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God bless all men who are providers

Sonnobax15:
. And should the man lost his job and stops providing,does that mean he wouldn't be loved the same way he was loved when he used to be the provider? . Some of una are the reasons you die young due to unnecessary pressure .

We are not talking of pressure here, we are trying to improve the African traditional man.

Your ancestors provided for their home and lived above 80.


But, your woke men of sharing bills and become lazy, still die before 60.
If you are not fit and prepared stay away from MARRIAGE. You didn't commit any sin.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Who told you the man is ghe bread winner in today's world? This is how many men die out of depression when things don't finally go this way. Anyone can be the breadwinner, respecting and submission based on poverty eradication scheme (when the man gives ne money i will respect him and submit) is no respect at all because the moment the man fails to give (jobless)that's the end of the relationship.

The time men were the breadwinners is long gone, some women earn way nore than their husbands and that earning won't reflect on the standards if living if the household because meb are the breadwinners? So many men will die due to this attitude. Imagine the society making men feel bad for enjoying their wife's wealth because according to them the wife should only ve the one entitled to the man's wealth but the man shouldn't fir a day it is only when she decides if necessary . Some meb and ego

According to you, "the man is not the bread winner. Anybody can be the breadwinner"

You can as well say: "the man is not the head of the home. Anybody can be the head of the home"

Uchesis:
Are you aware that you just spoke from both sides of your mouth?

I didn't. It's you that didn't comprehend.

Let me break it down...

It is the duty of the man to foot the bills - Correct.

It is the duty of the woman to foot the bills - Wrong.

Kobojunkie:
The very notion that you're paying off the bills to buy yourself authority over a woman is why some rightly consider marriage a humiliation ritual for women. And it is also why many women should get away from the traditional system of marriage that leaves the man believing he is entitled to authority over a woman— she is some sort of slave for his benefit — when, in fact, marriage is supposed to be a partnership, not a means of indenturing the womenfolk.

Ask that man if his imam also told him that his money buys him the same authority over his sidechick.

So your children that you have authority over are your slaves and have no rights?

Your employees that you have no authority over are your slaves?

You people will let bigotry delete your common sense then start wondering why your life is a junkyard!

You don't have authority if your wife doesn't contribute anything from her earnings to the home needs. It's called sense of belonging

My brother, if you work and she works also, share bills but take a higher percentage

If you earn 400k and she earns 350k per month, why should you be the only one to pay all bills even if you are in Nigeria?

Sit down with your wife and work out percentages that works for both parties to contribute to the running of the home

If she is not working or doing petty trade, you may want to chest the whole bills if you can

women should be partners, willing to contribute to the running of the home; the man should also share in house chores to balance things off

Don't claim to be an 'ODOGWU' and die untimely. Times are hard now!

Kobojunkie:
The very notion that you're paying off the bills to buy yourself authority over a woman is why some rightly consider marriage a humiliation ritual for women. And it is also why many women should get away from the traditional system of marriage that leaves the man believing he is entitled to authority over a woman— she is some sort of slave for his benefit — when, in fact, marriage is supposed to be a partnership, not a means of indenturing the womenfolk.

Ask that man if his imam also told him that his money buys him the same authority over his sidechick.

Not necessarily because of money however, of a truth man is/should be the authority/leader of his home otherwise what befall a troop without a leader will soon befall them.


Happy new week

Recess94:
It is normal to share bills with your wife but in Africa we just believe man is the father of the head of the family he should carry the whole thing

Yes and African marriage is the best, small degree wuna go start Africa this Africa that

It's was never our way of life to split bills our wife

GanagiBitrus:
According to you, "the man is not the bread winner. Anybody can be the breadwinner"

You can as well say: "the man is not the head of the home. Anybody can be the head of the home"

According to your submission if the man becomes financially incapacitated he isn't the head of the family anymore because he can't foot the bills since he is no longer the bread winner.

Been the head of the family doesn't mean you give out the highest finances in the home, if the man isn't the highest earner he isn't the head of the home anymore, been head of the home means u must bring the highest finances no Wonder women are quick to run the moment they see they now earn more than your head of the so called home leading to plethora of divorces in the society.

Headship if the home doesn't mean you must be the highest earner in the home, if this is your definition of headship then marriage in the coming years will die a natural death.

I can never put myself in a situation where men are not men because they earn less than a woman , the world has changed passed the era where only men work and provide for the family, provision is gender neutral just as earning is gender neutral. If your headship is based on finances alone be ready for divorce when something happens to that finances, it's an era where husbands and wives come together and put forth all resources, emotions, finances, tolerance, wittiness, meekness and all for the betterment of the home, irrespective of whether the man earns more or not that doesn't make him less of a leader in the home.

