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joelbooks:
Do the math. If 99% of men cheat, who are they cheating with?
Other men? No.
So, who then? Women, of course.

That means:
99% men cheating = 99% women involved.

Conclusion: If 99% of men cheat, then 99% of women cheat too.

Na the women go dey pursue him , them no go let him rest

FameGlory:
If my husband should cheat on me.

I will cheat on him back.

I don't have energy for drama in the house.

Cheat for Cheat.

Everybody will rest.

It's only low self esteem women that will be fighting their husbands for cheating on them.

This is 2025.

Wake up ladies.

We are not in the days of our grand mothers.

E For Energy.

You get energy for cheating?

I go show u say my own energy pass ur own.

I wish you can do it BUT kindly note naa you go lose ...

1. he can kick you out of his house or allow you pack your bag n leave

2. The probability the gurl he cheated with can marry him is 90% while the chance the boy banging you can wife you is 20%

3. You'd better start worrying about divorce stigmatization

Can't count how many Puna wey I don bang while married.

Told my wife to let me take a second wife she refused.
Well I get what I want either ways.

Drsmiles:
After geh gehs class, now promiscuity ambassadorism for men!!! Women really don suffer this month

Men can be faithful if they are focused on growth and raising a wonderful family. Nothing really dey inside cheating like that

Bimbo Akintola isn’t just speaking for shock value—there’s some real context behind what she’s saying. Infidelity in Nigeria doesn’t exist in a vacuum; it’s influenced by cultural norms and historical practices like polygamy. For generations, many men grew up in households where fathers had multiple wives or side relationships, making certain behaviors feel “normal” rather than taboo.

It’s not about excusing cheating but understanding patterns. When fidelity is portrayed as a foreign ideal, it clashes with lived realities, creating constant tension in relationships. Women often enter partnerships with expectations shaped by movies, social media, or Western ideals—expecting exclusivity while navigating a system where male infidelity is normalized.

Her point about being realistic isn’t cynical; it’s pragmatic. Awareness allows people to make informed choices rather than repeatedly being hurt by unmet expectations. Recognizing the cultural roots of cheating can help women and men approach relationships with more clarity, accountability, and less self-deception.

I get where you’re coming from, and honestly, it’s frustrating when trust is broken in a relationship. But here’s another way to look at it: responding to cheating with cheating might feel like “evening the score,” but in reality, it rarely brings peace—it usually just adds more pain and drama for everyone involved.

Choosing to address the situation with self-respect, setting boundaries, or even walking away if needed actually takes more energy and strength than mirroring the betrayal. It’s not about low self-esteem—it’s about valuing yourself enough not to compromise your integrity.

We are in 2025, yes, but modern doesn’t have to mean vengeful. Energy can be spent on growth, healing, or building a stronger relationship—not just on tit-for-tat games.

FameGlory:
If my husband should cheat on me.

I will cheat on him back.

I don't have energy for drama in the house.

Cheat for Cheat.

Everybody will rest.

It's only low self esteem women that will be fighting their husbands for cheating on them.

This is 2025.

Wake up ladies.

We are not in the days of our grand mothers.

E For Energy.

You get energy for cheating?

I go show u say my own energy pass ur own.

Northernblood8:
Number one rule, Don't bring your bad behavior close to your family.

On the news, I think one major thing polygamy will eliminate is a Man spending his later days in pain and agony.

The trend of mother's brainwashing their children to hate their Dad or not regard him started when men started marrying only one wife.

My grandfather and Uncles that were and are polygamous never experienced such. Those children still respect their parents and take care of them equally till today

I get where people are coming from when they say polygamy can help maintain family unity or prevent loneliness later in life. But the reality is, it’s not always that simple. Family harmony isn’t guaranteed by the number of wives—it’s built on respect, trust, and clear communication.

Even in monogamous families, love and loyalty can thrive if everyone is treated fairly and openly. And sometimes, polygamy can actually create competition, jealousy, or confusion among children if it isn’t handled carefully. At the end of the day, it’s not about how many partners you have—it’s about the values, example, and care you bring into your family life.

