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How do you love your husband knowing he seems to love his mom more than you — especially when his mom does not like you at all?

bulunton:
Hi married women, how do you love your husband knowing he loves his mom more than you.

This is it if you want to get his love, care so much about his mother too, put it in your plan to always find something to give his mum. Ask him more about his mum, the sacrifices that she made, ask about his dad too and his sibling, focus on asking questions and not making conclusion. You can even plan your questions, may be once every week. Whatever makes your husband happy join him in it too. Before you know it he will handover the matter of his mum to you as if you are her actual daughter, especially when you chose to be giving her money every month no matter how small it is. Then you move on to ask for a favour from him too to reach out to your mum, ask him what you both can do for your mother's. Like I said yours is asking questions, that will lead to decision. Before you know it you will be the one in charge, the man will love you so much because he can trust you enough to remember his source

bulunton:
Hi married women, how do you love your husband knowing he loves his mom more than you.

how do you measure love?
what machine, tool, lab, theory, thesis, hypothesis, scale, parameter, controlled environment, laws did you use?

how do you measure more or less than (quantity) ? in grams, meters, lumen, liters, joules, decibels?

or you just threw all these away and used the ancient tool women love the most.... jealousy.

AllBlack:
how do you measure love?
what machine, tool, lab, theory, thesis, hypothesis, scale, parameter, controlled environment, laws did you use?

how do you measure more or less than (quantity) ? in grams, meters, lumen, liters, joules, decibels?

or you just threw all these away and used the ancient tool women love the most.... jealousy.

How did you measure that the water in your Jerry can is half empty?

He doesn't live with his mother, love shouldn't be about calculating a percentage.

bulunton:
✓How do you love your husband knowing he seems to love his mom more than you — especially when his mom does not like you at all?

A man who loves another woman more than you is already a redflag that a woman should not commit to. There is maybe a woman out there that he can love more than her but that woman is not you. You as a woman will spend all of your days with such a man competing with his mother for his attention. That is a struggle that is not marriage but self made hell.

ayoncox:
✓ This is it if you want to get his love, care so much about his mother too, put it in your plan to always find something to give his mum. Ask him more about his mum, the sacrifices that she made, ask about his dad too and his sibling, focus on asking questions and not making conclusion. You can even plan your questions, may be once every week. Whatever makes your husband happy join him in it too. Before you know it he will handover the matter of his mum to you as if you are her actual daughter, especially when you chose to be giving her money every month no matter how small it is. Then you move on to ask for a favour from him too to reach out to your mum, ask him what you both can do for your mother's. Like I said yours is asking questions, that will lead to decision. Before you know it you will be the one in charge, the man will love you so much because he can trust you enough to remember his source

OP, if you are already in a marriage with this man, do not take this advise. Since you are already aware that your man is a Mama's boy, the worst thing you can do to yourself is try to compete with his mother for his attention. You will be doing your mental health, physical and emotional health as great injustice by such endeavors.

Also, be ready to begin considering leaving of the situation becomes too much for you to bear. Marriage is not a struggle Olympics; there is no medal or award to be won by married people. So, you need to make sure that you always love yourself and care for yourself no matter what.

Here's the harsh truth of all of this: a man or woman who loves his/her mother more than his/her spouse loves their partner less. Trying to compete in with the object or their love will only drain one.

RealityKings1:
✓ He doesn't live with his mother, love shouldn't be about calculating a percentage.

Love between married couples is transactional and in many cases calculated. For instance, an adulterous man gives most of his love to his sidechick and hands tolerance to his wife to comfort her in the relationship. Why shouldn't she equally calculate the love he is worth at that?

Op says her man loves his mother more than he loves her. Assuming he gives 80% of his attention to his mother and only 20% to her. Why shouldn't she do same to protect her mind and self-esteem?

bulunton:
How do you love your husband knowing he seems to love his mom more than you — especially when his mom does not like you at all?

How do you know he loves his mom more than you?
What made you think so?

A man loves his wife differently from how he loves his mother.

Kobojunkie:
A man who loves another woman more than you is already a redflag that a woman should not commit to. There is maybe a woman out there that he can love more than her but that woman is not you. You as a woman will spend all of your days with such a man competing with his mother for his attention. That is a struggle that is not marriage but self made hell.

My mom will always come first if I have to chose

RealityKings1:
✓ My mom will always come first if I have to chose

Just imagine if your other half also feels the same way about her mother and you both had to battle each other over the opinion of your respective mothers. I hope you will also like that.

It's funny how you guys are willing to leave your wives for your mothers while your mothers would never leave your step dads for you, they'd rather let your step dads maltreat you or abandon you with your relatives than leave them for you.

RealityKings1:
My mom will always come first if I have to chose

RealityKings1:
✓ My mom will always come first if I have to chose

It is ok to remain tied to one's mother's apron. However , it might be best to stay completely away from committed relationships with others by that. 🤔

It is one thing for one to have great respect for one's mother and another entirely for one to be tied to one's mother's apron.🤔