₦airaland Forum

SpencerForbes:
Kobo😂😂😂😂 my forefathers did proper marital rites and rape cases wasn’t as rampant as this. Women weren’t this audacious to collect money. Men were always the providers in “my” own genealogy. So men except for rape cases has never had sex without paying but my issue is that you all collect money even before the sex and then when called pros, you act angry,

My dear kobo who are you deceiving. So with this your explanations. Can we all call women pr@s 😂 cos majority don’t offer anything in a relationship than to lie like wood😂
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It's tougher to be a man now than the days if our fathers......

Lithiumite:
It's tougher to be a man now than the days if our fathers......

Very tough cos the system is against us. We western world are even making it harder on men. Just imagine your wife filing for divorce and you end up losing half of your properties. If possible your kids too😕
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Kaczynski:
you mean the logical conclusion of late-stage capitalism applied to human connection? turns out relationship is commodity.

it's just another transaction: time, attention, and simulated affection exchanged for monetary compensation.

at least the terms are transparent unlike traditional dating where the exchange rates are hidden and constantly fluctuating.

classical supply and demand.

those who have capital can purchase to those that dont

You've said it just how it is. The traditional dating was never free
You refill her gas, pay rent and other stuff. Infact, the man ends up paying more compared to what he'd pay on the dating apps. Not like the lady in the traditional dating will even be loyal so why won't a lot of men settle for the dating app?

Kobojunkie:
All of them lies, since there are literally no difference between your many spiritual/religious type and the non-religoius men out there... they all seem to see women are objects for their desires.

KoboJ, your construct they always tire me.
Why do you always support the idea of women prostituting just to prove gender equality.
When them say pay the bills, you will point to the man!
Thank God say una don open our eyes with the evil intent in women's heart
Sister, na man be the price! Una market dey expire from 30yrs upward then the all night prayer session go start.
Keep mumuing urself

Dpsychologist:
Swipe left. Swipe right. Repeat.

For every one genuine-looking profile on Tinder, you’ll find fifteen more selling something — a fantasy, a body, or a lifestyle. Let’s be honest: what used to be a dating app has quietly evolved into a digital marketplace.

A guy once said, laughing,

“Bro, na hookup site be dating site now.”

And he’s right.

Because these days, “Let’s hang out” usually translates to “Pay to play.” Conversations that used to start with “What’s your favorite movie?” now begin with “What can you offer?”

The romance has been replaced by negotiation.
The affection, by transaction.
And the connection? Well, that’s usually temporary — gone as soon as the bank alert hits.

Hookup culture has flooded the streets — and the screens — so badly that genuine dating feels like a lost art. Everyone’s performing; few are connecting.
You’ll see bios that say “No hookups” but read like price lists in disguise.

It’s a strange new world where beauty is currency, and emotions are collateral. People are no longer dating — they’re bartering.

And yet, no one seems surprised.

Maybe it’s because we all secretly know that the line between “dating” and “deal-making” has long disappeared. What we’re left with is a culture where affection has a price tag and love has become a luxury item few can afford.

So the next time someone says,

“There are no real dating sites anymore…”

Don’t argue. Just smile and ask,
“Who did this to us?”

It's a hook up culture where everything is sexualised.

SpencerForbes:
You are making sense to yourself. Now explain why talking stage of nowadays always ends with the guy refilling their gas cylinders😂😂😂 that also involves sex right. you are still justifying the fact that all of ye are pros😂😂😂 so if there’s no men, there’s no opportunity for women😂😂😂 what happened to our mothers that hustled together with their husbands 🤔

I think some women should even read what you’re writing too cos if it were written by a man all hell will let loose.

I think she is still in her early 20s.
If you call them Ash...wo, all hell will let loose.

Almost 50% of marriages in Nigeria are powered financially by the women in the marriage...single married women. I guess that means absolutely nothing to someone who is dead set on discrediting the concerns and reasons for why women have chosen to properly monetize their worth in a language that most men who patronize them in any way can understand—money.

