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afangsoup:
Hello guys,
I don't know if anybody does this. Since I started a family a little over 5 years ago, subconsciously, I wake up almost every hour to go round and check my wife and son. I observe them sleeping, I listen and observe for breathing, most times I give them a nudge (subconsciously) to check if they're still breathing, if they do not respond, my heart start racing in panic mode, I nudge them slightly harder or push or pat them till they move, then my mind settles down again.

I am starting to get worried about this subconscious act, and I don't know how to stop it 😢😢


Does anyone else do this?
Am I doing the right thing or I'm just worried over something that shouldn't be?🤔🤔

Don't worry, you'd outgrow it. I had this habit, though I only checked my kids only.

afangsoup:
Hello guys,
I don't know if anybody does this. Since I started a family a little over 5 years ago, subconsciously, I wake up almost every hour to go round and check my wife and son. I observe them sleeping, I listen and observe for breathing, most times I give them a nudge (subconsciously) to check if they're still breathing, if they do not respond, my heart start racing in panic mode, I nudge them slightly harder or push or pat them till they move, then my mind settles down again.

I am starting to get worried about this subconscious act, and I don't know how to stop it 😢😢


Does anyone else do this?
Am I doing the right thing or I'm just worried over something that shouldn't be?🤔🤔

Every hour is too much and means you don't rest well.

Get closer to God and banish the spirit of fear.

Except God watches a city, the watchmen watcheth in vain.

It is well with you.

The day death will take your life who will check them for you? Worry not my brother , for the 5 years you engaged in this exercise what has it changed ? Nothing !! You only bring worry and anxiety to your self ! Best advise
Desist from such action and consider my first question !

Ganjafama:
Don't worry, you'd outgrow it. I had this habit, though I only checked my kids only.

Don't lie to him about such things. Many people don't outgrow but eventually die from complications caused by such anxieties. Heart attack/stroke no be anybody mate.

obojememe:
i do that alot also…it’s all about love and affection

Anxiety— or maybe panic disorder— no be love and affection. Na mental illness e be!

Kobojunkie:
Anxiety— or maybe panic disorder— no be love and affection. Na mental illness e be !

Your choice of words are bad and insulting to say the least.

afangsoup:
➜Your choice of words are bad and insulting to say the least.

The truth is bitter! Also, there is nothing bad or insulting about mental illness... we all run up against it at some point or another in life. Knowing to properly address it is one of the major keys to healthy living.

afangsoup:
I don't have such past experience.

Then, what it the root cause?

Anxiety does not just happen.

That is the purpose of a man in the family,to protect and provide security for the family.

Kobojunkie:
Anxiety— or maybe panic disorder— no be love and affection. Na mental illness e be!

well ,perspective…i feel good and grateful when i gaze over my family sleeping peacefully and say prayers and nothing much

obojememe:
➜well ,perspective…i feel good and grateful when i gaze over my family sleeping peacefully and say prayers and nothing much

. Did you bother reading the OP at all before suggesting anxiety is a question of perspective?

P.S. Prayers are meaningless when it comes to anxiety, as anxiety is generally at the core of your many prayers. Yes, the reason people turn to things like prayer is mainly because of anxiety over one thing or another in their lives. Anxiety is an emotion that is best tackled head-on, not avoided.

Kobojunkie:
. Did you bother reading the OP at all before suggesting anxiety is a question of perspective?

P.S. Prayers are meaningless when it comes to anxiety, as anxiety is generally at the core of your many prayers. Yes, the reason people turn to things like prayer is mainly because of anxiety over one thing or another in their lives. Anxiety is an emotion that is best tackled head-on, not avoided.

i aint anxious about anything, it’s always a graceful moment to me, d op might be anxious when he does but it’s all good here, nothing to be anxious about , al glory of the infinite intelligence

obojememe:
➜i aint anxious about anything, ...

This thread is about the OP, who honestly came revealing a problem that exists and wanting suggestions on how to move forward in resolving it.

Kobojunkie:
This thread is about the OP, who honestly came asking for suggestions.

you right about that, i only commented based my own view , cos i cant relate with d op so i derailed d thread

Kobojunkie:
. Did you bother reading the OP at all before suggesting anxiety is a question of perspective?

P.S. Prayers are meaningless when it comes to anxiety, as anxiety is generally at the core of your many prayers. Yes, the reason people turn to things like prayer is mainly because of anxiety over one thing or another in their lives. Anxiety is an emotion that is best tackled head-on, not avoided.

i like your view on anxiety, may God continue to increase u in knowledge