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fabidamilola:
Haa, this woman has spoilt both earth and heaven .why na ,has how na 4kids .o wrong na

Pupanchie:
If you as a man find yourself in this position, can l know what you will do ?

MrCork:
...WHY ARE U GAY SIR?(no oofeonsce)

SamuraiXXX:
Fake story!

So you want to tell us that the so-called uncle was coming to the house to impregnate you right under your partner's nose and he did not notice anything?

dominique:
All these fake anonymous stories are getting too much.

MrCork:
...WHY ARE U GAY SIR?(no oofeonsce)

Pupanchie:
Your problem

MrCork:
dont be a national disgrase yo Africa sir. Gay is iligal. dont be gay. you are gat. why are u gay sir. answer the questions sir?

SamuraiXXX:
Fake story!

So you want to tell us that the so-called uncle was coming to the house to impregnate you right under your partner's nose and he did not notice anything?

MrCork:
dont be a national disgrase yo Africa sir. Gay is iligal. dont be gay. you are gat. why are u gay sir. answer the questions sir?

10thTenthMan:
I Will go on an unsolicited monologue here. And I won't apologize for it. Apologize for being the 10th Man?

Stories like these, whether real or not, whether rage bait or not, I guarantee that worse has happened, is happening and will happen. So while this story seems crazy to many people, it does not bother those who know women. They are not complicated. Nothing is complicated about a woman.

Women are actually NOT complicated. There is nothing complicated about a woman. Women are just DIFFERENT AND most often misunderstood. PEOPLE CREATE FALSE ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT THEM AND PROJECT THESE ASSUMPTIONS and expectations on them. And in order to thrive, women mostly and often conform to these assumptions/expectations so that they are able to fit in and get accepted, especially when it comes to landing a mate. And her landing a mate has a lot to do with her REPUTATION. Women therefore have multiple versions of themselves, each authentic in its own context, each serving a different social or survival function. But notice the moment they feel they have nothing to lose and everything to gain, they bring out and project their true selves. The real them. Just as men are capable of being cunning, so are women. But men are on a surface level.

The problem is that we (especially many naive men) expect them and believe that WOMEN should be or are PURE, CALM, FEMININE, CHASTE, WITH REPRESSED/CONTROLLED SEXUAL DESIRES, INCAPABLE OF VIOLENCE, INCAPABLE OF DEBASEMENT, SHOULD NOT DESIRE SEXUAL PROMISCUITY, SHOULD NOT HAVE RAGING SEXUAL DESIRES, SHOULD NOT DESIRE MULTIPLE MEN AT THE SAME TIME, etc. We project this expectation because we wish and want them to be this way to protect our egos as men, when they are not. And it will just simply shatter our reality if they aren't this way we wish them to be. THE TRUTH IS, A WOMAN LIKES SEX LIKE MEN OR EVEN MORE THAN MOST MEN. In fact, a woman can choose multiple men for one sexual reason or another. But how does she come out to say this without being judged? But notice that as women get more and more independent, their true selves are being exposed. What we call the ''Modern Woman''. There is nothing strange in their behavior, women of old who had the guts and lacked the shame and did not care about the stigma had lived the type of life of the modern woman. But only a select few had the guts. But now many women do and openly show their true selves. In the past, majority of them hid these things about themselves to fit it, thrive and survive. Till today, their deception (was and) is still a survival strategy. We wrongly assume every woman should value being with one man, raising kids, cooking, cleaning, and having sex with one man for 50 years of marriage. IT IS A LIE. Most women do not wish this or want this. If they do, it was projected upon them by the society, and they realize it is monotonous and boring afterward. But when society says this is how to thrive and judge you by that process, what do you do? Just like society says you must go to University to be successful and build wealth. It is a lie, but we all do it. Who wants to be judged when things go bad with people saying ''shebi him no gree go school...now poverty dey worry am''.

The woman at home with you is not the same woman in the office, is not the same woman during outing with her girls, is not the same woman when she talks to Bayo who complimented her beauty at work, is not the same woman during praise and worship in church, is not the same woman who in the same church saw the brother that looks like her ex and how he smiles at her, is not the same woman who fantasizes about that handsome actor and is not the same woman whose sexual kink is to be tied and gagged. How does she tell you these things without being judged? Without paying dearly by way of the huge social cost of her honesty? But that was then and it is changing. When you know this, you will know what to expect and what not to expect from them.

