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Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by LordIsaac(m): 3:52pm On Sep 06, 2025
JovialJune:
Of course the obvious thought process of an average Nigerian man, their purpose in life, is to diick as much women as they can like it's a lifetime achievement, nothing to emulate from them, nothing worthy to pinpoint as their legacy

That's why this one above can boldly say a Nigerian man can do whatever he likes not minding if it hurts the mother of their kids

Thats why I always say that the generation of old failed young adults of this generation in their method of upbringing, because the end result is the obvious menace in Nigeria today.
Yes, every human, and by extension, every man, has the right to how he uses HIS resources. Stop being a leech today!
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by LordIsaac(m): 6:39pm On Sep 06, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Turning her into a glorified housemaid, namgmama(assuming he still has sex with her, laundry maid, nanny, etc.,) is a sign that he cares for her? lipsrsealed

Na the women wey raise Una I go blame for this. Clearly, they did not raise you lot well enough to realize that women are humans too. 🥱🥱🥱
I didn't make all the inferences you listed up there. All I'm saying is what I'd reiterate, a man possesses the inalienable right to spend his money as he deems fit. His money!
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Rexymania(m): 7:05pm On Sep 06, 2025
That me an is too SIMP le
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Kobojunkie: 7:05pm On Sep 06, 2025
LordIsaac:
➜I didn't make all the inferences you listed up there. All I'm saying is what I'd reiterate, a man possesses the inalienable right to spend his money as he deems fit. His money!
You did exactly that when you declared that a husband who cheats on his wife cares for her. Clearly, indicating that submissives are indeed a hated class of women by men like you. undecided
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by LordIsaac(m): 7:11pm On Sep 06, 2025
Kobojunkie:
You did exactly that when you declared that a husband who cheats on his wife cares for her. Clearly, indicating that submissives are indeed a hated class of women by men like you. undecided
Men don't cheat. He is only distributing his resources how he deems fit. I shall repeat the umpteenth time that I am talking about the right of a man to the fruit of his labor- his resources!
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by We4all: 7:30pm On Sep 06, 2025
Most Nigerian men that prioritize their side chicks over their families need psychiatric evaluation.
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Kobojunkie: 7:43pm On Sep 06, 2025
LordIsaac:
➜Men don't cheat. He is only distributing his resources how he deems fit. ' I shall repeat the umpteenth time that I am talking about the right of a man to the fruit of his labor- his resources!
Well, women have also been showing you a lot that they too cannot cheat since they can also have side-dicks in marriage. undecided
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by JovialJune(f): 8:26pm On Sep 06, 2025
LordIsaac:
Yes, every human, and by extension, every man, has the right to how he uses HIS resources. Stop being a leech today!

Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by LordIsaac(m): 9:16pm On Sep 06, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Well, women have also been showing you a lot that they too cannot cheat since they can also have side-dicks in marriage. undecided
He who pays the piper, dictates the tune. A man uses his money to purchase the right to have a woman, not the other way round. If you want other picks, rent a house, and pay for it.
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by DiasGodinHeaven: 10:19am On Sep 07, 2025
Chilipepper:
My husband recently bought a brand-new car, and the whole family was excited. Not long after, he mentioned that he wanted to sell his previous one and upgrade to the latest version.

I didn't think much of it,until a friend called, saying she spotted his "old car" at ShopRite being driven by a woman. When she confirmed the plate number, my heart sank.

It was indeed my husband's car. She even sent me a picture, and the driver turned out to be his girlfriend. He gave her that car as a birthday present, while I, his wife, am struggling with two kids and no car to ease our daily movement. I feel crushed.

How am I supposed to deal with this kind of betrayal?
Useless husband
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by marlow1962(m): 6:31pm On Sep 07, 2025
Caaz:
Never underestimate the power of a good gidin. Understanding wife award of the year goes to this woman



Person wey she suppose don arrange with boys,collect that car go ngbuka market dismantle the car and sell ham as scrab.
Caaz you wan sell property were no be your own?
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by marlow1962(m): 6:34pm On Sep 07, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Well, women have also been showing you a lot that they too cannot cheat since they can also have side-dicks in marriage. undecided
Make the side dick put them for house, paint her papa house, open shop for her brother, buy her papa boxers, take their last born in, pay her bills etc, even buy her the car self.
abi you want my continue? undecided
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Kobojunkie: 7:55pm On Sep 07, 2025
marlow1962:
➜Make the side dick put them for house, paint her papa house, open shop for her brother, buy her papa boxers, take their last born in, pay her bills etc, even buy her the car self. abi you want my continue? undecided
Why should she do that when she is in her husband's house? grin
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by marlow1962(m): 8:34pm On Sep 07, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Why should she do that when she is in her husband's house? grin
Ohhh so na so abi, for my house na em u wn dy do side dick. Lol women sha
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Kobojunkie: 8:57pm On Sep 07, 2025
marlow1962:
✓ Ohhh so na so abi, for my house na em u wn dy do side dick. Lol women sha
Even the sidechicks also keep their own sidedicks. Your kind keep thinking you can one up others not realizing you keep playing what is obviously a loosing game from the beginning. People who try to win always end up the losers. 🥱🥱🥱
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by TONYE001(m):
marlow1962:
Ohhh so na so abi, for my house na em u wn dy do side dick. Lol women sha
I hope you know spouses contribute finances to purchase properties, build houses, etc?

