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Good morning and a happy weekend to every Nairalander out there..... Hope everyone is doing just fine?

Just this morning,the sad news about the demise of my neighbor who's an okada rider broke out....A young man who was in his early 30's....He had barely finished balancing the motorcycle which he took on a higher purchase price three weeks ago........And we even drank and celebrated with him when the original particulars of the motorcycle were handed over to him.... This was someone whom we joked and laughed as at yesterday morning before I left for my shop,while he also left for his transport work....

Before now,he spoke about him being fed up with the okada work....And how he planned to leave it anytime soon,but had wanted to open a provision shop for his wife....

Now,the real gist about his whole life was that he left behind 5 kids and a wife......All through the times we spent together as neighbors, he was a very hardworking man whom never relented or gave up on his responsibilities as a man....While most of us who were equally into the transportation business were resting,this guy was always on the road, hustling......... Sometimes,whenever we came across each other on the road,there was a popular Mama-Put joint where we used to usually buy beans and yam,and most times just chill up and gist ,I would joke with him like--"Oga Mike,eat better food , because na you dey work the money". But he would shrug it off, saying he can't, because his family were at home and it won't be nice if he should eat without them....

This guy never wore nice clothes......He lived his entire life solely on how to put food on his family table while neglecting his own self.......There were times when even to buy ordinary paracetamol,he wouldn't buy it, because he believed that money could be used for something else.......

Tho we've mourning but I find it quite amusing and confusing on why a man would live his life, being victimized by the responsibilities that falls upon him as a man....

Dear men, please take care of yourself.....Do not fall victims to the pressure that comes along with being a father.....Tho it's comprehensible that as a Father,it's your role to take care of your home.....But you can as well do that without losing your life in the process...... Because when you're gone,the same family whom you were toiling and hustling your asss up just to feed and shelter,they will move on with their lives and just within a matter of time, you'll be forgotten

LoL

An okada rider having 5 kids in this tinubu regime.

Una get mind o.

Billionaires and powerful people like the Clintons and the Obamas are giving birth to one,two.

LordBiden:
LoL

An okada rider having 5 kids in this tinubu regime.

Una get mind o.

. And his wife was the full time house wife type . Na over pressure kill the guy, nothing else.....

Columbus left the trend when reading and I came across the man having 5kids and an okada man but striving, 5kids,him think say na only him one get kind third leg abi

It's always poor people that give birth to the most children

Just imagine an okada rider having five children, smh

Kajaard:
It's always poor people that give birth to the most children

Just imagine an okada rider having five children, smh

. Normally na poor man dey always dey very fertile pass na..

Early thirties and five children in a passage. OP how na and how did he die?

May his soul RIP. Where would the wife start from?

Esthered:
Early thirties and five children in a passage. OP how na and how did he die?

May his soul RIP. Where would the wife start from?

. "Where would the wife start from?". That's the question everyone has been asking..

I pray God gives her the strength to carry on...

Sonnobax15:
. And his wife was the full time house wife type . Na over pressure kill the guy, nothing else.....

What exactly led to his death?

ChybuzzDD:
What exactly led to his death?

. He had an accident...

The wife is in for a real life-changing experience


Now that he's gone, his family would have it even harder than they would, if he ever tried to take some money to take care of himself and damn whatever might happen later

Dear men..do not allow women to pressure you. Be yourself

Nothing like overpressure, if u don't know how to balance normal life pressure then u don't have to start a family...there's normal pressure of responsibility but if u allow yourself to get depressed over your own responsibility then something is wrong....

In the world of a man, responsibilities no dey end. In fact, the more money you get, the more responsibilities and billings pile up. So instead of stressing your life just to settle responsibilities, just enjoy your life and in the best way you can.

Dear men, make sure you stay alive before anything. If you die, the world goes on.
It's not a coincidence that there are more widows than widowers.
I saw a recent video of Benson Idahosa wife , she is looking so young and given, and The man idahosa is dead for over 20years and gone.

Early 30s
5 kids

This is seriously ridiculous. Couldn't even take care of his own self.

Rip man.

Very very good advice.... it's why I love my wife.... she always makes sure am not stressed.... always ensuring i do regular check up....

Having more children than you can take care of is death it's self
Even dangote no born five...
Poor man and fck na 5/6

Sonnobax15:
✓ Dear men, please take care of yourself.....Do not fall victims to the pressure that comes along with being a father.....Tho it's comprehensible that as a Father,it's your role to take care of your home.....But you can as well do that without losing your life in the process......
✓ Because when you're gone,the same family whom you were toiling and hustling your asss up just to feed and shelter,they will move on with their lives and just within a matter of time, you'll be forgotten

The man chose to get himself a wife and have 5 kids at that. Who else did you expect to have to work hard to ensure those children of his are raised and catered for? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. The man is gone and that family is likely not to survive at all as there aren't really a surplus of rich men out there looking to take on 5kids that belong to someone else. His own relatives might not even want to take in any of those kids without some sort of price. The most likely outcome is all 5 may end miserable for the rest of their lives -- tied up to the stone that is poverty all thanks to their father's decisions in life. 🙄🙄🙄

So why are you trying to make it seem it is the man that lost out in all of this and not the children he had and now cannot raise or nurture?

