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Seunomobo:
He pays house rent, na me wan pay am before.
He pays children school fees, na me wan pay am before.
He gives only breakfast and dinner, na me wan do am before abeg shift, I say again he's useless to me on the scheme of things as far as he doesn't care for my personal needs

I don't blame you, assuming you stayed in your father's house without husband, then you will know the importance of having husband like that your man. You want him to start clothing you as baby or what. If you think he is not trying enough, pack your load and go to your father's house let see if you will survive it for 2yrs..... No just carry this type of your brain cross road, that you are a woman doesn't mean you will not support your husband in this present time, women that are doing more than what you think is too big you are doing can't even call their husband useless. If you know the meaning of useless, you won't use it on your husband

nnamdi640:
✓ I feel sorry for you

You should try to love yourself more so you don't go around doling out meaningless emotions like this.

nnamdi640:
I don't blame you, assuming you stayed in your father's house without husband, then you will know the importance of having husband like that your man. You want him to start clothing you as baby or what. If you think he is not trying enough, pack your load and go to your father's house let see if you will survive it for 2yrs..... No just carry this type of your brain cross road, that you are a woman doesn't mean you will not support your husband in this present time, women that are doing more than what you think is too big you are doing can't even call their husband useless. If you know the meaning of useless, you won't use it on your husband

So if I go back to my father's house, are U saying I won't be able to feed myself?
Someone dat can't take care of my personal expenses , no clothing, no toiletries , no pocket money, no emergency funds.
Man, I can comfortably feed me and house me without going back to my father's house..
So I say again, he is useless to me in the scheme of things.

Seunomobo:
Lord Lamba is right, I'm a married woman and even though my husband pays about 80% of the bills in the home while I take care of the 20%, he's not responsible for my upkeep, maintenance, clothing and everything that concerns my family, I do not totally submit to him, cos he's personally useless to me in the scheme of things.....

Your husband who takes care of 80% responsibility in the home is useless to u and doesnt deserve your total submission bcs it is not 100% responsibility and not taking care of your family? I fear your mentality and let me just say you dont deserve that good man. He made a terrible mistake of his life marrying u and that is if he already knows. Leave him already and go and get ur 100% man

Felimax:
A woman's loyalty has very little or nothing to do with bills.

Some men reasons from their boxers.
Basically what they crave is security and love.

There is an iota of truth in his statement.

muyico:
Not all women, depend on the nature and tribe of the woman, and her exposure rates

My brother if she is bent on making her own decision she will not listen to your advice. If it gets to a stage a woman ask u so you think you are man. You should understand your decision cannot over rule hers.

lailo:
➜Your husband who takes care of 80% responsibility in the home is useless to u and doesnt deserve your total submission bcs it is not 100% responsibility and not taking care of your family? I fear your mentality and if u are single, twill be very hard to get a good man, aje.

Why are you folks having a seriously hard time seeing what she has been saying all this while? Is it that you desperate to ensure you invalidate her claim that her husband is useless to her in these things?

If you worked, for instance, as a cleaner for a client who pays you next to nothing each time — he only covers the cost of your cleaning supply, not your labor—, and nothing else, would you go around praising your client like he is some sort of helper to you? Would you consider him useless to you when, at least business-wise, he clearly isn't?

At this point men should really come out to say what they want from women. On one hand there is that fool running his mouth and people are hailing him, and now this one contradicting him and people are agreeing with him too.
I think at this point men should just marry each other, because according to their standard there are no good enough woman.
You make your own money, they call you arrogant and proud, you decide to depend on them, they call you a leech and a gold digger

Felimax:
A woman's loyalty has very little or nothing to do with bills.

Some men reasons from their boxers.
Basically what they crave is security and love.

His actually correct.A woman's loyalty is actually tied to ur status in every aspect of human endeavour as a man ......

Seunomobo:
Lord Lamba is right, I'm a married woman and even though my husband pays about 80% of the bills in the home while I take care of the 20%, he's not responsible for my upkeep, maintenance, clothing and everything that concerns my family, I do not totally submit to him, cos he's personally useless to me in the scheme of things.....

Trust me with this ya comment na bambo stick and grass them go take construct ur heaven bed and toilet thts if luciferous no do the construction himself.