It's not in every situation where the house, car, etc belong to the husband only.

In a number of marriages, na husband and wife dey contribute build house...and no be only wife people dey benefit from marriages...as them dey paint wife papa house, na so husband papa house dey collect paint and renovations too...and na wife and husband dey gather money do all of them.

Na movies nai don make many of una think say wives just dey fold hands doing nothing. In reality, wives dey follow work the work wey husband dey work. No be every wife be housewife. Even housewives fit dey do tech or freelancing.
So, instead of."my house, my money, my this, my that...." na "our house, our money, etc
.."

And, let me even push this further...this one na higher class for senior marriage students, so e fit no make sense to you.

Great homes don't use words like MY OWN/MINE, YOUR OWN/YOURS. This is because if you look at it deeply, you go realize say na lie. The problem is many of una....them train una to only think say money is the only human resource. Una dey easily forget say time and skills are also human resources.

So, let's even imagine that the wife is not working. How about the time and skills this woman painstakingly invest in the home? Pregnancy na your mate? Some of una, with all una muscles, small pain una go dey twist for ground like noodles. Women deal with this and more. Go find weight tie am for belle for one full day, you go understand wetin e mean to be pregnant. If you get twins or triplets, find appropriate weights (you fit use block sef) tie for your abdomen. What about labour and the associated risks? All you did na to penetrate and ejaculate; but na this same lady deal with the pregnancy, the labour, and the delivery. She put her life on the line. See, shey you know say for every 100,000 births, over 1000 women die, eh? You sabi this one? So, how about the risk she is exposed to every time she carry belle? How about the nights she wakes up to breastfeed the kids? How about the days she spends unending hours caring for the kids and home? How about the thousands of time she organizes the house, cares for your ungrateful self while you lie vulnerable in the hospital? Woman go sick, better sickness, but pikin no go let her rest. With severe malaria, banging headache, she go still dey breastfeed... You, once you sick, your office go give you sick leave, but for her, nothing like that. Come rain, come sun, come health, come sickness, woman must breastfeed, care for her baby, etc.

So, what are the rates again? How much per hour do employers pay in Nigeria? Even if na N500.00 per hour, madam suppose dey collect like N360,000 per month. Make financial experts come calculate wetin you go pay for depriving her a career life. Like, if not for your ungrateful self and marriage, she fit don be bank manager, professor, pilot, ect. Add this to what you are to pay her. If you say you dey provide food and house, well, normally, these things na wetin employers suppose provide give employees (as una don reduce marriage to employer-employee relationship). For the hospital I dey work, them dey give me accommodation once I'm on duty, and food dey follow too. Na normal. Many organizations dey give breakfast and lunch. In fact, when I been dey Owerri, my hospital dey give dinner follow, plus food every time we do operation.

So, while the husband may be bringing in his financial resources, the wife is also bringing in her other resources - her time, her skills, etc. BOTH are investing in the home. Their investments are factors of the resources they have at their disposals. You have money, she has time, skills, etc. And in quite a number of times, the only reason she may not have money na say you no gree her work...because you feel insecure. Maybe if she works, she fit follow man...but you wey dey work, you no go fit follow woman too? No be one married man and him side chick wey dey knack for one time like that, condom come loss inside the woman, fear swallow the man him rush the lady come our hospital? You think say if we tell am to deposit 500k that time him no go deposit? Na this same idiot of a married man go go house go dey talk rubbish...

So, everything in marriage, every gain, every resource, every property...na OUR...nothing like MINE/YOURS. When we started our home, I deliberately ensured that for the receipts of the things we been dey buy, I write me and my wife name... Mr. and Mrs. Tonye001.

If you carry this mindset enter marriage, a lot of things go dey better. In fact, make I reach office, if time commot, I'll make a thread about this.

Another day, we go talk why una dey put too much emphasis on material things. Why sef? Na wetin una don reduce una lives to? Sotey the only use una see unaself to get na to be a provider. If you are just a provider in your home, then I just may conclude that you are an inefficient husband/father. So, if them dey share things for marriage, your eye go just dey for money, properties, etc? Omo ehhhhh...

