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tuoyoojo:
Kai

This thread was made to bash marriage but it got the opposite traction

The truth is that there are many marriages that are working but it's only the bad ones that makes headlines

Many people travel everyday from lagos go portharcourt for example but that one or two accidents happen along the road ,doesn't mean one shouldn't travel

Many marriages fail because of our poor choices, you make poor choices and blame the out come on marriage.....poor choice in partners, poor decision making, poor management skills, poor conflict resolution skills, poor financial decisions .....and when it flops, marriage is blamed for it

If you want to learn some silent points about marriage listen to okey bakassi's interview with nedu, that's someone talking from experience

Damead:
My greatest regret as a married man is not marrying a lady that loves me more than I do.

I ignored the red flags thinking she would change after marrying, only to get worse.

Lastly, don't settle for a lady that does not respect you.

Never ignore the red flag.


I hope this helps someone.

Insectkiller:
I never love the way my spouse loved me...i should have loved more earlier.

Marriage is sweet but you must give your best and be committed...

Sincerity is the key...

MarkNsukkaBread:
Having to eat the same soup everyday should be number one for most men

SisterAnn:
Well, I'm a woman and I have an opinion on this.


My only regret is putting all my cards on the table from the beginning. Nobody should put all their cards on the table no matter the relationship.

LoneSoldier:
Dear esteemed married men, can you throw more light about your regret as a married man and also share your bad experiences also.....

You can still add if you are still in the marriage or not, and tell us how many years you were in before you eventually left the marriage.....


Divorced men you are free to drop your inputs......

MistyDense:
Best advice I've seen.
Thanks so much sir

balaclava:
Sorry about that bro. Shit happens.
There could be a lot of reason for this.
Marriage isn't without it's challenges but it will be sweet if God is involved and the head of the home and both spouses obeying the principles as instructed

balaclava:
Congratulations baba mi.
May peace and love continue to reign in your home. Ajeh

Tayorshd87:
hmm how can I summarize this 🤔

I got married to a woman that loves me 100% but I just had this small like for her .
I went ahead just because I knew are geniue love for me ...

People do say love who loves you more 🤔
But what about if u don't really loves her too 🤔

Hmmm

I guess this is my problem or regret ☹️🙁


But she is 190% wife material every man is looking for though but I believe agape love for someone is natural or am I getting it wrong ❓

SisterAnn:
Puleeese! Stop regurgitating!

PeterObi4Presid:
Would you rather philander about? Giving Asawo vibe

MarkNsukkaBread:
What's the correlation between the points you raised and Godwin Emefiele's pic that you posted here?

koladata:
Life is more complicated when you are not married at mid or old age. You can't even trust a wife that claimed she loves you, how do you then trust a baby mama or girlfriends.

1. What if she wipes your entire savings at the middle of the night after sex
2. What if she poisons your food just because she noticed you just received one huge money and since she's not married to you or have kids for you, your life means nothing to her.
3. How do you sleep with a woman whom you don't have rights to ask where she goes when she lives your house.
4. Who will stay with you on the sick bed if you have to spend 15 days in the hospital

You won't really know the importance of marriage until you get to some certain age.

Afodot0022:
Am not an advocate of not to get married, one thing I experienced in marriage is that marriage will humble you as a man. Those saying their marriage is sweet and fine is because they are still meeting up to their responsibility, once this is taking away, that your wife will become something else you never imagined. Those that want to get married, take this, don't marry a woman at was brought up by single mother, they eventually end up like their mum. My mother in-law, married 5 men with different kids to different man. What good can you expect from such family of not their daughter later being like her mum. Now we have been separated for 3years and heard she is with another man. That's a pattern she must follow . Marriage has its up and down. Just study the woman you are with very well and notice red flag that can become insure in marriage. Women are very complicated and you need to be sane to deal with their shenanigans

Onegai:
Bros, how far? How are you and your daughters?

Hmmmmm.

This your matter, it's still fixable. If you want your marriage back and even better, it cane be done. You need to swallow your pride, wash it down with a good dose of humility.

Because there's nothing out there. Trust me. God doesn't make mistakes. He didn't make one with you.

I really want to see you in your marriage flourishing, your children surrounding your table.

And it is possible. But you have to discard everything you know and follow the way of the Cross. And it will be painful but God's glory won't depart from you ever again.

Next time you visit the girls, ask their mum to sit with you and calmly ask how her day/week went. Be a very good and open father, communication should be cranked to the max between you and your wife but don't mention reconciliation. Just talk about anything under the sun. Ignore whatever you hear or see outside (truth is, your wife isn't probably happy but you kicked her out/she moved out, started dating and moved in with another woman, then wifey tried to reconcile and you were prideful so she gave up hope and is making the best out of what life has handed her).

Na man you be and Man dey fix wetin im break. And in doing so, you can become the greatest man ever.

I take God beg you, don't listen to damaged people here will be motivated to ginger you to harden your heart and listen to your pride. They're not going to be there when you're 60 and another man is dancing with your daughter on her wedding day and you're attending it as guest, not father. Or worse, you don't show up. I want you to be 60 and watching tv peacefully with that woman,your girls disturbing you for money and asking you if you've eaten. That's my prayer for you.

Dogalmighty17:
You didn't see where he said his wife has moved in with another man?

MarkNsukkaBread:
What's the correlation between the points you raised and Godwin Emefiele's pic that you posted here?