Low IQ conversations

Seunomobo:
So if I go back to my father's house, are U saying I won't be able to feed myself?
Someone dat can't take care of my personal expenses , no clothing, no toiletries , no pocket money, no emergency funds.
Man, I can comfortably feed me and house me without going back to my father's house..
So I say again, he is useless to me in the scheme of things.

A husband’s role goes far beyond being an ATM. Marriage isn’t supposed to be about who provides pocket money or toiletries — it’s about partnership, support, respect, and shared responsibility. Dismissing him as ‘useless’ because he doesn’t cover every expense ignores the bigger picture of what a marriage should be built on.

StoryHaven:
The guy may not be 100% right but there are facts in what he said.
Most women who pay their bills are disrespectful. The arrogance of "No be you dey feed me" is always there.

A woman that is disrespectful is disrespectful regardless. I belong to a circle of nurses and some other ladies. My point is if you see some of these women you won't believe their husbands barely have stuffs they are doing. These women are the bread winners of their homes but I swear down you won't know.

A lot of them like that. I am not saying the previous position is not happening but I am not ok with the stereotype.

Kobojunkie:
Why are you folks having a seriously hard time seeing what she has been saying all this while? Is it that you desperate to ensure you invalidate her claim that her husband is useless to her in these things?

If you worked, for instance, as a cleaner for a client who pays you next to nothing each time — he only covers the cost of your cleaning supply, not your labor—, and nothing else, would you go around praising your client like he is some sort of helper to you? Would you consider him useless to you when, at least business-wise, he clearly isn't?

Sorry my sister. I didn't know she has been critical of her husband as a useless man. That claim caught my attention and so I reacted. I rest my case.

lailo:
Your husband who takes care of 80% responsibility in the home is useless to u and doesnt deserve your total submission bcs it is not 100% responsibility and not taking care of your family? I fear your mentality and let me just say you dont deserve that good man. He made a terrible mistake of his life marrying u and that is if he already knows. Leave him already and go and get ur 100% man

You're right , I do not deserve that manipulator.
I have left him already. Feel free to .
I have a storage tank that can contain those....

Another attention-seeking-women-affairs-expert.

I agree 100% speaking from experience I've dated three girls and they all foot their bills they don't bother me with anything but what I discovered was that they tend to do things on their own terms their own way not that I'm the controlling or manipulative type but minor things like the road we should pass to somewhere or the time we get dressed to an event always brings issues just minor things and even the sex it's when they feel like that's when they have it with me I broke up with them and restructured my life

Chilipepper:
Comedian and skitmaker Lord Lamba shared on X:

"If she is able to pay all her bills without your assistance, she cannot listen to you."

The post drew mixed reactions.

One user replied: “Paying bills doesn’t cancel mutual respect. Independence is not a license for pride, and providing isn’t a ticket for control. Relationship na partnership not boss and employee vibes.”

Another added: “A woman who truly loves you will naturally be supportive and submissive, whether or not she pays her own bills. Some women simply want to love and be loved in return.”

Some women, however, pushed back. One wrote: “As I’m paying my bills by myself, you have to be doing more than just paying bills for me to take you serious.”

Felimax:
A woman that is disrespectful is disrespectful regardless. I belong to a circle of nurses and some other ladies. My point is if you see some of these women you won't believe their husbands barely have stuffs they are doing. These women are the bread winners of their homes but I swear down you won't know.

A lot of them like that. I am not saying the previous position is not happening but I am not ok with the stereotype.

Fine you may be right to some extent. Stereotyping is bad but, do you know a lot of men go through he'll in their homes and won't show it. Most especially, when it is the woman responsible for many things in the house. So, some or many of the husbands of those ladies might be going through hell. You only know them at work and no lady will come out to say how she bully or nag the husband at home. Most appear to be like angels.

Kobojunkieee:
1. I am afraid those particular delusions are born of your religious and traditional entanglements and nothing more. There is nothing remotely natural about what is the result of brainwashing courtesy of religious/traditional delusions held over time by people and societies.

2. Again, these ideas are products of your particular religious/traditional delusions.

3. Osinachi is a case that basically trashes every claim you made regarding women. At least acknowledge that aspect of her life or religious sacrifice.

