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My regret is that I am yet to marry as an unmarried man.

Jahwinaboy:
Couldn't catch two chicks I had been trying to collect my share b4 marrying. Now they are far away knowing now that I'm married. 😆

Me I collected my own oooo.

Everyone just dey here dey form, I don't have regrets I don't have regret... Dey dciv yourselves. Marriage is sweet good and Godly but yet u will still have this kind of regret . Mine is that I love to marry like additional one. But am committed to my wife because she is perfect and beautiful

Not getting married earlier 😭
Marriage too sweet 😋😋

What do you mean by putting all your cards on the table?

SisterAnn:
Well, I'm a woman and I have an opinion on this.


My only regret is putting all my cards on the table from the beginning. Nobody should put all their cards on the table no matter the relationship.

I had the experience of growing up in a loving home under a stable marriage between my parents. I never had unrealistic expectations. After over 19 years, no regrets.
A few challenges.
However, I anticipated them. My mother made me know certain behaviour from women is inevitable. I wasn't taken aback by anything. I have consistently adapted. It also helps that I married a mature and truly God-fearing woman.
Premarital coaching is key. That is one thing I can give the younger generation for free. In addition, study temperament and personality types.

How did you know you met the right partner?

BabaIbo:
I don't have any regrets about marriage in the real meaning of "regret" but if I am to give one, I will say I should have married(met) my wife earlier than I did, like I for don big big pass as I dey now with the kind of positivity and other blessings she brought into my life.

That woman(my wife) is a lifetime blessing that God Almighty gave to me.

Marriage sweet o, just pray to God Almighty and work for the right partner, that is when you will know that you have started enjoying your heavenly grace here on earth.

BabaIbo:
I don't have any regrets about marriage in the real meaning of "regret" but if I am to give one, I will say I should have married(met) my wife earlier than I did, like I for don big big pass as I dey now with the kind of positivity and other blessings she brought into my life.

That woman(my wife) is a lifetime blessing that God Almighty gave to me.

Marriage sweet o, just pray to God Almighty and work for the right partner, that is when you will know that you have started enjoying your heavenly grace here on earth.

Congratulations. It is not easy to have a wife that is a blessing to your life

SisterAnn:
Well, I'm a woman and I have an opinion on this.


My only regret is putting all my cards on the table from the beginning. Nobody should put all their cards on the table no matter the relationship.

You are on point here , even as a man don't put all your card on the table

Not testing every kind of babe before .....

My greatest regret as a married man is not marrying a lady that loves me more than I do.

I ignored the red flags thinking she would change after marrying, only to get worse.

Lastly, don't settle for a lady that does not respect you.

Never ignore the red flag.


I hope this helps someone.

koladata:
Life is more complicated when you are not married at mid or old age. You can't even trust a wife that claimed she loves you, how do you then trust a baby mama or girlfriends.

1. What if she wipes your entire savings at the middle of the night after sex
2. What if she poisons your food just because she noticed you just received one huge money and since she's not married to you or have kids for you, your life means nothing to her.
3. How do you sleep with a woman whom you don't have rights to ask where she goes when she lives your house.
4. Who will stay with you on the sick bed if you have to spend 15 days in the hospital

You won't really know the importance of marriage until you get to some certain age.

That's for Christians that complicate their lives. Go and see Muslim Alhajis with 4 wives with no fear and marrying their last 2 wives in their middle ages

My only real regret is not accepting the chance to become a Rev. Fr. when I had it. Life would have been far simpler. women are just too complicated; they are like further math: full of variables and no solutions.

molas02:
Everyone just dey here dey form, I don't have regrets I don't have regret... Dey dciv yourselves. Marriage is sweet good and Godly but yet u will still have this kind of regret . Mine is that I love to marry like additional one. But am committed to my wife because she is perfect and beautiful

Why you dey contradict yourself .... yes you might still want to explore but is there any regret concerning your present spouse?? NO ..... What you tag as regret is never a regret so far you are man ....

Listen folks, watch the values and personality of your potential mothers in-law, not in all circumstances but in most her values is almost certainly what her daughter is going to be to you, if a mother in-law bad mouth or disrespect your potential father in-law then run away like hell, my experiences here.

Can you give an example of what the cards entail?

SisterAnn:
Well, I'm a woman and I have an opinion on this.


My only regret is putting all my cards on the table from the beginning. Nobody should put all their cards on the table no matter the relationship.

I didn't marry early
I wish l had married this angel of a wife Early
My achievements for don pass like this.

