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Bad news sells. A LOT. Which is why most people will click on stories of bad marriages because it reinforces the increasingly popular, albeit demonic worldview that "marriage is outdated."

I am sharing some lovely stories here to encourage the singles that there are still good marriages out there, you just need grace to meet the right person. People don't talk about good marriages, so join me in celebrating these ones I'll be posting here.

This one touched me. In the midst of sorrow, love was cemented.

I couldn't resist adding this bonus. For the 'single to stupor' and "love na scam" geng.

Love is very sweet only if there’s money.

Honestly, life is too short to be fooling around with broke men

There re still beautiful marriages out there.

Jennyclay:
Love is very sweet only if there’s money.

Honestly, life is too short to be fooling around with broke men

You sef try to dey rest....small time them go trail you come this thread then dabaru this thread as you dey always trigger nairaland bro.kee men.

Ishilove:
This one touched me. In the midst of sorrow, love was cemented.

Where's the concluding part of Aada_ora's story? 🥺

Caaz:
You sef try to dey rest....small time them go trail you come this thread then dabaru this thread as you dey always trigger nairaland bro.kee men.

Biko, whoever broke man that wants to hit his head on the wall by my comment should hit his head.

I’m not the reason they are broke, Biko

Mariangeles:
Where's the concluding part of Aada_ora's story? 🥺

There's no conclusion ma. She was praising her odogwu for being there for her 🥺

Caaz:
You sef try to dey rest....small time them go trail you come this thread then dabaru this thread as you dey always trigger nairaland bro.kee men.

😂😂😂

Caaz:
There re still beautiful marriages out there.

Yes there are. And ladies too, when they meet a nice man, may God give them the wisdom to appreciate him and not take his love for granted.

Caaz:
You sef try to dey rest....small time them go trail you come this thread then dabaru this thread as you dey always trigger nairaland bro.kee men.

Hahahahaha. The first line though.
The fine part to her is, she no go vex.😂

Ishilove:
Yes there are. And ladies too, when they meet a nice man, may God give them the wisdom appreciate him and not take his love for granted.

Very important!!
I keep praying for the wisdom to please Mine.
He has his occasional moments, who doesn't?
But in all, he is a great guy and I am super proud of him.

Ishilove:
There's no conclusion ma. She was praising her odogwu for being there for her 🥺

There should be.
The story cannot end like that.
Please go check again. 😂

Jennyclay:
➜ Love is very sweet only if there’s money. Honestly, life is too short to be fooling around with broke men

It is too short for any woman to spend in a broken, toxic, unfulfilling, and/or abusive marriage indeed. The argument can be made that since there are good marriages out there, then there is absolutely no valid reason or incentive for any woman(or man) to hold on or remain in a bad marriage.

Ishilove:
There's no conclusion ma. She was praising her odogwu for being there for her 🥺

Even with that comma she left lying carelessly around?😩
She owes me the concluding part of the story.

You can imagine how fast I was reading to get to the end.

pocohantas:
Hahahahaha. The first line though.
The fine part to her is, she no go vex.😂

Yes nau...Jennyclay sabi trigger them,and them dey always fall for her triggering gimmicks...e go come be like say she run away with their gbolaaaaa.



Jennyclay sef,she nor dey gree give herself the much needed rest,she kuku know say body sabi pepper our esteemed nl boys.

Caaz:
There re still beautiful marriages out there.

The truth is, they're more common [at least to me] than bad ones.
That is what I grew up knowing marriages to be like.

Kobojunkie:
It is too short for any woman to spend in a broken, toxic, unfulfilling, and/or abusive marriage indeed. The argument can be made that since there are good marriages out there, then there is absolutely no valid reason or incentive for any woman(or man) to hold on or remain in a bad marriage.

Kobojunkie,good morning from my part of the world.


I just felt like hailing you this morning.i hope you re good my sweet kobo.

What a beautiful thread!

Beautiful enough to bring me out after many years away from making comments on NL.


Yes, despite so many horrible marital stories being spread around about marriages, I can authoritatively attest and confirm that, there are still beautiful envious and genuinely happy marriages out there.


Ours is an example!


My husband is a good man, indeed, he is, not only to me, but also to our kids and our families and other people.