The questions are ''WHY WOULD MEN WANT TO TRUST WOMEN IN THE FIRST INSTANCE?'' (JUST AS WE ASK, WHY WOULD WOMEN ALSO TRUST MEN?). ''WHO ADVISED MEN TO TRUST WOMEN? AND WHICH MAN believes he can trust a woman?'' Women are not the honest, sexually modest, princesses we want them or wish them to be. They are capable of everything and even worse. They have multiple personalities and depending on the situation can shapeshift. That your calm woman who doesn't like being hugged and so on, deep down fantasizes about being dragged into a back alley and penetrated from behind. They desire multiple men and enjoy taboo sexual relations. They know they do not have the necessary physical capacity to defend themselves hence to survive, THEY WILL BLAME SOMEONE OR SOMETHING ELSE AND WILL NEVER TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY. Furthermore, they need to always project that something else caused it/made me do it so that they ''survive'' and so that they do not pay dearly in terms of social cost.

Real or imaginary, just as there is nothing that a man cannot do if he chooses, there is also nothing a woman too cannot do if she chooses to and believes it serves her survival, existence, comfort, sexual options and biological mating novelty, and reputation.

SultanOfPuna:
You made one very big blunder
A very big LIE that I can't let it slide

That WOMEN LOVE SEX MORE THAN MEN

This is the biggest lie of the 21st century

I refuse to believe that women love sex more than men. Here is my reason

1. If women love sex more than men
Then it should be so easy to have sex with women but we all know it is not easy.

Even a girl that likes you wont give you sex
They withold it and play games
If women loved sex so much then there will not be need for all those games they play .

They will go right into sex without hesitation
Just like men do jump in to sex without hesitation.

2. Brothels
The main reason for brothels is because women have withold and controlled sex so much that they deny men sex. So these men then go to brothel to have sex at a cost.

If women loved sex so much they would not waste time to participate in it. But you and I know that women will play games and withold sex.
That is not how someone who loves sex act Someone who loves sex will not hesitate to enjoy it.

Men love sex more than women. Period

10thTenthMan:
I Will go on an unsolicited monologue here. And I won't apologize for it. Apologize for being the 10th Man?

Stories like these, whether real or not, whether rage bait or not, I guarantee that worse has happened, is happening and will happen. So while this story seems crazy to many people, it does not bother those who know women. They are not complicated. Nothing is complicated about a woman.

Women are actually NOT complicated. There is nothing complicated about a woman. Women are just DIFFERENT AND most often misunderstood. PEOPLE CREATE FALSE ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT THEM AND PROJECT THESE ASSUMPTIONS and expectations on them. And in order to thrive, women mostly and often conform to these assumptions/expectations so that they are able to fit in and get accepted, especially when it comes to landing a mate. And her landing a mate has a lot to do with her REPUTATION. Women therefore have multiple versions of themselves, each authentic in its own context, each serving a different social or survival function. But notice the moment they feel they have nothing to lose and everything to gain, they bring out and project their true selves. The real them. Just as men are capable of being cunning, so are women. But men are on a surface level.