You never address the subject matter Kobojunkie, perhaps I should put it in a simple term. You need fundamental knowledge about nature to fully understand the basic tenet of human nature.

If religions/traditions were not part of the fundamental principle that shaped the formation of societies, how did humans became homosapien capable of creating societies?

She won't respect you that's the point.

Manculated:
Listen to what exactly?? To control her abi??

Why would you want to control a full grown human being in 21st century.

The most important thing is the couple should respect and honor each other, then the woman would double the respect and honor for her husband. Trust me.

Personally, i dislike this nigerian manhood control stuff, like bouncing people around, hey you, do this, do that and i don't want anyone controlling me as well.

Diamond098454:
I can't be paying my bills and someone in the name of a man will be ordering me around

Why must a man order you around in the first place?

yemmit90:
➜You never address the subject matter ..., perhaps I should put it in a simple term. You need fundamental knowledge about nature to fully understand the basic tenet of human nature.
➜If religions/traditions were not part of the fundamental principle that shaped the formation of societies, how did humans became homosapien capable of creating societies?

1. You are busy making spurious claims that have no relation to the subject matter, though. 😣😣😣

2. Your life may revolve around your particular religion/tradition, but you forget that the human race—behavioral science in particular — is not subject to your religions/traditions and their various delusions.

StoryHaven:
Fine you may be right to some extent. Stereotyping is bad but, do you know a lot of men go through he'll in their homes and won't show it. Most especially, when it is the woman responsible for many things in the house. So, some or many of the husbands of those ladies might be going through hell. You only know them at work and no lady will come out to say how she bully or nag the husband at home. Most appear to be like angels.

Perfectly correct 💯!
It's in women's nature to nag and like here it beats my imagination when I see men lazy around only to wait for their wives to return from work or market.

Please sir go to a public market and you will see hardworking ordinary women hustling. Some are even pregnant, carrying a baby on their back and hawking ordinary tomatoes or periwinkle. Some even under the rain.

For some of these women it's traumatic enough to be pregnant how much more to still go and hustle to put food on the table.

How many tomatoes will that woman sell before they are able to buy a bucket of rice. She will still get to the house and the id*ot of a husband is there waiting to nack after drinking like 12 action bitters. So that woman should not nag? She opens her save and the man has almost taken all her sweat in the name of I am your husband don't talk back at me. I have given you more than this before, in fact I gave you money to start that business....

You won't understand sha!

Skeyskey:
Remember the dikkk, no woman can do without it. Very sweet.

This one you are emphasizing sweet dic I know is sweet how many you enjoyed? I don't think you are a woman though

Skeyskey:
Can you do without the sweet dikkk? I doubt. That's the power of a man.

Again?

Felimax:
Perfectly correct 💯!
It's in women's nature to nag and like here it beats my imagination when I see men lazy around only to wait for their wives to return from work or market.

Please sir go to a public market and you will see hardworking ordinary women hustling. Some are even pregnant, carrying a baby on their back and hawking ordinary tomatoes or periwinkle. Some even under the rain.

For some of these women it's traumatic enough to be pregnant how much more to still go and hustle to put food on the table.

How many tomatoes will that woman sell before they are able to buy a bucket of rice. She will still get to the house and the id*ot of a husband is there waiting to nack after drinking like 12 action bitters. So that woman should not nag? She opens her save and the man has almost taken all her sweat in the name of I am your husband don't talk back at me. I have given you more than this before, in fact I gave you money to start that business....

You won't understand sha!

I got ya.
Many lazy men around.

Mindlog:
If she is comfortably earning and paying her own bills, what else is he is bringing to the table?

This is the reason why love is important in relationships. If there is no love then the relationship becomes about "What do you bring to the table?"

Nefort:
➜This is the reason why love is important in relationships. If there is no love then the relationship becomes about "What do you bring to the table?"

What is this love you speak of? Chemicals slushing around in one's brain, or what exactly?

Nefort:
This is the reason why love is important in relationships. If there is no love then the relationship becomes about "What do you bring to the table?"

"What do you bring to the table?" Is at the core of many relationships.