Make I rest my case for here.
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by ednut1(m): 10:08pm On Sep 07, 2025
Lies that never happened
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by babakb: 10:12pm On Sep 07, 2025
viyon02:
, No sane man there hurt a very submissive wife, even if he try to cheat, his spirit will never be at rest until apologize
You're reason like a kid cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Prince1759(m): 10:16pm On Sep 07, 2025
brain54:
Irresponsible man...

Red card!
Yes the man is irresponsible.

The question here is, will this woman accept the car if given to her. Without madam complaining that she was given an old or used her...

By their complain you shall know the kind of woman they are.
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Badmashiii: 10:18pm On Sep 07, 2025
Caaz:
Never underestimate the power of a good gidin. Understanding wife award of the year goes to this woman



Person wey she suppose don arrange with boys,collect that car go ngbuka market dismantle the car and sell ham as scrab.
Kai gindi no be your mate dan uwarka
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by D00msDay(m): 10:26pm On Sep 07, 2025
Namaster:
That is the difference between an ASSET and a LIABILITY.

A wife is a standing LONG-TERM LIABILITY by every measure. A wife is a constant DRAIN on your resources. Even a "good wife". You'll support her. You'll support her family. You'll entertain her. You'll "upgrade" her.

And the sex is NEVER guaranteed.
In fact, the more you do the above, the LOWER the frequency and quality of the sex.

Wives NEVER want to let their husband think they deserve sex because of ALL their husbands have done.

Meanwhile, the GF on the other hand needs LITTLE maintenance. And pleasure flows from her.

If a side chick dies on Friday, the man would take his family to the wedding ceremony of a third cousin without missing a beat.

By the following Friday, another Side Chick would have taken her place.

Plus, this woman phrased it as "suffering with 2 kids" like it's not the man that drives them around. She made it sound like the man NEVER takes them anywhere.

Finally, she didn't "think much of it" because the car is likely over 15 years old with more than 5 years on Nigerian road. It's OLD and DOWNTRODDEN.

In fact, I can GUARANTEE that the current market value of the car is LESS than what the man has spent on his wife this year.
Only a simp will gift a side-chick a car. Side chick wey other young boys they follow u chop. Side chick go still give the car to her main boyfriend to cruise. Infact, another man will lash her inside that car.
Some men will just lose their senses wen they see pucccy. Men building, renting apartments and buying cars for side chicks are simps and foolish ones at that.
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by FavouriteOfGod(f): 10:26pm On Sep 07, 2025
viyon02:
, No sane man there hurt a very submissive wife, even if he try to cheat, his spirit will never be at rest until apologize
Hmmmmmm 🤔👍
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by seanblaise(m): 10:26pm On Sep 07, 2025
Samantha125:
Some women are just too nice and innocent... If it was me, I'd neither confront the husband, the side chick, or post it online... But I'd instead sit down and play a game of chess and by the time I say checkmate, I'd make sure that he's getting admitted into psychiatric hospital while I play the role of a concerned wife... He'd think his village people are after him... grin grin grin
Is the husband owing the wife a car?

One thing women fail to understand is that men reward people who ease their stress. What if the wife is a torn on the flesh of the man. Why would she also complain for taking care of two kids who call her MOTHER. If she wants a car, she should go out and work instead of thinking that she magically deserves a car from her husband.
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by promami: 10:27pm On Sep 07, 2025
All of you accusing the man, are you all saying that a woman can't buy a car?

The wife already said the man said he'd sell the old car. So if he gives the car to a dealer to sell and a woman bought it, it then means the new owner is the man's side chick?
Nawa for you people oo.

See how Nigerian women destroy families.

That amebo friend telling the wife that she saw her husband's car, what's her business?

And the wife, did she ask the husband how far with the car he sold and the man didn't give him any explanation?

And next thing, she's on social media to seek for validation. That her friend go soon join list of the so-called side chick since the wife isn't serious.
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Bigmospa: 10:34pm On Sep 07, 2025
viyon02:
Your husband is never a stupid man. Pay attention to what he has been complaining about in your character or action. May be you have been taking his warnings for granted thinking afterall you ara already married to him and he can't send you away just like that. My dear wife, you will lose big term. Just go back and pretend nothing happen, make him happy, start doing what will make him happy, you know those things he love you doing don't pretend you don't know, he must have complained times without number. See you at the other side of happy home.
take this simple advice and live long
Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Samantha125(f): 10:36pm On Sep 07, 2025
If she's a thorn, the divorce her and move on with your life, simple as that...🤷🤷🤷
seanblaise:
Is the husband owing the wife a car?

One thing women fail to understand is that men reward people who ease their stress. What if the wife is a torn on the flesh of the man. Why would she also complain for taking care of two kids who call her MOTHER. If she wants a car, she should go out and work instead of thinking that she magically deserves a car from her husband.
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