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Is there a pastor or counsellor I can share my struggles with

Kavara:
Is there a pastor or counsellor I can share my struggles with

What you instead need is a professional mental health counselor or therapist, not the wackados who, if you did some serious mental digging, may be behind your depression.

Kavara:
Is there a pastor or counsellor I can share my struggles with

What you need is Jesus, he is the world's most wonderful counselor of all time! Isaiah 9:6
Please share your thoughts and feelings let's see what Jesus has to say about it! Matthew 11:28-30

Kobojunkie:
What you instead need is a professional mental health counselor or therapist, not the wackados who, if you did some serious mental digging, may be behind your depression.

Some people may have gone through what I am going through now and generally I am tired of my situations currently and I need change.

I can't really share some here personally because 9f public space but if I can talk to someone it will help

MaxInDHouse:
What you need is Jesus, he is the world's most wonderful counselor of all time! Isaiah 9:6
Please share your thoughts and feelings let's see what Jesus has to say about it! Matthew 11:28-30

Jesus I don't know anymore.

It's a long road for me back but seems I have been fighting the battle myself.

Maybe it's time for me to submit

Kavara:
Is there a pastor or counsellor I can share my struggles with

Do you have friends and family...?

Kavara:
Jesus I don't know anymore.
It's a long road for me back but seems I have been fighting the battle myself.
Maybe it's time for me to submit

You need to know Jesus but not the one churchians are talking about because that's not the real Jesus o!

brain54:
Do you have friends and family...?

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I shared my struggles with one.

He did not even respond.

Like his read receipt on his WhatsApp is off. He would have read it but just ignored


For over two months. Even followed it up with a message.

I guess he will be using it to laugh me.

Kavara:
➜Some people may have gone through what I am going through now and generally I am tired of my situations currently and I need change. I can't really share some here personally because 9f public space but if I can talk to someone it will help

Again, what you is not someone to feed you more lies about your situation at this point, but someone to help you directly identity, accept and attack the real issues at the core of your depression. Only a professional mental health counselor or therapist can properly and adequately help you with this.

MaxInDHouse:
You need to know Jesus but not the one churchians are talking about because that's not the real Jesus o!

Real Jesus?

Kavara:
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I shared my struggles with one.

He did not even respond.

Like his read receipt on his WhatsApp is off. He would have read it but just ignored


For over two months. Even followed it up with a message.

I guess he will be using it to laugh me.

Sorry about that...

Look for someone that is companionate, non judgemental and empathetic to talk to.

Try not to stay lonely. Don't worry you will be fine!

Kavara:
➜Real Jesus?

The entire religion of Christianity(religion of Islam included) is a grand attempt at impersonating the real Jesus Christ, a man whose blood tied Him only to the children of Israel.

Kavara:
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I shared my struggles with one.
He did not even respond. Like his read receipt on his WhatsApp is off. He would have read it but just ignored. For over two months. Even followed it up with a message. I guess he will be using it to laugh me.

Regarding families and relatives the Bible has this to say:

Do not forsake your friend or your father’s friend, And do not enter your own brother’s house on the day of your disaster; Better is a neighbor nearby than a brother far away. Proverbs 27:10

So it's neighbors you need around you not relatives or families! Luke 10:36

brain54:
Sorry about that...

Look for someone that is companionate, non judgemental and empathetic to talk to.

Try not to stay lonely. Don't worry you will be fine!

It's stillhurt because i opened my all, like my all to him. Even somethings I didn't tell my parents

It's really painful but I just cut him off.

The mistake I made or I felt that if you see someone on your level doing well like extremely prospering legally, Like you know he is not into fraud. I believe they are the right person to meet but it turned out me pouring out everything made him see ne like a wrong person to associate with and he ghosted me.

Kavara:
Real Jesus?

