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Manculated:
Listen to what exactly?? To control her abi??

Why would you want to control a full grown human being in 21st century.

The most important thing is the couple should respect and honor each other, then the woman would double the respect and honor for her husband. Trust me.

Personally, i dislike this nigerian manhood control stuff, like bouncing people around, hey you, do this, do that and i don't want anyone controlling me as well.

The word "Listen" and "Control" are two different things. Make una no dey misquote people.
Wondering how the word "control" take enter a simple sentence.

Seunomobo:
Lord Lamba is right, I'm a married woman and even though my husband pays about 80% of the bills in the home while I take care of the 20%, he's not responsible for my upkeep, maintenance, clothing and everything that concerns my family, I do not totally submit to him, cos he's personally useless to me in the scheme of things.....

Someone paying 80% of the bills is useless to you, see bad mouth of the highest order. Don't even try to say it out before people reason your matter. You would have forced him to pay 100% of the bills and also carry your family problem join as if he was made to be your family slave.... You are lucky that you are married, if it was now you are reasoning like this, you for smell pepper.

Felimax:
A woman's loyalty has very little or nothing to do with bills.

Some men reasons from their boxers.
Basically what they crave is security and love.

what are they saying what are saying, who is talking about Loyalty ?? who told you women even have loyalty

A woman pride nd submissiveness has everything to do with her level of financial independence

A woman's respect/submissiveness stems from her being needy, the moment she can take care of her bills without the man, omo naa tag along husband you be oo!

its not a 100% generalization but just very few ladies are exceptions

Diamond098454:
I can't be paying my bills and someone in the name of a man will be ordering me around

OP.
Here's your answer.

Felimax:
A woman's loyalty has very little or nothing to do with bills.

Some men reasons from their boxers.
Basically what they crave is security and love.

Unbeknownst, you are just painting your naivity all over this space. Some topics are just outside the boundaries of one's experience. It is wisdom to just read comments and learn at times

Felimax:
A woman's loyalty has very little or nothing to do with bills.

Some men reasons from their boxers.
Basically what they crave is security and love.

Dey play, women can do that but not for a long period of time like we men. They are not wired to do so by nature. The ones that won't acts funny or seem loyal are probably cheating on their partners.

Skeyskey:
Remember the dikkk, no woman can do without it. Very sweet.

So wild of you ti think so, you are still within the frame of thinking, that human sexuality is limited to genitals.

Diamond098454:
I can't be paying my bills and someone in the name of a man will be ordering me around

Is it really ordering you around, cooking, taking of your home and children is that what you call ordering around or is it the sex you both need that is " ordering"
Most men look after themselves and do there laundries with washing machine or give it to laundry ... so what " ordering around"

its so disappointing that many of you ladies dont think

Skeyskey:
But you can't do without the sweet dikkk. That's what men have that we women don't have. Very sweet.

If you say so

Apus:
The word "Listen" and "Control" are two different things. Make una no dey misquote people.
Wondering how the word "control" take enter a simple sentence.

I will assume i heard you.

In nigeria's most home, listen to me translates to control in most cases. Most nigerian men likes to dominate their women which is gradually going out of fashion.

Personally, my own style of leadership is mutual respect and reasoning together so we can have an accord. Not the one of squeezing face everywhere, showcashing your muscles and telling a grown up person they must listen because you pay the bills.

Even if a woman pays her bill and even spend on you, She will still respect you if you have a good personality. Besides it is nigerian men who started this control stuff with money. They believe once you have money, The next thing is to start telling people they must listen to you.

Diamond098454:
I can't be paying my bills and someone in the name of a man will be ordering me around

wether you like it or not you'll always be summitive to a man one way or the other...

Chilipepper:
➜Comedian and skitmaker Lord Lamba shared on X:
"If she is able to pay all her bills without your assistance, she cannot listen to you."
The post drew mixed reactions.
One user replied: “Paying bills doesn’t cancel mutual respect. Independence is not a license for pride, and providing isn’t a ticket for control. Relationship na partnership not boss and employee vibes.”
Another added: “A woman who truly loves you will naturally be supportive and submissive, whether or not she pays her own bills. Some women simply want to love and be loved in return.”
Some women, however, pushed back. Oe wrote: “As I’m paying my bills by myself, you have to be doing more than just paying bills for me to take you serious.”

