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Is advisable you quit what you start that you cannot finish on the long run. Think again about you time, effort, commitment and resource. More so your different belief system. From beginning you should out an end to it. Unless you plan on changing your faith from a Christian to a Muslim.

You are early 20s.
You cannot say her age for security reasons.
But she has already had worst experience from her ex and your friend told you to keep fcking her. At that tender age she done see wetin her mama never see for 25yrs of marriage? Lol!

I've never really understood why Nigerians carry foreign Abrahamic religions for head like Gala. She be Muslim, you be Christian. So damn what?

Samantha125:
Wait, so Nigerian Muslim ladies have pre-merital sex? Call me ignorant, but I really thought they were innocent and don't engage in such things.

Cut them some slack, even though Islam strictly warn against Zina that's doesn't mean few won't go the wrong way.

But they are much more better than you folks who see nothing wrong with it.

To the OP, leave her alone.

Unclebayo:
Hello fellow nairalanders,

There’s this issue that have been giving me trouble mind recently about my girlfriend.

So I just got a girlfriend 10 days ago , me and the girl have been friends for almost 2 month before asking her out.

. The first issue that’s giving concern about the girl is that I’m a Christian and she’s a Muslim , she always tells me that her parents use to warn her severally not to date a Christian or someone she can’t marry.

I sat her down to talk about this but it seems she has already fell in love with me and the only response I get from her is “Let’s continue”.

I know both of us are still young but I don’t want to waste my time and resources over something that will end in tears for me.

I told my best friend about this but his response was “did you want to marry her before, keep fucking yourselves till you depart “

I don’t want to follow this advise because the girl is too innocent for that. She also has a worst experience with her ex that I’ve promised her it won’t happen again.

The second one is her past really bothers me a lot to be sincere with you people. She only had sex once according to her but that one time sex lead her to using p*stinor and other stuffs.

I play maturity immediately she told me but to be sincere here she’s too young for that and I’m concern.

Can I move on and tell break up with her please I need advice .

I know she’ll be hurt like hell if I did but I need to protect my dignity too…. Thanks family

Postinor isn't an abortion tablet. It's used to prevent pregnancy- You shouldn't have problem with that.

This is where your problem lies - Her family won't accept you...no point continuing with the relationship

Who's "you folks"? And what is Zina?

Hardeybohwarley:
Cut them some slack, even though Islam strictly warn against Zina that's doesn't mean few won't go the wrong way.

But they are much more better than you folks who see nothing wrong with it.

To the OP, leave her alone.

Unclebayo:
Hello fellow nairalanders,

There’s this issue that have been giving me trouble mind recently about my girlfriend.

So I just got a girlfriend 10 days ago , me and the girl have been friends for almost 2 month before asking her out.

. The first issue that’s giving concern about the girl is that I’m a Christian and she’s a Muslim , she always tells me that her parents use to warn her severally not to date a Christian or someone she can’t marry.

I sat her down to talk about this but it seems she has already fell in love with me and the only response I get from her is “Let’s continue”.

I know both of us are still young but I don’t want to waste my time and resources over something that will end in tears for me.

I told my best friend about this but his response was “did you want to marry her before, keep fucking yourselves till you depart “

I don’t want to follow this advise because the girl is too innocent for that. She also has a worst experience with her ex that I’ve promised her it won’t happen again.

The second one is her past really bothers me a lot to be sincere with you people. She only had sex once according to her but that one time sex lead her to using p*stinor and other stuffs.

I play maturity immediately she told me but to be sincere here she’s too young for that and I’m concern.

Can I move on and tell break up with her please I need advice .

I know she’ll be hurt like hell if I did but I need to protect my dignity too…. Thanks family

The girl is innocent plus she only had sexual encounters one time.

Who is deceiving who?

brain54:
This your comment is prejudiced...

Muslim women are mostly more disciplined and decent than other religions.

Having the strictest laws doesn't mean they wouldn't be cases where individuals would rebel or go outside those laws.

But generally they are dedicated and decent and you can't have a system that's 100% foolproof especially when dealing with humans. Your comment sounds hateful sef.

Make una try not to derail the op's thread. Stay on point/focus. Na advice carry am come here!

Sorry, but this is a lie. Women are women, and they have the same urges. Take any muslim woman and put her in a free society, and she will behave the exact same way as non-muslim women. I am telling you from very personal experience.

