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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by MistyDense(f): 4:22pm On Sep 06, 2025

Jamsam:
Fingers are not equal some people married the wrong wife and some people married the wrong husband, some couple manage themselves and some couple couldn't manage. Even this life is not balance, just try and work on the one that faces you

Best advice I've seen.
Thanks so much sir

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by Auxtan(m): 4:26pm On Sep 06, 2025

As a man, I think we get to a point we start craving for everyday companionship from a babe. I think at this point is an obvious signal that it's time to marry a wife. Mehn, whatever it is, I think marriage is good to get this everyday companionship. As long as you're getting this, then no regrets.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by APOPTOSIS: 4:27pm On Sep 06, 2025

No Regrets at all.
My marriage uplifted and stabilized me.
In fact, I'm still going higher

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 4:30pm On Sep 06, 2025

Samakus:
Swears.

Nearly 1 year in marriage and I have no regrets except not marrying her earlier than I did

And our son just arrived yesterday. Awesome feeling

Congratulations baba mi.
May peace and love continue to reign in your home. Ajeh

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by Honestey: 4:37pm On Sep 06, 2025

LoneSoldier:
That is women for you, very ungrateful things..... You still have the chance to divorce her.... Marriage is not a do or die affair....

Thought about that a thousand times already but there is a bigger consideration, children.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 4:38pm On Sep 06, 2025

BabaIbo:
My brother aswear, marriage too sweet.

💯, you are correct!

I dey tell you bros. Some people think say na lie. I say pray make God help you find better wife. You go know say Heaven dey on earth

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 4:41pm On Sep 06, 2025

WorldRichest:
A thread full of lies and deceit. All liars shall meet Sani Abacha in Hell Fire

So what is the lie, that marriage is sweet abi that it is bitter.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by achimendy(m): 4:41pm On Sep 06, 2025

SisterAnn:
Well, I'm a woman and I have an opinion on this.

My only regret is putting all my cards on the table from the beginning. Nobody should put all their cards on the table no matter the relationship.

What do you really mean when you talk about putting your card in one table??

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 4:44pm On Sep 06, 2025

MistyDense:
And my children are suffering. It's not easy bro. Sometimes I regret getting married.

Sorry about that bro. Shit happens.
There could be a lot of reason for this.
Marriage isn't without it's challenges but it will be sweet if God is involved and the head of the home and both spouses obeying the principles as instructed

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by KAM3KAZI: 4:45pm On Sep 06, 2025

LordIsaac:
True love is not "cards!" Love is unconditional. If you married based on "cards", the choice would be deemed poor in the first place.

Big man. Love, be it true love or any other form of love, by itself is not enough to hold a marriage.

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by Riversides2003(m): 4:49pm On Sep 06, 2025

Living in your family house with parent and siblings as a new married couple. Whatever it takes pls avoid this.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 4:49pm On Sep 06, 2025

molas02:
Everyone just dey here dey form, I don't have regrets I don't have regret... Dey dciv yourselves. Marriage is sweet good and Godly but yet u will still have this kind of regret . Mine is that I love to marry like additional one. But am committed to my wife because she is perfect and beautiful

Lol,
No regrets from over here baba, I dey tell you.
No be lie, no be fluke,
In marriage people want different things however, as for me I got what I wanted, so why will I regret.
It doesn't mean there are no challenges but with God as the head of the home everything ends sweet
Na confirm I dey tell you baba

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 4:55pm On Sep 06, 2025

EponObi:
They regularly come here to bash their opposite gender. But they are parroting no regrets. 😂 May be na cows dey the martial scandals and mess we read every time on the internet. Abeg, make Una pack well. Those whose spouses are showing shege in the marriage are saying "no regrets". No regrets una

Before I got to your post I could see a mix of those who said no regrets and some regretting for one reason or another.