Too good 👏🏼 .

Kobojunkie:
Storyland! 🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. So, all the single mothers, many of whom were forced into exile or into life as outcasts in society, what? Impregnated themselves, abi?

3. What we know is that a woman who gives her body up for free to a man is not that much different from a woman who gives up the same body at a cost. You can label them as your particular delusion has you doing, but a woman is a woman at the end of the day.

When we keep talking about women giving their bodies to men, is it that women don't enjoy sex as men do? Isn't sex a mutually beneficial act? Why are women always having this mindset of "giving her body to men"? Isn't a man's body as important as a woman's body? Can we even say women are doing men a favor by doing it with them?

Kobojunkie:
1. Romance has almost always been up for negotiation, only that up until now, many men have been able to get away with getting their needs met for free, while the women are left carrying the empty bag and baggage left behind.

2. What is the difference between a woman who gives up her body for free to a man and a woman who gives up the same body at a cost to another man?

3. There was never such a line. There was simply a male-dominated past now giving way to a present where females are stepping up to call the shots, as far as the cost of giving it up is concerned.

4. Men brought it down to where women decided it all had to change for the better.

What sort of daft take is this?
In other places even in Africa most dating sites are meant for people who genuinely seek love and connection not transactional relationships hence the warnings and conditions various sites carry.
Don't go and join silly social media and WhatsApp groups run by escorts and pimps then begin to generalize.
Also the dating scene in Nigeria is none existent thanks to simps and oldies who think throwing money around keeps a relationship
Jeez
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Kobojunkie:
Dating apps have, from the beginning, been used as a sort of catalogue for men looking for sex they don't need to pay for, has it now? Now, the women no longer want to offer their bodies and time for free use. It is simply the way things happen, the new face of peace.

we still manage to find free one's still on Tinder

Dpsychologist:
Weldone countering me, dear.

Clean up traces of AI before posting. It's literally littered all over your post

Kobojunkie:
Storyland! 🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. So, all the single mothers, many of whom were forced into exile or into life as outcasts in society, what? Impregnated themselves, abi?

3. What we know is that a woman who gives her body up for free to a man is not that much different from a woman who gives up the same body at a cost. You can label them as your particular delusion has you doing, but a woman is a woman at the end of the day.

Are you also a professional?

airsaylongcome:
Clean up traces of AI before posting. It's literally littered all over your post

Nothing wrong with using AI to aid in writing as long as the original idea is his.
Don't you see same in top newspaper blogs too?

Dpsychologist:
Swipe left. Swipe right. Repeat.

For every one genuine-looking profile on Tinder, you’ll find fifteen more selling something — a fantasy, a body, or a lifestyle. Let’s be honest: what used to be a dating app has quietly evolved into a digital marketplace.

A guy once said, laughing,

“Bro, na hookup site be dating site now.”

And he’s right.

Because these days, “Let’s hang out” usually translates to “Pay to play.” Conversations that used to start with “What’s your favorite movie?” now begin with “What can you offer?”

The romance has been replaced by negotiation.
The affection, by transaction.
And the connection? Well, that’s usually temporary — gone as soon as the bank alert hits.

Hookup culture has flooded the streets — and the screens — so badly that genuine dating feels like a lost art. Everyone’s performing; few are connecting.
You’ll see bios that say “No hookups” but read like price lists in disguise.

It’s a strange new world where beauty is currency, and emotions are collateral. People are no longer dating — they’re bartering.

And yet, no one seems surprised.

Maybe it’s because we all secretly know that the line between “dating” and “deal-making” has long disappeared. What we’re left with is a culture where affection has a price tag and love has become a luxury item few can afford.

So the next time someone says,

“There are no real dating sites anymore…”

Don’t argue. Just smile and ask,
“Who did this to us?”

