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A girl that refuses you sex.. claiming you will leave her after that. What does this mean?

She is right.
When men taste soup 2 times dey get bored
Them go look for another soup

ChizzyBuna:
She is right.
When men taste soup 2 times dey get bored
Them go look for another soup

If you are serving the same soup at least put obstacles init, put Fish today, tomorrow add turkey and Beef the next day...

Some girls na one style.. just thinking out loud

So many Nigerian ladies ( 90% if not more) are very very boring in bed. Baddie baddie but u can't ride your man for 5 minutes nonstop. Lazy girls

BoldMan85:
If you are serving the same soup at least put obstacles init, put Fish today, tomorrow add turkey and Beef the next day...

Some girls na one style.. just thinking out loud

ChizzyBuna:
She is right.
When men taste soup 2 times dey get bored
Them go look for another soup

No be soup matter be this.The thing is that men leave a girl after sex for so many reasons.
1.Sex is not free.If I pay her for it I have the right to remain or go.
2.Body odour or KitKat odour.
3.One night stand.
4.She is not my spec just a bedmate.
5.Stretchmark everywhere:I find this irritating in a girls breast or yansh.Even that green vein that appears on their legs.
6.Sexually excited.Na knack I wan knack.No be relationship I wan do.
6.Firewood:She go just lie down.Na me go dey change style.aba!

What does it mean as how? You wan rape am? You move the 4u"k on. Damn!!🥱

blackgold2018:
A girl that refuses you sex.. claiming you will leave her after that. What does this mean?

She means you are just interested in her body, while what she wants is someone who is instead interested in her. Is that really had to note from what she said? Why not move on to find someone else whose body is available to you?

blackgold2018:
A girl that refuses you sex.. claiming you will leave her after that. What does this mean?

From an emotionally mature and boundary-aware perspective, when a woman refuses sex while claiming "you’ll leave her after," she’s revealing her internal fears and past experiences more than anything about you. It has either happened before and she is being careful, or she has observed this happen to other people before. Also, it is either a genuine concern or she is using it to manipulate/control. YOU WILL HAVE TO DISCERN WHICH IT IS, AS WE DO NOT KNOW THE WHOLE CONTEXT.

This statement often signals deep insecurity or a history of being used by men who sought intimacy and promised long-lasting partnership /serious relationships and disappeared after getting what they wanted. While her concern is understandable, it’s also a form of preemptive control, like I hinted earlier. She is withholding intimacy not out of discernment, but to manipulate the outcome by testing your patience or intentions. A high-value man respects her boundaries but also knows his own. For a serious relationship, If trust isn't mutual, and she is projecting unresolved trauma onto you, that’s not a something to overlook. You don't chase validation or beg to prove yourself. You calmly assess if this dynamic is built on fear or respect, and if it’s not aligned, You walk without resentment.

However, if you know you just want to have fun, and you see that she seeks something more serious, do not go lying to her and playing tricks and making promises just to deceive. Go and meet a hooker. Yes, I know women should be accountable for keeping their legs closed, but women hate the idea of being alone, and some believe that they cannot have proper relationships if they do not give in to the pressures of sex, while others are just tired of fooling and hoeing around.