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| My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Lamanii22(op): 5:59am On Sep 21, 2025 |
My daughter is four and in nursery 1 but she'd be five 5 by January and would still be in nursery 1, my neighbours are saying her education is slow that I should speak to the school so they can put her in nursery 2... I don't want anything that would disrupt her learning. Should I just let her continue nursery1? Thank you. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Kobojunkie: 6:02am On Sep 21, 2025 |
Lamanii22:What does it matter what your neighbors say when what does is the child learning at a pace that best serves her?  9 Likes |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Onegai(f): 6:52am On Sep 21, 2025 |
Lamanii22:Has she started reading small small? Can she sound out 2 and 3 letter words? Can she identify her numbers and alphabets? Is she talking well, using sentences? Can she use a pair of child-safe scissors to cut paper, can she crayon nicely? Does she follow instructions in class? Can she put on Velcro shoes by herself? In 20 years' time, nobody will care that she was 6 years old in Primary 1. After all, all the "geniuses" in Nigeria cannot beat the average British, American, Singaporean, Korean, Japanese, Chinese or Finnish kid at education. And those ones are usually 6 years old in Grade 1. My son was 6 yrs old in Grade 1, he's being trained to compete internationally at a Robotics competition (he's the Robot Builder, the crucial team member) and his Science skills is at US-level for his grade (at his school, he has to sit out Robotics class because he has surpassed them all). His math skills are amazing. He's already on a strong Engineering path. Nobody cares about his age when he entered Pry 1. My 2+ yr old isn't making full sentences, he can count numbers and assign value to them and build Lego and crayon. His favourite alphabet is letter Z (he dislikes all the other letters). He's in Pre K only because he likes entering the school bus and dancing in class, not that he's supposed to be in school learning anything. Waldorf-trained kids don't even learn how to read till age 7 yet those kids write essays like scholars 3 years after. Focus on your kid learning their phonics and assigning value to numbers (not just learning how to count). Kids aren't even supposed to be in school till 3 and no exams or homework that is graded till 5/6 (Grade 1) 12 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by RealLordZeus(m): 6:55am On Sep 21, 2025 |
Firstly, You should be the one to decide how your child education will be, forget the neighbour matter. You know what are learning ability is and where she should be. Having said that, this private school operators are enemy to the society. You enroll a child at 2-3 years, they placed her in creche, then prep, KG I, KG II, Nur 1 and finally Nur 2 (back then there was even Nur 3). So your child would have spent 5 years before starting primary class, add that to her initial age, such child will now complete primary education at 12-14 years. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Kajaard: 6:58am On Sep 21, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:I support Kobo in this. We listen too much to what people say and in the process of satisfying people you harm yourselves. Let your child go at her own pace. 4 years in KG 1 is not bad. Don't rush the kid. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Chummynoni(m): 7:00am On Sep 21, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:I wonder how most people reason . My neighbor this , my neighbor that . Do what's best for your kid's learning capacity . 6 Likes |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Rexymania(m): 7:05am On Sep 21, 2025 |
The question is, is she catching in that class? 4 Likes |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Houseofglam7(f): 7:32am On Sep 21, 2025 |
Does your neighbor pay the school fees of the child  ? 3 Likes |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Caaz: 8:15am On Sep 21, 2025 |
When your neighbour is a stakeholder in your life 1 Like |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Bahamas95(m): 8:23am On Sep 21, 2025 |
One of the things I will NEVER do is allow what people say get to me. I nor come this life to impress anybody. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by NotOfThisWorld(f): 8:25am On Sep 21, 2025*. Modified: 8:47am On Sep 21, 2025 |
4-year olds here are in junior kindergarten. 5-year olds are in senior kindergarten. 6-year olds are in Grade 1. So, I think your 4-year old daughter that's in nursery 1 there is doing fine, though I'm not sure what nursery 1 there is equivalent to here. You should speak with her teachers, not listen to your nosy neighbour. They're the ones who can and are supposed to give you feedback on how your daughter's doing at school and if she's in the right class for her age. It sounds like she's doing just fine and this isn't something to worry about. 7 Likes |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by advanceDNA: 8:39am On Sep 21, 2025 |
Lamanii22:Baba...no worry urself for now....if she's a sharp brilliant girl........u go catapult am for primary 4 enter jss1.... 1 Like |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by ukaface(f): 9:02am On Sep 21, 2025 |
Lamanii22:Rubbish Better leave your daughter alone Which one is education is slow? Did your neighbours also think of how well she would assimilate? Na so person go Dey see 13 years old in SS3 with no brain for learning. Better leave your child alone. Why should a neighbour even be telling you what to do for your child? Na neighbour get pikin? 3 Likes |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Onegai(f): 9:07am On Sep 21, 2025 |
