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How can you sleep with your Exes multiple times during dating and expect to be automatically a faithful and loving wife in marriage? Some weddings you may have seen with couples dancing, celebrating e.t.c, may just be that the lady doing the wedding just had sex with her EX few days to the wedding day. She may even cry tears of joy on the wedding day, while her EX may be a wedding guest mocking the husband that is probably dancing so well in the wedding.

Again, some caring husbands who may have pampered their wives during pregnancy, stood by her during labour, probably cried tears of joy after child birth, may just be doing so for another man's child.

As a lady, you may need to prayerfully cut-off ties with your EX or past sexual partners, and you may need to prayerful undo the impact your past sexual escapades may do to your marriage.

First of all a lot of women marry guys they don't love aren't sexually attracted to. They marry who's ready because they have limited time unlike men. Do you think it's easy for a woman to leave a good DK and live with 2min man all because of marriage. She tolerate sex with her husband because they need to have kid's. Just as a man prefer a woman who cooks very well same applies to the woman who's body has feel different DK. That's why you should try to marry a virgin or a lady with low body count.

Cum4me:
First of all a lot of women marry guys they don't love aren't sexually attracted to. They marry who's ready because they have limited time unlike men. Do you think it's easy for a woman to leave a good DK and live with 2min man all because of marriage. She tolerate sex with her husband because they need to have kid's. Just as a man prefer a woman who cooks very well same applies to the woman who's body has feel different DK. That's why you should try to marry a virgin or a lady with low body count.

How will you know if a lady has low body count this man

Most women do that before their wedding to have the last enjoyment with their Ex, or to raise funds for wedding but most time to cheat and it always ends up becoming a constant ride

Some men sha don't know what they married . If they know,them will cry.

Some first born doesn't even know who their real dad is. Most ladies sleeps with their exes before marriage, mostly when they go to give him IV. I was aware of one that was pregnant,but wanted to do TM. She brought the pregnancy and wanted her ex to nack her on top. She calls her self upcoming prophetess.

Another one came for hookup .. This one happened in Benin.. She said she was looking for money to buy what she needs for her marriage. The idiot came for hookup..


The painful part was that the man she said she wants to marry is from my tribe..

"Happinness Vivian " = usual suspects.

Biafran perp. Ngozi, Amaka and Lovelyn. Thank you for the sweet moments

Zina is still a great sin b4 God, may we be guided zz

Any woman you didn't meet a virgin can sleep with anything before and after wedding.

That's why I like Peter Obi's explanation: Think less about what your wife does with another man and focus on building a great future for yourself and your children.

This is something many people both men and women do just before marriage, so I don't believe it's peculiar to women

Esp for those who had multiple partners, the thought of staying with one person throughout could make them feel "caged"

So they may want to do the "last enjoyment" and farewell nacks to close that chapter

But then is that chapter truly closed because every now and then , they may reminiscent of their past escapades when they were in the "street" and may want to go back and "re-live" the "glory days"

ruby247:
Most women do that before their wedding to have the last enjoyment with their Ex, or to raise funds for wedding but most time to cheat and it always ends up becoming a constant ride

Nothing like last.

They always have it in secret.

Don't be deceived

Well the only reason such will happen is if the husband is dumb

Wicked souls! Their sins will surely find them out. They can't and will never escape the consequences.

It's completely understandable to have concerns about trust, loyalty, and emotional baggage in relationships — those things really do matter. But it's also important to be fair and compassionate in how we view people’s pasts, especially when it comes to something as complex as love, sex, and personal growth.

Many people have past relationships or have made decisions they later regret — that’s part of being human. What truly defines a person’s readiness for marriage isn't just their past, but what they've learned from it and how they’ve grown. A history with exes doesn’t automatically make someone unfaithful, just like a quiet past doesn’t guarantee loyalty.

Yes, some people may carry unresolved emotional ties into marriage — and that can be damaging. But that applies to men too, not just women. It’s a two-way street. The real issue isn’t just who someone slept with in the past, but whether they've been honest with themselves and their partner, and whether they're willing to build a relationship based on transparency, healing, and commitment.

If someone is still tied emotionally or sexually to an ex, it is important to reflect, pray (if that aligns with their beliefs), and take steps to be free of those ties. But let’s approach that with encouragement, not condemnation. People change. People heal. And many have gone on to build beautiful, faithful marriages — not because they were perfect, but because they chose to do the work.

Rather than focusing on shame or suspicion, let’s promote open conversation between partners. Ask each other hard questions, talk about the past honestly, and make space for grace, not just judgment.

Love that’s real — whether in dating or marriage — is built on trust, growth, and truth.

99% of women have not stopped sleeping with thier Exes after marriage. likewise men, have not stopped sleeping with Exes after marriage.

So if your wife has high body count, then her kpekus go hear am inside your marital home.
That's the time Exes want to scatter the farm with all kind cutlasses.

Its no debate topic. This has been happening since to some its fun while some the cheating life they've can't just let them go

Women are heartless, u will rejoices and spend money , time and energy as man (joyful father ) for a child your wife born for another man and she go keep secret and away from your knowledge, OMG !!!!

cutecommend:
How can you sleep with your Exes multiple times during dating and expect to be automatically a faithful and loving wife in marriage? Some weddings you may have seen with couples dancing, celebrating e.t.c, may just be that the lady doing the wedding just had sex with her EX few days to the wedding day. She may even cry tears of joy on the wedding day, while her EX may be a wedding guest mocking the husband that is probably dancing so well in the wedding.

Again, some caring husbands who may have pampered their wives during pregnancy, stood by her during labour, probably cried tears of joy after child birth, may just be doing so for another man's child.

