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Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Deicide: 5:30pm On Sep 27, 2025
Who go marry single Mother with 5 kids now cry
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by emiye(m): 5:35pm On Sep 27, 2025
Sad, do not pack unnecessary load on yourself as a man. Why 5 and not 1 or 2 to lessen your burdenhuh?? You only need a bit of common sense for these things. RIP to him. It is also true love to your family if you plan for a possible demise e.g wife having a job. I see a lazy wife who is birthing kids (5 ) and doing nothing?
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Gbogboski: 5:36pm On Sep 27, 2025
Sonnobax15:
grin grin. And his wife was the full time house wife type angry. Na over pressure kill the guy, nothing else.....
You shouldn't mock the dead. You don't have the full picture of the cause of his death and you concluded it's over pressure. People die everyday, both young and old, both the poor and the rich for a variety of reasons
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by zuby4real10(m): 5:38pm On Sep 27, 2025
May his soul rest in peace. But how can someone of 30 years has 5kids. Except if not all of them them are his biological children.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by kayyyy44: 5:38pm On Sep 27, 2025
Point of correction poor man too like knacking
Sonnobax15:
. Normally na poor man dey always dey very fertile pass na..
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by thomas2024: 5:40pm On Sep 27, 2025
Tradepunter2:
Look..... and comprehend.... I just expressed my own experiences.... everyone has what works for them.... what makes them balanced mentally and psychologically....he died in accident...something of not his making.... me I lost my dad 2 weeks back at 77 years.... my joy is that he died dojng evangelism... planting churches and leading people to christ.... everyone will die but what was your spiritual condition at that time... it's what the spirit if God helped me with
Oga your comment is unnecessary. I saw your first comment, I had to ignore until I saw this again. Why do you Nigerians glorify yourself in classicism like this? We are focusing on a sad matter, you're shifting attention to your family? Who your family help in this situation? I tire ooo.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by judewrites: 5:41pm On Sep 27, 2025
Very sad story indeed 😔

Hard work alone cannot solve poverty....

You need to be favoured first by God and later favoured by influential people.

That's we have lots of hardworking people eating from hand to mouth.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Kanixt(m): 5:45pm On Sep 27, 2025
Kingpele:
Nothing like overpressure, if u don't know how to balance normal life pressure then u don't have to start a family...there's normal pressure of responsibility but if u allow yourself to get depressed over your own responsibility then something is wrong....
Are you married?
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Banbanna(m): 5:46pm On Sep 27, 2025
There's nothing normally here. Poor people due to their lack of judgement and proper family planning don normalize something or a situation that ought to be abnormal.
That poor dude sent himself to an early grave.
And like you said, those he's left behind are always going to move on with or without him. They're survivors.
Sonnobax15:
. Normally na poor man dey always dey very fertile reckless pass na..
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Dannyset(m): 5:55pm On Sep 27, 2025
Sonnobax15:
grin grin. And his wife was the full time house wife type angry. Na over pressure kill the guy, nothing else.....
No, he is the stupid one. How can you give birth to 5 children when you are not Elon Musk?

He put himself under the unnecessary pressure. God rest his soul
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by NovusHomo(m): 6:08pm On Sep 27, 2025
Sonnobax15:
. Normally na poor man dey always dey very fertile pass na..
Not fertility, but hopeless hopefulness.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Oizee(f): 6:12pm On Sep 27, 2025
Sonnobax15:
Good morning and a happy weekend to every Nairalander out there..... Hope everyone is doing just fine?

Just this morning,the sad news about the demise of my neighbor who's an okada rider broke out....A young man who was in his early 30's....He had barely finished balancing the motorcycle which he took on a higher purchase price three weeks ago........And we even drank and celebrated with him when the original particulars of the motorcycle were handed over to him.... This was someone whom we joked and laughed as at yesterday morning before I left for my shop,while he also left for his transport work....

Before now,he spoke about him being fed up with the okada work....And how he planned to leave it anytime soon,but had wanted to open a provision shop for his wife....