advanceDNA:Then become average in Secondary school and struggle through university. I'm sorry, but I'm so tired of Nigerian parents, the only reason kids get promoted double class is because: 1. 2 decades and more ago, Nigeria's tertiary system collapsed and strikes became common. So kids were using 6 years for a 4-year course but employers wanted to hire 22 yr olds. Primary school proprietors then introduced "Double Promotion" as a business tool, to attract interested parents by ensuring their kids left Primary school by 8-10. 2. Nigeria is poor and getting poorer, people are cutting cost by jumping classes to pay less school fees. Those kids aren't geniuses. And I hate saying this about children but I barely meet Nigerian kids who get double-promoted who are smashing educational goals I set for them (yes, I teach. I teach STEAM and Literacy with American and Asian curriculums). Oyinbo people that created this time of educational systems we copied don't even do this. We're not smarter than them. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Onegai(f): 9:19am On Sep 21, 2025 |
Lamanii22 Can your 4 year old read this? If she can't, then you need to buy books that are appropriate for her level and sit down with her and READ with her. (I could help buy books and toys, but I prefer you do it yourself please). That's way more important than what class she should be in, Nursery 1 is fine if she can't read that by herself. There's a huge Literacy issue globally, ever since COVID. Kids are struggling to read and comprehension skills are bad. 3 Likes
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| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by advanceDNA: 10:16am On Sep 21, 2025 |
Onegai:ur statement is just an unnecessary fallacy aimed at proving a point....... spending 6 years in primary school isn't a recipe for coping in secondary and University... ..a brilliant child will cope weda they move from class 4, 5 or 6 to Jss1...and that's why I added the clause "if she's brilliant.....some will still struggle even if they spend 7 years..so baba..u nor get point Onegai:u sound like giving kids advantage they will likely need is a crime.... Baba..see....left to proprietors..they want to keep your kids in their school for 6 years to get more money .so double promotion is not a business but to give the above-average students the advantage they deserve ....go look at primary 4 and 5 topics in Nigeria .......it's full of bunch of repetition, that doesn't need two separate session to cover both scheme of work....same for primary 1 and 2....so skipping on class for child that can cope isnt a biggie.. Onegai:oga it's not a bad idea to give your kid the advantage they can get and also cut cost as long as they can cope...but assuming jumping one class will automatically make them struggle is just a truck load of f@llacy and Onegai:Baba...there are different levels of exceptionality in student/individuals ...some are operating with a IQ of well over 180, while some are at 170-160..... u don't have to be Einstein or newton to get double promotion in primary level..u are making double promotion sound like a big deal...not all children even get it.. Onegai:baba....oyinbo does even greater than we do... Many home-school their kids and make them take highschool diploma exams or A level at early age to enter college...go abroad u will see many 13 year old in college and they are not even MIT or Princeton level talents... |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Jozilinn: 11:02am On Sep 21, 2025 |
Lamanii22:just try to keep her more engaged with learning and telling the school about what you want, although it doesn't matter but still try. I believe she can cope in nursery two as well because she might be doing better than most of them there. |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Onegai(f): 12:33pm On Sep 23, 2025*. Modified: 5:24am On Sep 24, 2025 |
advanceDNA I live abroad for over a decade or 2. And my teaching methods are based on their methods abroad because ours isn't great. We produce crammers and then an occasional brilliant child. This becomes more pronounced when our kids grow up and go abroad to school. Sure, you'll hear about one Nigerian superstar kid doing feats here and there, but that is like holding up a picture of Tobi Amusan and proudly declaring that Nigeria is a great sporting nation with many medals and trophies. Jumping any class in Elementary/Primary school is like amputating Kelechi Iheanacho's left leg, giving him a prosthetic and then telling him to run like Mbappe. And the worst classes to double-promote/jump is Pry 1-4. I can wave jumping Pry 6 but if the child is below 10, please do it. Those classes are the foundation of Primary school and Primary school is the foundation of Secondary school and Secondary school is the bedrock upon which University is built. Kids who don't learn how to read well in Primary school become adults who write terrible essays (which is why GRE/GMAT/TOEFL is killing us here). Kids who are scared of Math become the average Nigerian, poor at Logic. Nigerians teach Math and Science and Literacy in Abstraction (all theory). I sit with my children and teach them Math that they can hold in their hands (we learn Math physically), Science that they can see everyday (I have primary schoolkids using litmus papers and tuning forks, we just did an experiment to learn Contact Friction) and Literacy that is usable and functional yet beautiful. Seriously, I've had parents open up their car engines so I can have their kids count the number of pulleys, when teaching Belt and Pulley systems (Physics). And the kids were 6 yr olds. My 10 yr old does long Division faster than a minute, my 8yr old can explain how gear ratios work, rack and pinion gears, how triangles are the strongest shape in construction for load bearing, I have a 5 yr old student who will run around you shouting that he is recreating the orbit of a planet. That's Astronomy, Physics, Mechanical and Civil Engineering, right there. I don't want my students showing up in University with everything looking like "oyinbo magic", because they weren't taught right from Primary school. And I would love more kids to show up and learn like this. Instead of what we're doing now...which is cramming and passing. I want Nigerian kids to know what their peers in China, USA and UK know. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Acme45: 10:55pm On Oct 01, 2025 |
Why not send her to university straight. |
| Re: My Child Is Currently 4 And In Nursery 1 Is That Appropriate? by Dbeautyy(m): 10:10am On Oct 02, 2025 |
Onegai:Oil dey your head. We Nigerians should migrate far away from: "La cram, la pour." All that you mentioned above should give any kid a very strong foundation to build on, except otherwise. |
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