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Jewessgratitud3:
Sorry dear I don't do emails . Are you on Facebook?

Yes

MsJackson:
Yes

Ok drop your Facebook link let me chat you up.

Jewessgratitud3:
Ok drop your Facebook link let me chat you up.

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Jewessgratitud3:
I don't just talk for the sake of it. This is something that Ive seen happen. The man thought it was just a Nigerian thing until he saw himself in kirikiri.

If she's ready I'll give her a link to the one the woman that her husband was sent to kirikiri used. One customary court like that.

The man go pee for pant.

You are not serious maybe? Kuku marry the woman and be living like/as lesbian...

Jewessgratitud3:
If you were legally married then report him to human rights. They'll summon him and both of you will be interviewed to know what you want and how you want it. Also as regards the up keep of your child and her shelter. He'll be made to provide for everything and if he refuses to show up it's straight to jail.

See person wey wan shoot her shot...

MsJackson:
Yes

I've messaged you. Check.

MsJackson:
Check my profile for the beginning of my story. Now he is living with another woman at the moment and I don't know how to function anymore. I can no longer sleep without taking alcohol. I have developed high blood pressure. I suffer from heart palpitations now. WHERE WILL I START FROM? A 40 year old single mother

You come here now seeking pity when it is obvious you have a bad character and are very quick to anger. You even said it in your previous post.

I am sure you pushed that man away from the house with your anger issues. No man wants a tiger for a wife. Check yourself.

Jewessgratitud3:
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Will do that

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MsJackson:
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Jewessgratitud3:
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I've just seen it in spam box. Thanks.

I know plenty water water don pass garri. You probably just choose to single out dis case out of d plenty woes happening in ur marriage of my husband threw me out of the huz.

there's is a difference between my husband is having a womanfrnd outside the home aside from me and my husband chased me out and brought in anoda woman in.

Most men won't wnt to evict a good woman dt "made them" who they are as you claim you did. you said u gave up a job slot for him. He may cheat and still keep the woman bt for him to evict you, den somtin must have gone wrong on ur side.

I may be wrong but I tink d mistake u made was you relaxing after u "made him" and you not " making ur self" I mean adding value to ur own self.

you said you can't function anymore. you cnt sleep without taking alcohol. you have developed high blood pressure. where will you start from?
D truth is dis,we all owe ourselves the responsibility of our own growth in life. you believed so much in him dt you wil benefit frm his success dt u dint also make urself.

Der are plenty women in dis ur case but they DNT bait an eyelid the man left. why? because they also worked on themselve after they "made" their husbnd. they dint just relax. There is a huge difference btw "your money" and "my money".

You see dos women on Lagos island selling stuffs. dos ones dt sell jewelry, dos xpensiv lace nd clothing materials. Some of dem gave dia husbnd money for biz start up. they dint close shop or wait for husbandman yam to done because som understand dt even in marriage, some partners may change wit tym. so weda d man run go kafachan or chase dem out of d huz,they are nt so moved because they are self sufficient.

weda in marriage or out of marriage, we shud av personal goals and ambition dt we shud kip pursuing aside d collective or joint dream we have wit our spouse.

As a marid woman, u were suppose to have ur own ambition aside from ur husby. dat is where you missed it.

You are a graduate. You said you are a chemical engineer. I know engineers to be rugged and ambitious but you DNT sound like sm1 dt is self sufficient. You are talking like sm1 dt cnt get somtin done alone.

a marid woman shud not be lost cooking egusi soup and semo as wifey obligation year to year in marriage without placing a demand on herself on how to earn her own money diff frm her husby even if d man is providing all dt u need.

wen a wife doesn't tink in dt direction nd wrk towards it, she may find herself in dis unpleasant situation u are asking for advice so.
You are worrying dt the man left. u are more worried he left you because of the financial burden dt only you will be battling with taking care of ur child.

Let me ask, let's assume d man died, won't u start to adjust nd tink of wat to do to earn money to survive?

people evolve and may change behavior wit d passage of tym. Am very sure ur husbnd wasn't like dis in the first ad second year of ur marriage.