Honestly, life is messy, and relationships even more so. People will make choices that hurt others, but holding onto anger or jealousy only creates more pain. If we can learn to accept the reality of human flaws, cheating, snatching, heartbreak, we free ourselves from unnecessary stress. It doesn’t mean we approve of bad behavior; it just means we choose peace and understanding over endless conflict. In the end, tolerance and perspective keep families and communities from tearing themselves apart over things they can’t fully control.

pocohantas:
No wahala.
They should also embrace other men sleeping with their women. After all, na person wife Yul Edochie snatch. Snatch the pikin join. Now Mr Obasi dey cry for TVC news. A married man's sidechick is one single guy's serious babe. So let's all tolerate ourselves and live as one big happy family.

pocohantas:
No one is interested in paying your groom price or making you a fulltime husband. But as long as you are sleeping around with WOMEN, not goats __the maths would maths and men would keep sleeping with other men's gfs, fiancees, wives, aunties and mothers. Kiss the fact.





I done kuku talk am before. Life no hard, na human being dey complicate am.

Yes na. As they are ready to be cheating up and down, I don't want anybody to come here and be crying that they slept with his wife or girlfriend.

It's a trait we failed at.
Ever noticed the relationship patterns in our society...?
Boys start by being friendly with girls early...as time goes by, the same ladies feel they over mature and start to entertain sexual partners.....drops the lad and the cycle goes.
Naija women will blow the cork as soon as hello has been established.
She never really understood what being friends mean
Sex becomes the validation tool.....as soon as the guys understood, all hell broke lose.
Cheating is higher and comes easy for the lady.....

IHate9jerianss:
Your post is a mish-mash of views.

Let me make my point crystal clear once again;

Since the beginning of humankind,in every society,the most genetically and socially superior/gifted males have always had access to multiple/many women while the less gifted men did not.The elders/leaders in those societies you stated, then created the monogamy tenet so that the less gifted males could have access to atleast one woman because they weren't good enough to attract any.

My view is,superior men should not be punished for the inadequacies of inferior men when it comes to access to women.
If an incel cannot attract one woman and I can attract seven and impregnate five and cater for them,why then should society punish me and reward the incel?!
You need to relax,inferior men are incapable of disrupting society because they are completely powerless.Thats why they have always needed elders/institutions,shaming tactics & threat of violence for them to gain access to a woman.A skill that is supposed to come naturally to them

take time to read my post and grasp the central idea.
The question you have refused to answer is the relationship between polygamy and societal instabilty i.e why did society ban polygamy?
is there any evidence that polygamy stops cheating
what percentage of men would turn down the opportunity of having 10 thousand women given to them exclusively to f**k at the expense of the govement ?
notice that The genetically weak woman have a higher chance to procreate than a genetically weak man
was there anytime where i said genetically weak men are capable of disrupting society? i was talking about the average genetically fit men .
yes the natural tendencies for any society without any external influence is for inequalities to grow but what is the end game? the answer is always violent bloody revolutions go and check history.
just looking at how wealth inequality have grown in the 21st century should be an eye opener for you
just 1 percent of the world population owns about half the entire wealth in the world 45.8% while 10% holds about 85% of the entire wealth in the world let that sink in. if polygamy was legal and encouraged even you yourself may not have a partner and even if you have several the chances your partner would leave you to be the 10 thoundsanth wife of one those top 10% is extremely if given the opportunity is high
a very rudimentary understanding of high school mathematics tells you if you the ratio of men and women are fixed removing the genetically inferior men the ratio becomes over 1 and allowing the top 10% men to have as many women as they want the propability you IHate9jerianss would keep a partner is closer to zero

Okwyjesus:
I don't know why Nigerian men like adultery especially once money start coming.

It's difficult for me to understand .What am l looking for in strange woman

You just described me..Once money begin enter my hand when I get my own house..my own car..u enter my office..women just dey come left right and center...first thing dem wan know is if I am married once dey hear me speak...e get one lawyer wey wan chook head of recent I just dey look am

Kobicove:
Second position is better than nothing when you realise that the window of opportunity is closing fast

I had a crush on her so many many years ago at the UI, I was too nerdy way back then. Funny she's aged gracefully.

chidiokay:
I wish you can do it BUT kindly note naa you go lose ...