Women need to stop telling other women these lies about how all women who are in love naturally submit or support men they love.

Every baby born on this planet — including babies who grow up to become women — undergo extensive training(sometimes brainwashing) in order to get them to listen and obey their parents —submit at that level.(Babies are said to love their caregivers yet babies have to be trained to obey said caregivers.)

Women grow from babies and equally receive training(and in many cases some level of brainwashing). Sadly, many of these women are trained from childhood by parents and environments with primarily religious/traditional leanings to equate love in life and marriage with submission and supoort for a man. Many of these women go on to live their single lives as though placeholders to be later relaced by their marriage— they never really learn about themselves in during that period as their focus is on this peak called marriage throughout. Their identity as individuals never acquired.

And this is where you find confused people such as the one whose comment is in bold believing that submission and support for a man is the natural order as far as love of a woman. They don't know that a woman's love can be expressed in abandonment of the one they love— complete absense of submission and support—, can be expressed through tough love— completely without support even with minimal submission—,and so many other ways.

Apus:
➜The word "Listen" and "Control" are two different things. Make una no dey misquote people. Wondering how the word "control" take enter a simple sentence.

Stop darting all over! 🙄🙄
We all know that when the average Nigerian man speaks of his wife or woman not listening to him, he means that he is unable to control her adequately, or that she is not respectful to him in particular. 🙄🙄

nnamdi640:
Someone paying 80% of the bills is useless to you, see bad mouth of the highest order. Don't even try to say it out before people reason your matter. You would have forced him to pay 100% of the bills and also carry your family problem join as if he was made to be your family slave.... You are lucky that you are married, if it was now you are reasoning like this, you for smell pepper.

Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄

chidiokay:
➜ what are they saying what are saying, who is talking about Loyalty ?? who told you women even have loyalty A woman pride nd submissiveness has everything to do with her level of financial independence
➜ A woman's respect/submissiveness stems from her being needy, the moment she can take care of her bills without the man, omo naa tag along husband you be oo! its not a 100% generalization but just very few ladies are exceptions

Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄

Osinachi was busy paying the bills in her Christian home, yet her pride and submissiveness to the glory of her marriage gods and her husband were not impacted by her level of financial independence. She even forefeited her very life in sacrifice for marriage. Yet people like you still open mouths, wah! to vomit this type of nonsense about your religious/traditional women? I guess her sacrifice was for nothing in the end.

2. Keep insulting Osinachi, let's see if her Christian marriage gods will get angry at some point.

ibedun:
As soon as they get security and love they get bored. They’re never ever ever satisfied.

Human wants are insatiable! Men and women alike. Me inclusive!

Some brainless folks all over this space. I am not referring to you though.
Those ones above you.

yemmit90:
➜Dey play, women can do that but not for a long period of time like we men. They are not wired to do so by nature.
➜ The ones that won't acts funny or seem loyal are probably cheating on their partners.

Exactly! Submission, nurturing, etc., are not natural to women the same way they are not natural to men.

2. You're accusing Osinachi of having cheated on her Christian husband, or what?

thesicilian:
That's because for women relationship is mostly about financial support

Nonsense!

Dem dey ever hear....?!
Well Hear and Listen na two different things....

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄

Osinachi was busy paying the bills in her Christian home, yet her pride and submissiveness to the glory of her marriage gods and her husband were not impacted by her level of financial independence. She even forefeited her very life in sacrifice for marriage. Yet people like you still open mouths, wah! to vomit this type of nonsense about your religious/traditional women? I guess her sacrifice was for nothing in the end.

2. Keep insulting Osinachi, let's see if her Christian marriage gods will get angry at some point.

You love arguement thats a your Problem, Your mom is feeding your dad blah blah, osinachi whatever ... thats the " exceptions" ... i mentioned it, very few are different

Give a woman money everyday, make sacrifices for her everyday .. stop for months nd see if she appreciates your past sacrifice at that end

whatever weed you are smoking you need to change your dealer

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄

I feel sorry for you

Kobojunkie:
Exactly! Submission, nurturing, etc., are not natural to women the same way they are not natural to men.

