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Earthscience:
You crack my ribs with the bolded sis.
Honestly some of the comments on this forum nowadays point to low level of maturity of some of the members.

That's just the truth.
Because I really don't understand some persons here

Nlfpmod Seun Mynd44 Lalasticlala Fergie

Pls move to front page

Nothing much to say besides your bro chose the wrong girl from the start AND/OR messed up the relationship somehow.

Either way, he should ignore her and find someone else. If he forgives her, she'll cheat on him with that same guy and more.

MistyDense:
Again, how do you tell a guy you've dated for two years that you've finally broken up with the guy you cheated with and that you're still Healing that's why you haven't informed him so that he can now accept u back?

Omorr, things dey occur abeg.

My brother hasn't been able to talk to anyone since this incident. As far as I am concerned, I have never seen my brother with any other lady since he started dating this girl. My brother helps her a lot. And I can't understand why she had to cheat. And they even intended getting married next year.

Nlfpmod

Sexual healing is very stubborn to heal. It takes years to heal.

TOPCRUISE:
Sexual healing is very stubborn to heal. It takes years to heal.

I'm not sure u understood the post

Rizzputin:
Nothing much to say besides your bro chose the wrong girl from the start AND/OR messed up the relationship somehow.

Either way, he should ignore her and find someone else. If he forgives her, she'll cheat on him with that same guy and more.

The way some of you talk like you "know it all" is really puzzling and baffling, to say the least.

How would you know you've chosen the wrong woman from the onset?

Based on the story, how did he mess up. Mess up in what aspect?

MistyDense:
The way some of you talk like you "know it all" is really puzzling and baffling, to say the least.

How would you know you've chosen the wrong woman from the onset?

Based on the story, how did he mess up. Mess up in what aspect?

Well, let's just say I've been around the block. And women while sweet can be puzzling for most men.

Anyways, there are two main reasons why relationships fail: 1) Wrong woman 2) Bad leadership/relationship skills from the man

Nothing else compares to this. Your brother most likely falls in both categories given his reaction. However, I'll highlight both paths so you can understand


------ Wrong woman. This one is the more straightforward of the two. I've coached men for years... and has my fair share of wonderful women.... Most times when a guy says "I've found the right girl" it's NOT the case. Nothing will set a man up for failure in a relationship faster than choosing the wrong girl.

Now I'm not clear on the specifics that's why I said "probably" BUT there were most likely red flags he chose to ignore from the onset. Maybe he overlooked or felt "things will get better" Well, they never do. One red flag builds up to many more until they drag the relationship to its inevitable end. Some time this week... I'll write a thread on traits of a wrong woman. But for now, let's move to the next


----- Bad Relationship/Leadership skills. What most men don't realise is women want and LOVE to be understood. They like a man that just "gets" it. They love to feel desired and all the emotions that come with being with a man who KNOWS what he's doing. When this is lacking or missing, she cheats both emotionally and sexually.

Two years is the timeline in woman's mind where she starts to assess the man and the relationship... are her needs being met? (Both emotionally, mentally and sexually) Does she feel this man really gets her on a deeper level? If the answer is no to ANY of them... she starts checking out of the relationship mentally.


Most men assume because they have the right woman or any woman at all that they can now "relax" But women want reassurance that she chose the sweetest man from her. This reassurance is not with words per se but actions.

One of the most common complaints I hear from guys after their girl cheats is "but I did everything for her. She never lacked anything" What this men fail to realize is that those things he did are what HE THINKS will keep the relationship or what he thinks she wants. So he neglects her emotions her desires and even worse her body and sexual needs. The result of this? She finds someone who can meet them

Whenever women use the word "HEALING" it means one thing: Something was missing. A deep emotional, mental and sexual wound. That's why I can almost guarantee there are so many things your brother did wrong

She wants to heal from the other guy because he was satisfying a missing need or a hole in her. A need that your brother failed to do. Now, that she's "claiming" she wants to leave him... she's just trying to find a way to live with those needs and trap your brother in marriage. When she does that, she'll want "healing"again and look for that guy or another guy


The best bet for men is to recognize their woman's desires and needs... listen to her so she feels heard and understood. Only then will they have a healthier fulfilling relationship with women they love

youngsahito:
I hope your bro is taking good care of her financially cos that's the excuse they will give. I went to the oda guy for help

the brother na her papa