Don't tie your leadership based on money, you will never experience a lasting relationship when that factor gets affected, a word is enough for those who are wise.

descarado:
And all the millions of Nigerian women who go out to struggle everyday, some even tie their kids on their back has what?
Submission.

These are folks I share online space with.

Who drops the bigger responsibility is the leader.
These things are common sense. It's always not common with ladies I know that.
So I'm not surprised.
Women hustling is just a support and not the bigger stake

SultanOfPuna:
As a Man, if splitting bills will weaken your authority. Then you clearly have No Authority

Authority is when a wife submit her paycheck to you.

What do you think pimps do??
They send girls to go find person knack
Then surrender the money to her love-vendor.

That is a level of power and authority that 12% men in this world posses. The rest are slaves to women.

Your fore fathers didn't have millions of naira in bank account. Yet they were able to command respect and authority.

Years of morden femles brainwashing men has made men to be slaves for women.

So when they split bills with their wife they feel uneasy.
They have been slaves of women for many years so it will take time for them to adjust.


When a woman says " A Real Man ....."
She means "A Real Slave"

Exactly, if you depend on money alone to have authority, one day life will test you and your wife will disrespect you.

GanagiBitrus:
According to you, "the man is not the bread winner. Anybody can be the breadwinner"

You can as well say: "the man is not the head of the home. Anybody can be the head of the home"

Modern economy is messed up.
No money.
So men can't function as they should.
Either they earn money at great sweat, become megalomaniacs and be beating the woman in the house.
Or
They can't earn anything, or be sharing with wife, their prick will shrink down,...they come online and be crying on Monday morning or looking for underaged side chick to satisfy their ego tendencies.
It's all messed up

No right thinking man would split bills with a woman, it would only lead to disrespect. women will always be women, allow her give you what she can. regardless of how little.

Most women are selfish, and stingy when it comes to their own money. So don't expect much from her.

Onewazobia:
✓ Not necessarily because of money however, of a truth man is/should be the authority/leader of his home otherwise what befall a troop without a leader will soon befall them. Happy new week

There is no truth to that old fable that has only helped make many a small man believe he is entitled to that which he cannot of his own wit earn for himself. 🥱🥱🥱

Think careful before responding so you don't drag this on and waste both our times here. If it were a truth, it would have been codified and signed by authorities but to this day, it has never been.

tollyboy5:
✓ Who drops the bigger responsibility is the leader.
These things are common sense. It's always not common with ladies I know that. So I'm not surprised.
✓ Women hustling is just a support and not the bigger stake

It is always not common with ladies even though in Nigeria alone, almost 50% of marriages are supposed to be headed by the females who are reported to be the breadwinners?

2. Women hustling and paying all the bills are just support for their deadbeat/hobo-sexuals of a husband?

beardedboy:
✓ So your children that you have authority over are your slaves and have no rights?
✓ Your employees that you have no authority over are your slaves?
✓ You people will let bigotry delete your common sense then start wondering why your life is a junkyard!

1. Your very forefathers and your fellow men to this day believe it OK to disown those same children at the drop of a dime. If given the chance, they would literally kill, not abandon them too.

2. You mean employees out in the West or the ones you have in Nigeria who are treated no better than slaves in many instances? Even the Nigerian government treats it's people like slaves, so what in the world were you thinking asking me these questions?

3. Look who's talking! 🫤🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
There is no truth to that old fable that has only helped make many a small man believe he is entitled to that which he cannot of his own wit earn for himself. 🥱🥱🥱

Think careful before responding so you don't drag this on and waste both our times here. If it were a truth, it would have been codified and signed by authorities but to this day, it has never been.

Nothing to think about, I think ant are wiser

Onewazobia:
✓ Nothing to think about, I think ant are wiser

Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
1. Your very forefathers and your fellow men to this day believe it OK to disown those same children at the drop of a dime. If given the chance, they would literally kill, not abandon them too.

2. You mean employees out in the West or the ones you have in Nigeria who are treated no better than slaves in many instances? Even the Nigerian government treats it's people like slaves, so what in the world were you thinking asking me these questions?

3. Look who's talking! 🫤🥱🥱🥱

Zero substance.
1. I don't know about your forefathers but mine weren't children killers. And they definitely didn't treat their children as slaves.