The issue is not weda the man is good or bad. Wat you shud be do right now is to set urself on action mood of survival without him.

gerizzim:
I know plenty water water don pass garri. You probably just choose to single out dis case out of d plenty woes happening in ur marriage of my husband threw me out of the huz.

there's is a difference between my husband is having a womanfrnd outside the home aside from me and my husband chased me out and brought in anoda woman in.

Most men won't wnt to evict a good woman dt "made them" who they are as you claim you did. you said u gave up a job slot for him. He may cheat and still keep the woman bt for him to evict you, den somtin must have gone wrong on ur side.

I may be wrong but I tink d mistake u made was you relaxing after u "made him" and you not " making ur self" I mean adding value to ur own self.

you said you can't function anymore. you cnt sleep without taking alcohol. you have developed high blood pressure. where will you start from?
D truth is dis,we all owe ourselves the responsibility of our own growth in life. you believed so much in him dt you wil benefit frm his success dt u dint also make urself.

Der are plenty women in dis ur case but they DNT bait an eyelid the man left. why? because they also worked on themselve after they "made" their husbnd. they dint just relax. There is a huge difference btw "your money" and "my money".

You see dos women on Lagos island selling stuffs. dos ones dt sell jewelry, dos xpensiv lace nd clothing materials. Some of dem gave dia husbnd money for biz start up. they dint close shop or wait for husbandman yam to done because som understand dt even in marriage, some partners may change wit tym. so weda d man run go kafachan or chase dem out of d huz,they are nt so moved because they are self sufficient.

weda in marriage or out of marriage, we shud av personal goals and ambition dt we shud kip pursuing aside d collective or joint dream we have wit our spouse.

As a marid woman, u were suppose to have ur own ambition aside from ur husby. dat is where you missed it.

You are a graduate. You said you are a chemical engineer. I know engineers to be rugged and ambitious but you DNT sound like sm1 dt is self sufficient. You are talking like sm1 dt cnt get somtin done alone.

a marid woman shud not be lost cooking egusi soup and semo as wifey obligation year to year in marriage without placing a demand on herself on how to earn her own money diff frm her husby even if d man is providing all dt u need.

wen a wife doesn't tink in dt direction nd wrk towards it, she may find herself in dis unpleasant situation u are asking for advice so.
You are worrying dt the man left. u are more worried he left you because of the financial burden dt only you will be battling with taking care of ur child.

Let me ask, let's assume d man died, won't u start to adjust nd tink of wat to do to earn money to survive?

people evolve and may change behavior wit d passage of tym. Am very sure ur husbnd wasn't like dis in the first ad second year of ur marriage.

The issue is not weda the man is good or bad. Wat you shud be do right now is to set urself on action mood of survival without him.

Great advice, well received. I really appreciate you for not judging me. You're right about me not developing myself, I have worked through the years but lost some of these jobs. Maybe I depended too much on him, but I'm working towards being independent now, earning my own money. Working towards being self sufficient, a woman of value. I appreciate the insight you have given me and promise to work towards it, for my 'betterment'. I thank you sir.

My dear sis, my heart goes out to you. You are really going through alot and you need help like now. Where exactly are you? what you need more than anything else is divine intervention! Good thing is that God is available to help even now. Message me if you want to know how to access God's help.

Mom007:
My dear sis, my heart goes out to you. You are really going through alot and you need help like now. Where exactly are you? what you need more than anything else is divine intervention! Good thing is that God is available to help even now. Message me if you want to know how to access God's help.

Infact, I'm just taking each day as it comes. Praying that God shows Himself to me because I've never in all my life faced a trial
this huge. It's so catastrophic to my mental health. As to my whereabouts, friends and family helped me rent an apartment far from my former house. I live alone with my girl. You can email me on
ejirodetermined01@gmail.com. Thanks ma'am.

Hello house. He is finally divorcing me and remarrying another. Please read my story on my profile. I'm weak. I just want to know my rights. We have a child together. Lawyers in the house, please advise. Thank you.

Hello guys. The new wife just gave birth some days ago. It is well.

MsJackson:
Hello guys. The new wife just gave birth some days ago. It is well.

Try moving on ndo

MsJackson:
Hello guys. The new wife just gave birth some days ago. It is well.

Stop stalking the man you called "a bad man" and you paint yourself a saint.

The man is now living with another woman and you are still bitter.

Face your life. AND MAKE SURE YOU CHECK YOURSELF BEFORE GOING INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP because I can see from your writing that you have a problem as a woman.

