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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson.


That Book will help most of you.

If you haven't started living your life strictly on your own terms, you really are not living.

Say na chuka tell u say benz don tire him ni

funsho75:
I have even train myself to the extent

If. My salary come I no dey touch am the first day


Anything way won happen make he happen

My boss, this lesson site no dey go

Therock5555:
One of my guys said I no wan blow because I no wan allow intimidation catch me, say if I enter club see boys dey waste my net worth in one night, me sef go put body..


I just laugh.....


As long as them no born me and you from the same womb at the same time, nothing you go do wey fit intimidate me. I go just look you dey smile....


Ain't in a competition with nobody ....

Even if we come from the same womb @ the same time.
You won’t intimidate me 😛

I thank my Dad the strict training and being able to send me to school even though I didn't pass through Uni.
I thank my Creator and my Guardian spirit for Life & impacting knowledge I use to maneuver the difficulty times.

Super story

Gbadebo19:
The funny thing is that thieves and yahoo boys are all present on this thread typing the same motivational "I don't live for anybody validation". SMH ☹️☹️

nah so you see am

funsho75:
I have even train myself to the extent

If. My salary come I no dey touch am the first day


Anything way won happen make he happen

If you can graduate from not touching it at all for 5yrs...you don win be that.

Any time it comes, you use am buy btc and go broke instantly. Anybody wey Wan hug transformer can go ahead. After 5yrs, you resign from the work and cash out

...

As long as you ain't contributing anything toward my progress,I'm not taking what ever pressure you are mounting on me,if my condition dey pain you then give me money..

One thing I love about my family is they won't pressure you no matter what.

If all my age mates like let them buy private jets you will never hear my parent comparing me with them..

Thou normally I use to feel somehow when I see people I started before doing better, but i dont take it to the heart,I believe everyone have his own destiny..

lilyheaven:
Even if we come from the same womb @ the same time.
You won’t intimidate me 😛

Atleast if I had a twin, I for vex small if he was more successful... Anything less doesn't matter...

occfx:
If you can graduate from not touching it at all for 5yrs...you don win be that.

Any time it comes, you use am buy btc and go broke instantly. Anybody wey Wan hug transformer can go ahead. After 5yrs, you resign from the work and cash out

..

How does this btc work?

Is it legitimate to invest on?

Therock5555:
In Meek Mill's voice; My brother said, it's okay to be Rich in Private ...

Nice to know you listen to meekmill that guy understand what's like to have a dream. I de listen to em track "level up" on repeat.

hoygift:
Nice to know you listen to meekmill that guy understand what's like to have a dream. I de listen to em track "level up" on repeat.

Real G's are underrated cause they spit the factual truth...

Goodmarlian:
Lol, op a boy I know attempted suicide last week because he was into some huge debt of 700k, it was then I knew he lived a fake life he uses latest iPhone, expensive wears oppressing people and showing off not knowing he is inviting depressions into his life
Me i am naturally immune to peer pressure I live by my means.

You called 700k huge debt? Some people self

One of my guys use am mock me say me wey dey teach am for exam and him be olodo but him don get car and build house, i just tell am God's time is the best. After that convo i gently block him off. You no fit make me do pass myself. I come with nothing and leaving with nothing. I am doing well for myself without worries and that's what's up.

Op there is something wrong with this ur write up. I know you are trying to pass a very important message. But I don't like the way u made it so easy to acquire Benz immidiately someone joins yahoo. It will look more tempting for those that has intentions of joining.

Sonnobax15:

No be lie..

It takes a lot of self encouragement for someone who's in china's shoes to overcome pressure.

But then again,most times now,I thank God for not falling for such things when the pressure really got into me as at 3-4 years ago.... I even had to cut ties with some of my friends whose pressure and influence could have made me to go astray........

I remembered when I first started driving my first Keke,a good friend of mine from way back in poly boarded my keke then....The dude was kinda mocking me cuz he was doing Yahoo and was one of the big boys in town as at then.. but I didn't mind him.....

Glad that you never allowed it get to you.as i dey like this,no body can prepare me,i nor send anybody.if e better for you,i go always congratulate you, but say make i envy person,it can never be me.

Chuka, listen.
You’re not a failure. You’re not behind. You’re just living your own journey. The problem is, you started comparing your chapter one to other people’s chapter ten. And because of that, you let society’s noise push you into a life that doesn’t give you peace.

That Benz, the applause, the fake “respect” — they’re not real. What’s real is your peace of mind, your freedom, your dignity. And right now, you’re trading all of that just to prove a point to people who don’t even think about you after they scroll past your post.

You need to ask yourself: what do I truly want? Not what Instagram wants, not what family or girlfriend wants — what do you want?

If it’s stability, freedom, and a good life, then start building it in a way that lets you sleep at night. Go back to your hustle with fresh eyes, learn new skills, expand your business, or find legit opportunities that may take longer but will last longer.

There’s no shame in starting small, but there’s deep shame in losing yourself trying to look big. Real success is silent, steady, and peaceful.