The problem is that we (especially many naive men) expect them and believe that WOMEN should be or are PURE, CALM, FEMININE, CHASTE, WITH REPRESSED/CONTROLLED SEXUAL DESIRES, INCAPABLE OF VIOLENCE, INCAPABLE OF DEBASEMENT, SHOULD NOT DESIRE SEXUAL PROMISCUITY, SHOULD NOT HAVE RAGING SEXUAL DESIRES, SHOULD NOT DESIRE MULTIPLE MEN AT THE SAME TIME, etc. We project this expectation because we wish and want them to be this way to protect our egos as men, when they are not. And it will just simply shatter our reality if they aren't this way we wish them to be. THE TRUTH IS, A WOMAN LIKES SEX LIKE MEN OR EVEN MORE THAN MOST MEN. In fact, a woman can choose multiple men for one sexual reason or another. But how does she come out to say this without being judged? But notice that as women get more and more independent, their true selves are being exposed. What we call the ''Modern Woman''. There is nothing strange in their behavior, women of old who had the guts and lacked the shame and did not care about the stigma had lived the type of life of the modern woman. But only a select few had the guts. But now many women do and openly show their true selves. In the past, majority of them hid these things about themselves to fit it, thrive and survive. Till today, their deception (was and) is still a survival strategy. We wrongly assume every woman should value being with one man, raising kids, cooking, cleaning, and having sex with one man for 50 years of marriage. IT IS A LIE. Most women do not wish this or want this. If they do, it was projected upon them by the society, and they realize it is monotonous and boring afterward. But when society says this is how to thrive and judge you by that process, what do you do? Just like society says you must go to University to be successful and build wealth. It is a lie, but we all do it. Who wants to be judged when things go bad with people saying ''shebi him no gree go school...now poverty dey worry am''.

The woman at home with you is not the same woman in the office, is not the same woman during outing with her girls, is not the same woman when she talks to Bayo who complimented her beauty at work, is not the same woman during praise and worship in church, is not the same woman who in the same church saw the brother that looks like her ex and how he smiles at her, is not the same woman who fantasizes about that handsome actor and is not the same woman whose sexual kink is to be tied and gagged. How does she tell you these things without being judged? Without paying dearly by way of the huge social cost of her honesty? But that was then and it is changing. When you know this, you will know what to expect and what not to expect from them.

The questions are ''WHY WOULD MEN WANT TO TRUST WOMEN IN THE FIRST INSTANCE?'' (JUST AS WE ASK, WHY WOULD WOMEN ALSO TRUST MEN?). ''WHO ADVISED MEN TO TRUST WOMEN? AND WHICH MAN believes he can trust a woman?'' Women are not the honest, sexually modest, princesses we want them or wish them to be. They are capable of everything and even worse. They have multiple personalities and depending on the situation can shapeshift. That your calm woman who doesn't like being hugged and so on, deep down fantasizes about being dragged into a back alley and penetrated from behind. They desire multiple men and enjoy taboo sexual relations. They know they do not have the necessary physical capacity to defend themselves hence to survive, THEY WILL BLAME SOMEONE OR SOMETHING ELSE AND WILL NEVER TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY. Furthermore, they need to always project that something else caused it/made me do it so that they ''survive'' and so that they do not pay dearly in terms of social cost.

Real or imaginary, just as there is nothing that a man cannot do if he chooses, there is also nothing a woman too cannot do if she chooses to and believes it serves her survival, existence, comfort, sexual options and biological mating novelty, and reputation.

Meedon:
MGTOW

10thTenthMan:
I understand your point. And I understand the scenarios you paint.

My statement is that Women also love sex as much as men do, then I added “perhaps even more.”

Many men are addicted to sex and ejaculation thoughtlessly and just looking for a way to relieve himself and massage their egos. Many men brainwashed and influenced to believe that constant sex equals strong masculinity. A woman loves sex. Good sex, when she sees and meets the man who moves her emotionally. Loving something deeply does not equate to having it daily and having it without thought of risk and consequences.

There are drug users who love drugs use more than addicts, but they themselves are not addicts. Your argument is that if you love it as you claim then you shouldn’t be able to control your desire for it. Ok. So, I love sex. A lot. And even a lot more than those men who visit brothels. BUT I CAN AND WILL NEVER VISIT A BROTHEL WHY?Class. Sustained and guaranteed opportunities to meet better girls. Blessed with natural physical masculine features and traits, healthy features through fitness and exercise, financial stability(very), attractive Intellect/intelligence, knowing what to do and say to women when I want. If daddy GO has a good looking wife or Sister Mary the Nun is good looking enough to worth my attention, I’ll know how to approach such that if I don’t get it, I’ll plant a seed that eventually will germinate someday and I’ll have a higher chance of getting it.