1. he can kick you out of his house or allow you pack your bag n leave

2. The probability the gurl he cheated with can marry him is 90% while the chance the boy banging you can wife you is 20%

3. You'd better start worrying about divorce stigmatization

No need to wish dear.

I WILL.

And every woman in this 2025 should do so.

We are not in 1995.

As for your options, here is my take.

1) He kicks me out? I move. I will be moving with joy that I cheated back on him.
No energy to beg a cheating man.
E for Energy.

2) Glad you said probability.
This is because any man that marries the woman he cheated with will forever live with the fear of that same woman cheating on him with another man. Ask around dear. A leopard doesn't change its skin overnight.
And who says I would want to marry the guy I cheated with? Make it make sense.

3) Divorce Stigmatization? 😂
This is 2025 o. Divorce Stigmatization is a beautiful dress coloured "Yellow". People wear it with pride now.
I remember those days when our mothers will tell us young girls...
"Don't get pregnant out-of-wedlock o. You will be stigmatized in the society. You will bring shame to the family".
Fast forward to 2025, so many unmarried ladies are throwing loud "baby showers" for pregnancies they got out-of-wedlock.

Talk about Energy For Energy.

You make me laugh. Please you need to leave 1995 were you are and come back to 2025. The world has left only you behind o😂

Las las...everybody go dey alright.

But women who don't cheat fear DNA test

FashionCookie:
Yes na. As they are ready to be cheating up and down, I don't want anybody to come here and be crying that they slept with his wife or girlfriend.

When you say this they start talking of bride price. Someone won't hear word because of BP Nigerian men paid. Yul Edochie's Judy was married to someone and left the poor man for Yul. Even 2baba's Natasha was with a younger upcoming guy and the guy ran as she was controlling him. Then she hooked 2baba.
There is a rich man who trended on IG over the drama between his 2 wives at his birthday party. The 2nd wife divorced her UK husband and came to marry him in Nigeria.

So how many of these other women were completely single? If men keep messing up the wives of their youth, why are they crying that girls do not want to build anymore? Worst part is the things iyale couldn't do, iyawo would do it and even smack his head.

"One toto kills prick" - Nelson Mandela (1956)

pocohantas:
No wahala.
They should also embrace other men sleeping with their women. After all, na person wife Yul Edochie snatch. Snatch the pikin join. Now Mr Obasi dey cry for TVC news. A married man's sidechick is one single guy's serious babe. So let's all tolerate ourselves and live as one big happy family.

That wouldn't be a problem in most cases provided he didn't pay bride price and she isn't dependent on him to surviving. .

Mattswaggz:
That wouldn't be a problem in most cases provided he didn't pay bride price and she isn't dependent on him to surviving. .

It is like this bride price is the highest thing Nigerian men have contributed to the world. Because what does bride price have to do with this discussion?

The issue is that men are aware now and cannot kill themselves in order to satisfy a woman,
"women cannot and can never be satisfied"

the day one understands that the better for them, the wailing woman after she don enjoy herself she come begin de wail hmmm, #stayawayfromwailers!!!

pocohantas:
It is like this bride price is the highest thing Nigerian men have contributed to the world. Because what does bride price have to do with this discussion?

Stop asking dumb questions.....want to be equal to a man?.....then all these factors must be put into consideration.

Why on earth should one be paying for the others hand in marriage and also be viewed as the one supposed to provide if the want equality?. .

If you analyse this properly you would know that women are the ones that cheat more than men, one woman can be catering to the cheating needs of 4-5 men at a time and contrary to what she is saying it is less than 50% of men who habitually cheat so if you do the maths the real Olosho na the women. As old as she is sef she would not find it convenient to date someone who is not promiscuous because those guys don't have the kind of money she hopes to enjoy so she ends up meeting with the same set of rich & promiscuous guys forgetting that there are faithful guys who may not be that financially buoyant but don't appeal to her taste.

phosky:
https://eyesoflagos.com/90-to-99-of-men-cheat-embrace-polygamy-bimbo-akintola-sparks-debate/

evening newspaper

It's because no one like us when we have no money ... Then u want us to stick to one woman who would never give me face when I was poor? .... Naahhhhh

Okwyjesus:
I don't know why Nigerian men like adultery especially once money start coming.