MsJackson:
Hello guys. The new wife just gave birth some days ago. It is well.

Hello,

I remember you from last year.

Please keep focusing on your life and your future. It is bright and all will be well and I am not saying that to console you. I'm speaking from experience.

Did you eventually speak to a lawyer concerning the fake divorce letter he gave you? Because that was a big deal and he needs to properly end his marriage.

A man who gives you a fake divorce letter, remarries swiftly and starts a new family should be left to God. Trust me, He will fight your battle and win. So please, be at peace.

It wasn't about you, it's not anything you did wrong (not saying you were perfect, I'm stating clearly that you could have been Mary and a man that has no fear of the Lord and the devil has entered his brain will run to Jezebel). And he won't be at peace until the void that is in him is filled by God.

Forgive him, pray for him, work on yourself, keep facing your future and leave that to God.

I assure you, it won't end well for him, sadly. All you can do is pray for his soul. I'm serious, pray for him, give him to God in repentance.



It didn't end well for my uncles, my cousin, infact in my family, as a man you cannot end your marriage abruptly and bring another woman saying she's the "love of your life", we go beat you sotay police go arrest everybody. 60 years of living through those mistakes has given most of the men in the next generation in my family sense.

Onegai:
Hello,

I remember you from last year.

Please keep focusing on your life and your future. It is bright and all will be well and I am not saying that to console you. I'm speaking from experience.

Did you eventually speak to a lawyer concerning the fake divorce letter he gave you? Because that was a big deal and he needs to properly end his marriage.

A man who gives you a fake divorce letter, remarries swiftly and starts a new family should be left to God. Trust me, He will fight your battle and win. So please, be at peace.

It wasn't about you, it's not anything you did wrong (not saying you were perfect, I'm stating clearly that you could have been Mary and a man that has no fear of the Lord and the devil has entered his brain will run to Jezebel). And he won't be at peace until the void that is in him is filled by God.

Forgive him, pray for him, work on yourself, keep facing your future and leave that to God.

I assure you, it won't end well for him, sadly. All you can do is pray for his soul. I'm serious, pray for him, give him to God in repentance.



It didn't end well for my uncles, my cousin, infact in my family, as a man you cannot end your marriage abruptly and bring another woman saying she's the "love of your life", we go beat you sotay police go arrest everybody. 60 years of living through those mistakes has given most of the men in the next generation in my family sense.

Yes I spoke to a lawyer, but decided against pursuing the case because I now realized that the marriage wasn't worth fighting for. So I'm going to divorce him myself. My family are preparing to return my bride price, at my behest. After that, then I'll properly divorce him. I refuse to leave myself in such situation. I have left him and his family to God. I was secretly praying that you'd see my update, so I was glad to see your reply. Your words really encourage me a lot. My God will bless you ma'am. THANK YOU.

MsJackson:
➜Yes I spoke to a lawyer, but decided against pursuing the case because I now realized that the marriage wasn't worth fighting for. So I'm going to divorce him myself.
➜My family are preparing to return my bride price, at my behest. After that, then I'll properly divorce him. I refuse to leave myself in such situation.
➜ I have left him and his family to God. I was secretly praying that you'd see my update, so I was glad to see your reply. Your words really encourage me a lot. My God will bless you ma'am. THANK YOU.

Thank goodness you finally realized this! If he committed fraud, there is no reason to ignore what he did, but it also gives you grounds to seek your own divorce and compensation for the troubles he put you through with his actions.

2. Abou, returning the bride price, do you mean you did not register your marriage in the courts? If yes, you should seek alimony and child support, assuming there are children involved, before returning a bride price.

3. Please take time to read through the submission posted here by a lawyer practising in Nigeria. https://www.nairaland.com/8487250/returned-bride-price-youre-not

MsJackson:
Yes I spoke to a lawyer, but decided against pursuing the case because I now realized that the marriage wasn't worth fighting for. So I'm going to divorce him myself. My family are preparing to return my bride price, at my behest. After that, then I'll properly divorce him. I refuse to leave myself in such situation. I have left him and his family to God. I was secretly praying that you'd see my update, so I was glad to see your reply. Your words really encourage me a lot. My God will bless you ma'am. THANK YOU.