Let us look at the expressions of sexuality for both genders. To what benefit will it be to women to allow easy sex by men because they love it, when clearly it threatens their image, survival, societal acceptance, etc. The risks are too high. But notice that as these “RISKS” become eroded in the society the women are slowly showing their true selves? In the past the risks included Bad Image, Damaged Reputation, Risk of Getting Pregnant, Failure to find a suitable respectable mate, Risk of even getting killed for being promiscuous, loss of financial support, protection and provision, shame and disgrace to family/family name, etc. But notice that as these things become less threatening women are getting more and more expressive. Engaging more and more in multiple sex partners. Years and years of cultural, religious and societal conditioning have made them be the way many of them are. They learn from childhood what to do and how to act. Told how to laugh and how to behave so they can make good wives. How to cook and how to dress modestly.

Men are allowed and permitted to show and display their sexuality. In fact it is a plus. Women are judged harshly and pay dearly when they (the women) do so. Considering the society even of today, which man boldly/proudly would pick a harlot/olosho and say he wants to marry her?

What a man will sacrifice for the love of sex or a fling in my opinion is not as much as a woman will willingly sacrifice.

Women are expected to be proper and not be sluts, if not their reputations are damaged and they are not able to pair bond as the society also expects. They are not able to meet the expectations or goal of Marriage. And when they can’t they are laughed at. Mocked. “Nah him make she never marry”!! “Shame…go marry.. your mates don marry finish”….”wooowoooowooo…your mates don leave their papa house..”….”see this one wey no fit stay husband house Dey talk”! How a parent tells their Son to find a wife is not the same tone they tell their daughter to find a husband. It has never and will hardly ever be the same.

You mentioned brothels, just because Aboki sells Sugarcane does not mean he also can’t like sugarcane more than the various customers that come to buy. It is a business for him and it is a survival strategy. Women have known that MEN WILL PROVIDE RESOURCES TO HAVE SEX. They simply turn this into a business. Having better self control and will power does not mean they don’t like sex more. And in recent times the things that led to this self control and will power are getting eroded AND WE ARE GRADUALLY SEEING THEIR TRUE NATURE. Gradually and slowly but now more and more are coming out. Especially as we now have:

-Erosion of old morals, values, cultures
-Availability of Condoms
-Contraceptives & Morning after pills
-Free and paid for but available abortions
-Liberalism and open expression of sexual orientation
-Societal praise for the modern woman life style
-Social media hype and trends and attention/content as a form of currency

The true nature of women is being revealed. A Master Chef likes food and the art of making it, but he doesn’t binge eat like a glutton. A woman has a more cautious approach and that caution is getting eroded. Having self control does not mean you love something less. An impulsive spender doesn’t necessarily love the things he buys more than a careful investor who manages his money well, grows wealth and prefers to spend only on huge yachts and fine paintings.

Being careful doesn’t mean you love something less than the person who is careless/reckless.

SultanOfPuna:
That reputation thing still doesn't make sense at all. Let me explain

Girls in general DO NOT LOVE SEX MORE THAN MEN. That was the only point I tried to correct

Girls are very very selective with who they have sex with. Nothing like reputation forgot all that crap.
Young girls going for older sugar daddies don't care about reputation. That thing is not an excuse.

From my experience.
If a girl say she must sleep with you. SHE WILL DO EVERYTHING IN HER POWER TO MAKE IT HAPPEN. Nothing like reputation.

You will find yourself in a very private location only both of you in the bed. You are feeling hooorny and you ask her for sex. And she deny it. How does reputation matter??
When only both of you are in secret private place, where nobody will see you or judge you

Forget all those excuses you give for women.

I have been to europen country where it is very very easy for them to sex you if they like you on the surface.
They give sex freely if they like you.

Over here Nigerian girls will like you to the moon and back but will deny you sex and play games with you to make you chase her more.

So it angers me when you say women like sex more than men.
When we know that even married men are being denied sex by their wives who have weaponized sex withloding it and making the man go to brothel or cheat outside.

That statement is a big lie from hell

What you should say is A woman is the gatekeeper of sex!!
It is her that select and decide who will enter

And from what we see
They only allow few to enter so you can't come here and say they love sex more than men when women are extremely selective of who enters their vj

10thTenthMan:
Well if you notice, I am not quarreling. And God knows no exchange on Nairaland will make me angry. I mean to what gain and to achieve what? It will serve no purpose at all.

