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Hi Nairaland, I need advice.

A friend of mine gave me a girl’s number — she’s in my church, and I like her. I’ve already sent her a message:

> “Hey, a friend passed me your contact. Thought I’d say hi. How’s your week going?”



She replied “fine,” and I want to make sure I stay confident, grounded, and not needy. I don’t want to come off as over-flirty or desperate, but I’d like to spark interest naturally.

I also want to handle this in a way that’s emotionally intelligent and high-frame.

Nairalanders, how would you reply to her “fine” in a way that is casual, confident, and subtly interesting?

Introduce yourself. Tell her who gave you the number and state your interest.

I’m heartbreaker, Tomi gave me your number, I will like to be a friend/ I would like to take you out/ I would like to get to know you better etc.

Her response of just ‘fine’ shows she wants you to talk more or she’s just not interested. So if she still isn’t responsive after talking more then she isn’t interested. Or you could just approach her at church.

Just do whatever u want. She if misbehave, just look elsewhere

Do what you can do,if she wants you she'll come around.

Did the gal know that you are the one chatting with her ?? And do you know maybe she is dating anyone in church ? If not, start by be friendly with her first as time moving on tell her what you want from her and have it in mind that she will not said yes the first day oo

Her "fine" response shows no curiosity or interest...

If you are in the same church approach her physically!

Ask her for a date in one nice restaurant so you guys can get to know each other better. Note: most women won't reject a date in a nice restaurant and that doesn't mean they will accept whatever you are willing to offer, but they will eat your food and atleast answer one or two questions. If you like someone so much sometimes you don't even care if they chop your money

If you don't have money to waste don't bother starting any relationship, its not a good ROI

Na nairaland go still help you chat girl
Na wa o

heartbraker:
Hi Nairaland, I need advice.

A friend of mine gave me a girl’s number — she’s in my church, and I like her. I’ve already sent her a message:

> “Hey, a friend passed me your contact. Thought I’d say hi. How’s your week going?”



She replied “fine,” and I want to make sure I stay confident, grounded, and not needy. I don’t want to come off as over-flirty or desperate, but I’d like to spark interest naturally.

I also want to handle this in a way that’s emotionally intelligent and high-frame.

Nairalanders, how would you reply to her “fine” in a way that is casual, confident, and subtly interesting?

You want to add unnecessary problems to your life.
How old are you?
Are you comfortable?
Have you built your own house?
Those creatures can look sweet but ...

Fekumzi123:
You want to add unnecessary problems to your life.
How old are you?
Are you comfortable?
Have you built your own house?
Those creatures can look sweet but ...

No truer words.......

Introduce yourself and tell her all your reason for being in her dm,I want to assume you are not both young…
So let it cat out and deal with your rejection before your feelings consumes you

That "fine" means she's not interested in whatever nonse.nse you wanted to say. There'll be no need for you to continually embarrass yourself trying to elongate the discussion.

My advice is for u to tell your friend that she should call the lady and tell r that she gave r number to a friend and the guy has interest in her. This situtaion will eliminate time wastage and also aid in passing across your message without you wasting your time. Truth is your friend should have told r about it before giving out r number to you. This will make u to know ur stand and also shows if she has interest or not. I learnt this from the street. In fact i go tell u say make u tell the woman say i love ham

In this century, you don't know how to walk up to a girl and talk to her or charm her with what you are made of.


Let the people advising you to keep fooling you.

Ok

OP first mistake u made is collecting her number from your friend. Ur approach isn't manly fr. Stop chatting her and talk to her in person , like a one on one convo , don't talk too much tho , just tell her u really like her but the church isn't an appropriate place to get to talk more so u would love for u guys to have a more detailed conversation somewhere else , pick a date and a place and boom...

Bad boy Tips : don't ask would u be free at so so time or day , instead just pick a date and a time. She would love Ur authoritative energy girls always do.

Be confident and nonchalant , keep a awesome balance between both , don't be a sissy. Don't flirt until she's comfortable.
Also study her body language very well, make eye contact. You are the prize ,remember, so better act like one.

Don’t be a creep. Walk up to her instead and strike up a conversation.

Aside introducing yourself, learn to ask open ended question. Moreso get to meet her physically to express yourself. Moreso don't act desperate.

brain54:
Her "fine" response shows no curiosity or interest...

If you are in the same church approach her physically!