I know this is hard, but please forgive him and pray for him as you take the next step.

Sin is a terrible thing to live under and the devil will make it so sweet in the beginning but it always turns to ash in your mouth.

Please don't let the devil win by harbouring any ill-will in your heart for your husband and his family. Don't hate him, don't live in bitterness, certainly don't keep updates on his life, don't use your child to fight him, don't even gloat or be sad no matter what you see or hear, find your joy and peace in the Lord.

And the marriage was worth fighting for, still is worth fighting for. Just hand everything over to God, ask Him to order your steps and face your future. The battle isn't yours, it's time to pick a Champion that has never lost a war. Not once.

You'll be fine. Love to your kid.

PS: work on yourself o. God has a plan for you and you don't want to be caught napping unprepared when it comes to fruition.

MsJackson:
➜Hello house. He is finally divorcing me and remarrying another. Please read my story on my profile. I'm weak. I just want to know my rights. We have a child together. Lawyers in the house, please advise. Thank you.

The fact that the man filed divorce papers(even though you claim it was fake) means he probably knows that he does not deserve a return of bride price in all of this. I know it sounds -ish, but listen, if you were both married in the courts, you do not owe him anything. Rather, you should go seek a divorce and require that he share custody of your child(provided he was not a bad father to the child). He wants to move on without the responsibility of caring what his own child, meaning he would prefer you carry the load of raising the child all by yourself. Don't give him that satisfaction. Take him to court and demand that you both share custody of the child. After all, that child deserves to be raised both by his father and his mother, whether they live together or not.

Onegai:
I know this is hard, but please forgive him and pray for him as you take the next step.

Sin is a terrible thing to live under and the devil will make it so sweet in the beginning but it always turns to ash in your mouth.

Please don't let the devil win by harbouring any ill-will in your heart for your husband and his family. Don't hate him, don't live in bitterness, certainly don't keep updates on his life, don't use your child to fight him, don't even gloat or be sad no matter what you see or hear, find your joy and peace in the Lord.

And the marriage was worth fighting for, still is worth fighting for. Just hand everything over to God, ask Him to order your steps and face your future. The battle isn't yours, it's time to pick a Champion that has never lost a war. Not once.

You'll be fine. Love to your kid.

PS: work on yourself o. God has a plan for you and you don't want to be caught napping unprepared when it comes to fruition.

Yes ma'am. Thank my dear. I have left the battle to God. He will fight for me. I will work on myself and pray for the best.

Kobojunkie:
The fact that the man filed divorce papers(even though you claim it was fake) means he probably knows that he does not deserve a return of bride price in all of this. I know it sounds -ish, but listen, if you were both married in the courts, you do not owe him anything. Rather, you should go seek a divorce and require that he share custody of your child(provided he was not a bad father to the child). He wants to move on without the responsibility of caring what his own child, meaning he would prefer you carry the load of raising the child all by yourself. Don't give him that satisfaction. Take him to court and demand that you both share custody of the child. After all, that child deserves to be raised both by his father and his mother? , whether they live together or not.

will do just that. I'm talking to my lawyer about it. Thank you

Kobojunkie:
Thank goodness you finally realized this! If he committed fraud, there is no reason to ignore what he did, but it also gives you grounds to seek your own divorce and compensation for the troubles he put you through with his actions.

2. Abou, returning the bride price, do you mean you did not register your marriage in the courts? If yes, you should seek alimony and child support, assuming there are children involved, before returning a bride price.

3. Please take time to read through the submission posted here by a lawyer practising in Nigeria. https://www.nairaland.com/8487250/returned-bride-price-youre-not

thanks for the enlightening article

Kobojunkie:
Thank goodness you finally realized this! If he committed fraud, there is no reason to ignore what he did, but it also gives you grounds to seek your own divorce and compensation for the troubles he put you through with his actions.

2. Abou, returning the bride price, do you mean you did not register your marriage in the courts? If yes, you should seek alimony and child support, assuming there are children involved, before returning a bride price.

3. Please take time to read through the submission posted here by a lawyer practising in Nigeria. https://www.nairaland.com/8487250/returned-bride-price-youre-not

THIS ARTICLE IS GOLD. It clarified a lot I didn't know. I'm contacting her already. Thank you!