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Adaumunocha:
Only wise ones will understand what this post is about

I understand the post is advising parents to ensure the mental health, way of thinking/life, and the way he/she relate with people, his or her educational capabilities are not affected

Further, he/she is innocent and not matured to accept/handle such situations, hence, he/she needs the regular love, care and support from parents which the child is already use to: which means these conditions shouldn't be negatiated.

Now that i understand all these, am i a wise person? Let me know, I'm waiting for your response

These experts have to be women. Why point fingers at the men when the mother is the root of the problem? The mothers need to be warned about . misleading both the man and the child ...the child believing the man is the father and the mother knowing he is not ...but allowing them to bond. That's wickedness.

Chinny024:
I honestly feel pity for the kids at the mercy of DNA results.. Won't be an easy mountain mentally..
The 19yrs who got rejected by the man he called and known as a father for years broke me..Worst,the wife is late.. Where does he start from?🥹..
Very heartbreaking..

But when the wife was doing unlawful chuku-chuku, she no know the damn consequences

Sure the mental health professionals would be their fellow female. Talking about mental health of the child alone is crazy feels it's a one sided thing what about the man's mental health or is his mental health not important too, in one way or the other may not affect the child(ren) mental health because the issue is in-between the parents it can only affect the children mental health is it involved confrontation in their presence and if it's just a breast sucking child wetin concern that one.


And this is my question to the mental health professionals in this aspect since only the child mental health matters and the man's mental health doesn't matter what advice do you have for the female gender ??

If I'll continue fatherly role for the child, now it's clear I'm just helping someone else child unlike before that I thought I was doing my duty.

It all depends on the bond between you and the child, there's a kind of bond you'll find it difficult to abandon such child unless his biological father is taking taking him/her. I love children but as for the mother, no reconciliation. THE END.

YoungBTCxchange:
the girl no get family, abi she no get mama , sister, brother and papa

True, but they may not be able to tell you who's the owner of the child.

rapheal5:
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lol I was expecting that... guess you are referring to Solomon? First of all Solomon was not the child conceive during David's sinful escapade. The child died after David prayed, asked for forgiveness, removed his royal cloth put on sack cloth and ashes on his head but God did not spear the child. Solomon came into being after David did the right thing that was why David punishment didnt start with Solomon but until after Solomon reign. 2 Samuel 12 vs13

Aonkuuse:
... But when a woman abandons and divorce her cheating husband, people call her strong and a wise woman. Why is this life so hard for men

Thank you. We benefit nothing from the so called marriage union. Only liabilities in our environment. I am happily divorced. Will never remarry and have schooled my 3 sons not to also marry. If they must only traditional. It is time men realise we are THE ASSET.

insightful and hepful

Jman06:
This is why it is important to carry out DNA tests immediately after birth so that in the event of confirmed paternity fraud, the man would take his time to decide whether to accept the child as his before bonding with the child.

The psychological effects does not only affect the child in question but also the man! Many men; including myself, love children so much. Discovering that the child isn't theirs biologically after years of bonding can have devastating effects on the man as well as the child.

So, to prevent such psychological trauma, paternity should be determined early in life before the man and the child could bond. The man would now decide acceptance of the child or rejection. I know there are many men that would still accept such child regardless of paternity.

You can know the DNA of an unborn baby from 8weeks of the conception

Once she's 8weeks pregnant, run a DNA test

Maxymilliano:
https://healthwise.punchng.com/dont-abandon-non-biological-children-after-dna-results-experts-tell-fathers/?fbclid=IwQ0xDSwMXlJVleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHodnwQ8PTGTOrzygIHDbSAmT4L0IkUuIQpCauEdMDxrI3jJIQfzyQ5ak4O7o_aem_0nRgR5DVs_lK2kWHX-koDg

mumu talk

The man don't just leave the child because of the child, rather one of the reasons is that the feels like he have been fo0led and played with.
Why will a woman get pregnant for another and give it to another? Is the person that do the do not good to have the have?