It's difficult for me to understand .What am l looking for in strange woman

Mattswaggz:
Stop asking dumb questions.....want to be equal to a man?.....then all these factors must be put into consideration.

Why on earth should one be paying for the others hand in marriage and also be viewed as the one supposed to provide if the want equality?. .

No one asked you to be equal to anybody.

How did the bride price you paid stop your wives from cheating and bringing home another man's child to you? This is simple Maths, but I guess you are not any brighter than I am.

pocohantas:
When you say this they start talking of bride price. Someone won't hear word because of BP Nigerian men paid. Yul Edochie's wife was married to someone and left the poor man for Yul. Even 2baba's Natasha was with a younger upcoming guy and the guy ran as she was controlling him. Then she hooked 2baba.
There is a man who trended on IG over the drama between his 2 wives at his birthday party. The 2nd wife divorced her UK husband and came to marry that man in Nigeria.

So how many of these other women were completely single? If men keep messing up the wives of their youth, why are they crying that girls do not want to build anymore? Worst part is the things iyale couldn't do, iyawo would do it and even smack his head.

When it doesn't favour them, immediately they remember tradition abi ancestors.
Confused people.
In Gehgeh's voice...."them go cry!"

bengdededeng:
Bro... this your math is everything but right...a 100 men can cheat on their wives with just 1 girl...if 100 men cheated it doesn't mean they cheated with a 100 different women...sorry but not sorry but your logic is severely flawed

You are saying women are LovePeddler and more promiscuous than men? 100 men vs 1 woman haba

FashionCookie:
When it doesn't favour them, immediately they remember tradition abi ancestors.
Confused people.
In Gehgeh's voice...."them go cry!"

Blooodddd🩸🩸🩸🩸
My only prayer is good men find good women.
But you see this ndi bride price and polygamy __may they meet their match.

Okwyjesus:
I don't know why Nigerian men like adultery especially once money start coming.

It's difficult for me to understand .What am l looking for in strange woman

What about when the woman at home start using sex as manipulation tool? As a bargain lots of women do it if not all.

pocohantas:
Blooodddd🩸🩸🩸🩸
My only prayer is good men find good women.
But you see this ndi bride price and polygamy __may they meet their match.

Gbam!
Make them dey show each other pepper dey go.
Them deserve themselves...

FameGlory:
If my husband should cheat on me.

I will cheat on him back.

I don't have energy for drama in the house.

Cheat for Cheat.

Everybody will rest.

It's only low self esteem women that will be fighting their husbands for cheating on them.

This is 2025.

Wake up ladies.

We are not in the days of our grand mothers.

E For Energy.

You get energy for cheating?

I go show u say my own energy pass ur own.

I don't have a problem with you cheating, but not as long as you are in a house I pay 4.

But you no get same Energy to go 50-50 in the marriage?

You no get Energy to reciprocate his kind gestures with equal kind gestures?

But when e reach time for Evil, you jump up full of energy Abi?

I really resonate with the scathing words of an elderly man who said this generation happens to be one of the worst generation to pick a sensible partner from. High end maintenance airheads like you littering the streets only prove that saying further. Tueh!

FameGlory:
If my husband should cheat on me.

I will cheat on him back.

I don't have energy for drama in the house.

Cheat for Cheat.

Everybody will rest.

It's only low self esteem women that will be fighting their husbands for cheating on them.

This is 2025.

Wake up ladies.

We are not in the days of our grand mothers.

E For Energy.

You get energy for cheating?

I go show u say my own energy pass ur own.

Okwyjesus:
I don't know why Nigerian men like adultery especially once money start coming.

It's difficult for me to understand .What am l looking for in strange woman

Nothing like Nigerian men in this. There is cheating all over the world in droves