Thank you for sharing this deeply emotional and sobering reflection. The pain in your words is real — and it echoes the quiet struggles that so many men face but rarely voice.

Your neighbor, Mike, sounds like a good man. A man who carried his responsibilities with quiet strength, even when they weighed heavy on his shoulders. He didn’t chase luxury or recognition — just survival and dignity for his family. That kind of sacrifice is noble, but as you've so powerfully pointed out, it shouldn’t come at the cost of a man’s own health, happiness, or life.

It's heartbreaking and frustrating that society often teaches men to measure their worth only by how much they can provide — even if it breaks them. We don’t talk enough about how dangerous that mindset is. Self-neglect becomes a badge of honor, and suffering in silence becomes the norm. But there’s nothing honorable about dying with unspoken pain, untreated illness, or unmet dreams.

Your message is timely. It’s human. It’s raw. And it’s a necessary call to all men:

Take care of yourselves.
Rest when you need to.
Eat when you’re hungry.
Speak when you're overwhelmed.
Don’t sacrifice your health — physical, emotional, or mental — to prove that you’re "strong."

Because strength isn't in how much you carry, but in knowing when to lay it down — even for a while.

Mike's story should not be forgotten. Let it be a reminder, not just of the burdens men bear, but of the urgent need for balance, self-care, and support within our communities.

To all men reading this: You are more than your hustle. Your life matters too.

May Mike rest in peace, and may his story open our eyes before we lose more brothers to silent struggles.

princepee:
✓ Having more children than you can take care of is death it's self
Even dangote no born five...
Poor man and fck na 5/6

Simply put, OP's friend was a very foolish poor man. 🥱🥱

Where are the kids moving on to with Nigeria the way it is today? 🙄🙄🙄

Nothing will change the situation. Many feel they are inadequate if they don’t flood their existence with responsibilities. My R.I.P. don tire. I take care of myself and still suffer some hereditary issues. I pity anyone who lives life as he sees it.

Tradepunter2:
✓Very very good advice.... it's why I love my wife.... she always makes sure am not stressed.... always ensuring i do regular check up....

Are you people OK at all? So, the man is dead means his wife was nothing like your wife? 🥱🥱

And are we conveniently ignoring the fact that the stress he had to deal with while alive likely has so much more to do with him having 5 kids on literally no income?

Sonnobax15:
. Normally na poor man dey always dey very fertile pass na..

Very fertile Abi very anyhow
Oooooooooooooooo

Kobojunkie:
The man chose to get himself a wife and have 5 kids at that. Who else did you expect to have to work hard to ensure those children of his are raised and catered for? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. The man is gone and that family is likely not to survive at all as there aren't really a surplus of rich men out there looking to take on 5kids that belong to someone else. His own relatives might not even want to take in any of those kids without some sort of price. The most likely outcome is all 5 may end miserable for the rest of their lives -- tied up to the stone that is poverty all thanks to their father's decisions in life. 🙄🙄🙄

So why are you trying to make it seem it is the man that lost out in all of this and not the children he has and now cannot raise or nurture?

The woman too might see shege.
How comfortable she was to be idle lol.

Sonnobax15:
. "Where would the wife start from?". That's the question everyone has been asking..

I pray God gives her the strength to carry on...

That is a very sad situation, God almight will see them through, reason I always advise people to have less children they can cater for. Men has no business with poverty if not for family settings.

Please try to talk to his wife, either they will give his Okada to someone that will bring money for them daily or sell it to start a business. Advise her to start taking the money to Bush Markets and bring foodstuffs to the city to supply. She can do this with the help of her older children.

If dem pressure you, pressure Dem back. That gender avoid men with Sharp mouth, e get why!!! . Heart attack kills Men but it doesn't on women, you only hear of Dem having high blood pressure 🤷🏿📌💯

Sonnobax15:
Good morning and a happy weekend to every Nairalander out there..... Hope everyone is doing just fine?

Just this morning,the sad news about the demise of my neighbor who's an okada rider broke out....A young man who was in his early 30's....He had barely finished balancing the motorcycle which he took on a higher purchase price three weeks ago........And we even drank and celebrated with him when the original particulars of the motorcycle were handed over to him.... This was someone whom we joked and laughed as at yesterday morning before I left for my shop,while he also left for his transport work....

Before now,he spoke about him being fed up with the okada work....And how he planned to leave it anytime soon,but had wanted to open a provision shop for his wife....

Now,the real gist about his whole life was that he left behind 5 kids and a wife......All through the times we spent together as neighbors, he was a very hardworking man whom never relented or gave up on his responsibilities as a man....While most of us who were equally into the transportation business were resting,this guy was always on the road, hustling......... Sometimes,whenever we came across each other on the road,there was a popular Mama-Put joint where we used to usually buy beans and yam,and most times just chill up and gist ,I would joke with him like--"Oga Mike,eat better food , because na you dey work the money". But he would shrug it off, saying he can't, because his family were at home and it won't be nice if he should eat without them....