Now the fact that I don’t allow any beggar and stranger into my restaurant does not mean I don’t like my restaurant business or don’t like serving people or don’t like cooking and don’t like food. I enjoy my restaurant business. I love serving people. But while I love this act of service, I don’t also like Homeless stinky dirty beggars to always troupe into my restaurant. Many of them who want to eat for free, stain my chairs, poop in the restaurant and spoil the reputation of my business. What will people say and how will other good customers react? Meanwhile, I see Kemi and Anita their restaurants are thriving with big and good customers and their business is respected. They select those that come in and in fact if you are not well dressed you cannot come into the compound.

I am the gatekeeper of an amusement park, I even enjoy the rides as much as and perhaps even more than the regular guests. As gate keeper I see all manner of people beg to come in but my job and responsibility is to ensure that those that come in meet certain criteria (tickets, etc) otherwise I loose my job. Will I say because I also LOVE the rides, I will then leave my job, get on the rides at will and not control those who come in, then stand the chance of loosing my job?

A woman weaponizes sex because she feels men have no self control for it or she has lost all desire and respect for you. BUT DOES THAT MEAN SHE IS NOT GETTING SEX ELSEWHERE? Nigerian girls use sex as a form of value for transactions and as a means/unit of exchange, because you have desperate porn addicted, sex and ejaculation addicted men who are willing to allow themselves be played. They allow few enter because they are selective and they stand to gain more by being selective. They are wiser!

I mean many men secretly wish they (women) would just freely open their legs yakata for us on the street and in corners and beg us to penetrate them, but SEX is not the only thing for a quality life that a woman desires. Love of food and starvation are 2 different things. I love food doesn’t mean I’ll eat dead rotten rat meat. Or are we saying that IF YOU CLAIM THAT YOU LOVE FOOD YOU MUST ALSO EAT ANYTHING PRESENTED BEFORE YOU? EVEN DEAD ROASTED ROTTEN RATS OR HUMAN FLESH? I know gluttons who will not eat dog meat. I know people who can kill for pepper soup, but when it was made with snake meat they ran away.

So, as usual with me. I’ll leave my opinions and allow those who come across our discussion to see that we shared and our unique opinions on the matter.

SultanOfPuna:
Another BIG FAT LIE
We are not quarreling. I just don't like misinformation

Go to Europe and see the level of hornynes of white men. They are more sexual addicted to porn and Bdsm more than Nigerian guys.
Yet there women DO NOT WEAPONIZE SEX

Infact a white guy was caught masturbating in public metro train. This guys are sex freaks but yet their women still give out sex freely.

As for using the analogy of smelly looking guys been denied entry as gatekeeper.

I know a guy who is very very neat he studied medicine. Very fit and handsome
One very pretty white girl rejected that clean handsome well dressed guy and slept with me with my disorganized apartment.

Like I said WOMEN ARE VERY SELECTIVE
She can reject the most handsome clean guy and sleep with a rough looking agbero. She is the one who chooses and their is no criteria. It's all based on her emotions.
But me I was reckless with unkept beards and not clean yet she slept with me countless times and showed me DM of that guy still shooting his shoot at her.


As for the analogy of restaurant.
I have seen women give mad men homeless men and beggars food in PUBLIC to eat but not inside their restaurant. They put it in takeaway plate or nylon and give them. Everyone sees them do it but That doesn't stop customers tripping into her shop. Infact they see it as a sign of a good motherly woman.
But a woman in secret of bedroom where nobody will see or judge her will still deny a very clean handsome guy sex. With excuse of reputation?? Are you sexing on public??
Private something that nobody will know about you are saying scared of her reputation
That's just a flimsy excuse

You can't open your mouth and say Women love sex more than men and still say but they only select who they want to have sex with. It's nonesense

Men do not select who they have sex with
Men can sex ugly woman with amputed leg
Men can sex fat ugly girls
Because Men love Sex. Simple!!
But Women are very selective and her criteria is not straightforward

Men hardly decline sex offers from women
Women decline sex offers like water

If a girl go and ask 4 random guys if they want to sex her. 3 out of 4 will agree immediately
But let a man go and ask 4 random girls.
He will be rejected with slap sef

Therefore men enjoy sex more because they have nothing to lose.