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Is it worth it to fight your husband’s side chick? Lessons from Ichie Obiora and Chinasa.

A few years ago, I witnessed a housewife lay an ambush for her husband’s side chick after trailing them for a while. She went physical on her, and the aftermath was a criminal charge of assault against the wife. To my utmost surprise, the husband came to court in solidarity with the side chick.

I also know of a case where a housewife attacked a side chick. Thereafter, the husband, to show his displeasure, withdrew and sold the private car he had given to her. He even asked her mockingly: “Did your father drive a car? I gave you a car to make your life easy, and since you are using it to monitor me, let me keep you where you belong.” The car was sold. It did not end there, he later married the side chick, along with her grown-up children.

Recently, the internet was hit with the story of Ichie and his lover, whose s£x tape went viral. Ichie is married. His wife, probably out of anger, gathered other women from their town and went to Chinasa, the then side chick, to warn her to leave their husband alone. What next? The internet was later awash with the traditional wedding invitation of Ichie and Chinasa. Pictures below even suggest that they are already married traditionally.

These and many other incidents have made me always advise wives against targeting the side chicks, but rather to focus on the real issue- the community prick.

However, on the other side of the divide are those who believe that a woman ought to protect her territory by confronting intruders. To them, not doing so raises questions about her affection and strength.

So, what is your take? What is the best approach for a wife faced with such a situation? Kindly share your thoughts with us.

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I don't need to read the post before commenting, the caption is clear enough.

Fight your partner, not whoever he or she is cheating on you with. It is stupidity to leave your partner and fight the person the partner is cheating with. Fighting the person your partner is cheating with cannot solve your problem but will only make your partner and the person to keep their affair more secretive or your partner will look for a new catch.

But for me, I will not even fight. I will just end the relationship, not minding whatever I have invested in the relationship. Sometimes, it is not easy to end the relationship. But dying can never be easier. What does not kill you, na luck you get, no try am again.

But why is the post gender-biased? The post is only talking about women fighting their husbands' side chicks. What about men and their wives side hens?

If you're a woman and your husband keeps on continuosly cheating on you despite all your efforts in trying to work on your marriage with him, you'd only be left with two options, either you stay and turn a blind eye to his extramarital affairs, or you save yourself from the distress by leaving.

Fighting a side chick is never worth it, because even if you eventually manage to chase her away, if he's not ready to stop with his affairs, he'll still get another one and before you know it, you'll be fighting side chicks for most parts of your marriage... He might even leave you for the side chick after you went out of your way to commit atrocities in the name of saving your marriage.

And if you're going to fight a side chick, make sure you're an independent woman with a good source of income, because he might just use your financial dependence on him against you.

Going after the side chick is foolishness and stupidity. If your man or husband is cheating, your problem is with your man or husband, not the side chick. This is not to absolve side chicks of any blame at all because some women will know a man is taken (in a relationship or married) and won't leave the man but in either case, the man you're in a relationship with or took vows with is the person you gotta face, as they're the one with the obligation of being faithful to you but refuse to give you that respect. You've no business with the side chick but that man, so the last thing you want to do is approach the side chick to fight her.

It is not worth fighting anyone. Not your spouse, definitely not the other woman/man.
We are all adults and life has blessed us with freewill. After that comes CONSEQUENCES. and that is what is in your control as the angered spouse. To stay or to leave. It should never lead to violence.

The power of a woman scorned by her spouse is how she controls her anger, in cases of cheating, silence is golden and your ultimate weapon, never ever confront the two involved but make sure he knows you're aware of his cheating with iron clad evidence, then plan in silence, move in secret, and attack beyond expectation, believe me, he will never see you coming.

Fight any lady I'm friends with and see yourself in your family house, I can't live with a wide woman.

While I don't condo external marital affairs, most ladies are the cus of their marital downfall. Like you don't give the man peace, you don't respect and submit, you don't seduce your man, you don't even dress sexy at night you don't even let him beat the meat the paid your family for (every time you're tired, even when busy doing nothing), like wtf 😒.

Now when they loose their prize to a younger woman, they become jealous and they allow the devil to possess them.

That I have friends doesn't mean I don't love you or the kids, most times men have sides because they're trying to run away from the gbese they married.

Common ladies it time to stop this yipiyapi. Know how to take care of your man. Respect him and the family he came from, submit to him, cook, clean and fucc him really good, on God that man no go leave you for another.

Seriously I would rather be at my side chick house, than to come back to a boring nagging wife.