Unclebayo:
i m in my early 20’s and a uni student, i’m a bit older than her , but I can’t say her age for security reasons.. thanks boss

You are 21 and she is 19.

Aren't you guys too young to start talking about marriage?

Unclebayo:
Hello fellow nairalanders,

There’s this issue that have been giving me trouble mind recently about my girlfriend.

So I just got a girlfriend 10 days ago , me and the girl have been friends for almost 2 month before asking her out.

. The first issue that’s giving concern about the girl is that I’m a Christian and she’s a Muslim , she always tells me that her parents use to warn her severally not to date a Christian or someone she can’t marry.

I sat her down to talk about this but it seems she has already fell in love with me and the only response I get from her is “Let’s continue”.

I know both of us are still young but I don’t want to waste my time and resources over something that will end in tears for me.

I told my best friend about this but his response was “did you want to marry her before, keep fucking yourselves till you depart “

I don’t want to follow this advise because the girl is too innocent for that. She also has a worst experience with her ex that I’ve promised her it won’t happen again.

The second one is her past really bothers me a lot to be sincere with you people. She only had sex once according to her but that one time sex lead her to using p*stinor and other stuffs.

I play maturity immediately she told me but to be sincere here she’s too young for that and I’m concern.

Can I move on and tell break up with her please I need advice .

I know she’ll be hurt like hell if I did but I need to protect my dignity too…. Thanks family

These are the type of things people should discuss, also genotype and tribal differences. Nip it in the bud now.

SmartyPants:
Sorry, but this is a lie. Women are women, and they have the same urges. Take any muslim woman and put her in a free society, and she will behave the exact same way as non-muslim women. I am telling you from very personal experience.

Women are women...

I was talking of women here comparatively religion wise in terms of decency and premarital sex. (Ofcourse all women have same urges that's biological ) And not women generally in a free society or environment.

How do they control that urge in relation to religion is what I spoke about.

Other religions are more liberal not in doctrine but in the practice of the same principles of absence for example. And even when Muslims engage in such they tend to do it more decently and in modesty.

Let's focus on giving the op advice!

Peacecore:
Nor allow that costume wey dem dey wear deceive you dem dey knack pass atheists o

They are still averagely modest than other people.
Its a fact.
Go to any ashawao joint,majority of people you will see there are non Muslims.

It might pain you as a non Muslim but that is the fact

Samantha125:
Wait, so Nigerian Muslim ladies have pre-merital sex? Call me ignorant, but I really thought they were innocent and don't engage in such things.

Dey play.

Nnamdipapa:
Nope, not a good reason to break up. Religion is man made and should not come between two individuals in a relationship.

I disagree, religion is a strong reason to break up especially since her parents have already warned her about it

Samantha125:
Wait, so Nigerian Muslim ladies have pre-merital sex? Call me ignorant, but I really thought they were innocent and don't engage in such things.

shame on u samantha they r humans like anyone.

i guess she is yoruba muslim

Unclebayo:
i m in my early 20’s and a uni student, i’m a bit older than her , but I can’t say her age for security reasons.. thanks boss

you are too Young, leave sex to my ex Jones and focus on your education

Unclebayo:
Hello fellow nairalanders,

There’s this issue that have been giving me trouble mind recently about my girlfriend.

So I just got a girlfriend 10 days ago , me and the girl have been friends for almost 2 month before asking her out.

. The first issue that’s giving concern about the girl is that I’m a Christian and she’s a Muslim , she always tells me that her parents use to warn her severally not to date a Christian or someone she can’t marry.

I sat her down to talk about this but it seems she has already fell in love with me and the only response I get from her is “Let’s continue”.

I know both of us are still young but I don’t want to waste my time and resources over something that will end in tears for me.

I told my best friend about this but his response was “did you want to marry her before, keep fucking yourselves till you depart “

I don’t want to follow this advise because the girl is too innocent for that. She also has a worst experience with her ex that I’ve promised her it won’t happen again.

The second one is her past really bothers me a lot to be sincere with you people. She only had sex once according to her but that one time sex lead her to using p*stinor and other stuffs.

I play maturity immediately she told me but to be sincere here she’s too young for that and I’m concern.

Can I move on and tell break up with her please I need advice .

I know she’ll be hurt like hell if I did but I need to protect my dignity too…. Thanks family

You are a Christian and she a Muslim.
Do you intend to marry her or you're just playing okay now due to emotions and self pity?