I've shared my stories of how we met and why I decided to marry him here many years back, he still remains the man I knew over 25years ago and married almost 20 years ago.

In summary, he's the type of man I pray my only daughter gets his kind as husband.

I say Amen to Ishi prayers

Hello lonesoldier you just left the group chat.



Greatgod2012 i sight you....nairaland OG.
How's mama chaircover

Caaz:
Yes nau...Jennyclay sabi trigger them,and them dey always fall for her triggering gimmicks...e go come be like say she run away with their gbolaaaaa. Jennyclay sef,she nor dey gree give herself the much needed rest,she kuku know say body sabi pepper our esteemed nl boys.

Their pepper body too much. Very emoshona people. Make she leave broke guys and face community husbands. Na money broke man no get, but you see CHs, those ones are problems.

Jennyclay:
Biko, whoever broke man that wants to hit his head on the wall by my comment should hit his head.

I’m not the reason they are broke, Biko

it’s very clear u aren’t even up to 25yrs old… E be like u dey ur prime age nd i go advice u to utilize ur prime age and learn carefully, else u gonna learn, nd u gonna learn d hard way. Everything is not about money, millionaires nd billionaires also faces tough challenges in marriage.
Nd again u need to take life easy, everybody eyes dey red, wit the way u are going,,, make dem no go use u count scores.

🚶‍♂️

pocohantas:
Their pepper body too much. Very emoshona people. Make she leave broke guys and face community husbands. Na money broke man no get, but you see CHs, those ones are problems.

Over to you Jennyclay.

Jennyclay:
Love is very sweet only if there’s money.

Honestly, life is too short to be fooling around with broke men

Dear sister, I want to believe you're just pulling legs, because, you see this life, ehn, in the twinkling of an eye, life can turn around. In marriages, life can happen, anything can happen. Like Poco typed up there, being broke isn't an issue, but an unfaithful, aggressive and violent man, even with very fat account, can never be a party or instrumental to a beautiful marriage.

Besides, what if he was wealthy before marriage and life happens inside the marriage, rendering him hopelessly broke, would you rather divorce him because of that?

Finding the right partner isn't enough but being the right partner is the main thing.


Caaz, thanks. Chairvover is doing great.

Ishi, thanks for this thread too.

Poco, I admire your maturity and understanding

greatgod2012:
➜Dear sister, I want to believe you're just pulling legs, because, you see this life, ehn, in the twinkling of an eye, life can turn around. In marriages, life can happen, anything can happen. Like Poco typed up there, being broke isn't an issue, but an unfaithful, aggressive and violent man, even with very fat account, can never be a party or instrumental to a beautiful marriage.
➜ Besides, what if he was wealthy before marriage and life happens inside the marriage, rendering him hopelessly broke, would you rather divorce him because of that?
➜ Finding the right partner isn't enough, but being the right partner is the main thing. ..., thanks. Chairvovers is doing great

1. Please stop replaying this lie!

Poverty is the reason why the population of broke people in Nigeria today stands at over 170,000,000, a number that continues to grow astronomically by the year. Poverty is an inadequacy on the part of those stuck in it. Inadequate people are incapable of being good partners(because they will always have a poverty mentality to keep them bound) or wholly good parents due to this. No matter how much they struggle as parents, they have a hard time being better parents to their children as a result of that inadequacy. And what is worse is that the inadequacy severely limits their children's chances of having a better future and being better parents too.

2. It is no longer enough for a man to be well off(financially stable) before marriage. If the woman is in poverty, the chances of both of them ending up in poverty increase. If there is no second income coming in to back up the first, in this new world economy, chances are both will eventually end up in poverty, and the ones who pay for it most of the time are the children. Ask former politicians, businessmen whose businesses crashed over the last 6 years of the APC in Nigeria, and they will tell you how quickly it can all disappear. So, a man and a woman should both be financially independent before marriage; otherwise, they increase the risks of their children falling below the poverty line in the future.

3. Indeed! It is no longer OK for a woman to marry and have kids with a broke man, and it is certainly not OK for a woman not to be financially independent before marriage.

Kobojunkie:
1. Please stop replaying this lie!

