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Hello guys,
I don't know if anybody does this. Since I started a family a little over 5 years ago, subconsciously, I wake up almost every hour to go round and check my wife and son. I observe them sleeping, I listen and observe for breathing, most times I give them a nudge (subconsciously) to check if they're still breathing, if they do not respond, my heart start racing in panic mode, I nudge them slightly harder or push or pat them till they move, then my mind settles down again.

I am starting to get worried about this subconscious act, and I don't know how to stop it 😢😢


Does anyone else do this?
Am I doing the right thing or I'm just worried over something that shouldn't be?🤔🤔

i do that alot also…it’s all about love and affection

Almost every hour?? What u are doing means u don't sleep well...
.wait......if u travel leave them for house, how will u cope?? Baba u better relax small......

advanceDNA:
Almost every hour?? What u are doing means u don't sleep well...
.wait......if u travel leave them for house, how will u cope?? Baba u better relax small......

Whenever they're not around, I sleep better. But immediately I wake up, I turn on my phone to check in on them before saying my prayers.

afangsoup:
Whenever they're not around, I sleep better. But immediately I wake up, I turn on my phone to check in on them before saying my prayers.

....might be psychological, rooted in past experience.......I dated a girl in year two whose twin sister died in her sleep beside her....
A couple of times she spent the night, she will start tapping me anytime she wakes up seeing me sleeping chest up... Apparentlythats the same position her sister was when she saw her lifeless beside her...

My grandfather used to do it. I wonder how he coped with forty children. My father doesn’t. He tried the habit at one point. It didn’t last long. He burned out. I will find out in future whether I will do so. I highly doubt because I love my sleep more than anything.

I do it as well, it is the duty of every responsible husband and father to always worry about the wellbeing of his family, cos you are the physical form of God they rely on for everything.

Na waa, we are learning everyday.... Me I can't be waking up every hour to check on the children.... Me self na somebody pikin

advanceDNA:
....might be psychological, rooted in past experience.......I dated a girl in year two whose twin sister died in her sleep beside her....
A couple of times she spent the night, she will start tapping me anytime she wakes up seeing me sleeping chest up... Apparentlythats the same position her sister was when she saw her lifeless beside her...

I don't have such past experience.

afangsoup:
Hello guys,
I don't know if anybody does this. Since I started a family a little over 5 years ago, subconsciously, I wake up almost every hour to go round and check my wife and son. I observe them sleeping, I listen and observe for breathing, most times I give them a nudge (subconsciously) to check if they're still breathing, if they do not respond, my heart start racing in panic mode, I nudge them slightly harder or push or pat them till they move, then my mind settles down again.

I am starting to get worried about this subconscious act, and I don't know how to stop it 😢😢


Does anyone else do this?
Am I doing the right thing or I'm just worried over something that shouldn't be?🤔🤔

You will be the first to die, they will continue to live sleep well and enjoy whatever you leave behind

Consequently you are not sleeping well, you are under stress and living in fear and whatever you fear most will eventually come upon you

So stop that nonsense sleep well and learn to pray cuz your constant checking cannot stop any spiritual attack only your prayers can

Long life is your portion!

2aces:
I do it as well, it is the duty of every responsible husband and father to always worry about the wellbeing of his family, cos you are the physical form of God they rely on for everything.

Not to brag, but they totally depend and rely on me for everything.

oloriooko:
You will be the first to die, they will continue to live sleep well and enjoy whatever you leave behind

Consequently you are not sleeping well, you are under stress and living in fear and whatever you fear most will eventually come upon you

So stop that nonsense sleep well and learn to pray cuz your constant checking cannot stop any spiritual attack only your prayers can

Long life is your portion!

Very soon we go fight
E remain 99 years for me for this Earth sha.

As much as it sounds loving n protective which aint a bad thing - That sounds like OCD.

Crazy part. I do same too with my family

I dey even wake up to confirm if i turn off all lights. Lights wey be say na me off am ooo.

I go still wake check.

Door wey e sure 4me die say i lock
I'll wake up gbiiiiim like 1am to confirm.

Freaking OCD. Obsessive compulsive disorder.

Its not bad thing. No make d disorder fear you. 😂 😂.

Whites creating names for everything

afangsoup:
✓ Hello guys,
I don't know if anybody does this. Since I started a family a little over 5 years ago, subconsciously, I wake up almost every hour to go round and check my wife and son. I observe them sleeping, I listen and observe for breathing, most times I give them a nudge (subconsciously) to check if they're still breathing, if they do not respond, my heart start racing in panic mode, I nudge them slightly harder or push or pat them till they move, then my mind settles down again.
I am starting to get worried about this subconscious act, and I don't know how to stop it 😢😢 Does anyone else do this? Am I doing the right thing or I'm just worried over something that shouldn't be?🤔🤔

The act is fueled by anxiety. And if you feel it is subconscious, that implies the anxiety may have gone untreated for a long time now. I suggest you make an appointment with a professional mental health therapist asap. And get on track to treating that behavior before it balloons to something else.