Samantha125:
If you're a woman and your husband keeps on continuosly cheating on you despite all your efforts in trying to work on your marriage with him, you'd only be left with two options, either you stay and turn a blind eye to his extramarital affairs, or you save yourself from the distress by leaving.

Fighting a side chick is never worth it, because even if you eventually manage to chase her away, if he's not ready to stop with his affairs, he'll still get another one and before you know it, you'll be fighting side chicks for most parts of your marriage... He might even leave you for the side chick after you went out of your way to commit atrocities in the name of saving your marriage.

And if you're going to fight a side chick, make sure you're an independent woman with a good source of income, because he might just use your financial dependence on him against you.

A woman, Mrs Ayeni, dealt mercilessly with her husband's side-chic, collected all that her husband ever gave her, got her husband to deny their illegitimate child, and dragged her husband home by the ear.
Heaven did not fall.

That one is left begging for the man to at least acknowledge the child.
She thought she was wise messing with a strong woman's husband.

Certain women know how to handle such matters.
You do not want to mess with them.

Lose out after giving her years? Never!

Mariangeles:
A woman, Mrs Ayeni, dealt mercilessly with her husband's side-chic, collected all that her husband ever gave her, got her husband to deny their illegitimate child, and dragged her husband home by the ear.
Heaven did not fall.

That one is left begging for the man to at least acknowledge the child.
She thought she was wise messing with a strong woman's husband.

Certain women know how to handle such matters.
You do not want to mess with them.

Lose out after giving her years? Never!

I didn't know Mrs Ayeni was the instigator that babe's issue. Iya issued a statement that her marriage is intact and the next thing was the quit notice of the Abuja property, denial of the baby.....

She try wella but most women don't have that strength to fight like she did.

Esthered:
I didn't know Mrs Ayeni was the instigator that babe's issue. Iya issued a statement that her marriage is intact and the next thing was the quit notice of the Abuja property, denial of the baby.....

She try wella but most women don't have that strength to fight like she did.

Ah!
She had her fingerprints all over it.
She even granted an interview then, calling the concubine a mere hook-up chic who used charms on her husband.
That one ended up bringing shame to her father's name.

Some women have all the strength and resources to go all the way, and will not be made a fool of, and on top of that, emotionally blackmailed into just "walking away".

How is she strong when the husband will still go and get another side chick?

So the wife is gonna spent the rest of her married life fighting and collecting all the gifts given to ladies by her husband? And there's no achievement in depriving a child of his or her father... He or she didn't ask his or her father to cheat on his wife with his or her mother.

I'd rather walk out of the marriage than separate a child from the father for my own selfish benefit because I was raised by a loving present father and I wouldn't want to deprive another child of his or her father.

Mariangeles:
A woman, Mrs Ayeni, dealt mercilessly with her husband's side-chic, collected all that her husband ever gave her, got her husband to deny their illegitimate child, and dragged her husband home by the ear.
Heaven did not fall.

That one is left begging for the man to at least acknowledge the child.
She thought she was wise messing with a strong woman's husband.

Certain women know how to handle such matters.
You do not want to mess with them.

Lose out after giving her years? Never!

Samantha125:
How is she strong when the husband will still go and get another side chick?

So the wife is gonna spent the rest of her married life fighting and collecting all the gifts given to ladies by her husband?

When she gets to that bridge, she will cross it.
Some women don't appreciate being made a fool of, both by the husband and the concubine.
For her, it's not about love.

And there's no achievement in depriving a child of his or her father... He or she didn't ask his or her father to cheat on his wife with his or her mother.

I'd rather walk out of the marriage than separate a child from the father for my own selfish benefit because I was raised by a loving present father and I wouldn't want to deprive another child of his or her father.

Who cares? It's the woman's responsibility to choose the right father for her child(ren).
The concubine should've thought about that before choosing to have a child with a married man.

But going around fighting and collecting gifts from your husband's side chicks is also foolish... There's no class in that, only a woman who lacks self love, respect, and is solely dependent on the husband will act in such a manner... I honestly don't have the energy for that... The more she misdirects her frustrations by targeting the side chicks, it's the more she'll only open the door for the husband to cheat and become the father of the nation... The only person she should be dealing with is the husband.

The side chick could also open a case of theft and assault against the wife, she'll then end up with a criminal record for the rest of her all in the name of protecting her marriage when there's not even any guarantee that the marriage will last because the same husband might just eventually end up leaving her for another side chick.

And forcing your husband to end his relationship with his side chick does not necessarily mean he'll stop seeing her, if he still wants her and the child, he'll still go back while keeping things discreet and deceiving you into believing that they're completely over.