This guy never wore nice clothes......He lived his entire life solely on how to put food on his family table while neglecting his own self.......There were times when even to buy ordinary paracetamol,he wouldn't buy it, because he believed that money could be used for something else.......

Tho we've mourning but I find it quite amusing and confusing on why a man would live his life, being victimized by the responsibilities that falls upon him as a man....

Dear men, please take care of yourself.....Do not fall victims to the pressure that comes along with being a father.....Tho it's comprehensible that as a Father,it's your role to take care of your home.....But you can as well do that without losing your life in the process...... Because when you're gone,the same family whom you were toiling and hustling your asss up just to feed and shelter,they will move on with their lives and just within a matter of time, you'll be forgotten

What is an okada rider doing with 5 kids at 35?

He wan sell them ?

What happened to 1 Pikin or non at all till he becomes stable?


Na him do him self . No pity to give .

Kobojunkie:
Are you people OK at all? So, the man is dead means his wife was nothing like your wife? 🥱🥱

Are we conveniently ignoring the fact that the stress he has to deal with while alive likely has so much more to do with him having 5 kids on literally no income?

Look..... and comprehend.... I just expressed my own experiences.... everyone has what works for them.... what makes them balanced mentally and psychologically....he died in accident...something of not his making.... me I lost my dad 2 weeks back at 77 years.... my joy is that he died dojng evangelism... planting churches and leading people to christ.... everyone will die but what was your spiritual condition at that time... it's what the spirit if God helped me with

May his good soul rest on...he did his best and may God be with his family.


Conversely, i just hope some young guys are learning from this kind of hard life. Education alone is not an escape to good life but knowledge and your ability to work less and earn more.

Young men especially those in their twenties,u need two things to to survive this rough world,Capital and knowledge/skill.

Apply 20/80 rule in everything u do as life no get duplicate.

If u don't have the means,pls don't birth more than two children...it would ruin and damage u beyond your imagination.

Avoid marriage if u are still managing ooooh.

Sonnobax15:
Good morning and a happy weekend to every Nairalander out there..... Hope everyone is doing just fine?

Just this morning,the sad news about the demise of my neighbor who's an okada rider broke out....A young man who was in his early 30's....He had barely finished balancing the motorcycle which he took on a higher purchase price three weeks ago........And we even drank and celebrated with him when the original particulars of the motorcycle were handed over to him.... This was someone whom we joked and laughed as at yesterday morning before I left for my shop,while he also left for his transport work....

Before now,he spoke about him being fed up with the okada work....And how he planned to leave it anytime soon,but had wanted to open a provision shop for his wife....

Now,the real gist about his whole life was that he left behind 5 kids and a wife......All through the times we spent together as neighbors, he was a very hardworking man whom never relented or gave up on his responsibilities as a man....While most of us who were equally into the transportation business were resting,this guy was always on the road, hustling......... Sometimes,whenever we came across each other on the road,there was a popular Mama-Put joint where we used to usually buy beans and yam,and most times just chill up and gist ,I would joke with him like--"Oga Mike,eat better food , because na you dey work the money". But he would shrug it off, saying he can't, because his family were at home and it won't be nice if he should eat without them....

This guy never wore nice clothes......He lived his entire life solely on how to put food on his family table while neglecting his own self.......There were times when even to buy ordinary paracetamol,he wouldn't buy it, because he believed that money could be used for something else.......

Tho we've mourning but I find it quite amusing and confusing on why a man would live his life, being victimized by the responsibilities that falls upon him as a man....

Dear men, please take care of yourself.....Do not fall victims to the pressure that comes along with being a father.....Tho it's comprehensible that as a Father,it's your role to take care of your home.....But you can as well do that without losing your life in the process...... Because when you're gone,the same family whom you were toiling and hustling your asss up just to feed and shelter,they will move on with their lives and just within a matter of time, you'll be forgotten

Ọmọ, what a loss and a pity for the kids left behind. Damn! Why do people like raising more kids in this present time? Oga ooo.

Kobojunkie:
The man chose to get himself a wife and have 5 kids at that. Who else did you expect to have to work hard to ensure those children of his are raised and catered for? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. The man is gone and that family is likely not to survive at all as there aren't really a surplus of rich men out there looking to take on 5kids that belong to someone else. His own relatives might not even want to take in any of those kids without some sort of price. The most likely outcome is all 5 may end miserable for the rest of their lives -- tied up to the stone that is poverty all thanks to their father's decisions in life. 🙄🙄🙄

So why are you trying to make it seem it is the man that lost out in all of this and not the children he has and now cannot raise or nurture?

You are wrong by your prediction about them, the outcome of future cannot always be predetermined by the present circumstances.

The chances they will make it or miserable is still 50/50. Alot of things happened along the journey of life that change some people lives for good. If his wife can judiciously use the money realised from the sales of his Bike by venturing into profitable business, they will live ok.