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At 22 you should be outta my house

Abeg e be like you dey another page for this post oh..
I no see where them write graduate🙄

Talkisneeded:
A 22 year old graduate what

Support her. Give her mental, financial and moral support. No matter the age.

dawnomike:
Reprimand her, get to know the stupid guy that put her in the family way... After raising hell up and down, I will calm down, take care of my daughter to ensure she delivers the baby safely.
Afterwhich, I will ensure she gets back to the plan of building her life back on track and never allowing herself to be a mumu again.

Wisdom speaks through you

brain54:
A 22 year adult is old enough to make her own decisions...

And to take responsibility and consequences of whatever follows from her decisions!

True...

But this ancestor has searched myself about this matter. In as much as I'll be pissed about it all, I'm not sure I can let any of my daughters suffer in case she was silly enough to get pregnant for some vagrant bloke.

Aswia, I'll still try to help them. But chai, that kind drama go steal my peace of mind, gods forbid.

Where do you expect her to take it to?

Her father's house now. Is not better than try to commit suicide or dying in process of abortion.

Though I will not be happy at it but I will regard it as her mistake and looking for way forward, it shouldn't be end of her dream

brain54:
A 22 year adult is old enough to make her own decisions...

And to take responsibility and consequences of whatever follows from her decisions!

Don't mind them.
I married my wife at 22yrs and she has been the most responsible woman I have ever seen

hafeeanubasy:
➜Don't mind them. I married my wife at 22yrs and she has been the most responsible woman I have ever seen

. So, because you supposedly married your wife when she was 22, every other woman out there who gets pregnant at 22 should also consider marriage? Why are you people like this?

Is this story of yours any different from the stories told by some religious nutjobs that because their god married a 6-year-old girl, therefore, every other one of them should also be able to marry other 6-year-old girls?

Wow
Would be delighted to have an unplanned grandson to play with. Will name him CJ junior.
My daughter? She'll get her life back.
Life goes on ...
God is good

Kobojunkie:
Strong advocate of what moral lines? She is pregnant in Nigeria, with the economy the way it is, and you insist we believe she is fine and ready to overcome her fears? Her own case na alien situation?

I get your point but like I said she will be fine.

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

Accept her. Help her through the process and once the baby is born, take her to primary health center for family planning Cos that girl is a wayward girl. If you don't do it, expect more bastards.

Get to know the guy and what's he's into and his family...then we see if we can make sure we get things sorted out for the guy to be on ground and know his goals,his plans,his potentials and if possible,how they become parents....but any slightest sign of red light from the guy n his family,then we do nothing but ignore him n build up our daughter,for her to learn from her mistake and get back on track.
We accept her n her child and continue to groom her to attain greatness in every way.
The baby is part of the family.

Martinez39s:
Yes. I don't enable irresponsible and reckless decisions and I won't shoulder another man's responsibility. I won't work hard to take care of my kids only for them to add another man's responsibility to the mix. This doesn't mean I hate my grandchild.

You know this can boomerang to a lot of dangerous outcomes for your chilld sha
And at the end of the day people will still blame you

CorperKola:
You know this can boomerang to a lot of dangerous outcomes for your chilld sha
And at the end of the day people will still blame you

I don't care what people think.

Martinez39s:
I don't care what people think.

Thats too ruthless

I will chastise her with wips but will stop short of sending her packing to go stay with the irresponsible scumbag dat impregnated her . All na viscititudes of life . In life U have to learn to accept what u cannot change

dawnomike:
The baby is ours!!!

den she bring another one to her kind and nice father.

Father Lord, na beg I dey beg, make I no born girl oh, make them fit b boys. Pls!

I will give hrr a soft beating that wouldn't affect the baby then her mother will console her,then have the baby first before then my anger on the guy must have came down then if there's love and ur both ready for marriage boom! Goan finish what you started bum!
I pray never to witnessthis shit

Dukeofotukpo:
I will give hrr a soft beating that wouldn't affect the baby then her mother will console her,then have the baby first before then my anger on the guy must have came down then if there's love and ur both ready for marriage boom! Goan finish what you started bum!
I pray never to witnessthis shit

. You will beat a 22-year-old adult?🥱🥱🥱

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

Where would she take it to otherwise....you people just keep asking abnormal questions

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

Preserve the life at all cost , the father of the man invold takes responsibility, if he fails it's the girls father that's to take charge , the parties involved are to young to function, so the weight falls on her parents till the young man can find his shoes and do what's right

Is it the pregnancy or the bringing home that is the issue?

