₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
Women don't see men as poverty elevation schemes. They only see men who want their bodies as opportunities to elevate themselves from poverty. Given your previous issue with comprehension, however, I will not be surprised if this goes right over your head.

You are making sense to yourself. Now explain why talking stage of nowadays always ends with the guy refilling their gas cylinders😂😂😂 that also involves sex right. you are still justifying the fact that all of ye are pros😂😂😂 so if there’s no men, there’s no opportunity for women😂😂😂 what happened to our mothers that hustled together with their husbands 🤔

I think some women should even read what you’re writing too cos if it were written by a man all hell will let loose.

Kobojunkie:
1. Since the time of your forefathers, baby mamas have never been found guilty of impregnating themselves. They have always had baby papas facilitating their rise.

2. A woman brings her body, her emotional energy, and everything to the mix as well. That you need to bring money to cover additional costs is nothing compared to that.

3. There is no shifting of blame to men since, again, from the time of your ancestors, women have always been left to deal with the aftermath of the encounters, something many of them are trying to change now. They no longer wish to live like their mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers before them lived.

Emotional energy but never financial energy 🤣🤣🤣

Kobojunkie:
I see a lack of comprehension is indeed your major issue. Go back and re-read, as many as you need to, to ensure you understand what men were formally to be blamed for, that women are no longer sitting for.

Kobo I’ve got one last question. Without blaming men, what do you think is the cause of the upsurge in the current rate of baby mamas and single mothers compared to our forefathers??

NiRfreak:
➜Is it men of God u came to serve? Abi God?
➜ What stops you from becoming the true man of God who people can learn the truth about God from instead of always lamenting about so called men of God.
➜ Cos it always seems u are trying to heal from certain trauma inflicted by your associating wit fake men of God in the past.
➜ Try and become a true man of God and your life can give meaning to other yearnings to meet real men of God

1. Religious folks serve their men of gods and not any God that anyone outside of those immediate religious circles has been able to confirm, though.

2. I am sorry, what? What gives you the idea that people outside of your religious delusions desire this title as much as those of you high on religious delusions do?

3. Trauma? Name it so we can all maybe get on the same page as you claim to be certain you are on. What is the name of the supposed trauma that you pretend I was inflicted with? I really want to know what it is that you are going on about.

4. Are you OK in the head? Again, this true man of god delusion you lot are on has absolutely no value to me, so why would I want something that is entirely meaningless in the grand scheme, except to those caught up in religious foolishness?


** By Men, I mean male-centered men and women who back them. And by Women, I, of course, mostly mean women who are against the traditional illusion that has persisted until now(there are still lots of women(many of our mothers and grandmothers included) who still go around parrotting the old model that has largely traumatized women as the way.

SpencerForbes:
➜Emotional energy but never financial energy 🤣🤣🤣

Almost 50% of marriages in Nigeria are powered financially by the women in the marriage...single married women. I guess that means absolutely nothing to someone who is dead set on discrediting the concerns and reasons for why women have chosen to properly monetize their worth in a language that most men who patronize them in any way can understand—money.

** By Men, I mean male-centered men and women who back them. And by Women, I, of course, mostly mean women who are against the traditional illusion that has persisted until now(there are still lots of women(many of our mothers and grandmothers included) who still go around parrotting the old model that has largely traumatized women as the way.

Kobojunkie:
Almost 50% of marriages in Nigeria are powered financially by the women in the marriage...single married women. I guess that means absolutely nothing to someone who is dead set on discrediting the concerns and reasons for why women have chosen to properly monetize their worth in a language that most men who patronize them in any way can understand—money.

I guess that was then. Now you’re coming closer cos that’s what me and the op is lamenting. Before it was powered by women now look around kobo😫 check the western world, would you still agree with this your statistics??

Look around due to competition and get rich syndromes, ladies don’t value relationships. They just go for their benefits which wasn’t supposed to be so. Yes we’re providers but that shouldn’t be the main purpose of any relationship but to build a legacy but today, ladies don’t care. They prefer to be single and they’ve forgotten the foundation of the society which is family.

Then,single motherhood wasn’t encouraged but today it is celebrated.

Verily verily I say unto you. With this current generation of ladies, I pray for men😫
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SpencerForbes:
➜I guess that was then.
➜ Now you’re coming closer cos that’s what me and the op is lamenting.
➜ Before it was powered by women now look around kobo😫 check the western world, would you still agree with this your statistics??