Stolen:
WAT U DONT KNOW WONT KILL U.


BEFORE THE WHITEMAN, WE HAVE BEEN DOING IT STEADILY.


THE CHILD TOO WILL ONLY KNOW U TO BE THE FATHER AND DADDY.

So in essence, you people are trying to say there should be no penalty?

Women will only continue cheating more and giving birth to bastards if men should follow this advice.

You obviously do not care about the mental health of the man.
What should stop the woman from taking the child to his biological father?

jamuta:
It would be an easy task for any Nigerian man who has invested his time and hard earned resources.

Anyway for the child sake you can still be the father but responsibility would be shared o! 😜

Which responsibility would be shared?
Let the father come and carry his bast ard son.
He who chop food should also lick the soup.

Stolen:
WAT U DONT KNOW WONT KILL U.


BEFORE THE WHITEMAN, WE HAVE BEEN DOING IT STEADILY.


THE CHILD TOO WILL ONLY KNOW U TO BE THE FATHER AND DADDY.

Go and continue with yours and leave the innocent Man that will be traumatized having been lied, manipulated to cater for years a child that was not his own by a wicked woman called wife.....

The psychological trauma the man will face is nothing compared to

alabo1:
Thank you. We benefit nothing from the so called marriage union. Only liabilities in our environment. I am happily divorced. Will never remarry and have schooled my 3 sons not to also marry. If they must only traditional. It is time men realise we are THE ASSET.

Rather pray they marry a good woman instead of indoctrinating them not to marry, that's devilish of you

rapheal5:
There's more to this life that we don't know, why is it that most bastarrd/out cast carry more grace and blessing when compare to the legal/biological children. EVIDENCE IN THE BIBLE AND QURAN

Let them carry it to them Papa house.

OctavianAC:
True, but they may not be able to tell you who's the owner of the child.

That is her problem and not mine.
She should make it her life's duty to locate the father, they're both leaving my house.

Stolen:
WAT U DONT KNOW WONT KILL U.


BEFORE THE WHITEMAN, WE HAVE BEEN DOING IT STEADILY.


THE CHILD TOO WILL ONLY KNOW U TO BE THE FATHER AND DADDY.

What you don't know?
The man KNOWS, that's the point of this article.
Our Forefathers never did DNA,so what they did or did not do is irrelevant.

Please spell words correctly when you post, and try to use perfect grammar and punctuation.
Don't ask Nairaland members for contact details

Paternity fraud na scam

keemsleek:
lol I was expecting that... guess you are referring to Solomon? First of all Solomon was not the child conceive during David's sinful escapade. The child died after David prayed, asked for forgiveness, removed his royal cloth put on sack cloth and ashes on his head but God did not spear the child. Solomon came into being after David did the right thing that was why David punishment didnt start with Solomon but until after Solomon reign. 2 Samuel 12 vs13

I wasn't referring to Paternity fraud as the topic stated, I'm actually talking about outcast people like David, Joseph and others.

OctavianAC:
What if the mother of the child don late? If she died while delivering the baby?

That's not usually the case,but if it comes to that,the orphanage has to step in.

OctavianAC:
True, but they may not be able to tell you who's the owner of the child.

that's not your business nah, they will be the one to take care of the baby, the baby is not yours, you have not business taking care of baby,
Because none of your family will help you to take care of a baby that is not yours, so you will return the baby to the girls family

Easyincome24:
It's not about pr**k, what if she was few weeks gone before you finally settled together?

What about swapping of babies in the hospital?
Have you thought of mistakes from DNA test?
Perhaps, are all children claimed by our grandparents 100% their legitimate children?

This is not to encourage promiscuousity but when it happens chest the problem and move on.

okay boss but that one is for you o, for me i can never try that even in my next word, once my wife give birth to any child I'm doing DNA Straight, so if the baby is not mine the marriage is definitely over or whatever we had is over simple