Now,the real gist about his whole life was that he left behind 5 kids and a wife......All through the times we spent together as neighbors, he was a very hardworking man whom never relented or gave up on his responsibilities as a man....While most of us who were equally into the transportation business were resting,this guy was always on the road, hustling......... Sometimes,whenever we came across each other on the road,there was a popular Mama-Put joint where we used to usually buy beans and yam,and most times just chill up and gist ,I would joke with him like--"Oga Mike,eat better food , because na you dey work the money". But he would shrug it off, saying he can't, because his family were at home and it won't be nice if he should eat without them....

This guy never wore nice clothes......He lived his entire life solely on how to put food on his family table while neglecting his own self.......There were times when even to buy ordinary paracetamol,he wouldn't buy it, because he believed that money could be used for something else.......

Tho we've mourning but I find it quite amusing and confusing on why a man would live his life, being victimized by the responsibilities that falls upon him as a man....

Dear men, please take care of yourself.....Do not fall victims to the pressure that comes along with being a father.....Tho it's comprehensible that as a Father,it's your role to take care of your home.....But you can as well do that without losing your life in the process...... Because when you're gone,the same family whom you were toiling and hustling your asss up just to feed and shelter,they will move on with their lives and just within a matter of time, you'll be forgotten angry
I have shared this with my husband, I don beg the man taya to reduce unnecessary pressure, he worry over things that I feel is no big deal if we can't achieve it now, even if I pay children's school fees, when he has he would still return it saying it's his responsibility as if they are not mine as well.

May God protect every responsible father and husband out there. Daddy oyoyo is a gift our kids needs to say to Daddies all the time.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Factcheck0001: 6:14pm On Sep 27, 2025
Sonnobax15:
grin grin. And his wife was the full time house wife type angry. Na over pressure kill the guy, nothing else.....
the guy killed himself

Early 30's with 5 kids n full time house wife?
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by iSense247: 6:22pm On Sep 27, 2025
LordBiden:
LoL

An okada rider having 5 kids in this tinubu regime.

Una get mind o.

Billionaires and powerful people like the Clintons and the Obamas are giving birth to one,two.
Sonnobax15:
grin grin. And his wife was the full time house wife type angry. Na over pressure kill the guy, nothing else.....
And he is in his early 30s. The man killed himself.

May his soul rip.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by ARISHEM: 6:23pm On Sep 27, 2025
This is so sad
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by FarahAideed: 6:25pm On Sep 27, 2025
5 kids as an okada man in Tinubu era is suicide , pure suicide
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Kobojunkie: 6:27pm On Sep 27, 2025
tollyboy5:
The woman too might see shege.
How comfortable she was to be idle lol.
Oh, she will likely see shege assuming she does not abandon those children to go find herself a better life with a man somewhere else.( Yes, there are men and women who abandon even their own children for a chance at greener pastures.) But the fact here is what OP described as that family "moving on" is a farce...a lame attempt at presenting the man as some sort of victim when he was, in fact, the architect of much of his struggles in life and that of his children in death too. 🥱🥱🥱
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Kobojunkie: 6:30pm On Sep 27, 2025
Tradepunter2:
✓ Look..... and comprehend.... I just expressed my own experiences.... everyone has what works for them.... what makes them balanced mentally and psychologically....he died in accident...something of not his making.... me I lost my dad 2 weeks back at 77 years.... my joy is that he died dojng evangelism... planting churches and leading people to christ.... everyone will die but what was your spiritual condition at that time... it's what the spirit if God helped me with
Storyland! 🥱🥱🥱
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Chummynoni(m): 6:32pm On Sep 27, 2025
Na wetin bird chop , bird go carry fly . Men , take care of your health .
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by DrAda(f):
He killed himself.

If I am a man, I would NEVER marry below 35 years of age to a housewife from a poor background or give birth to more than 2 kids less than 5 years apart. That's suicidal.

Scratch the above. Chances are that I wouldn't even get married. Today's economy is not conducive to raise a happy, healthy family in the true sense of it and unless things change down the line, I will remain single.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Karleb(m): 6:39pm On Sep 27, 2025
Sonnobax15:
Good morning and a happy weekend to every Nairalander out there..... Hope everyone is doing just fine?

