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The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by SpaceMarshall(op): 12:13pm On Sep 21, 2025

Monogamy is praised as the golden model of love, but in practice, it demands that one person become all things at once. The wife must be a saint in prayer, a seductress in bed, a counselor of wisdom, a chef of distinction, a mother without fatigue, and a lifelong companion with unchanging appeal. No mortal can carry that burden without cracks showing.

Polygamy, by contrast, historically functioned as a distribution system. It acknowledged that no single woman could embody every fantasy and every virtue. Instead of crushing one wife under the weight of impossible expectations, roles were spread across several women. In this sense, polygamy was not only about a man’s desire — it was also about a woman’s survival. A way to ensure that her shortcomings in one area did not make her disposable.

The modern world hides this truth under polite silence. The result? Wives burn out trying to be everything, and husbands grow bitter when their fantasies collapse against reality. Affairs bloom, resentment festers, families fracture. Monogamy is not merely a vow of love; it is a vow of sacrifice. And like all sacrifices, it demands honesty: either embrace its limits with maturity, or admit that the human heart is too vast for one body to contain.

-Abraham Ikongshul

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Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by tanigororo: 2:02am On Sep 22, 2025

The Society only point out the dark history of polygamy, the annoying part is most of them has never experience polygamy before yet them condemn it.
The Major antagonist of polygamy are women.

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Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by Kobojunkie: 2:15am On Sep 22, 2025

SpaceMarshall:
➜The modern world hides this truth under polite silence. The result? Wives burn out trying to be everything, and husbands grow bitter when their fantasies collapse against reality. Affairs bloom, resentment festers, families fracture. Monogamy is not merely a vow of love; it is a vow of sacrifice. And like all sacrifices, it demands honesty: either embrace its limits with maturity, or admit that the human heart is too vast for one body to contain.

Are you literally trying to convince us that in polygamous settings, wives don't burn out and husbands don't grow bitter? This reads more like something someone who has never experienced polygamy first hand would come up with, though. undecided

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Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by Kobojunkie: 2:19am On Sep 22, 2025

tanigororo:
➜The Society only point out the dark history of polygamy, the annoying part is most of them has never experience polygamy before yet them condemn it. The Major antagonist of polygamy are women.

Interesting statement! undecided

Polygamy cannot work without women, unless you are, of course, advocating for men to have multiple male partners. If men cannot have polygamy without the consent of women, and these women are literally saying that they do not want polygamy, how can it then be argued that polygamy is of benefit to the women? Or is polygamy all about fulfilling the man's fantasies at the expense of the women? undecided

Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by Cousin9999: 4:01am On Sep 22, 2025

Plenty of men whine about dealing with one partner and a couple kids. Imagine them with two and three, and a dozen kids.

Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by Double0h7(f): 4:06am On Sep 22, 2025

So one man can be all things to all those women? Men are such “interesting” creatures! It never goes past their stomachs and loins. Women are but tools to them.

Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by DoGoodingGuy(m): 5:32am On Sep 22, 2025

Kobojunkie:
Interesting statement!

Polygamy cannot work without women, unless you are, of course, advocating for men to have multiple male partners. If men cannot have polygamy without the consent of women, and these women are literally saying that they do not want polygamy, how can it then be argued that polygamy is of benefit to the women? Or is polygamy all about fulfilling the man's fantasies at the expense of the women?

It's a man's world, deal with it!

Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by koladata(m): 6:03am On Sep 22, 2025

They will come for your head, braise for impact o. I just hope women knows polygamy is best for them than monogamy.

Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by tanigororo: 10:55am On Sep 22, 2025

Kobojunkie:
Interesting statement!

Polygamy cannot work without women, unless you are, of course, advocating for men to have multiple male partners. If men cannot have polygamy without the consent of women, and these women are literally saying that they do not want polygamy, how can it then be argued that polygamy is of benefit to the women? Or is polygamy all about fulfilling the man's fantasies at the expense of the women?

Let the woman fill their own fantasies, who cares.
Those who don't want be polygamy can opt out or go away, it's a free world.
If you don't want, don't antagonise it.

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Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by Kobojunkie: 2:24pm On Sep 22, 2025

DoGoodingGuy:
✓ It's a man's world, deal with it!

Since women are against polygamy, then men should engage their fellow men in polygamous marriage closed. undecided

Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by Kobojunkie: 2:27pm On Sep 22, 2025

tanigororo:
✓ Let the woman fill their own fantasies, who cares. Those who don't want be polygamy can opt out or go away, it's a free world. If you don't want, don't antagonise it.

Ah ah! You made clear that those against polygamy are women implying women do not have any polygamous fantasies that benefit them. So, why not engage your fellow men who all seem to have polygamous fantasies in polygamous marriage then? I don't know of even one woman who would stand against men freely engaging in that. 😩😩😩

Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by PolyGamous(m): 3:51pm On Sep 22, 2025

I believe neither of the two type marriages is basically after the pleasure that comes from it or the responsibility that comes with it, but for some reason that has to do with productivity. Before we came in contact with the civilization (western education and foreign religion), our ancestors marry and have children base on their productivity. A man with multiple wives has more farming land than those with lesser. Population is an asset for a nation that is productive and a liability for those that only consume, the west has forever been trying their best to bring population down across the continent for some personal interest (neither of the religion preached against having multiple wives) by spreading so many operations and one of them is sponsoring homosexuality in Africa with so much money, which has backfired and they are doing so much to get on track again. One of the thing Elon musk and Charlie Kirk has been encouraging people for by fighting against abortions and homosexuality.

Marriage is beyond the responsibilities within homes, it is playing a big role in its environment.

Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by tanigororo: 4:01pm On Sep 22, 2025

Kobojunkie:
Ah ah! You made clear that those against polygamy are women implying women do not have any polygamous fantasies that benefit them. So[b], why not engage your fellow men who all seem to have polygamous fantasies[/b] in polygamous marriage then? I don't know of even one woman who would stand against men freely engaging in that. 😩😩😩

Keep that to yourself

Re: The Myth Of Monogamy’s Perfection by Kobojunkie: 4:12pm On Sep 22, 2025

tanigororo:
➜Keep that to yourself

Keep to myself the notion of men engaging polygamous relationships with other men whom they share polygamous fantasies with? huh

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