BabaIbo:
My brother aswear, marriage too sweet.

💯, you are correct!

Do an honest Check on yourself:
- you are financially stable now
-You have more access to other women now you're married
...that's why you think marriage is too sweet.
It has nothing to do with your marital status

EponObi:
They regularly come here to bash their opposite gender. But they are parroting no regrets. 😂 May be na cows dey the martial scandals and mess we read every time on the internet. Abeg, make Una pack well. Those whose spouses are showing shege in the marriage are saying "no regrets". No regrets una

Explain your own shege na
Why their no regrets dey vex you
You are supposed to be happy for Dem
Just explain your own shege.......

Tayorshd87:
hmm how can I summarize this 🤔

I got married to a woman that loves me 100% but I just had this small like for her .
I went ahead just because I knew are geniue love for me ...

People do say love who loves you more 🤔
But what about if u don't really loves her too 🤔

Hmmm

I guess this is my problem or regret ☹️🙁


But she is 190% wife material every man is looking for though but I believe agape love for someone is natural or am I getting it wrong ❓

As a man I will advice you to marry someone that love you more ..... it get why ... don't marry a woman that you love more except she love you the same way .... always let the love and caring from her end be more ... naa old age you go know

koladata:
Life is more complicated when you are not married at mid or old age. You can't even trust a wife that claimed she loves you, how do you then trust a baby mama or girlfriends.

1. What if she wipes your entire savings at the middle of the night after sex
2. What if she poisons your food just because she noticed you just received one huge money and since she's not married to you or have kids for you, your life means nothing to her.
3. How do you sleep with a woman whom you don't have rights to ask where she goes when she lives your house.
4. Who will stay with you on the sick bed if you have to spend 15 days in the hospital

You won't really know the importance of marriage until you get to some certain age.

Until married women start using their husbands as "next of kin" then we will be ready for this discussion.

I have seen so many wives/children abandon their husbands/dads on sick beds and guess who surprisingly came through for them?

#Friends

Dogalmighty17:
Any time and anywhere you see an unmarried Nigerian woman, lift up your hands and thank God. Pray to him that the lady should remain single. Every day a Nigerian woman stays unmarried, a young Nigerian man somewhere is not seeing hell.
A quarter of the nonsense a Nigerian woman will do in her husband's house, she can't dare try that in her father's house. The only crime most men have committed is make a woman that should otherwise be left to stew in her singleness, a wife.

Go to UK, go to the US it is always Nigerian women causing issues for husbands.

If you know, you know. Bitter truth. 😂

ediko5:
The question was directed to married men and not single mothers please.

Single mothers (the ones who gave birth out of wedlock and some cases divorced) are women who gambled with men and lost. So from your weeping, you gambled with a man and lost. For instance, trying to pin a Yahoo boy or one money miss road man down with a pregnancy.

You are wrong, you didn't understand her questions, if you have a sister or any female family member who is a baby mama go and ask her what went wrong because I am 100% sure there is a baby mama in your family, it's not all baby mama don't like what happened to them.
Don't come for me I am not a baby mama

harjay1986:
As a man I will advice you to marry someone that love you more ..... it get why ... don't marry a woman that you love more except she love you the same way .... always let the love and caring from her end be more ... naa old age you go know

Thanks my brother but at this stage ehn na to marry another one I love be that oo 🤔

I'm not yet married. The Redpill has radicalised me. But I wish I had kids, probably, a son, at 19. Would love to grow alongside my kids as age mates.

I don't like Nigerian women, all of them dey wacko.

"Hypergamy doesn’t care for male idealistic expectations of love." - Rational Male

Exceed15:
No matter the answers you get here you will experience your own except you stay unmarried

Exactly and even his own experience might be very different from al the inputs here .. 🤔

marriage ehn he no go get manual

OP, please get me a good chair because the lies am reading here is so sweet.

YourGFsnatcher:
Am I sure I want to marry
With all the wahala of Samantha an modern women

.u can't run away from it and u can even be lucky to get the best and thank God ..


It worth trying and give it your best shot 🥃

MistyDense:
And my children are suffering. It's not easy bro. Sometimes I regret getting married.

Fingers are not equal some people married the wrong wife and some people married the wrong husband, some couple manage themselves and some couple couldn't manage. Even this life is not balance, just try and work on the one that faces you

Tayorshd87:
Thanks my brother but at this stage ehn na to marry another one I love be that oo 🤔

The ball dey your hand bro