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Comedian and skitmaker Lord Lamba shared on X:

"If she is able to pay all her bills without your assistance, she cannot listen to you."

The post drew mixed reactions.

One user replied: “Paying bills doesn’t cancel mutual respect. Independence is not a license for pride, and providing isn’t a ticket for control. Relationship na partnership not boss and employee vibes.”

Another added: “A woman who truly loves you will naturally be supportive and submissive, whether or not she pays her own bills. Some women simply want to love and be loved in return.”

Some women, however, pushed back. One wrote: “As I’m paying my bills by myself, you have to be doing more than just paying bills for me to take you serious.”

A woman's loyalty has very little or nothing to do with bills.

Some men reasons from their boxers.
Basically what they crave is security and love.

That's because for women relationship is mostly about financial support

Not all women, depend on the nature and tribe of the woman, and her exposure rates

If she is comfortably earning and paying her own bills, what else is he is bringing to the table?

I can't be paying my bills and someone in the name of a man will be ordering me around

Listen to what exactly?? To control her abi??

Why would you want to control a full grown human being in 21st century.

The most important thing is the couple should respect and honor each other, then the woman would double the respect and honor for her husband. Trust me.

Personally, i dislike this nigerian manhood control stuff, like bouncing people around, hey you, do this, do that and i don't want anyone controlling me as well.

Definitely Yahoo boys like him have low self esteem that's why the believe the only way they can have the audience of a lady is by reckless spending on her

“When two people are together, respect shouldn’t be tied to money. Whether or not you can pay your own bills, listening to each other is what keeps the relationship strong. It’s not about who depends on who, but about valuing each other’s voice.”

This way, you’re not coming across as controlling or suggesting money = authority. Instead, you’re reminding her (and yourself) that mutual respect is the real foundation.

Chilipepper:
Comedian and skitmaker Lord Lamba shared on X:

"If she is able to pay all her bills without your assistance, she cannot listen to you."

The post drew mixed reactions.

One user replied: “Paying bills doesn’t cancel mutual respect. Independence is not a license for pride, and providing isn’t a ticket for control. Relationship na partnership not boss and employee vibes.”

Another added: “A woman who truly loves you will naturally be supportive and submissive, whether or not she pays her own bills. Some women simply want to love and be loved in return.”

Some women, however, pushed back. One wrote: “As I’m paying my bills by myself, you have to be doing more than just paying bills for me to take you serious.”

Very true.

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From time immemorial, our father father's father,has been spending money on mama than born our mama, it got to delusional generation, they are lamenting to sex and still expecting the woman to start spending on them, and at same time want to be controlling her with remote control.

Lord Lamba is right, I'm a married woman and even though my husband pays about 80% of the bills in the home while I take care of the 20%, he's not responsible for my upkeep, maintenance, clothing and everything that concerns my family, I do not totally submit to him, cos he's personally useless to me in the scheme of things.....

Noted.
"If she is able to pay all her bills without your assistance, she cannot listen to you."

Diamond098454:
I can't be paying my bills and someone in the name of a man will be ordering me around

Why should you be ordered around even if you're not the one paying your bills? 🤔

Mindlog:
If she is comfortably earning and paying her own bills, what else is he is bringing to the table?

Remember the dikkk, no woman can do without it. Very sweet.

Diamond098454:
I can't be paying my bills and someone in the name of a man will be ordering me around

Can you do without the sweet dikkk? I doubt. That's the power of a man.

DrAda:
Very true.

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But you can't do without the sweet dikkk. That's what men have that we women don't have. Very sweet.

bigdammyj:
Noted.
"If she is able to pay all her bills without your assistance, she cannot listen to you."

Life is transactional, this also applies to any relationship you can think of...
Boss - worker.
God - Man
Parents - Children.
Husband and wife....

God promised humans an eternal home, if they believe and worship him here on earth, else na hellfire , even though I believe this is fiction, what other transaction is greater than this...

Boss promises his worker payment at the end of the month if not you think he will order his employee around? No one will work for him in the first place...

An Husband is not able to provide anything tangible for the family, you think anyone in the family will listen to him, even the children will curse such man beneath their breath....

My take

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, this is so shocking. i thought only Obi bears this name.

He is actually right.

There is this subtle arrogance and pride that women wear when they pay the bills.

Only married men will understand.

Men command respect with intelligence and responsibilities in marriage!

Diamond098454:
I can't be paying my bills and someone in the name of a man will be ordering me around

Normal level.

Most “I make my own money” ladies don’t take husband level serious until they are at the edge of menopause. It is then wife material start growing out of the skin, submission, respect etc just to enter the “marriage “ bus.

By that age, most will even sponsor their own wedding because in her haste she would probably grab one sycophant, because no reasonable man would settle for less.

That is life, nobody cheat life.

Those who are not married may not understand what he means.

It is marriage that will enlighten you.

being able to sufficiently pay her own bills as a woman will trigger her masculinity and that will bring strife for the position of authority.

This is majorly the case but if you think I'm wrong, you're right.

FaithfulFellow:
This X user have said it all. A woman who loves you will respect you, be submissive and supportive.

Hmmmmm 🤔
But is that supposed to be so?
Man-Woman relationship should be based on God's principles as outlined in the Holy Books.

Felimax:
A woman's loyalty has very little or nothing to do with bills.

Some men reasons from their boxers.
Basically what they crave is security and love.

As soon as they get security and love they get bored. They’re never ever ever satisfied.

FaithfulFellow:
This X user have said it all. A woman who loves you will respect you, be submissive and supportive.

Yes, she will, for 2 weeks or 6 months until she what she wants and gets bored. I pity the foolish men getting married in this extreme feminist era.

GrammarNazi1:
Those who are not married may not understand what he means.

It is marriage that will enlighten you.

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If the man is foolish enough to get into a marriage (especially the legal or court type).

Chilipepper:
Comedian and skitmaker Lord Lamba shared on X:

"If she is able to pay all her bills without your assistance, she cannot listen to you."

The post drew mixed reactions.

One user replied: “Paying bills doesn’t cancel mutual respect. Independence is not a license for pride, and providing isn’t a ticket for control. Relationship na partnership not boss and employee vibes.”

Another added: “A woman who truly loves you will naturally be supportive and submissive, whether or not she pays her own bills. Some women simply want to love and be loved in return.”

Some women, however, pushed back. One wrote: “As I’m paying my bills by myself, you have to be doing more than just paying bills for me to take you serious.”

all these online chochocho

come face reality make you talk that one

Harddiskng:
Normal level.

Most “I make my own money” ladies don’t take husband level serious until they are at the edge of menopause. It is then wife material start growing out of the skin, submission, respect etc just to enter the “marriage “ bus.

By that age, most will even sponsor their own wedding because in her haste she would probably grab one sycophant, because no reasonable man would settle for less.

That is life, nobody cheat life.

100% but that marriage bus sef is crashing everywhere. We need to accept the world as it is.

But independence is a licence and recipe for pride.

A lot are weapons fashioned against you. May God continue to protect you from enemies within.

Chilipepper:
Comedian and skitmaker Lord Lamba shared on X:

"If she is able to pay all her bills without your assistance, she cannot listen to you."

The post drew mixed reactions.

One user replied: “Paying bills doesn’t cancel mutual respect. Independence is not a license for pride, and providing isn’t a ticket for control. Relationship na partnership not boss and employee vibes.”

Another added: “A woman who truly loves you will naturally be supportive and submissive, whether or not she pays her own bills. Some women simply want to love and be loved in return.”

Some women, however, pushed back. One wrote: “As I’m paying my bills by myself, you have to be doing more than just paying bills for me to take you serious.”