One of you would have to switch religion a d you know who that is and do you think you have that much love for her and Christ Jesus in you to withstand the consequences of it?

Leave women alone. She will drag u 50 years backward. No say I no tell u

brain54:
How old are you guys...?

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Very important question

When you are ready to marry her get her pregnant and make sure the pregnancy is at least 5 months or more before going to see her Muslim parents for her hand in official marriage.

Peacecore:
E be like say u be aboki or imam

Maybe he is, but that is the difference between them and Southern + non-muslim men. Even OP is a supposed Christian. Now look at his topic and the comments of his fellow Christian men. If she had dated her fellow muslim, we won't hear this story. Y'all are too garrulous.

It sounds like you're in a tough situation. It's important to have open and honest conversations with your partner about your concerns and values. Ultimately, you have to decide what's best for you and your future.

Postinor is more or less like Paracetamol nah
What does that have to do with it....

Be bothered about her Background religion, that's enough to break up..

Unclebayo:
Hello fellow nairalanders,

There’s this issue that have been giving me trouble mind recently about my girlfriend.

So I just got a girlfriend 10 days ago , me and the girl have been friends for almost 2 month before asking her out.

. The first issue that’s giving concern about the girl is that I’m a Christian and she’s a Muslim , she always tells me that her parents use to warn her severally not to date a Christian or someone she can’t marry.

I sat her down to talk about this but it seems she has already fell in love with me and the only response I get from her is “Let’s continue”.

I know both of us are still young but I don’t want to waste my time and resources over something that will end in tears for me.

I told my best friend about this but his response was “did you want to marry her before, keep fucking yourselves till you depart “

I don’t want to follow this advise because the girl is too innocent for that. She also has a worst experience with her ex that I’ve promised her it won’t happen again.

The second one is her past really bothers me a lot to be sincere with you people. She only had sex once according to her but that one time sex lead her to using p*stinor and other stuffs.

I play maturity immediately she told me but to be sincere here she’s too young for that and I’m concern.

Can I move on and tell break up with her please I need advice .

I know she’ll be hurt like hell if I did but I need to protect my dignity too…. Thanks family

Children shouldnt be in relationship..... Wait small till you are older

Unclebayo:
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I don’t want to follow this advise because the girl is too innocent for that. She also has a worst experience with her ex that I’ve promised her it won’t happen again.

The second one is her past really bothers me a lot to be sincere with you people. She only had sex once according to her but that one time sex lead her to using p*stinor and other stuffs.

I play maturity immediately

Should we tell him?

Unclebayo:
Hello fellow nairalanders,

There’s this issue that have been giving me trouble mind recently about my girlfriend.

So I just got a girlfriend 10 days ago , me and the girl have been friends for almost 2 month before asking her out.

. The first issue that’s giving concern about the girl is that I’m a Christian and she’s a Muslim , she always tells me that her parents use to warn her severally not to date a Christian or someone she can’t marry.

I sat her down to talk about this but it seems she has already fell in love with me and the only response I get from her is “Let’s continue”.

I know both of us are still young but I don’t want to waste my time and resources over something that will end in tears for me.

I told my best friend about this but his response was “did you want to marry her before, keep fucking yourselves till you depart “

I don’t want to follow this advise because the girl is too innocent for that. She also has a worst experience with her ex that I’ve promised her it won’t happen again.

The second one is her past really bothers me a lot to be sincere with you people. She only had sex once according to her but that one time sex lead her to using p*stinor and other stuffs.

I play maturity immediately she told me but to be sincere here she’s too young for that and I’m concern.

Can I move on and tell break up with her please I need advice .

I know she’ll be hurt like hell if I did but I need to protect my dignity too…. Thanks family

Lash her well well

tunjijones:
You are 21 and she is 19.

Aren't you guys too young to start talking about marriage?

The girl is definitely younger than this. From what she OP said, 'she's innocent'. Maybe 16 and mostly likely she's not in university yet.

Samantha125:
Wait, so Nigerian Muslim ladies have pre-merital sex? Call me ignorant, but I really thought they were innocent and don't engage in such things.

LOL.. Na today..
Babe, forget the covering o, some of them are wild

so Nigerian Muslim ladies are humans and commit sins like every other human?

Samantha125:
Wait, so Nigerian Muslim ladies have pre-merital sex? Call me ignorant, but I really thought they were innocent and don't engage in such things.