So my advice: drop the pressure, pick back your life, and build in a way that when you smile, it’s not for the camera — it’s from your heart.

LegendaryGrafix:
There’s one guy I know, let’s call him Chuka. Chuka was a normal hustler in Kaduna. He had a small shop where he sold phone accessories. Every month, he made just enough to pay rent and manage life. But anytime he scrolled Instagram or even WhatsApp, he would see his mates posting pictures with new cars, popping drinks at clubs, traveling to Dubai.

At first, he ignored it. But with time, the pressure started eating him. His family would call and say, “Your mates are doing well, when will you also make us proud?” Even his girlfriend started dropping subtle hints: “Baby, don’t you think it’s time you upgrade? At least get a car, people will respect you more.”

Chuka began to feel like he was failing in life. He wasn’t lazy, he wasn’t useless, but because he wasn’t living up to society’s standard, he carried shame everywhere he went. One day, out of frustration, he joined some friends who were into Yahoo. He told himself it was temporary, that once he made it small, he would leave.

Within months, Chuka was driving a Mercedes Benz. His parents praised him, his girlfriend became proud again, even his neighbors started calling him “boss.” On the outside, he looked like he had arrived. But on the inside, he was drowning. The fear of EFCC, the lies, the sleepless nights, the emptiness, it was killing him slowly.

One evening, while sitting alone in his car, he confessed: “This Benz no dey sweet me. I thought once I got it, my life would change. But now I realize I only did it for other people. I don’t even recognize myself anymore.”

And that’s the painful truth: many Nigerians are living like Chuka. We let societal pressure push us into things we don’t want, into debts we can’t repay, into lifestyles we can’t sustain. We kill ourselves trying to prove a point to people who don’t even care.

This is a raw reminder that until you stop living for people and start living for yourself, nothing will ever feel enough.

Because the truth is, peace of mind will take you farther than any Benz.

The easiest way to be miserable?

- Compare yourself to people who’ve been in the game longer.
- Expect overnight results in a process that takes years.
- Wait for ‘motivation’ instead of setting up a system.

Your problem isn’t effort. It’s patience.

When Buhari took over in 2015, we thought he would encourage integrity and anti-corruption. But reverse was the case.

In Abuja now, nobody can survive without corruption. And when your mates are doing better than you in Abuja, it usually means that they are just more corrupt than you.

So hard work now also means being corrupt.

The only thing that can mount pressure on me is how to take care of my family,I no dey do competition with any body.Life na par head,no be the way our destiny be.

Therock5555:
Atleast if I had a twin, I for vex small if he was more successful... Anything less doesn't matter...

Vex or make u join am dey run deals

Starz825:
Vex or make u join am dey run deals

That one na sure banker nah, my twin no fit allow the other to broke....

Please how do they collect that big money from abroad, is it with their Nigerian account, somebody should enlighten me on how they do it.

Brimstone77:
..

How does this btc work?

Is it legitimate to invest on?

Dont give anyone your money, just get a trust wallet, buy from exchangers like binance and store.

Trash write up



Trash write up



All way na way

All way na way



Tinubu did it

Otedola did it

Hushpuppi did it

For peace of mind and benz, which one fast pass abeg? I wan reach somewhere next week

omoredia:
Under pressure by Rude Boy. Listen to that song make una get sense

This one? Never heard it before. Many good songs/things we never hear about


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yysg7nHHEeA?si=mXMdXw5LqR0o96UN

To kill a monkey script

Everybody nah saint online

Oyindamolah:
Chuka, listen.
You’re not a failure. You’re not behind. You’re just living your own journey. The problem is, you started comparing your chapter one to other people’s chapter ten. And because of that, you let society’s noise push you into a life that doesn’t give you peace.

That Benz, the applause, the fake “respect” — they’re not real. What’s real is your peace of mind, your freedom, your dignity. And right now, you’re trading all of that just to prove a point to people who don’t even think about you after they scroll past your post.

You need to ask yourself: what do I truly want? Not what Instagram wants, not what family or girlfriend wants — what do you want?

If it’s stability, freedom, and a good life, then start building it in a way that lets you sleep at night. Go back to your hustle with fresh eyes, learn new skills, expand your business, or find legit opportunities that may take longer but will last longer.

There’s no shame in starting small, but there’s deep shame in losing yourself trying to look big. Real success is silent, steady, and peaceful.

So my advice: drop the pressure, pick back your life, and build in a way that when you smile, it’s not for the camera — it’s from your heart. The easiest way to be miserable?

- Compare yourself to people who’ve been in the game longer.
- Expect overnight results in a process that takes years.
- Wait for ‘motivation’ instead of setting up a system.

Your problem isn’t effort. It’s patience.

If only nairaland permit me,I could have send a thousand likes for this.

nlfpmod,abeg promote my threat go frontage page,make we catch cruise...I m your daughter's big fan o.

Softmirror:
Na dis Tinubu administration really expose people living fake life style.😁

I swear,you no fit live fake life for this tinubulation. E go surely humble you.