Just this morning,the sad news about the demise of my neighbor who's an okada rider broke out....A young man who was in his early 30's....He had barely finished balancing the motorcycle which he took on a higher purchase price three weeks ago........And we even drank and celebrated with him when the original particulars of the motorcycle were handed over to him.... This was someone whom we joked and laughed as at yesterday morning before I left for my shop,while he also left for his transport work....

Before now,he spoke about him being fed up with the okada work....And how he planned to leave it anytime soon,but had wanted to open a provision shop for his wife....

Now,the real gist about his whole life was that he left behind 5 kids and a wife......All through the times we spent together as neighbors, he was a very hardworking man whom never relented or gave up on his responsibilities as a man....While most of us who were equally into the transportation business were resting,this guy was always on the road, hustling......... Sometimes,whenever we came across each other on the road,there was a popular Mama-Put joint where we used to usually buy beans and yam,and most times just chill up and gist ,I would joke with him like--"Oga Mike,eat better food , because na you dey work the money". But he would shrug it off, saying he can't, because his family were at home and it won't be nice if he should eat without them....

This guy never wore nice clothes......He lived his entire life solely on how to put food on his family table while neglecting his own self.......There were times when even to buy ordinary paracetamol,he wouldn't buy it, because he believed that money could be used for something else.......

Tho we've mourning but I find it quite amusing and confusing on why a man would live his life, being victimized by the responsibilities that falls upon him as a man....

Dear men, please take care of yourself.....Do not fall victims to the pressure that comes along with being a father.....Tho it's comprehensible that as a Father,it's your role to take care of your home.....But you can as well do that without losing your life in the process...... Because when you're gone,the same family whom you were toiling and hustling your asss up just to feed and shelter,they will move on with their lives and just within a matter of time, you'll be forgotten angry
I stopped reading when I saw 5 kids.


How is an okada rider haver 5 kids? shocked shocked
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Kobojunkie: 6:40pm On Sep 27, 2025
DrAda:
He killed himself. If I am a man, I will never marry below 35 years to a hosewife or give birth to more than 2 kids.
Just imagine! 5 kids and a wife before age 30 on the pittance of an okada rider! No be madness be that? 😒😒😒
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by DrAda(f): 6:42pm On Sep 27, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Just imagine! 5 kids and a wife before age 30 on the penance of an okada rider! No be madness be that? 😒😒😒
Total madness
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Kobojunkie: 6:48pm On Sep 27, 2025
Oizee:
I have shared this with my husband, I don beg the man taya to reduce unnecessary pressure, he worry over things that I feel is no big deal if we can't achieve it now, even if I pay children's school fees, when he has he would still return it saying it's his responsibility as if they are not mine as well.
May God protect every responsible father and husband out there. Daddy oyoyo is a gift our kids needs to say to Daddies all the time.
A man and woman who have more kids than they can afford to have are terrible parents...nothing responsible about them. undecided
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Nobody: 7:02pm On Sep 27, 2025
Sonnobax15:
Good morning and a happy weekend to every Nairalander out there..... Hope everyone is doing just fine?

Just this morning,the sad news about the demise of my neighbor who's an okada rider broke out....A young man who was in his early 30's....He had barely finished balancing the motorcycle which he took on a higher purchase price three weeks ago........And we even drank and celebrated with him when the original particulars of the motorcycle were handed over to him.... This was someone whom we joked and laughed as at yesterday morning before I left for my shop,while he also left for his transport work....

Before now,he spoke about him being fed up with the okada work....And how he planned to leave it anytime soon,but had wanted to open a provision shop for his wife....

Now,the real gist about his whole life was that he left behind 5 kids and a wife......All through the times we spent together as neighbors, he was a very hardworking man whom never relented or gave up on his responsibilities as a man....While most of us who were equally into the transportation business were resting,this guy was always on the road, hustling......... Sometimes,whenever we came across each other on the road,there was a popular Mama-Put joint where we used to usually buy beans and yam,and most times just chill up and gist ,I would joke with him like--"Oga Mike,eat better food , because na you dey work the money". But he would shrug it off, saying he can't, because his family were at home and it won't be nice if he should eat without them....

This guy never wore nice clothes......He lived his entire life solely on how to put food on his family table while neglecting his own self.......There were times when even to buy ordinary paracetamol,he wouldn't buy it, because he believed that money could be used for something else.......

