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The bastard and its mother will not share the same roof with me. I will not bare the burden of irresponsible people.

She will not bring it home in the first place..... if she was so stupid to do stupid things, then she must learn the hard way

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

A tinge bit of disappointing, but at the same time will be proud of her for not aborting the kid, despite me being a pro choice person

It takes bravery to keep a child in such circumstances
The real disappointment will be who the father is

If he is a riff raff
That will be heart breaking
But if its a level headed boy/school mate
It will be less "shocking"

Me na to enter olosho house immediately.

When I come out, I will think of what to do with her

Martinez39s:
I would ask her who the father is. Regardless of the answer, I would tell her to get her baby and go camp with the guy who impregnated her. As father, you must warn your daughters early on to avoid unwanted pregnancy or at aleast make sure they get pregnant for a guy who is capable and willing to house and take care of them and their kids.

If you get pregnant for a guy, you are leaving my house to go stay with him and I won't be responsible for you and your child. If the guy happens to be a bum or one irresponsible bad boy who wants nothing to do with you and your child, tough luck and go fend for yourself.

Really??
I agree with the part of warning them early about the dangers of that sha

bigpicture001:
HV u thought about the limited resources u hv to train ur remaining 3 children will now b used on 5 children....

Dnt u think it will breed poverty..?

The boy who did the deed will double his hustle and take care of his responsibilities

He ain't gonna escape it

I will be crushed, very crushed.

I will will ask to know the father. I will ask to meet him.

But at the end of the day, accept the reality but will let her know she will bear most of the consequences.

I really won't care for the child's father. The father may be a deadbeat not ready to accept responsibility.

I would be devastated and my daughter would realise it. I will just become sunken

Martinez39s:
➜ It is not a failed formula because I am not expecting any result. It is just a matter of principle: if you get pregnant, you must go be with the child's father.
➜ If the child's father accepts you and the child and steps up to his fatherly responsibility, fine; if he doesn't, still don't come back.
➜ What new results am I expecting? Result ke?

Abandoning your child to her fate is a formula that has brought countless heartaches to both mother and child, as well as the family as a whole. You call it a principle, but if the result each time is 98% guaranteed failure for the family as a whole, shouldn't you revisit the worth of this so-called principle? 🥱🥱

2. But the majority of the time, in Nigeria, especially, the child's family never accepts the woman and her child. So, again, what is the worth of this so-called principle? 🥱🥱

3. Well, people typically institute principles that benefit them and their family as a whole, not merely for the sake of pretending they are gods over the lives of others. So, I guess the question is, what do you gain from holding on to principles that end up jeopardizing the lives of your own blood? 🥱🥱🥱

Martinez39s:
I would ask her who the father is. Regardless of the answer, I would tell her to get her baby and go camp with the guy who impregnated her. As father, you must warn your daughters early on to avoid unwanted pregnancy or at aleast make sure they get pregnant for a guy who is capable and willing to house and take care of them and their kids.

If you get pregnant for a guy, you are leaving my house to go stay with him and I won't be responsible for you and your child. If the guy happens to be a bum or one irresponsible bad boy who wants nothing to do with you and your child, tough luck and go fend for yourself.

speaking from both sides of your mouth, neither here nor there.

Martinez39s:
I would ask her who the father is. Regardless of the answer, I would tell her to get her baby and go camp with the guy who impregnated her. As father, you must warn your daughters early on to avoid unwanted pregnancy or at aleast make sure they get pregnant for a guy who is capable and willing to house and take care of them and their kids.

If you get pregnant for a guy, you are leaving my house to go stay with him and I won't be responsible for you and your child. If the guy happens to be a bum or one irresponsible bad boy who wants nothing to do with you and your child, tough luck and go fend for yourself.

speaking from both sides of your mouth, neither here nor there. Why?