As a lady, you may need to prayerfully cut-off ties with your EX or past sexual partners, and you may need to prayerful undo the impact your past sexual escapades may do to your marriage.

That's not news...!.

The only reason they married or are marrying the men they are marrying rather than their Ex is because of Availability and Financial reasons.


As long as their exes are within reach, you can be sure sexual escapades will continue.


That's why modern married men are counselled not to sleep on this DNA testing of kids at birth.

MartinCorridon:
"Happinness Vivian " = usual suspects.

Biafran perp. Ngozi, Amaka and Lovelyn. Thank you for the sweet moments

You mean they all dumped you?

17 more characters needed, add them to your character.

It's a disturbing norm that both the ladies and ex boyfriends don't see anything wrong in.

Almost fell for it that year with my ex. I sensed something was wrong with the way she was pestering me to see me, calling me on video while nude and stationing me. Alas, lo and behold, I was right. She was about to get married and was definitely trying to turn my 'Netflix and chill' into 'Netflix and, well, less chill' before tying the knot

I don't think the couples really expect the partner with ex's to be faithful.

I like how men are starting to realise women are polyandrous in nature, it balances the equation so that everyone can navigate how they can cope and endure as they see fit.

Guys do it too...

Everything a man accuses a woman, he is quity of it..

But, how is it wrong for a lady to sleep with her ex before her wedding? I thought you guys said any girl who is advanced in age but not married has a bad character? So, if you decide to marry a girl with good character, why are you complaining that she slept with her ex or still sleeping with her ex? She is only displaying her good character which you should be proud of.

Dickson178:
How will you know if a lady has low body count this man

I am sorry, what? Is it your reasoning that only these low-body-count women sleep with other men right before their weddings?

Why is it only salacious tales like that that hit NL FP? There are no stories of successes on fidelity, loyalty, and chastity?

Is it all hopeless as Nairaland tries to paint it?

Is Nairaland against normal healthy relationships?

My one woman carries her body cam wherever she goes so I will know where and what she is doing at anytime. I no trust them.

Before I proceed I just want to remind d single men out there that have bn manipulated by their so-called girlfriends in d name of birthday and world girlfriend day that today is actually worlds boyfriend day so your girlfriend must do needful by getting u something or taking u out.
Back to d topic,I once had an ex that begged us to meet two days to her wedding.she said she will pay for d hotel and her transport but I refused cos my godfather warned wen I was still a child not to evernot to ever sleep with a woman that has bride-price has bn paid

1. On Women Marrying Men They're Not Attracted To
Yes, some women do marry men they’re not deeply attracted to — just like some men marry women they’re not fully in love with, for reasons like stability, timing, family pressure, or a desire to settle. It happens on both sides. But assuming this is the rule rather than the exception oversimplifies human relationships.

Women, like men, want emotional connection, passion, and sexual satisfaction. If they "settle" because of time pressure or societal expectations, that’s more a reflection of social conditioning and gender roles, not female nature itself.

2. “Tolerating” Sex with Husbands
Some women might go through the motions, especially if there's a mismatch in sexual compatibility. But many don't just tolerate—they value intimacy and want to enjoy it. Sexual compatibility is a two-way street. And truthfully, many men also stay in sexless or emotionally flat marriages because of duty, kids, or fear of divorce. So, saying “she tolerates sex because she needs kids” simplifies a complex emotional and physical reality. It happens, sure — but it’s not a default or an ideal.

3. Body Count and Sexual Compatibility
This is a sensitive area. Some men believe marrying a woman with a low body count ensures loyalty, lower expectations, or less “comparison.” But here's a human truth: Experience doesn’t automatically mean someone will compare or cheat.

A virgin isn’t guaranteed to be loyal or satisfied just because she hasn’t been with anyone else.

A woman with more experience isn’t automatically incapable of bonding or loving deeply.

The real issue is compatibility, communication, and emotional maturity. Someone with 0 partners can struggle in marriage just as much as someone with 10, 20, or more — depending on their values and expectations.

4. Men Wanting Good Cooks vs Women Wanting Good Lovers
This is a fair point. Everyone has preferences. A man may want a woman who cooks and nurtures — just as a woman may want a man who knows how to make her feel good emotionally and physically. That’s not unreasonable — but it goes both ways.

So yes — sex matters, just like affection, support, ambition, and trust do. But reducing women to “how many DKs she’s had” is as unhelpful as reducing men to “how much money he makes” or “how long he lasts.”

Marriage is already hard. Love, loyalty, and sexual satisfaction all require work, self-awareness, and communication. People aren’t statistics or stereotypes — they’re shaped by values, experiences, and emotional intelligence.

If you want a woman with a low body count because that aligns with your values, you’re free to want that — just don’t assume that guarantees a happy or healthy relationship.

Cum4me:
First of all a lot of women marry guys they don't love aren't sexually attracted to. They marry who's ready because they have limited time unlike men. Do you think it's easy for a woman to leave a good DK and live with 2min man all because of marriage. She tolerate sex with her husband because they need to have kid's. Just as a man prefer a woman who cooks very well same applies to the woman who's body has feel different DK. That's why you should try to marry a virgin or a lady with low body count.

CryptoJagaban:
I don't think the couples really expect the partner with ex's to be faithful.

So, na only people who no get exes dey dey faithful?

Biglittlelois:
I like how men are starting to realise women are polyandrous in nature, it balances the equation so that everyone can navigate how they can cope and endure as they see fit.

Yeah... Let the men who are willing to share their wives and partners with other men continue.

If both men and women are okay with philandering, then good for them and the society.

Where it makes no sense is where one tries to pull a wool over their partners.