YES!
All you need is read his words carefully, study it diligently, thoroughly meditate and pray fervently on the things you hear and the peace from God will take over from their! Philippians 4:7

MaxInDHouse:
Regarding families and relatives the Bible has this to say:

Do not forsake your friend or your father’s friend, And do not enter your own brother’s house on the day of your disaster; Better is a neighbor nearby than a brother far away. Proverbs 27:10

So it's neighbors you need around you not relatives or families! Luke 10:36

I know my actions may have led me partially to the state I am but I want advise on starting a new life, living right, obedient to parents, change my mindset on financial management and my story's a long story and I can't say all here but I prefer someone anonymous who I don't know or who do not know me because he or she can't judge me

MaxInDHouse:
YES!
All you need is read his words carefully, study it diligently, thoroughly meditate and pray fervently on the things you hear and the peace from God will take over from their! Philippians 4:7

Okay Max

Kavara:
It's stillhurt because i opened my all, like my all to him. Even somethings I didn't tell my parents

It's really painful but I just cut him off.

The mistake I made or I felt that if you see someone on your level doing well like extremely prospering legally, Like you know he is not into fraud. I believe they are the right person to meet but it turned out me pouring out everything made him see ne like a wrong person to associate with and he ghosted me.

Don't let that hold you back...

Forgive him and let go that's the fastest way to get healed of whatever is holding you back.

Don't be lonely so you don't start thinking too much. Hang around trusted friends and family members!

Kavara:
I know my actions may have led me partially to the state I am but I want advise on starting a new life, living right, obedient to parents, change my mindset on financial management and my story's a long story and I can't say all here but I prefer someone anonymous who I don't know or who do not know me because he or she can't judge me

Highlighted is exactly what you need now people that knew you will continue taking you back to what you want to forget because they knew about your past life. Jesus knows everything about you but he will never ever judge you for your past blunders if you are willing to accept counsel!

brain54:
Don't let that hold you back...

Forgive him and let go that's the fastest way to get healed of whatever is holding you back.

Don't be lonely so you don't start thinking too much. Hang around trusted friends and family members!

Thank you. I am lonely though but will find others that I can trust

Kavara:
➜It's stillhurt because i opened my all, like my all to him. Even somethings I didn't tell my parents. It's really painful but I just cut him off.
➜The mistake I made or I felt that if you see someone on your level doing well like extremely prospering legally, Like you know he is not into fraud. I believe they are the right person to meet but it turned out me pouring out everything made him see ne like a wrong person to associate with and he ghosted me.

1. You need to open yourself up completely in order to begin the process of overcoming the shame and guilt you carry, though. Your secrets are not precious unless they are worth their weight in gold.

Go on Reddit or even here on Nairaland, any forum where you can post your story anonymously and pour it all out in entirety. Open yourself to the very same mockery and criticism you have been, all this while afraid of, accepting that all of it is worth facing.

2. That feeling you have of your person— feeling pathetic and worthless when you compare yourself with others — is not unique to you nor invalid at the same time. It is just a feeling you have... signaling the current state of your mind. You say you are depressed, meaning the signals(feelings) your mind will release in that state are mostly negative ones. What you need is to figure out the issues at the core of your loathing of yourself, your inability to see yourself as worthy of life and living even where you are— yes, it is quite possible to be down but not depressed or feeling worthless —, and tackle those directly.

MaxInDHouse:
Highlighted is exactly what you need now people that knew you will continue taking you back to what you want to forget because they knew about your past life. Jesus knows everything about you but he will never ever judge you for your past blunders if you are willing to accept counsel!

Please can you provide me chapters of the Bible that I can seek for God's mercy

Kavara:
Okay Max

First of all i want you to know that you are not alone in this world of mistake makers, we have all committed blunders in the past but what happened is we got help not financially because that's not the real help we need rather wisdom to use whatever we have WISELY!

Kavara:
Please can you provide me chapters of the Bible that I can seek for God's mercy

You really made tears roll down my cheek right now because God has forgiven you right from the moment you felt remorse over your past blunders all He's waiting for you to do now is find your way back to Him for refreshment! Luke 15:17-24

So cheer up and let's discuss heart to heart, let's see how Jesus is going to help you!

Kobojunkie:
1. You need to open yourself up completely in order to begin the process of overcoming the shame and guilt you carry, though. Your secrets are not precious unless they are worth their weight in gold.