This one na normal instinct for men nah. Too many oestrogens in our foods that reduced manliness is what made this look strange.
Our ancestors protected their many wives and children by going round the compound with machete in hand in the night while the women and children slept to defend against invaders.

afangsoup:
Very soon we go fight
E remain 99 years for me for this Earth sha.

It's a precautionary statement, I don't literally mean it bro
So if you want to live long reconsider your unhealthy habits bro
Wish you the best

Too extreme in my opinion. I don't wake up every hour and disrupt my sleep which I need importantly.

The upside is once I'm past the REM phase, I wake easily in response to any strange sound. I also ensure all security measures are put in place before sleeping.

If I don't take care of myself, how will I take care of my family?

Walai:
This one na normal instinct for men nah. Too many oestrogens in our foods that reduced manliness is what made this look strange.
Our ancestors protected their many wives and children by going round the compound with machete in hand in the night while the women and children slept to defend against invaders.

Matchete in hand right. Goodluck defending against 20 robbers in one night.

afangsoup:
Not to brag, but they totally depend and rely on me for everything.

That's more than enough reason to brag my man, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, your first and second duty to your family is provision and protection, even lower animals know this way better than some of us humans, and when you have consistent anxiety about their wellbeing it's just your natural protective instinct kicking in, so put your mind at easy chief, everything will gradually reduce as your living conditions improve.

afangsoup:
I don't have such past experience.

Maybe not you personally but someone you know, or you heard about it, read about it or someone said something about it in the past and it got stuck in your subconscious. It happens.

Now imagine what it feels like to be the creator of the universe... You feel the light love and joy, therefore, you are God.

Walai:
✓ This one na normal instinct for men nah. Too many oestrogens in our foods that reduced manliness is what made this look strange.
✓ Our ancestors protected their many wives and children by going round the compound with machete in hand in the night while the women and children slept to defend against invaders.

It is not a normal instinct for either the men or women who do it. It is linked to fear and lack of control. That could all lead to serious medical problems if left untreated.

2. Your ancestors protected their many wives and children yet records have it that killing of wives and children were common place during the time of these same ancestors? Come on naw! Make una dey lie small small...😩😩😩

I don't know your ancestors but my own ancestors protected their household every night and there was no single day women and children were killed all through our thousands years old history aside men who died in wars.
FYI, these men never slept like cowards yet none of them died below the age of 90.
Like I said, I don't know who your ancestors are but my own ancestors were brave men

Kobojunkie:
It is not a normal instinct for either the men or women who do it. It is linked to fear and lack of control. That could all lead to serious medical problems if left untreated.

2. Your ancestors protected their many wives and children yet records have it that killing of wives and children were common place during the time of these same ancestors? Come on naw! Make una dey lie small small...😩😩😩

Walai:
✓ I don't know your ancestors but my own ancestors protected their household every night and there was no single day women and children were killed all through our thousands years old history aside men who died in wars.
FYI, these men never slept like cowards yet none of them died below the age of 90.
Like I said, I don't know who your ancestors are but my own ancestors were brave men

Africans and story/fabu-telling are indeed inseparable! 🙄🙄🙄

Wow!!! You are a real man both physically and spiritually. Its a rare virtuous, please don't lose it

Walai:
This one na normal instinct for men nah. Too many oestrogens in our foods that reduced manliness is what made this look strange.
Our ancestors protected their many wives and children by going round the compound with machete in hand in the night while the women and children slept to defend against invaders.

Please can you give examples of the food with estrogen that has reduced manliness?

Awwwwww 🫂

If you are eating any processed food then you are a victim .
If you taking GMO products, otilor. You go turn to Funke in man skin

Esthered:
Please can you give examples of the food with estrogen that has reduced manliness?

Walai:
If you are eating any processed food then you are a victim .
If you taking GMO products, otilor. You go turn to Funke in man skin

You're very funny 😁 😂 😀 😄 😆 🤣

Walai:
If you are eating any processed food then you are a victim . If you taking GMO products, otilor. You go turn to Funke in man skin

. The delusion is indeed strong with this one. 🙄🙄🙄

afangsoup:
Not to brag, but they totally depend and rely on me for everything.

I love this reply

I do that too
...adjust fan or AC ....cover dem up.....rearrange kung-fu styles......one leg close to the other's mouth.....head bent in taekwondo format.........nice moments