Once dm a lady that says on her profile “NO HOOKUP”
Later paid her TDB 15k

It is prostitution
Call it by any other modern name, it remains what it truly is, prostitution

Smartguyboy:
Once dm a lady that says on her profile “NO HOOKUP”
Later paid her TDB 15k

for where i dey dem dey say 20k short time, Over night 30K
e be like say dem even get union d way wey all of dem the charge at a flat rate.
Kobojunkie go soon come to come defend the professionals
Na only O.S dey dating apps. if u are not an O.S and u are on a dating app in Naija, u will still be approached like an O.S
Na who wan go find serious relationship for Tinder

Smartguyboy:
Once dm a lady that says on her profile “NO HOOKUP”
Later paid her TDB 15k

No mind them. They will be pretending they are there for friendship or relationship bur will want to collect money for sex.

Kobojunkie:
1. Romance has almost always been up for negotiation, only that up until now, many men have been able to get away with getting their needs met for free, while the women are left carrying the empty bag and baggage left behind.

2. What is the difference between a woman who gives up her body for free to a man and a woman who gives up the same body at a cost to another man?

3. There was never such a line. There was simply a male-dominated past now giving way to a present where females are stepping up to call the shots, as far as the cost of giving it up is concerned.

4. Men brought it down to where women decided it all had to change for the better.

I found some good points here. Are you a male or female?

DMCA:
Nothing wrong with using AI to aid in writing as long as the original idea is his.
Don't you see same in top newspaper blogs too?

They get an instant block. Especially if they don't clean the AI artefacts. Failing to clean them just indicates a lack of attention to detail, meaning the writing itself may be horrible

Hhh4444:
Is it only the woman that gives up her body? What kind of perception is this? So the man's body is of no value? Abi.

It's not men who get called all sorts of names for being sexually liberal. So it makes sense for ladies to charge money in exchange for sex.

You cannot have a prudish society yet expect free sex.

DMCA:
for where i dey dem dey say 20k short time, Over night 30K
e be like say dem even get union d way wey all of dem the charge at a flat rate.
Kobojunkie go soon come to come defend the professionals
Na only O.S dey dating apps. if u are not and u are on a dating app in Naija, u will still be approached like an O.S
Na who wan go find serious relationship for Tinder

Ah tell you.

Tinder, Bumble, Badoo all same.

The worst mistake you can make is to assume because they wrote looking for relationship that they really want that. Or directly asking them what they are in the app for (90% will whine you).

You will end up dating her or planning for something serious while another men will carry her for daybreak.

Yankee101:
It is prostitution
Call it by any other modern name, it remains what it truly is, prostitution

Still same thing just changes form.

Kobojunkie:
Dating apps have, from the beginning, been used as a sort of catalogue for men looking for sex they don't need to pay for, has it now? Now, the women no longer want to offer their bodies and time for free use. It is simply the way things happen, the new face of peace.

I like your point because we have to holistically look into this matter. I don't support any behaviour that is not God standard but if we are to look into this. Men have always taken advantage of this situation and many girls have become heartbroken, baby mama etc. Now they are saying it has to be business, a give and take situation so if there is any consequence I bear that consequences by myself. More of taking their fate in their hands.

Dpsychologist:
Swipe left. Swipe right. Repeat.

For every one genuine-looking profile on Tinder, you’ll find fifteen more selling something — a fantasy, a body, or a lifestyle. Let’s be honest: what used to be a dating app has quietly evolved into a digital marketplace.

A guy once said, laughing,

“Bro, na hookup site be dating site now.”

And he’s right.

Because these days, “Let’s hang out” usually translates to “Pay to play.” Conversations that used to start with “What’s your favorite movie?” now begin with “What can you offer?”

The romance has been replaced by negotiation.
The affection, by transaction.
And the connection? Well, that’s usually temporary — gone as soon as the bank alert hits.

Hookup culture has flooded the streets — and the screens — so badly that genuine dating feels like a lost art. Everyone’s performing; few are connecting.
You’ll see bios that say “No hookups” but read like price lists in disguise.

It’s a strange new world where beauty is currency, and emotions are collateral. People are no longer dating — they’re bartering.

And yet, no one seems surprised.