From the reply, I would abort mission. When she sees me acting like I wasn’t even the one that messaged her, she'd even be the one to come ask questions (if there's a way there in the first place).

EmperorIsaac:
From the reply, I would abort mission. When she sees me acting like I wasn’t even the one that messaged her, she'd even be the one to come ask questions (if there's a way there in the first place).

She probably doesn't know he is the one that sent the message...

That's why I said she didn't show interest to know who it was.

At least person suppose show curiosity, like who are you. Where did you get my number. Who is your friend... that sort of thing!

eazzzy1:
Introduce yourself. Tell her who gave you the number and state your interest.

I’m heartbreaker, Tomi gave me your number, I will like to be a friend/ I would like to take you out/ I would like to get to know you better etc.

Her response of just ‘fine’ shows she wants you to talk more or she’s just not interested. So if she still isn’t responsive after talking more then she isn’t interested. Or you could just approach her at church.

wow..... You guys won't kill us.

MikeofKd:
OP first mistake u made is collecting her number from your friend. Ur approach isn't manly fr. Stop chatting her and talk to her in person , like a one on one convo , don't talk too much tho , just tell her u really like her but the church isn't an appropriate place to get to talk more so u would love for u guys to have a more detailed conversation somewhere else , pick a date and a place and boom...

Bad boy Tips : don't ask would u be free at so so time or day , instead just pick a date and a time. She would love Ur authoritative energy girls always do.

Be confident and nonchalant , keep a awesome balance between both , don't be a sissy. Don't flirt until she's comfortable.
Also study her body language very well, make eye contact. You are the prize ,remember, so better act like one.

mennnnnnnn you too much girls in your area are in trouble. Look at how I'm smiling at your write-ups

The babe dey work for jamb?

Don't go tru someone..after church see her and talk to her..hey I have been seeing your around in church..I am so so and so and state what you want...friendship.. relationship and all.

heartbraker:
Hi Nairaland, I need advice.

A friend of mine gave me a girl’s number — she’s in my church, and I like her. I’ve already sent her a message:

> “Hey, a friend passed me your contact. Thought I’d say hi. How’s your week going?”



She replied “fine,” and I want to make sure I stay confident, grounded, and not needy. I don’t want to come off as over-flirty or desperate, but I’d like to spark interest naturally.

I also want to handle this in a way that’s emotionally intelligent and high-frame.

Nairalanders, how would you reply to her “fine” in a way that is casual, confident, and subtly interesting?

How old are you? Idle soul!

You see reason why they say no knowledge is lost? Had it been you had it done in the past before you become chuchy , it won't be difficult. Just study her to know how she would like to be socialized for example if she is a good church girl and not a pretender just know you will have to approach her from that dimension but if she's a pretender then go like a nigger would woo a girl he find charming .

heartbraker:
Hi Nairaland, I need advice.

A friend of mine gave me a girl’s number — she’s in my church, and I like her. I’ve already sent her a message:

> “Hey, a friend passed me your contact. Thought I’d say hi. How’s your week going?”



She replied “fine,” and I want to make sure I stay confident, grounded, and not needy. I don’t want to come off as over-flirty or desperate, but I’d like to spark interest naturally.

I also want to handle this in a way that’s emotionally intelligent and high-frame.

Nairalanders, how would you reply to her “fine” in a way that is casual, confident, and subtly interesting?

"AI" will help you

If you don't know how to go about it, then I'll show you the right words to use.

The *FINE* has a silent *Fk off *encrypted in it ..
The rest of your epistle shall be met with monosyllables..

.sorry in advance ..

Like someone opined, go follow her talk one on one..

heartbraker:
Hi Nairaland, I need advice.

A friend of mine gave me a girl’s number — she’s in my church, and I like her. I’ve already sent her a message:

> “Hey, a friend passed me your contact. Thought I’d say hi. How’s your week going?”



She replied “fine,” and I want to make sure I stay confident, grounded, and not needy. I don’t want to come off as over-flirty or desperate, but I’d like to spark interest naturally.

I also want to handle this in a way that’s emotionally intelligent and high-frame.

Nairalanders, how would you reply to her “fine” in a way that is casual, confident, and subtly interesting?

I guess it's the nairalanders that would also help you wen u want to take her to bed, they will help you, the right amount to spend on her, to sustain the relationship etc

If you are not yet mature to ask a girl out, you should wait for right time ok