2. You're accusing Osinachi of having cheated on her Christian husband, or what?

Men are the heads by nature or default, women are are the subordinate by nature. If men are to be brutal or decided to shun modernity/humanity, women would still be regards as gifts or sign of affluence by men like olden days. It is natural for a woman to recognise this law of nature in her man, and in a situation whereby the said man lack these qualities, she began to look for a man that can offer them or cheat on him if she can't outrightly replace him.

However, women are integral and most important part of society that makes it works. Women are weak sex, and should be protected by law, because, failure to do so may make them to be endanger species to men.

As for Osinachi, I can't say, and I don't think i have business with her or how she chose to spend her life.

yemmit90:
➜Men are the heads by nature or default, women are are the subordinate by nature. If men are to be brutal or decided to shun modernity/humanity, women would still be regards as gifts or sign of affluence by men like olden days. It is natural for a woman to recognise this law of nature in her man, and in a situation whereby the said man lack these qualities, she began to look for a man that can offer them or cheat on him if she can't outrightly replace him.
➜ However, women are integral and most important part of society that makes it works. Women are weak sex, and should be protected by law, because, failure to do so may make them to be endanger species to men.
➜ As for Osinachi, I can't say, and I don't think i have business with her or how she chose to spend her life.

1. I am afraid those particular delusions are born of your religious and traditional entanglements and nothing more. There is nothing remotely natural about what is the result of brainwashing courtesy of religious/traditional delusions held over time by people and societies.

2. Again, these ideas are products of your particular religious/traditional delusions.

3. Osinachi is a case that basically trashes every claim you made regarding women. At least acknowledge that aspect of her life or religious sacrifice.

nnamdi640:
Someone paying 80% of the bills is useless to you, see bad mouth of the highest order. Don't even try to say it out before people reason your matter. You would have forced him to pay 100% of the bills and also carry your family problem join as if he was made to be your family slave.... You are lucky that you are married, if it was now you are reasoning like this, you for smell pepper.

He pays house rent, na me wan pay am before.
He pays children school fees, na me wan pay am before.
He gives only breakfast and dinner, na me wan do am before abeg shift, I say again he's useless to me on the scheme of things as far as he doesn't care for my personal needs

chidiokay:
....osinachi whatever ... thats the " exceptions" ... i mentioned it, very few are different
Give a woman money everyday, make sacrifices for her everyday .. stop for months nd see if she appreciates your past sacrifice at that end
whatever weed you are smoking you need to change your dealer

[b]I cited the Osinachi case to highlight the fact that you lack the capacity to speak generally about women even in this case.

Kobojunkie:
Stop darting all over! 🙄🙄
We all know that when the average Nigerian man speaks of his wife or woman not listening to him, he means that he is unable to control her adequately, or that she is not respectful to him in particular. 🙄🙄

Stop drooling!

How many men have you sampled to arrive at this? He didn't even mention Nigerian men.

Your orientation is bad and you don't need saving.

Apus:
➜Stop drooling! How many men have you sampled to arrive at this? He didn't even mention Nigerian men. Your orientation is bad and you don't need saving.

Are you OK in the head there?

Nigerian tradition and culture literally revolve around men controlling their women by ensuring the women listen and obey them as a way of showing them respect. Yet you think the only way to realize this common knowledge is to, in fact, sample Nigerian men? Kai! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Felimax:
A woman's loyalty has very little or nothing to do with bills.

Some men reasons from their boxers.
Basically what they crave is security and love.

The guy may not be 100% right but there are facts in what he said.
Most women who pay their bills are disrespectful. The arrogance of "No be you dey feed me" is always there.

StoryHaven:
➜The guy may not be 100% right but there are facts in what he said. Most women who pay their bills are disrespectful. The arrogance of "No be you dey feed me" is always there.

Almost 50% of marriages in Nigeria are bankrolled by women. We are talking here of women who are breadwinners and also homemakers. There are men in those marriages but they literally contribute the bare minimum to their marriages and their own children. Yet the women in those marriages continue to submit in marriage to those men. So, I guess, I should ask were you get most from?