Tho we've mourning but I find it quite amusing and confusing on why a man would live his life, being victimized by the responsibilities that falls upon him as a man....

Dear men, please take care of yourself.....Do not fall victims to the pressure that comes along with being a father.....Tho it's comprehensible that as a Father,it's your role to take care of your home.....But you can as well do that without losing your life in the process...... Because when you're gone,the same family whom you were toiling and hustling your asss up just to feed and shelter,they will move on with their lives and just within a matter of time, you'll be forgotten angry
Upon the whole story,not a mention of what killed him. Such a drivel
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Kajaard: 7:04pm On Sep 27, 2025
Kobojunkie:
A man and woman who have more kids than they can afford to have are terrible parents...nothing responsible about them. undecided
Truer words were never spoken cool
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Exceed15: 7:04pm On Sep 27, 2025
Painful however men please be wise.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Exceed15: 7:06pm On Sep 27, 2025
You might not even be part of the future you are tirelessly saving for. Take care of yourself first.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by bluefilm: 7:27pm On Sep 27, 2025
I tried

But I couldn't

I couldn't feel any pity for him as I continued to read
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Hassanmaye(m): 7:31pm On Sep 27, 2025
Sonnobax15:
Good morning and a happy weekend to every Nairalander out there..... Hope everyone is doing just fine?

Just this morning,the sad news about the demise of my neighbor who's an okada rider broke out....A young man who was in his early 30's....He had barely finished balancing the motorcycle which he took on a higher purchase price three weeks ago........And we even drank and celebrated with him when the original particulars of the motorcycle were handed over to him.... This was someone whom we joked and laughed as at yesterday morning before I left for my shop,while he also left for his transport work....

Before now,he spoke about him being fed up with the okada work....And how he planned to leave it anytime soon,but had wanted to open a provision shop for his wife....

Now,the real gist about his whole life was that he left behind 5 kids and a wife......All through the times we spent together as neighbors, he was a very hardworking man whom never relented or gave up on his responsibilities as a man....While most of us who were equally into the transportation business were resting,this guy was always on the road, hustling......... Sometimes,whenever we came across each other on the road,there was a popular Mama-Put joint where we used to usually buy beans and yam,and most times just chill up and gist ,I would joke with him like--"Oga Mike,eat better food , because na you dey work the money". But he would shrug it off, saying he can't, because his family were at home and it won't be nice if he should eat without them....

This guy never wore nice clothes......He lived his entire life solely on how to put food on his family table while neglecting his own self.......There were times when even to buy ordinary paracetamol,he wouldn't buy it, because he believed that money could be used for something else.......

Tho we've mourning but I find it quite amusing and confusing on why a man would live his life, being victimized by the responsibilities that falls upon him as a man....

Dear men, please take care of yourself.....Do not fall victims to the pressure that comes along with being a father.....Tho it's comprehensible that as a Father,it's your role to take care of your home.....But you can as well do that without losing your life in the process...... Because when you're gone,the same family whom you were toiling and hustling your asss up just to feed and shelter,they will move on with their lives and just within a matter of time, you'll be forgotten angry
cry cry cry
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by j3r3myk3n(m): 7:33pm On Sep 27, 2025
This story here is a thing, from men working their asses off to take care of homes to a sudden disastrous outcome that might shift the whole nation this very story here brought back memories, of course people in transportation business in particular and men in general should see this sad story here as a wake up call.

I wouldn’t want to share a personal experience of someone I know that ended up in such a scenario, man worked his ass off so bad that if you see him compared to his kids you’d wonder if this man takes time to even take care of himself at all, life lost but the children he worked so hard for are living their lives somehow, I know many could relate to these sort of stories and sometimes not even gender based.

Please guys, take time to get off the whole stress sometimes and treat yourself right, do occasional medical check ups to be sure if everything is going smoothly.

Most people that loses their lives, if being asked if they had such thoughts prior would say “No”

Them no Dey write am for face and be vigilant too, not everyone out there is happy for you regardless of the smiles.

A word is enough as they’d always say and with great responsibilities comes with much experience.

May God see everyone through in their endeavors. Peace and light!
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