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My husband is an exceptional man.
He helps with our little girl a lot.
He bathed her while she was a new born baby because he had experience bathing his youngest sibling.
I couldn't do that task after mother in-law left because our baby was still too small and I was scared I could drop her.

When he sees that food isn't ready and he is hungry, he enters the kitchen and cook for us.

He carries our baby whenever we are taking a walk together because he doesn't want me to be stressed carrying her.

He taught me some rare dishes and he makes the market list better than me.

I became a better version of myself, money-wise.

Some men bring out the beauty in marriage and I know I won a trophy as a husband.

I'd rather refer to such men as exceptional men and not "finished men"

May God bless all Exceptional men out there.


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Any man that leaves all the responsibility of taking care of a baby for the mother alone is not ready to be a dad. Those chores you mentioned are normal things that every dad should do. Unfortunately, most Nigerian men shy away from doing them because of the shallow mentality exhibited by Africans which put men on a pedestal whilst women are made to endure suffering. So, if your husband is taking care of the baby both of you are parenting, he is not doing you any favor, but doing what he is supposed to do as a dad.

We4all:
Any man that leaves all the responsibility of taking care of a baby for the mother alone is not ready to be a dad. Those chores you mentioned are normal things that every dad should do. Unfortunately, most Nigerian men shy away from doing them because of the shallow mentality exhibited by Africans which put men on a pedestal whilst women are made to endure suffering. So, if your husband is taking care of the baby both of you are parenting, he is not doing you any favor, but doing what he is supposed to do as a dad.

You're right, his mum raised him well.

True and such men are rare in Nigeria.

Can U just REST auntie

And stop showing your baby's picture everywhere on here...

It's just an advice

The only person who should be resting here it's you.

Did she force you to follow her posts?

Some of you guys are really weird, imagine being bothered by someone else's baby in a time and age whereby people post their babies on social media all the time.

Focus on your own children and let others do the same... For all we know, you could even be a deadbeat father.

Starz825:
Can U just REST auntie

And stop showing your baby's picture everywhere on here...

It's just an advice

Samantha125:
The only person who should be resting here it's you.

Did she[i][/i] force you to follow her posts?

Some of you guys are really weird, imagine being bothered by someone else's baby in a time and age whereby people post their babies on social media all the time.

Focus on your own children and let others do the same... For all we know, you could even be a deadbeat father.

No qualms...was just an advice.... especially for the baby

Besides, if you don't want people's comments...you don't put your stuffs online for all to see...


So expect anything!

You can comment without trying to dictate how she and her family should be living their lives.

Her husband and father of her child is also on this forum and not complaining... So REST!!!!

Starz825:
No qualms...was just an advice.... especially for the baby

Besides, if you don't want people's comments...you don't put your stuffs online for all to see...


So expect anything!

Samantha125:
The only person who should be resting here it's you.

Did she force you to follow her posts?

Some of you guys are really weird, imagine being bothered by someone else's baby in a time and age whereby people post their babies on social media all the time.

Focus on your own children and let others do the same... For all we know, you could even be a deadbeat father.

Thanks for this comment. ❤️

I love the line, "focus on your own children and let others do same"

I don't know why people feel they can make decisions for adults.

Starz825:
No qualms...was just an advice.... especially for the baby

Besides, if you don't want people's comments...you don't put your stuffs online for all to see...


So expect anything!

It's true people come up on people's threads and say anything.


You call it advice but it isn't, you're trying to detect what an adult should or shouldn't do online.


Use some seconds to think about what you are about commenting before you do.

We4all:
Any man that leaves all the responsibility of taking care of a baby for the mother alone is not ready to be a dad. Those chores you mentioned are normal things that every dad should do. Unfortunately, most Nigerian men shy away from doing them because of the shallow mentality exhibited by Africans which put men on a pedestal whilst women are made to endure suffering. So, if your husband is taking care of the baby both of you are parenting, he is not doing you any favor, but doing what he is supposed to do as a dad.

I was about to point out to the OP. OP, please take note!

A man should not be considered exceptional for doing the bare minimum that any man and father of his own child should be expected to do. Same way, a woman should not be considered exceptional for doing the bare minimum that any woman or mother should be expected to do. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
I was about to point out to the OP. OP, please take note!

A man should not be considered exceptional for doing the bare minimum that any man and father of his own child should be expected to do. Same way, a woman should not be considered exceptional for doing the bare minimum that any woman or mother should be expected to do. 🥱🥱🥱

True, but if you check, only 5 out of 100 homes in Nigeria you'll see the man helping his wife with house chores, or baby sitting the kids.

Every man that doesn't act like a normal Nigerian man deserves to be praised.

RevenuesBoost:
➜True, but if you check, only 5 out of 100 homes in Nigeria you'll see the man helping his wife with house chores, or baby sitting the kids.
➜ Every man that doesn't act like a normal Nigerian man deserves to be praised.

Well, that still ain't no reason to try to shift the indicator to make it seem as though aiming for the bare minimum — what shoud amount to a C grade in real terms — should now get men an exceptional score when women who have been doing the same for the longest barely get any recognition still.

2. Wrong! Women who do the same typically get a mere C for doing that. Men who do no more than the average woman out there should equally get a C grade, nothing more. There is absolutely no reason why the standard should be different for a man than it is for a woman.

The same way you had to be in the same class with the boys and got graded on the same curve as they were, you should also do that with those same boys, some now men, in the school of Life. Stop thinking that by shifting goal posts for one gender, you make yourself a better person or seem better in the grand scheme of things. That is all an illusion and nothing more.

OP, don't let "jealous" people spoil your joy.

Stop listening to people that cannot maintain a relationship, not to talk of a marriage to tell you that your man is not special.

Continue to cherish your home, your man and your family as you have been doing. God will continue to bless your home.

If it's easy, they should run am.

➜OP, don't let "jealous" people spoil your joy. Stop listening to people that cannot maintain a relationship, not to talk of a marriage to tell you that your man is not special.
➜ Continue to cherish your home, your man and your family as you have been doing. God will continue to bless your home. If it's easy, they should run am.

Just wanted to add or should I say, correct a couple of misconceptions here.

➜ A relationship is maintained by two individuals working together to keep the union going. An individual alone cannot maintain a relationship — for instance, a romantic relationship —as it takes two to tangle. In the case that an individual alone carries the responsibility of maintaining the relationship, that individual is said to be in a relationship with himself/herself... this is typically the case with many married single women out there.
➜ There is no God in human relationships. There are, instead, human beings steering the wheel when it comes to human relationships. No amount of prayer, fasting, or religiosity can mend or make a relationship happen if the humans involved do not desire that result.

Helpout12345:
OP, don't let "jealous" people spoil your joy.

Stop listening to people that cannot maintain a relationship, not to talk of a marriage to tell you that your man is not special.

Continue to cherish your home, your man and your family as you have been doing. God will continue to bless your home.

If it's easy, they should run am.

Amen

Thanks for the comment ❤️

Kobojunkie:
I was about to point out to the OP. OP, please take note!

A man should not be considered exceptional for doing the bare minimum that any man and father of his own child should be expected to do. Same way, a woman should not be considered exceptional for doing the bare minimum that any woman or mother should be expected to do. 🥱🥱🥱

Lol..Kobo Kobo.

There's nothing exceptional about that man I'm seeing there