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floss:
As a woman (wife) fight your fellow woman (side chick) in order to keep your home and not fight your fellow woman in order to keep a man

You go fight tire!

Prevention is better than cure ..

The best way avoid this kind of scenario is to marry right..

When you marry right, you will avoid this scenarios..

Wisdom is profitable to direct..

LawWithEbele:
Is it worth it to fight your husband’s side chick? Lessons from Ichie Obiora and Chinasa.

A few years ago, I witnessed a housewife lay an ambush for her husband’s side chick after trailing them for a while. She went physical on her, and the aftermath was a criminal charge of assault against the wife. To my utmost surprise, the husband came to court in solidarity with the side chick.

I also know of a case where a housewife attacked a side chick. Thereafter, the husband, to show his displeasure, withdrew and sold the private car he had given to her. He even asked her mockingly: “Did your father drive a car? I gave you a car to make your life easy, and since you are using it to monitor me, let me keep you where you belong.” The car was sold. It did not end there, he later married the side chick, along with her grown-up children.

Recently, the internet was hit with the story of Ichie and his lover, whose s£x tape went viral. Ichie is married. His wife, probably out of anger, gathered other women from their town and went to Chinasa, the then side chick, to warn her to leave their husband alone. What next? The internet was later awash with the traditional wedding invitation of Ichie and Chinasa. Pictures below even suggest that they are already married traditionally.

These and many other incidents have made me always advise wives against targeting the side chicks, but rather to focus on the real issue- the community prick.

However, on the other side of the divide are those who believe that a woman ought to protect her territory by confronting intruders. To them, not doing so raises questions about her affection and strength.

So, what is your take? What is the best approach for a wife faced with such a situation? Kindly share your thoughts with us.

I am Ebelechukwu Aroh-Nwoka, your family and property lawyer. I help you protect what you cannot afford to lose- your land, your legacy, and your family.

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Lols....

It's a total waste of time.

Not even when it's reversed. Any man or woman that believes in Fighting for love will surely enter serious problem.

Sometimes, you'd be surprised that there are others you'd willing share ya significant other with. It's just that, that list is very slim and not easy to fill.... Check yasef and you'd know.

Human nature stingy for those they maybe don't like. E get synchrony wey go make you bone....

MarkNsukkaBread:
One woman is not enough for a man, the earlier you modern women accept this fact the better!

Okay... Then make it clear to her that you intend to be polygamous or polyamorous before getting her tied down in marriage.

There's nothing wrong with Polygamy as long as all parties involved are mutually okay with it.

You can't just demand that every woman accepts infidelity... And, who told you one man can satisfy most women these days?!!

Una never know where una dey go like this... I laugh!!!

JovialJune:
The power of a woman scorned by her spouse is how she controls her anger, in cases of cheating, silence is golden and your ultimate weapon, never ever confront the two involved but make sure he knows you're aware of his cheating with iron clad evidence, then plan in silence, move in secret, and attack beyond expectation, believe me, he will never see you coming.

Wetin you go do?

Highest you will do is to poison the man, that is the reason why in some tribes it is mandatory for a widow to drink the water that was used to wash the body of the dead husband who died under questionable circumstances

JovialJune:
The power of a woman scorned by her spouse is how she controls her anger, in cases of cheating, silence is golden and your ultimate weapon, never ever confront the two involved but make sure he knows you're aware of his cheating with iron clad evidence, then plan in silence, move in secret, and attack beyond expectation, believe me, he will never see you coming.

No busy woman who makes her own money and support the family has the time for husbands recklessness. Its always those who all their lives they did nothing with their younger self other than date multiple men both married and single have the time to chase man and harass side chicks because they now feel the pain other married women and supportive gf felt but cant stand it. Simple as ABC

You have unwittingly stated why their husbands went for side chicks because they all were married to tumultuous women.
Only an ignorant woman will fight her husband, let alone - his side chick, thinking that that will make her keep her home, and her marriage. If putting up a physical fight will do anything, it will end up breaking the marriage.
There is a wisdom that God has given exclusively to women to keep the home, and only the wise ones have discovered it.