That was then, when? We are speaking of current-day Nigeria, where we see a trend started by our grandmothers and mothers continuing to this day.

2. You are not making any sense here. Your claim, which I responded to, was that women never bring financial resources to the mix, to which I responded that almost 50% of households in current-day Nigeria are financially powered by women, nothing to do with OP's argument by the way.

3. And here I thought you would at least be smart by half?

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Women now no longer want to take it all lying down... money for hand, back for ground... has been a saying since the 80s. Due to the weakness of previous generations, it never took hold since most women were too afraid of societal — mostly men's—pushback. As a result, many women of that generation continued to allow men to erode their boundaries, much like they did their mothers. Fortunately, the current generation of women is having none of that and refuses to be browbeaten by the menfolk.

Honestly, I think any man unwilling to shoulder the cost of the wear and tear of using a woman's body for his pleasure can simply shove his preek back in his shorts or put his energy into self-servicing. I think there is no need for the noise over how a woman can or cannot use her own body.

** By Men, I mean male-centered men and women who back them. And by Women, I, of course, mostly mean women who are against the traditional illusion that has persisted until now(there are still lots of women(many of our mothers and grandmothers included) who still go around parrotting the old model that has largely traumatized women as the way.

you mean the logical conclusion of late-stage capitalism applied to human connection? turns out relationship is commodity.

it's just another transaction: time, attention, and simulated affection exchanged for monetary compensation.

at least the terms are transparent unlike traditional dating where the exchange rates are hidden and constantly fluctuating.

classical supply and demand.

those who have capital can purchase to those that dont

Dpsychologist:
Swipe left. Swipe right. Repeat.

For every one genuine-looking profile on Tinder, you’ll find fifteen more selling something — a fantasy, a body, or a lifestyle. Let’s be honest: what used to be a dating app has quietly evolved into a digital marketplace.

A guy once said, laughing,

“Bro, na hookup site be dating site now.”

And he’s right.

Because these days, “Let’s hang out” usually translates to “Pay to play.” Conversations that used to start with “What’s your favorite movie?” now begin with “What can you offer?”

The romance has been replaced by negotiation.
The affection, by transaction.
And the connection? Well, that’s usually temporary — gone as soon as the bank alert hits.

Hookup culture has flooded the streets — and the screens — so badly that genuine dating feels like a lost art. Everyone’s performing; few are connecting.
You’ll see bios that say “No hookups” but read like price lists in disguise.

It’s a strange new world where beauty is currency, and emotions are collateral. People are no longer dating — they’re bartering.

And yet, no one seems surprised.

Maybe it’s because we all secretly know that the line between “dating” and “deal-making” has long disappeared. What we’re left with is a culture where affection has a price tag and love has become a luxury item few can afford.

So the next time someone says,

“There are no real dating sites anymore…”

Don’t argue. Just smile and ask,
“Who did this to us?”

Cc nlfpmod Dominique seun

👏👏👏 I wanted to write about this same topic but you beat me to it and you did an amazing job. I enjoyed every second taking it in. Love the way you write OP abeg teach me nau. 😢

SpencerForbes:
Only her body😂
with this your thought processes, I’m not surprised why this generation has high rate of baby mamas and single mothers than our parents and I don’t see it stopping soon.

When I have to give you money, time and everything and the only “thing” you can bring is intangible.

My only pain is when your gender start shifting blames to men. Expecting pity meanwhile you’re the main culprit.

bros why you dey entertain this person? You get time sha. My threshold for BS no solid like this. Lol.

Dpsychologist:
Conversations that used to start with “What’s your favorite movie?” now begin with “What can you offer?”

The romance has been replaced by negotiation.

if she no SXCK, if she no FXCK... how she wan pay for her wig and handbag?

Tenrack:
👏👏👏 I wanted to write about this same topic but you beat me to it and you did an amazing job. I enjoyed every second taking it in. Love the way you write OP abeg teach me nau. 😢

it just takes practice.

Nlfpmod what do you think of this

Tenrack:
bros why you dey entertain this person? You get time sha. My threshold for BS no solid like this. Lol.

I don Commot hand boss😂 yesterday I been get time, today I’m back to work 💯 Her last point sef come show say she’s not in our world. I for like take am out so I go know the reasons behind some of her thought processes cos it’s baffling.
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SpencerForbes:
I don Commot hand boss😂 yesterday I been get time, today I’m back to work 💯 Her last point sef come show say she’s not in our world. I for like take am out so I go know the reasons behind some of her thought processes cos it’s baffling.
🚶‍♂️

lol you get time. That person dey live in a bubble. E think say life na black and white. She go learn.