CorperKola:
Really??
I agree with the part of warning them early about the dangers of that sha

Yes. I don't enable irresponsible and reckless decisions and I won't shoulder another man's responsibility. I won't work hard to take care of my kids only for them to add another man's responsibility to the mix. This doesn't mean I hate my grandchild.

dawnomike:
Reprimand her, get to know the stupid guy that put her in the family way... After raising hell up and down, I will calm down, take care of my daughter to ensure she delivers the baby safely.
Afterwhich, I will ensure she gets back to the plan of building her life back on track and never allowing herself to be a mumu again.

lol.... Your response clearly says the kind of family you were raised from.

In my family, we raise response women, we don't do that.

dawnomike:
Reprimand her, get to know the stupid guy that put her in the family way... After raising hell up and down, I will calm down, take care of my daughter to ensure she delivers the baby safely.
Afterwhich, I will ensure she gets back to the plan of building her life back on track and never allowing herself to be a mumu again.

She fit still no wise and go carry another belle for the same guy again, this I see many places.

After all that you would do, RELOCATE HER TO ANOTHER PLACE

Fuckyoumod:
speaking from both sides of your mouth, neither here nor there. Why?

What do you mean? Can you be clearer?

Kobojunkieee:
Abandoning your child to her fate is a formula that has brought countless heartaches to both mother and child, as well as the family as a whole. You call it a principle, but if the result each time is 98% guaranteed failure for the family as a whole, shouldn't you revisit the worth of this so-called principle? 🥱🥱

2. But the majority of the time, in Nigeria, especially, the child's family never accepts the woman and her child. So, again, what is the worth of this so-called principle? 🥱🥱

3. Well, people typically institute principles that benefit them and their family as a whole, not merely for the sake of pretending they are gods over the lives of others. So, I guess the question is, what do you gain from holding on to principles that end up jeopardizing the lives of your own blood? 🥱🥱🥱

Mtsewwww. Lol. It is not you who will tell me how to craft my principles. When it is your turn, do as you like. When it is my turn, I will do as I like. Goodnight.

What a great father you are or would be..Imwould certainly do the same also...y daughter goes no where but with me after reprimanding her. She would give birth in my house and the baby becomes my child also while she further her education if she's still in school. I could even relocate her to another country just for her not to feel scornful eyes of the evil people....my daughter will always be my daughter and any product from my daughter is mine also.....

bigpicture001:
What about her child

What a great father you are Mike or would be father..I would certainly do the same also...my daughter goes no where but with me after reprimanding her. She would give birth in my house and the baby becomes my child also while she further her education if she's still in school. I could even relocate her to another country just for her not to feel scornful eyes of the evil people....my daughter will always be my daughter and any product from my daughter is mine also.....

dawnomike:
Reprimand her, get to know the stupid guy that put her in the family way... After raising hell up and down, I will calm down, take care of my daughter to ensure she delivers the baby safely.
Afterwhich, I will ensure she gets back to the plan of building her life back on track and never allowing herself to be a mumu again.

ISellBeer:
She fit still no wise and go carry another belle for the same guy again, this I see many places.

After all that you would do, RELOCATE HER TO ANOTHER PLACE

Are you minding them? When you enable irresponsible decisions from irresponsible child, you set grounds for a likely repeat. I too have seen this pattern happen repeatedly.

People act like it is every child you must go through hell for and never give up on. Some kids are bent on being irresponsible and a thorn in the flesh. Some kids must be spat out at a certain point.

Martinez39s:
➜Mtsewwww. Lol. It is not you who will tell me how to craft my principles. When it is your turn, do as you like. When it is my turn, I will do as I like. Goodnight.

I am speaking from a point of experience here. Thinking to save your pride never works out for the vast majority out there.

Funke!! I will hand her over to her mother. Then I will take the guy to the lungu. He should have asked about the father of the girl.

ISellBeer:
➜She fit still no wise and go carry another belle for the same guy again, this I see many places.
➜After all that you would do, RELOCATE HER TO ANOTHER PLACE

That depends! If the father gives them a slap on the wrist and tries to carry the burden for them, then chances her she might fall for the same lies. However, if she is burdened with working on her life, paying bills, while at the same time raising the kid, she is likely not to consider creating more burdens for herself.