2. Maybe you treat your employees as slaves but I don't. Even in the west, employers have authority over their employees. But your myopic mind thinks all forms of authority is enslavement.

3. Thanks for admitting your bigotry. And, no, I'm not a bigot like you.

beardedboy:
✓ Zero substance.
1. I don't know about your forefathers but mine weren't children killers. And they definitely didn't treat their children as slaves.
2. Maybe you treat your employees as slaves but I don't. Even in the west, employers have authority over their employees. But your myopic mind thinks all forms of authority is enslavement.
3. Thanks for admitting your bigotry. And, no, I'm not a bigot like you.

1. Oh, wow! This is all now just about your stories with your own father and not about the traditions in marriage in Nigeria? And this is what you consider to be substantial, abi?

2. Oh, wow! This ain't about what is generally obtainable but of how you treat your own employees vs how I supposedly treat mine? Slavery is judged simply on that, right?

3. Abeg, allow me move on to more meaningful things at this point. 🙄🙄

Kobojunkie:
1. Oh, wow! This is all now just about your stories with your own father and not about the traditions in marriage in Nigeria? And this is what you consider to be substantial, abi?

2. Oh, wow! This ain't about what is generally obtainable but of how you treat your own employees vs how I supposedly treat mine? Slavery is judged simply on that, right?

3. Abeg, allow me move on to more meaningful things at this point. 🙄🙄

1. Forefathers and father are very different words. That's a weak and shameful attempt to be sleek.

2. I speak for myself. Why can't you speak for yourself. If you want to generalise, bring your data!

3. No one is holding you. Moreover, I won't be responding to any of your salad anymore.

tollyboy5:
Who drops the bigger responsibility is the leader.
These things are common sense. It's always not common with ladies I know that.
So I'm not surprised.
Women hustling is just a support and not the bigger stake

Marriage has no leader. That is the koko. The earlier you guys absorb this, the better. Its 50/50.
Partnership. Abi no be what the constitution said?

That's a real man right there. 50/50 men can't relate.

descarado:
Marriage has no leader. That is the koko. The earlier you guys absorb this, the better. Its 50/50.
Partnership. Abi no be what the constitution said?

Which constitution.
Lol.. even kobojunkie better pass you.
It has never been 50/50 and it's not even about authority or no authority.
Is just who feel the others need to be protected

tollyboy5:
✓ Which constitution.
Lol.. even kobojunkie better pass you.
✓ It has never been 50/50 and it's not even about authority or no authority.
✓ Is just who feel the others need to be protected

The other poster is actually right. What you keep insisting on is not codified in even the law of the land -- it exists only in the minds of individuals who hold these ideas. (Your traditional laws are not, to this day, documented or signed off on by the people, rendering them of little to no value to most of those who adhere to them.) 🥱

2. By 50/50, I believe the other meant a partnership with is upheld by the fact that Nigeria is a signatory to the UN Universal Human Rights agreement that declares by which all humans are recognized as equals - irrespective of status, age, religion, gender, or creed. 🥱😐🥱


3. Protected? The majority of crimes against women in Nigeria are committed by the very men in their lives...fathers, husbands, boyfriends, relatives, neighbors, boss, etc. What protection does a woman obtain from a man who, for example, abuses her?

Kobojunkie:
The other poster is actually right. What you keep insisting on is not codified in even the law of the land -- it exists only in the minds of individuals who hold these ideas. (Your traditional laws are not, to this day, documented or signed off on by the people, rendering them of little to no value to most of those who adhere to them.) 🥱

2. By 50/50, I believe the other meant a partnership with is upheld by the fact that Nigeria is a signatory to the UN Universal Human Rights agreement that declares by which all humans are recognized as equals - irrespective of status, age, religion, gender, or creed. 🥱😐🥱


3. Protected? The majority of crimes against women in Nigeria are committed by the very men in their lives...fathers, husbands, boyfriends, relatives, neighbors, boss, etc. What protection does a woman obtain from a man who, for example, abuses her?

Let's end this discussion here. It's a men's world so men protect female they love from harm coming from other men.

tollyboy5:
➜Let's end this discussion here. It's a men's world so men protect female they love from harm coming from other men.

Be sure not to raise your boys or any boy you love with this mentality, as the world is, even today, already moved well away from this mindset you continue to hold fast to.

Kobojunkie:
Be sure not to raise your boys or any boy you love with this mentality, as the world is, even today, already moved well away from this mindset you continue to hold fast to.

Reality is different from illustration.
You're carried away with wokeness. And not reality