Go on Reddit or even here on Nairaland, any forum where you can post your story anonymously and pour it all out in entirety. Open yourself to the very same mockery and criticism you have been, all this while afraid of, accepting that all of it is worth facing.

2. That feeling you have of your person— feeling pathetic and worthless when you compare yourself with others — is not unique to you nor invalid at the same time. It is just a feeling you have... signaling the current state of your mind. You say you are depressed, meaning the signals(feelings) your mind will release in that state are mostly negative ones. What you need is to figure out the issues at the core of your loathing of yourself, your inability to see yourself as worthy of life and living even where you are— yes, it is quite possible to be down but not depressed or feeling worthless —, and tackle those directly.

I understand

MaxInDHouse:
You really made tears roll down my cheek right now because God has forgiven you right from the moment you felt remorse over your past blunders all He's waiting for you to do now is find your way back to Him for refreshment! Luke 15:17-24

So cheer up and let's discuss heart to heart, let's see how Jesus is going to help you!

My past actions are quite weighty and I need advise on what to do, how to destitute some ways.

I will GP through the chapters

Kavara:
➜I understand

. Bravery is the way to win against depression. Face your fears and your vulnerabilities, knowing that the 10s of 1000s of people out there are in the same shoes you are right now with depression, and like you, they put all of their shame into hiding their shame and guilt well. So, do you wish to continue living like that or would you rather free yourself from all of that worthless turmoil and self-torture?

Kobojunkie:
. Bravery is the way to win against depression. Face your fears and your vulnerabilities, knowing that the 10s of 1000s of people out there are in the same shoes you are right now with depression, and like you, they put all of their shame into hiding their shame and guilt well. So, do you wish to continue living like that or would you rather free yourself from all of that worthless turmoil and self-torture?

I understand everyone has challenges and fears
I look to God as I have been fighting the battles on my own.

It's time to do something different

Kavara:
My past actions are quite weighty and I need advise on what to do, how to destitute some ways.
I will GP through the chapters

Please the highlighted is an insult on the true God because you are just another son of Adam who inherited sin, suffering and death through Adam and that's what has been the driving force leading you into doing what breaks you now.

This is what servants of the true God says:

Jehovah is merciful and compassionate, Slow to anger and abundant in loyal love. He will not always find fault, Nor will he stay resentful forever. He has not dealt with us according to our sins, Nor has he repaid us what our errors deserve. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So great is his loyal love toward those who fear him. As far off as the sunrise is from the sunset, So far off from us he has put our transgressions. As a father shows mercy to his sons, Jehovah has shown mercy to those who fear him. For he well knows how we are formed, Remembering that we are dust. Psalms 103:8-14

So clean up your tears and put away your sorrow because the true God will not continue to remember your blunders once you are willing to make amendments!

MaxInDHouse:
Please the highlighted is an insult on the true God because you are just another son of Adam who inherited sin, suffering and death through Adam and that's what has been the driving force leading you into doing what breaks you now.

This is what servants of the true God says:

Jehovah is merciful and compassionate, Slow to anger and abundant in loyal love. He will not always find fault, Nor will he stay resentful forever. He has not dealt with us according to our sins, Nor has he repaid us what our errors deserve. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So great is his loyal love toward those who fear him. As far off as the sunrise is from the sunset, So far off from us he has put our transgressions. As a father shows mercy to his sons, Jehovah has shown mercy to those who fear him. For he well knows how we are formed, Remembering that we are dust. Psalms 103:8-14

So clean up your tears and put away your sorrow because the true God will not continue to remember your blunders once you are willing to make amendments!

You don’t understand why I said so.

I do understand but on the human side, there are restitution I have to do.

Hence the reason

Kavara:
You don’t understand why I said so.
I do understand but on the human side, there are restitution I have to do.
Hence the reason

Why do you think the highlighted is necessary?

MaxInDHouse:
Why do you think the highlighted is necessary?

Because it's the right thing to do. Besides it must be done as the Bible has said owe no man anything.

It's really a lot.