it’s not the only reason. In many cases, it’s simply a character flaw, not a financial condition.

Character is still an aspect of mindset ma
Ma can you explain the difference between upbringing and background?

eventainment:
Well what if she is out doing things and causing more expenses than the mans budget. How do you think he can handle such mess? Meat counting is very petty but na the man know watin him eye don see

And meat is even very expensive nowadays.

maasoap:
My colleague that we're in the same line of business is not poor: four houses and over 20 commercial buses but he is like the person that guy narrated in the story. I said and did everything that I could say or do to make provisions of basic needs of his family a priority but he just find it difficult to shoulder. All he ever wanted to do with his every kobo is physical investments

Since he is not poor but doesn't know how to manage his family. He can open a business for his wife then.
Does he have a nuclear or an extended family?

Hamachi:
Exactly. Growing up in comfort doesn’t automatically erase a poverty mindset. You can be raised in a wealthy home, attend good schools, and have all the basics provided, yet still carry limiting beliefs about money and abundance.

For example, someone might always feel the need to hoard resources, fear taking calculated risks, or believe opportunities are scarce—even when they’re not. That kind of thinking often comes from upbringing, the values instilled, or even the people you surround yourself with.

So it’s not always about whether you grew up lacking or not. It’s about the mindset you develop towards money, responsibility, and progress. Comfort at home without the right financial orientation can still leave a person with a scarcity mentality.

That is why it's necessary that families inculcate the habit of money and resources management in their children

VinnyBaba:
Maybe you did not follow his earlier teachings where he was focussing more on Financial Matters.

Every thing he said made SENSE.

It's very Foolishness for Young Guys to spend their finances on Girls who have Multiple streams of income.

Nigerian babes no get job jare. Let's be sincere.
Their sources of income come from men

correctguy101:
Such people, even when they finally earned something for themselves will never change.

He that is faithful in little, will be faithful in much and vice versa... - Yeshua Ben Yosep

Have you heard of the phrase" money changeth man" ?

Ikemba007:
So, resources are unlimited abi?

yes they are.

PEDR0:
Have you heard of the phrase" money changeth man" ?

Yes, but it's a lie. Money only magnifies what's already there. You can't give what you do not have.

Reason I commented such is, I know someone like that....

PheelzAlmighty:
Women dey always take us for granted... They don't appreciate good men😏

So you don stop to give women money as you start the class, leave story geh geh still dae give women money

brain54:
Reminds me of one guy wey dey count meat for pot give him wife...

The day I lost all respect for him was when I burst into his kitchen and 'caught' him dipping his fingers inside the soup pot to count the meat left.

Na that day I know say no be only psychiatric hospital mad men dey. Some are roaming freely.

It's not uncommon to see this particular guy quarrelling with his wife over pieces of meat and such trivialities.

So annoying to me and I felt disgusted.

Food is a basic necessity of life. Even if person one dey stingy not with food...as long as there isn't wastage and done in moderation.

Honestly to me na poverty mindset dey cause such over kaku!

I don't blame such men. I blame the women in their lives. You would've known from courtship the one that will measure soap, measure Maggi.

More importantly, women should have something doing so they can curb the excesses of men. If I bought anything with my own money now, let's see how you will school me on how I use it.

Nigerians make madd people popular

PEDR0:
Since he is not poor but doesn't know how to manage his family. He can open a business for his wife then.

I told him to let one bus be paying to the wife's bank account and he should be responsible for monitoring and maintenance. I told him like three times but he found it difficult to release one bus.

Does he have a nuclear or an extended family?

Nuclear family. One of the kids is already a millionaire, probably richer than the dad. And you could easily guess their relationship now.

motymop:
yes they are.

All my life, I was misled into believe that resources do finish, but today I have learnt from you that it's the opposite.
Thank you for the new perspective.

Upbringing and Background are related but not the same.

Upbringing

Refers to how someone was raised — the values, discipline, habits, and guidance given by parents or guardians.

It’s more about the nurturing process: the care, education, and moral training a child receives at home or within their close environment.

Example: “Despite growing up in poverty, his good upbringing made him respectful and hardworking.”


Background

Refers to the circumstances someone comes from — social class, family, culture, education, religion, or economic situation.

It’s more about the setting or context in which a person was born and raised, not necessarily how they were raised.

Example: “She comes from a medical background, as both her parents are doctors.”


Upbringing = How you were raised (nurture, training, values).

Background = Where you come from (social, cultural, economic context).

PEDR0:
Character is still an aspect of mindset ma
Ma can you explain the difference between upbringing and background?