Angelfrost:
Okay... Then make it clear to her that you intend to be polygamous or polyamorous before getting her tied down in marriage.

There's nothing wrong with Polygamy as long as all parties involved are mutually okay with it.

You can't just demand that every woman accepts infidelity... And, who told you one man can satisfy most women these days?!!

Una never know where una dey go like this... I laugh!!!

If a woman wants to marry more than one husband she's free to do so but she should be ready to bear all the financial responsibilities of the home just like men do!

All Igbo affairs,

Anyways, let's keep encouraging promiscuity as measure of our masculinity.

It's always good to be decent both in character and appearance.
We can't all be like Yule Edochie.
I'm happily married, if there are issues, I'll discuss it with my wife. I can't afford to give her reason to regret submitting herself to me.
It's crazy!

MarkNsukkaBread:
If a woman wants to marry more than one husband she's free to do so but she should be ready to bear all the financial responsibilities of the home just like men do!

We are saying the same thing...!

Besides, bearing financial responsibility is not enough ground or right to cheat on a married partner... Not by any human or spiritual law.

By the way, there is a difference between Polygamy and Infidelity.

What we are talking about here is the latter not the former.

The even funnier part is that many so called polygamous men still flirt and cavort around with other women.

So, the issue is not monogamy or Polygamy... The issue is a glaring absence of sexual discipline and principles.


Well, if Nigerian laws were half as strict as marital laws abroad, many men for don zip up by force.

The marriage between this 2 made me understand that a cheating spouse can kill you. Your life dont matter to him or her.
The excuse of the woman for cheating with her former husband and the extent the man can go ahead in committing adultery with a married woman and proceeding further in marrying her speaks volume of how a cheating partner can kill you and will not regret doing it.
That a person is dying silently when staying in that kind of marriage where this kind of thing is happening is not an understatement or being pretentious.

Whatever anyone sow that's what they will reap. A man that left his wife for side chick, will equally leave the side chick for another side chick. Women make una get sense na.

Any side check that derive pleasure in bringing pain to her fellow woman peace (home) the same will be done to her.

Any man that that brakes his vow, thinking his smart is in for a long ride.
Those cohabiting calling there woman "my wife" the woman that's my "husband" are on a long thing. When the man or woman is cheating out side, don't complain because both of you are not married.

Before you fight your man side chick, check if them pay for your head.

Mariangeles:
A woman, Mrs Ayeni, dealt mercilessly with her husband's side-chic, collected all that her husband ever gave her, got her husband to deny their illegitimate child, and dragged her husband home by the ear.
Heaven did not fall.

That one is left begging for the man to at least acknowledge the child.
She thought she was wise messing with a strong woman's husband.

Certain women know how to handle such matters.
You do not want to mess with them.

Lose out after giving her years? Never!

Stop adding salt and pepper to the story.

The real reason why the whole thing actually crashed was probably because the jazz the sidechick Adaobi was using probably wore off and the man came to his senses.

Another reason is that the sidechick overstepped her boundary by attempting to destroy Chief Ayeni's marriage, an intelligent sidechick should have just remained in the sidelines out of sight enjoying the man's money

Mariangeles:
A woman, Mrs Ayeni, dealt mercilessly with her husband's side-chic, collected all that her husband ever gave her, got her husband to deny their illegitimate child, and dragged her husband home by the ear.
Heaven did not fall.

That one is left begging for the man to at least acknowledge the child.
She thought she was wise messing with a strong woman's husband.

Certain women know how to handle such matters.
You do not want to mess with them.

Lose out after giving her years? Never!

She did not do all you said, it was her husband that rather came back to his senses and recalled all he did for his side chick.
That couple you mentioned have been together from their youth, from when the man had nothing, driving a beatle car working in a company at ogba, she rather was from a well to do family, and stuck to him loyally, built up everything together, both of them lawyers. When she goes abroad to hustle, then bring in equipments for her passion ie tailoring their little kids will be in her father's house taken care of by chief and his police officer wife.
That man must have thought back where him and his wife started from, the ups and down and realized he was spoiling a good thing all over a gold digger.