Maybe it’s because we all secretly know that the line between “dating” and “deal-making” has long disappeared. What we’re left with is a culture where affection has a price tag and love has become a luxury item few can afford.

So the next time someone says,

“There are no real dating sites anymore…”

Don’t argue. Just smile and ask,
“Who did this to us?”

i have a real dating app but you must pay for it. Girls will be chasing after you like say tomorrow no dey.

qtx:
When we keep talking about women giving their bodies to men, is it that women don't enjoy sex as men do? Isn't sex a mutually beneficial act? Why are women always having this mindset of "giving her body to men"? Isn't a man's body as important as a woman's body? Can we even say women are doing men a favor by doing it with them?

In sex men and women who carry the greatest of the hazard. Because you are just looking at just one point, the pleasure. So you can now see how naive you are.
Who ends up pregnant, who takes pills after sex? Who becomes pregnant? Who carries the scar? When the guys deny the pregnancy who carries the pain?

Now the girls are saying we are now wise pay for the sex so that I take care of the danger and hold myself responsible.

But note: I don't support fornication but I am just talking as a wise man here.

ogascomax:
In sex men and women who carry the greatest of the hazard. Because you are just looking at just one point, the pleasure. So you can now see how naive you are.
Who ends up pregnant, who takes pills after sex? Who becomes pregnant? Who carries the scar? When the guys deny the pregnancy who carries the pain?

Now the girls are saying we are now wise pay for the sex so that I take care of the danger and hold myself responsible.

But note: I don't support fornication but I am just talking as a wise man here.

I guess you’re talking about pros😂😂😂 and not relationship (except she’s greedy and she’s there for only money) but there’s no good relationship that the men don’t support the women. So look at the bigger picture.
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SpencerForbes:
I guess you’re talking about pros😂😂😂 and not relationship (except she’s greedy and she’s there for only money) but there’s no good relationship that the men don’t support the women. So look at the bigger picture.
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I am talking about what resorted to commercialisation of sex. Many ladies have paid the price for giving their body for free and now the younger once have learnt from their stories. Dating site have always favoured the men.

ogascomax:
In sex men and women who carry the greatest of the hazard. Because you are just looking at just one point, the pleasure. So you can now see how naive you are.
Who ends up pregnant, who takes pills after sex? Who becomes pregnant? Who carries the scar? When the guys deny the pregnancy who carries the pain?

Now the girls are saying we are now wise pay for the sex so that I take care of the danger and hold myself responsible.

But note: I don't support fornication but I am just talking as a wise man here.

What’s the ratio of men that have trained women compared to the ladies
Or you don’t think money is anything too?? Do you know how we have to sweat to earn it, our time, investment, energy and you’re only talking about pregnancy. If not greed, why will you leave a guy that has plans for you and follow the ones that is rich and when you get dumped, you blame all men.

Blame it all on their greed and stop shifting blames please🤦‍♂️
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ogascomax:
I am talking about what resorted to commercialisation of sex. Many ladies have paid the price for giving their body for free and now the younger once have learnt from their stories. Dating site have always favoured the men.

And you blame me
I had clear plans for you but you left me cos my guy is richer and you get hurt and you still blame me😂😂😂
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SpencerForbes:
What’s the ratio of men that have trained women compared to the ladies
Or you don’t think money is anything too?? Do you know how we have to sweat to earn it, our time, investment, energy and you’re only talking about pregnancy. If not greed, why will you leave a guy that has plans for you and follow the ones that is rich and when you get dumped, you blame all men.

Blame it all on their greed and stop shifting blames please🤦‍♂️
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Women have always suffered the most. Otherwise you won't see baby mama scattered everywhere.

SpencerForbes:
And you blame me
I had clear plans for you but you left me cos my guy is richer and you get hurt and you still blame me😂😂😂
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Don't personalise this forum discussion. It's not about you and a girl. But it's about why women have decided that it most be pay as you go.
In research you have to look the history of a thing and study what resulted to such behaviour.
My own opinion was the cause of this present behaviour.