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It was so strange– Nigerian man feels discomfort after attempting to share household bills with his wife for the first time.

Chilipepper:
It was so strange– Nigerian man feels discomfort after attempting to share household bills with his wife for the first time.

The very notion that you're paying off the bills to buy yourself authority over a woman is why some rightly consider marriage a humiliation ritual for women. And it is also why many women should get away from the traditional system of marriage that leaves the man believing he is entitled to authority over a woman— she is some sort of slave for his benefit — when, in fact, marriage is supposed to be a partnership, not a means of indenturing the womenfolk.

Ask that man if his imam also told him that his money buys him the same authority over his sidechick.

A compassionate and sensible wife wouldn't see anything wrong in splitting of bills,but as a way of supporting her husband.....

It's only those who want to pressure their husbands to death with bills that will leave all the family's responsibilities for the man alone, forgetting that rhe man himself is also a human being like herself

As a Man, if splitting bills will weaken your authority. Then you clearly have No Authority

Authority is when a wife submit her paycheck to you.

What do you think pimps do??
They send girls to go find person knack
Then surrender the money to her love-vendor.

That is a level of power and authority that 12% men in this world posses. The rest are slaves to women.

Your fore fathers didn't have millions of naira in bank account. Yet they were able to command respect and authority.

Years of morden femles brainwashing men has made men to be slaves for women.

So when they split bills with their wife they feel uneasy.
They have been slaves of women for many years so it will take time for them to adjust.


When a woman says " A Real Man ....."
She means "A Real Slave"

The man is the Bread Winner & so should foot the bills.

That doesn't mean the woman can not foot some of the bills, but it shouldn't be out of obligation or duty.

Each to this own.

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Get used to it...
It is the new world order

Feminist can relate

Ego .. man ego no dey sometimes dey agree to such. You will just feel you are not doing your responsibilities well enough.


I prefer she do what she knows she needs to do, rather than telling her to come and split bills with me..

I'd fail my forefathers if all I did with my money was to sort bills.

We share bills so that both parties can have personal resources.

But the idea of using my resources to sort bills while you on the other hand, use your money to build wealth is nothing but madness.

You better do, to much disposable income in her hand will make her misbehave 🤷🏿

Kids provisions & clothing's, TV subscription, soup condiments, beverages, all those little stuffs that take money.

Continue displaying your credit card to the world to see...no worry boys go use am cash out soon.

A man is born as slave to a woman and die. Sometimes, I agree with the people that says marriage only benefits the woman

It shouldn't be so strange.
The man shouldn't feel unusual discomfort after getting down to brass tacks with his wife for the very first time.
These things sometimes happen.
And the first cut is always the deepest.

No truer words have been said: A man who splits his responsibility should be ready to split his authority. Bills are hard for a man, but that is what makes you a man. The woman should support, but not to the point where she is sharing bills 50/50 or carrying half of their responsibilities. It should not be so.

COMRADES, I don't understand, are Nigerian men now beginning to understand what true love is?

Chilipepper:
It was so strange– Nigerian man feels discomfort after attempting to share household bills with his wife for the first time.

Once you start sharing bills you're not really the boss anymore...whoever pays the piper gets to call the tune

lightwind:
Continue displaying your credit card to the world to see...no worry boys go use am cash out soon.

Hope say nor be this brain you they use do this life thing sha? E go really hard for you

Hmmm. Well the woman is meant to be a help meet. Anyways what do I know?

I sense a lot of insecurity on this post. Sharing bills with wife shouldn't take away your leadership or authority on her, unless you tie your authority to money alone. Many of your grandmothers had jobs too (nurses, teachers) and contributed to the household, and still respected their husbands.

Based on your logic, coaches shouldn't have authority over athletes because those athletes earn more than them?

Recess94:
It is normal to share bills with your wife but in Africa we just believe man is the father of the head of the family, and he should carry the whole thing

It isn't normal, but a result of the marriage system adopted by the particular couple. The traditional marriage model insists that for the title of head of household, the man ought to exist as the full-time provider in marriage. However, the partnership model does foist roles on individuals in the marriage. It is essentially left to the individuals in the marriage to decide for themselves.

Only liabilities think that splitting bill is a bad thing

He already failed his fore fathers if his wife is allowed to have money. Your fore fathers paid the bill and refuse women work to ensure dependency.

The only reason why Africans especially Nigerians have attractive Men has roots in this singular act.

Caucasians (Europeans, British, Americans etc) feel loved and appreciated when Africans insist on footing the bills whilst explaining that its a cultural taboo in some cultures for a woman to pay a bill after an outing.

Kobojunkie:
The very notion that you're paying off the bills to buy yourself authority over a woman is why some rightly consider marriage a humiliation ritual for women. And it is also why many women should get away from the traditional system of marriage that leaves the man believing he is entitled to authority over a woman— she is some sort of slave for his benefit — when, in fact, marriage is supposed to be a partnership, not a means of indenturing the womenfolk.

Ask that man if his imam also told him that his money buys him the same authority over his sidechick.

This is feminist ideology. There is no partnership without a senior partner. There is no way you can explain that away. No equality in marriage. You can only have equity. Otherwise you should demand that the man should share pregnancy and breastfeeding roles. Women have their natural roles and men have theirs. No one should want to assume the role of the other. It will fail. No slavery in marriage.

SultanOfPuna:
As a Man if splitting bills will weaken your authority
Then you clearly don't have No Authority

Your fore fathers didn't have millions of naira in bank account.
Yet they were able to command respect and authority.

This is an illogical statement. The point is not about having millions - it is about splitting bills. Totally parrallel lines of conversation that meet at no logical point.

In case you still don't get it: A man with 100 naira may insist on paying on the bills, while one with millions may split the bills. It's about attitude not wealth.

And the forefathers definitely were not splitting bills with their wives.

As a man, you own everything that is your wife's. Splitting bills with her is arrant nonsense. If there's need in the family and your wife is well to do financially. Call her, discuss the matter with her, if she is wise she would suggest and support you financially, as she is created to do. If she is dumb and insensitive, demand whatever you need from her. Ordinarily, In a relationship where husband and wife relate well, a wife should be conversant with what's happening in the family with respect to finances.

Jamie248:
Once you start sharing bills you're not really the boss anymore...whoever pays the piper gets to call the tune

Anybody who has money to pay the piper can call the tune. If the woman doesn’t like your tune, she has sufficient money saved up to pay her own piper.

Eyaah, this is quite touching, anyway is good you returned the money back to her.

Women women women!

Anyways! Those who still dey live with their mama too would chook mouth for here!

Nothing beats a capable man who buys everything for his nuclear family even if the wife is able to do some things on her own!

May Allah bless all the men who are trying their best to satisfy their families!