Angelfrost:
We are saying the same thing...!

Besides, bearing financial responsibility is not enough ground or right to cheat on a married partner... Not by any human or spiritual law.

By the way, there is a difference between Polygamy and Infidelity.

What we are talking about here is the latter not the former.

The even funnier part is that many so called polygamous men still flirt and cavort around with other women.

So, the issue is not monogamy or Polygamy... The issue is a glaring absence of sexual discipline and principles.


Well, if Nigerian laws were half as strict as marital laws abroad, many men for don zip up by force.

That abroad law nonsense cannot and will never work here and I will tell you why...abroad the couple contribute money to buy the marital abode and pay the mortgage jointly.

This is the reason why the wife can ask her husband to leave the house if she catches him with another woman.

Here in Nigeria in most cases it is the man that bears all the costs of building the house, so you want to tell me that a woman I married will come and tell me to vacate the house I built alone with my money simply because she caught me with another woman?!

Them no born am well make she try am!!!

Fight kwa. This is why i always encourage women to have something they are doing . When you have the resources to take care of yourself and your kids if any , you will not be bothered much (except healing from heartbreak) . You can decide to stay or leave but you wi be doing so from a place of strength. I am a man and I have seen it countless times personally and on social media ( not limited to nigeria or africa) . Empower yourself . God help me No daughter of mine will not be in that position of strength . Too many werey men out there

The amount of time and energy women burn on hampering over men and side chicks or men and cheating, you will never think that they do this more than men.

nedekid:
She did not do all you said, it was her husband that rather came back to his senses and recalled all he did for his side chick.
That couple you mentioned have been together from their youth, from when the man had nothing, driving a beatle car working in a company at ogba, she rather was from a well to do family, and stuck to him loyally, built up everything together, both of them lawyers. When she goes abroad to hustle, then bring in equipments for her passion ie tailoring their little kids will be in her father's house taken care of by chief and his police officer wife.
That man must have thought back where him and his wife started from, the ups and down and realized he was spoiling a good thing all over a gold digger.

Really?
You think he let his concubine go just like that, especially one that had a child for him?
Okay.

Mariangeles:
Ah!
She had her fingerprints all over it.
She even granted an interview then, calling the concubine a mere hook-up chic who used charms on her husband.
That one ended up bringing shame to her father's name.

Some women have all the strength and resources to go all the way, and will not be made a fool of, and on top of that, emotionally blackmailed into just "walking away".

Hmmmmmm🤔

MarkNsukkaBread:
Stop adding salt and pepper to the story.

The real reason why the whole thing actually crashed was probably because the jazz the sidechick Adaobi was using probably wore off and the man came to his senses.

Another reason is that the sidechick overstepped her boundary by attempting to destroy Chief Ayeni's marriage, an intelligent sidechick should have just remained in the sidelines out of sight enjoying the man's money

So, I should take your word over what I read koro-koro, abi?
Were you there?

Anyways, thanks for confirming part of the whole story about the overambitious concubine overstepping her boundaries.

Is it worth it for the husband to have a side chick? Since he’s an adult, can’t he just bravely divorce his wife and stick with the side chick since he likes her so much and the wife clearly doesn’t want to share her home? Why are you mischievously asking the woman if it’s worth it to rise against her man’s selfish decision.

immortalcrown:
I don't need to read the post before commenting, the caption is clear enough.

Fight your partner, not whoever he or she is cheating on you with. It is stupidity to leave your partner and fight the person the partner is cheating with. Fighting the person your partner is cheating with cannot solve your problem but will only make your partner and the person to keep their affair more secretive or your partner will look for a new catch.

But for me, I will not even fight. I will just end the relationship, not minding whatever I have invested in the relationship. Sometimes, it is not easy to end the relationship. But dying can never be easier. What does not kill you, na luck you get, no try am again.

But why is the post gender-biased? The post is only talking about women fighting their husbands' side chicks. What about men and their wives side hens?

Toyour last paragraph, most women even the men who'd like to sympathize with them always believe the men are the guilty ones while the women can do no wrong in their books.