2. Because the man or some other man cannot find her in another place?

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

dawnomike:
Reprimand her, get to know the stupid guy that put her in the family way... After raising hell up and down, I will calm down, take care of my daughter to ensure she delivers the baby safely.
Afterwhich, I will ensure she gets back to the plan of building her life back on track and never allowing herself to be a mumu again.

1.first of all you need to understand that if your daughter gets pregnant at that age or younger, out of wedlock, you have failed as a father or parent. Unmarried single motherhood is a shame on any father, these are things that happen to girls raised by single mothers. What is the point in having a father if your daughter ends up pregnent out of wedlock at 22?
2. secondly you need to acknowledge that at 22, she is an adult.

then i would want to meet the man who got her pregnant and the family he belongs to not because i can force him to do anything but so they know that she comes from a family that cares abiout her not a girl youcan just impregnate and nobody is bothered. That encounter would determine what comes next. In everything fall back to the first bullet point.

This thing sounds like a joke but there is a lady I tried wooing earlier this year.

She was serving and on one occasion I suspected she was serving because of a guy there so I cut off.

Recently, I initiated conversation again only to find out she's pregnant.

She's 22 and a graduate sha. Funny enough she's a strong advocate of morals online. I'm glad she's fine and ready to overcome her fears especially seeing that a lot would criticise her for what they've come to recognise her

Ihenzy:
➜This thing sounds like a joke but there is a lady I tried wooing earlier this year. She was serving and on one occasion I suspected she was serving because of a guy there so I cut off. Recently, I initiated conversation again only to find out she's pregnant. She's 22 and a graduate sha. Funny enough she's a strong advocate of morals online. I'm glad she's fine and ready to overcome her fears especially seeing that a lot would criticise her for what they've come to recognise her

Strong advocate of what moral lines? She is pregnant in Nigeria, with the economy the way it is, and you insist we believe she is fine and ready to overcome her fears? Her own case na alien situation?

Accept her and the child. Abortion is a tricky subject in Islam.

22 is an adult and old enough to fully care for a child. She will be supported but she will hear and feel it.

dawnomike:
Reprimand her, get to know the stupid guy that put her in the family way... After raising hell up and down, I will calm down, take care of my daughter to ensure she delivers the baby safely.
Afterwhich, I will ensure she gets back to the plan of building her life back on track and never allowing herself to be a mumu again.

don't ever call the guy stupid. You're only allowed to call him stupid, if you call your daughter stupid. Because na 2 of them 4ck

A 22-year-old lady is no longer a kid. My reaction to this would depend entirely on whether the man who got her pregnant is a responsible person, not one of those immature guys

I pray and hope not but if it happens, its not the end of the world.

She go chop small slaps but we'll have deep dialogue and help her make a good choice "if" she wants to marry her baby daddy or finish what she's doing and move on with life.

Throwing her out is never a good thing. Na still my daughter na!!!

Principles are made for people and not the other way round!!!

The world won't end!!! We will overcome the issue and move on jare!

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

I won't push her away, but she must show me the man responsible

Shedrack777:
don't ever call the guy stupid. You're only allowed to call him stupid, if you call your daughter stupid. Because na 2 of them 4ck

you took this personal

Some parents would tell her to go stay with the father of the child

When the kid is born

Na dem go come dey form holi holi


Dey laugh say, I have a grandkid this and that...
Nonsense



If you are a girl and a guy impregnates you, don't abort it, be strong and keep it.


Show the world and devil that you are strong and won't kill a soul.
Children are gift

I will reprimand her first. But nothing happens in life that is called a "mistake" due. God knows d reason beyond d person why d child is coming to earth. Celine Dion came that way, d mother wanted abortion a Catholic priest gave her a negative reason. She kept it. Today the whole world heard her swt voices. Nothing happens in life that is called a mistake