Mariangeles:
When she gets to that bridge, she will cross it.
Some women don't appreciate being made a fool of, both by the husband and the concubine.
For her, it's not about love.



Who cares? It's the woman's responsibility to choose the right father for her child(ren).
The concubine should've thought about that before choosing to have a child with a married man.

It was just last week that a woman in Tennessee was shot and killed after going to her husband's side chick's home. The husband was inside the home at the time and the side chick had fired one shot at her from inside the house when she saw her (the wife). Instead of her to run away, she proceeded to make her way inside the home, probably to fight her and the side chick didn't hesitate to shoot her dead. Her despicable husband that she was fighting over didn't even come to her aid. Both women obviously hated each other, so this was the perfect opportunity for one to get rid of the other once she saw that opportunity. Imagine losing your life in this manner. Wouldn't it have been better for this woman to walk away, not just from that house, but from the man?


https://www.kgns.tv/2025/08/26/woman-shot-killed-after-allegedly-forcing-herself-into-her-husbands-girlfriends-home-police-say/

I won't comments

Anytime you want to fight as a woman, remember annie idibia and all her fight, where did all that get her, no where, haha.
No marriage in heaven so please ladies leave and have peace, you owe yourself enjoyment on this earth where our days are numbered. Love yourself enough

this na just shake bodie, will they invite one Oga at the tops pikin that was rumored to have opened office inside the office if this fellow, say them de even take "taba" together, de do tag team run all the show for that organization. Abi them wan investigate

Wahala for who dey go fight for to personalise community abunna

Once a cheat always a cheat. forgive and forget at your own risk

As a woman (wife) fight your fellow woman (side chick) in order to keep your home and not fight your fellow woman in order to keep a man

You guys should let this matter rest abeg.

I don't see the need for this unnecessary debate

Are you here on this forum promoting adultery and extramarital sexual affairs?

I wonder why you will leave the one who broke his vows to fight someone else

Aunty Ebele, go an' sit down

So you want the wife to attack the husband?

The same "resources" she's fighting tooth and nails to keep?

Why don't you advice her to leave the whole scene entirely if she's no longer comfortable with the heat in the room?

Nonsense

Did the side chic take any vows with you?

Truth be told a high percentage of married men are enduring their wives and marriages because a lady or woman somewhere is taking care of his emotions and sexual needs.

I work in a male dominated industry ,all my married male colleagues have side chics .A high percentage of the customers that patronise the company I have seen them come to our business premises with their wives and side chic .

As a woman you better learn how to add value to yourself and don't disturb your head about a man's shenanigans.

One woman is not enough for a man, the earlier you modern women accept this fact the better!

Twoclans:
Did the side chic take any vows with you?

Truth be told a high percentage of married men are enduring their wives and marriages because a lady or woman somewhere is taking care of his emotions and sexual needs.

This is very true, unfortunately most people would not like to admit it

I think it's just stupidity, cowardice and misdirected aggression on the part of any man or woman going after the other woman or man in a side affair.


What two grown adults do with themselves is their right.

Take out your anger and frustration on the person you took the marital oath with... Even if you decide to kill any woman sleeping with your amorous husband, the he-goat still won't run out of women to sleep around with.

Why risk jail and even harm to yourself (if you jam werey) when you can easily leave the marriage?!!



If I end up in a position or situation where my own partner now seeks sexual pleasure outside, my sole move would simply be to release her from the "burden" of our union via divorce, so she can fully enjoy herself out there.


Life should never be that complicated abeg.

NotOfThisWorld:
It was just last week that a woman in Tennessee was shot and killed after going to her husband's side chick's home. The husband was inside the home at the time and the side chick had fired one shot at her from inside the house when she saw her (the wife). Instead of her to run away, she proceeded to make her way inside the home, probably to fight her and the side chick didn't hesitate to shoot her dead. Her despicable husband that she was fighting over didn't even come to her aid. Both women obviously hated each other, so this was the perfect opportunity for one to get rid of the other once she saw that opportunity. Imagine losing your life in this manner. Wouldn't it have been better for this woman to walk away, not just from that house, but from the man?


https://www.kgns.tv/2025/08/26/woman-shot-killed-after-allegedly-forcing-herself-into-her-husbands-girlfriends-home-police-say/

She trespassed and she got what she deserved.

You have no right whatsoever to go to the home of your spouse's lover.

Depends on the size of her ukwuu , but there’s love in sharing

MarkNsukkaBread:
One woman is not enough for a man, the earlier you modern women accept this fact the better!

Very very true


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