So expect no balance comments on this, some would even say you should stick to the topic of discussion while you await a similar thread that will paint the women in that light (you and I know that wouldn't happen anytime soon)

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So, there is no custom again in igboland?
Tufia kwa, ihe ojoo( bad things, taboo in igboland)

Side-chicks are advocating for not being challenged! As far as the woman is involved, they will help themselves and allow the men to hang!

NotOfThisWorld:
✓It was just last week that a woman in Tennessee was shot and killed after going to her husband's side chick's home. The husband was inside the home at the time and the side chick had fired one shot at her from inside the house when she saw her (the wife). Instead of her to run away, she proceeded to make her way inside the home, probably to fight her and the side chick didn't hesitate to shoot her dead. Her despicable husband that she was fighting over didn't even come to her aid. Both women obviously hated each other, so this was the perfect opportunity for one to get rid of the other once she saw that opportunity. Imagine losing your life in this manner. Wouldn't it have been better for this woman to walk away, not just from that house, but from the man?

What a pathetic way to die...that is what I have to say! 😩😩😩😩😩

EmperorIsaac:
✓ Side-chicks are advocating for not being challenged! As far as the woman is involved, they will help themselves and allow the men to hang!

I think it is instead women advocating that the energy be redirected in the direction where it would achieve greater and better results.

Attacking a side chick is meaningless....the cheater living in the house with the women slighted will either doubles down or moves on to the next side chick. So, what would the wife have achieved by that? Nothing !

Kobojunkie:
I think it is instead women advocating that the energy be redirected in the direction where it would achieve greater and better results.

Attacking a side chick is meaningless....the cheater living in the house with the women slighted will either doubles down or moves on to the next side chick. So, what would the wife have achieved by that? Nothing !

Women should call out fellow side-chicks! Leave the people with means to afford one alone.

I believe you would also say the same thing if a wife cheats on her husband because he doesn't give her peace, isn't cute, $exy and not rich. So that if your wife cheats on you in future, you will be an understanding horseband.

marlow1962:
Fight any lady I'm friends with and see yourself in your family house, I can't live with a wide woman.

While I don't condo external marital affairs, most ladies are the cus of their marital downfall. Like you don't give the man peace, you don't respect and submit, you don't seduce your man, you don't even dress sexy at night you don't even let him beat the meat the paid your family for (every time you're tired, even when busy doing nothing), like wtf 😒.

Now when they loose their prize to a younger woman, they become jealous and they allow the devil to possess them.

That I have friends doesn't mean I don't love you or the kids, most times men have sides because they're trying to run away from the gbese they married.

Common ladies it time to stop this yipiyapi. Know how to take care of your man. Respect him and the family he came from, submit to him, cook, clean and fucc him really good, on God that man no go leave you for another.

Seriously I would rather be at my side chick house, than to come back to a boring nagging wife.

EmperorIsaac:
✓ Women should call out fellow side-chicks! Leave the people with means to afford one alone.

Are your cells fried up or something? I just explained that women have absolutely nothing to gain from such activities. To this day, not a single woman can say she has gained much from engaging in such activity. Sure, there are tales out there --- rumours, mind you -- of some women heroically saving their marriages by attacking the side-chicks, but those are fairy tales... nonsensical bullsheet meant to hide away the facts — wives attacking side chicks cannot change a husband or cause him to turn away from adultery—for cheap, meaningless glory. A cheating husband will continue to cheat whether his wife attacks his side chick or not.

Kobojunkie:
Are your cells fried up or something? I just explained that women have absolutely nothing to gain from.such activities. To this day, not a single women could say she has gained much from engaging in such activity. Sure, there are tales out there --- rumours, mind you -- of some women heroically saving their marriages by attacking the side-chicks, but those are fairy tales... nonsensical bullsheet meant to hide away the facts for cheap glory.

Only because they detest competition in the sexual market under any guise.

EmperorIsaac:
✓ Only because they detest competition in the sexual market under any guise.

I am not particularly certain how or where this response of yours connects to any part of what I posted. 🥱🥱🥱