Dpsychologist:
it just takes practice.

Una don start.. okay. What kind of books do you read and what do you do to get better? Abeg no ghost me. 😢

Dpsychologist:
Weldone countering me, dear.

Counter attack is allowed.
You men messed up romance

Why men on dating app think they are surrounded by land mines?

Social media has done more harm than good to humanity.

Kobojunkie:
1. Romance has almost always been up for negotiation, only that up until now, many men have been able to get away with getting their needs met for free, while the women are left carrying the empty bag and baggage left behind.

2. What is the difference between a woman who gives up her body for free to a man and a woman who gives up the same body at a cost to another man?

3. There was never such a line. There was simply a male-dominated past now giving way to a present where females are stepping up to call the shots, as far as the cost of giving it up is concerned.

4. Men brought it down to where women decided it all had to change for the better.

Is it by making themselves commodities that "females are stepping up to call the shots"?

Kobojunkie:
1. Romance has almost always been up for negotiation, only that up until now, many men have been able to get away with getting their needs met for free, while the women are left carrying the empty bag and baggage left behind.

2. What is the difference between a woman who gives up her body for free to a man and a woman who gives up the same body at a cost to another man?

3. There was never such a line. There was simply a male-dominated past now giving way to a present where females are stepping up to call the shots, as far as the cost of giving it up is concerned.

4. Men brought it down to where women decided it all had to change for the better.

Nothing do you sha. No shame in just saying you be ash*wo

Kobojunkie:
Because the aftermath is almost always borne by the woman alone. Plus, the vast majority of the time, women don't even enjoy these encounters.

For instance, out of 100 such encounters, the woman probably only enjoys it 5 out of those times. Who bears the cost during the other 95 times that she did not? Shouldn't it be the man?

Which yeye aftermath is always borne by the woman besides getting pregnant? Somebody go just siddon dey counter everything and anything just for nothing . Holowshow is Holowshow, nor dey defend nonsense all the time in the name of women's advocate

Goodlady:
Counter attack is allowed.
You men messed up romance

Yeah. Blame us for everything on earth 🌍. We messed up everything. Thank you

Kobojunkie:
1. Since the time of your forefathers, baby mamas have never been found guilty of impregnating themselves. They have always had baby papas facilitating their rise.

2. A woman brings her body, her emotional energy, and everything to the mix as well. That you need to bring money to cover additional costs is nothing compared to that.

3. There is no shifting of blame to men since, again, from the time of your ancestors, women have always been left to deal with the aftermath of the encounters, something many of them are trying to change now. They no longer wish to live like their mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers before them lived.

You are a feminist

Kobojunkie:
1. Romance has almost always been up for negotiation, only that up until now, many men have been able to get away with getting their needs met for free, while the women are left carrying the empty bag and baggage left behind.

2. What is the difference between a woman who gives up her body for free to a man and a woman who gives up the same body at a cost to another man?

3. There was never such a line. There was simply a male-dominated past now giving way to a present where females are stepping up to call the shots, as far as the cost of giving it up is concerned.

4. Men brought it down to where women decided it all had to change for the better.

Is it only the woman that gives up her body? What kind of perception is this? So the man's body is of no value? Abi.

Kobojunkie:
[b]Women don't see men as poverty elevation schemes. They only see men who want their bodies as opportunities [/b]to elevate themselves from poverty. Given your previous issue with comprehension, however, I will not be surprised if this goes right over your head.

What do you mean " they only see" a woman wishes b see everyone that can dash her money known or unknown but whats more feasible is to bill the man interested in her ... which resonate give n take

when i was in school if my female friends jam me at the cafeteria they believe i should pay .. no be say i dey nack or wan nack dem

they just consider option thats more feasible, which seems logical

Kobojunkie:
1. Romance has almost always been up for negotiation, only that up until now, many men have been able to get away with getting their needs met for free, while the women are left carrying the empty bag and baggage left behind.

2. What is the difference between a woman who gives up her body for free to a man and a woman who gives up the same body at a cost to another man?

3. There was never such a line. There was simply a male-dominated past now giving way to a present where females are stepping up to call the shots, as far as the cost of giving it up is concerned.

4. Men brought it down to where women decided it all had to change for the better.

What am i reading
Are you sure you are okay mentally like this
Wonders shall never end