It is not something anyone wishes for but then if it happens, u accept the reality and ensure she makes no further mistakes

Smithwilliams826:
den she bring another one to her kind and nice father.

Father Lord, na beg I dey beg, make I no born girl oh, make them fit b boys. Pls!

You dey mind them?

Martinez39s:
I would ask her who the father is. Regardless of the answer, I would tell her to get her baby and go camp with the guy who impregnated her. As father, you must warn your daughters early on to avoid unwanted pregnancy or at aleast make sure they get pregnant for a guy who is capable and willing to house and take care of them and their kids.

If you get pregnant for a guy, you are leaving my house to go stay with him and I won't be responsible for you and your child. If the guy happens to be a bum or one irresponsible bad boy who wants nothing to do with you and your child, tough luck and go fend for yourself.

This isn't the best way forward if you want your daughter to stay alive and well. After the initial disappointment and anger, it's wise to ensure that her life isn't wasted because of one error.

dawnomike:
Reprimand her, get to know the stupid guy that put her in the family way... After raising hell up and down, I will calm down, take care of my daughter to ensure she delivers the baby safely.
Afterwhich, I will ensure she gets back to the plan of building her life back on track and never allowing herself to be a mumu again.

Good. Plus getting to know the in-laws so they can get involved too. Not necessarily for marriage if the guy isn't interested but so that the child has balanced development.

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

- Inquire about the Father -Alleged.

- With wisdom, decipher if it was consensual. Do not trust any woman who is trying to avoid shame/embarrassment. I repeat, DO NOT TRUST THE STORY OR ACCOUNT OF ANY WOMAN WHO IS TRYING TO HIDE SHAME, EMBARRASSMENT, & DISGRACE. Do not ever. Use a lot of wisdom here.

- Take her to run medical tests for STIs/STDs. I mean, she had unprotected sex (and perhaps has been having) and now, it has manifested as a pregnancy.

- Contact the Family of the Boy and let them know about it.

- Inform the family that we will take care of the girl until the Kid is born

- We will run 2-3 DNA Tests to confirm paternity

- Inform the family of the confirmed father about our tradition - The father (when proven) has to accept for the child to bear his family name and also name the child with a first name. If they decline, we name the child our family name. If they decline, at this point the proven father will not have access for any form of custody until the child is grown and decides he/she wants to meet. NO YOU CANNOT FIGHT MY FAMILY. YOU WILL LOSE OR YOU WILL DIE.

- Continue to run health checks to ensure baby and mother are both fine.

- Plead with her Mum and bring Mature Female Aunts, Cousins and other relevant female family members to start preparing her for motherhood. Teaching her, educating her.

- Prepare a course of action for her education - To defer or to get a Nanny to assist while she finishes school.

- Ensure she takes full responsibility of raising and caring for the baby. A Nanny will only come in on a need by need basis. She must face the consequences of her decision.

- Continue to run health checks to ensure baby and mother are both fine.

- Open education/investment account for the baby.

- Train the baby on family and proper values, approaches to life, discipline, integrity, grit, perseverance, etc.

delpee:
This isn't the best way forward if you want your daughter to stay alive and well. After the initial disappointment and anger, it's wise to ensure that her life isn't wasted because of one error.

A 22-year-old girl mistakenly gets pregnant? Na so. As long as she will have the baby, my decision stands. People who don't want to be serious with how they plan their lives and make decisions can not stress me.

Before she would have clocked 22, I would have repeatedly warned against poorly planned or unwanted pregnancy from the onset as per solid upbringing. If she still decides to be an indisciplined foòl, that's her business. She will suffer the consequences.

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

What makes a child illegitimate. That is a derogatory term , especially for an innocent child.

As a Father of, the pregnant girl, that child is your grand child.

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

There are no illegitimate children.

Only illegitimate parents.

You see how serious a female child can be if not raised well...

I would advice to terminate the pregnancy immediately and teach her to always use protection during sex.