That marital scandals happen doesn't negate the existence of very sweet amorous marriages. Both exist. Pick a side.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 4:57pm On Sep 06, 2025

Broveens42:
Do an honest Check on yourself:
- you are financially stable now
-You have more access to other women now you're married
...that's why you think marriage is too sweet.
It has nothing to do with your marital status

Una sabi ask questions sha
You just want to be a killjoy for whatever reason.
Are you the one in the marriage for him.
You go explain tire, no evidence.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 4:57pm On Sep 06, 2025

gigabyte13:
Explain your own shege na
Why their no regrets dey vex you
You are supposed to be happy for Dem
Just explain your own shege.......

As in, I just bow for some bad belle folks mehn.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by Vacora(m): 4:58pm On Sep 06, 2025

Damead:
My greatest regret as a married man is not marrying a lady that loves me more than I do.

I ignored the red flags thinking she would change after marrying, only to get worse.

Lastly, don't settle for a lady that does not respect you.

Never ignore the red flag.

This!!

I hope this helps someone.

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 5:01pm On Sep 06, 2025

Broveens42:

Until married women start using their husbands as "next of kin" then we will be ready for this discussion.

I have seen so many wives/children abandon their husbands/dads on sick beds and guess who surprisingly came through for them?

#Friends

Don't generalize it. their exist married women who have made and are still making husbands their next of kin.

There are a lot who are even doing more, some are seriously invested in their husbands success at all levels, respectful, sexual, peaceful, nurturing and supportive.

If you never meet one, people dey wey dey live with some.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 5:05pm On Sep 06, 2025

Ifexibe:
I'm not yet married. The Redpill has radicalised me. But I wish I had kids, probably, a son, at 19. Would love to grow alongside my kids as age mates.

I don't like Nigerian women, all of them dey wacko.

"Hypergamy doesn’t care for male idealistic expectations of love." - Rational Male

This is gonna be a set back for you as marriage is concerned. It better you stay single as you have mentioned.
Wishing you had a kid is one reason why you should marry, however you can have kids without marrying all the same.
Raising kids correctly is the reason why marriage is designed as an institution. Check the meaning of institution.

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 5:09pm On Sep 06, 2025

sportflex:
i took me fifteen years to realize i was with the wrong person.
fifteen years of my life!
fifteen years of fighting!
fifteen years of retrogression!
hanging on, because of the children
God knows best

Shit happens

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by yusufmurry: 5:10pm On Sep 06, 2025

SisterAnn:
Well, I'm a woman and I have an opinion on this.

My only regret is putting all my cards on the table from the beginning. Nobody should put all their cards on the table no matter the relationship.

How do you mean? Can you say it in perspective?

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by balaclava: 5:13pm On Sep 06, 2025

APOPTOSIS:
No Regrets at all.
My marriage uplifted and stabilized me.
In fact, I'm still going higher

Correct.
One mumu boy go come here now talk say u dey lie.
That doesn't mean marriages don't downcast and destabilize others. In fact some are still going deeper in their depression.

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by megacruise: 5:22pm On Sep 06, 2025

I only regret not getting married earlier. Dear of poverty kept me till I was almost 40

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by Broveens42(m): 5:25pm On Sep 06, 2025

balaclava:
Don't generalize it. their exist married women who have made and are still making husbands their next of kin.

There are a lot who are even doing more, some are seriously invested in their husbands success at all levels, respectful, sexual, peaceful, nurturing and supportive.

If you never meet one, people dey wey dey live with some.

Wao! So you know there's something called generalization?
Don't generalize yours also; after all, many men are happy cohabiting with ladies they meet, wherever they travel to.

There is 99% chance the children he had with those foreign ladies, would be more useful to him than the ones he would have had with one Nigerian woman.

The main thing, is purchasing power.
You can purchase a care giver to take care of your ailing ass.

Cash cash cash!!!!

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by nwirinedu(m): 5:55pm On Sep 06, 2025

Lost opportunity the sacrifice of a destiny.
Look at the greatest people in the world, they re not married.
The price for securing a long-term companionship is sacrifice of your destiny and calling.
They don't tell you this because it will bankrupt the marriage industry.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by vazsily(m): 6:10pm On Sep 06, 2025

Mehn, I really messed up. Me wey dey close deals and doing so well but simple marriage I have FAILED. I outsourced finding a wife to my family and gave them a checklist that she had to be a lawyer or an accountant because, I am a conversationist and wanted a smart wife for my children. Unfortunately, that was my mistake. I eventually changed it to just wanting a Godly, young woman from my state and that's how I ended up with a total snake.

For the first five years, I thought I'd hit the jackpot. Then she started using sex as a weapon whenever we argued, withholding it for up to 3 - 6 months and very vindictive. Me, a guy who loves food, sex and provides everything! I felt so scammed. I got so frustrated I looked elsewhere after a decade in marriage and wanted to marry another woman but naso the idiot lady gave me an STI. Now I'm stuck in a loveless marriage with five kids. The so called virgin girl I married turned out to have zero respect for me and my family, blocked my family and is just the devil in person. I only just realised she married because of money and that speaks to her upbringing and her lack of character. Now with 5 kids, I am desperately trying to exit this fell.

My advice? No matter how much you have, make marriage transactional and carryout due diligence and only marry a woman who checks ALL your boxes and has her own career. I REGRET my marriage so much.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by LordIsaac(m): 6:40pm On Sep 06, 2025

KAM3KAZI:
Big man. Love, be it true love or any other form of love, by itself is not enough to hold a marriage.

"Holding marriage..." is something else... loving someone unconditionally, absent of "cards", is another.

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by Godmind2022(m): 6:51pm On Sep 06, 2025

SisterAnn:
Well, I'm a woman and I have an opinion on this.

My only regret is putting all my cards on the table from the beginning. Nobody should put all their cards on the table no matter the relationship.

If I understand what you mean by putting all your cards on the table, I believe you mean you are honest and that is the best in marriage. So, do not regret putting all your cards on the table. Maybe you married a wrong person and that is why you are regretting. Please, don't regret doing the right thing. Keep on being honest, keep on being transparent, keep on being open until your husband begins to appreciate it. In addition, the two of you should embrace God in your relationship and in your life. I wish you the best.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by Cum4me(m): 6:55pm On Sep 06, 2025

I keep reading comments to learn more. I'm working hard to get married before next election. I have 3 girlfriends who are very serious with me. But I'm thinking of getting married to one who really loves me more than the rest.

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Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by Ifexibe(m): 7:18pm On Sep 06, 2025*

balaclava:
This is gonna be a set back for you as marriage is concerned. It better you stay single as you have mentioned.
Wishing you had a kid is one reason why you should marry, however you can have kids without marrying all the same.
Raising kids correctly is the reason why marriage is designed as an institution. Check the meaning of institution.

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by SisterAnn(f): 7:22pm On Sep 06, 2025

Godmind2022:
If I understand what you mean by putting all your cards on the table, I believe you mean you are honest and that is the best in marriage. So, do not regret putting all your cards on the table. Maybe you married a wrong person and that is why you are regretting. Please, don't regret doing the right thing. Keep on being honest, keep on being transparent, keep on being open until your husband begins to appreciate it. In addition, the two of you should embrace God in your relationship and in your life. I wish you the best.

Thank you dear.

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by esiri4jesu(m): 7:28pm On Sep 06, 2025

LoneSoldier:
Dear esteemed married men, can you throw more light about your regret as a married man and also share your bad experiences also.....

You can still add if you are still in the marriage or not, and tell us how many years you were in before you eventually left the marriage.....

Divorced men you are free to drop your inputs......

No regrets. Bliss ever since.

Re: What Is Your Greatest Regret As A Married Man! by tuoyoojo(m): 7:52pm On Sep 06, 2025*

Kai

These thread was made to bash marriage but it got the opposite traction

The truth is that there are many marriages that are working but it's only the bad ones that makes headlines

Many people travel everyday from lagos go portharcourt for example but that one or two accidents happen along the road ,doesn't mean one shouldn't travel

Many marriages fail because of our poor choices, you make poor choices and blame the out come on marriage.....poor choice in partners, poor decision making, poor management skills, poor conflict resolution skills, poor financial decisions .....and when it flops, marriage is blamed for it

If you want to learn some silent points about marriage listen to okey bakassi's interview with nedu, that's someone talking from experience

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