Poverty is the reason why the population of broke people in Nigeria today stands at over 170,000,000, a number that continues to grow astronomically by the year. Poverty is an inadequacy on the part of those stuck in it. Inadequate people are incapable of being good partners(because they will always have a poverty mentality to keep them bound) or wholly good parents due to this. No matter how much they struggle as parents, they have a hard time being better parents to their children as a result of that inadequacy. And what is worse is that the inadequacy severely limits their children's chances of having a better future and being better parents too.

2. It is no longer enough for a man to be welfare before marriage. If the woman is in poverty, the chances of both of them ending up in poverty increase. So, a man and a woman should both be financially independent before marriage; otherwise, they increase the risks of their children falling below the poverty line in the future.

3. Indeed! It is no longer OK for a woman to marry and have kids with a broke man, and it is certainly not OK for a woman not to be financially independent before marriage.

Kobo the point is, being broke doesn't make a man bad. It is just a financial state and not his personality. It doesn't mean he cannot change with money, as I have seen men and women change with financial independence. But side-by-side with other behavioural qualities that keeps a home, it doesn't stand out. It can affect the quality of the home if every other quality checks out though.


I agree with No3. I also do not encourage anyone to have kids without income. Better still, have the number your income can carry without you running crazy.

greatgod2012:
Dear sister, I want to believe you're just pulling legs, because, you see this life, ehn, in the twinkling of an eye, life can turn around. In marriages, life can happen, anything can happen. Like Poco typed up there, being broke isn't an issue, but an unfaithful, aggressive and violent man, even with very fat account, can never be a party or instrumental to a beautiful marriage.


Finding the right partner isn't enough but being the right partner is the main thing.

Poco, I admire your maturity and understanding

Thanks Mami! Been a long time.

Jenny is just looking for their trouble. You know brokeshaming triggers men as they don't rank their morality high. So being a community husband or an abusive one is better than being broke. She is striking where it hurts.

pocohantas:
➜Kobo the point is, being broke doesn't make a man bad. It is just a financial state and not his personality.
➜ It doesn't mean he cannot change with money,
➜ as I have seen men and women change with financial independence.
➜ But side-by-side with other behavioural qualities that keeps a home, it doesn't stand out. It can affect the quality of the home if every other quality checks out.
➜ I agree with No3. I also do not encourage anyone to have kids without income. Better still, have the number your income can carry without you running crazy.

1. I disagree! It may not be his personality, but it certainly makes him a terrible choice for a relationship, especially one that could lead to children.

2. Absolutely, he can change, but that change should happen BEFORE he then decides to enter into a relationship that could potentially lead to him having kids. Not after! Why? Because we know now more than enough to realize that throwing a broke man or woman into a relationship almost always leads to more disastrous results.

3. See, this.... every person claims to have seen some Nigerian struggle-love couple who were able to pull themselves out of poverty. Yet in the last 25 years alone, the population of extremely poor Nigeria has ballooned from just around 40 million when Obasanjo came into power to over 140 million — an over 100 million rise in poverty cases. This number tells us a lot about the supposed success rate for struggle-love couples in Nigeria, and also paints a picture of the bleak future that awaits their children and their children's children. Struggle-love does not pay at all and hence should not be encouraged.

4. So long as poverty is in a home, it does not matter any other behavioral qualities one thinks one possesses. (There are literally men and women who work themselves to death and never make it out of poverty.)

Keeping a home in poverty does not remove the fact that such a home cannot adequately provide for the people and the children in that home the life that they need to prosper or do well in their lives. Poverty is a scourge that absolutely no one should consider engaging in a relationship believing he/she will magically wade through it at some point.

5. Having income is not the issue. Poverty is. People shackled by the inadequacy that is poverty should have no business having kids unless they are literally willing to sacrifice their child's future for their fleeting desires.

Caaz:
You sef try to dey rest....small time them go trail you come this thread then dabaru this thread as you dey always trigger nairaland bro.kee men.

Reading this in your voice dey kill me.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

good marriages fairytales propagated by society desperate to maintain the illusion of order. look beneath the surface of any successful marriage and you wee find resentment, compromise, and suppressed desires, marriage is a relic of a bygone era. a transaction between two biological units designed to perpetuate the species. there's no room for love, happiness, or personal fulfillment.

grace to meet the right person that's just a euphemism for blind luck. marriage is just institution built on unrealistic expectations, societal pressure, and biological imperatives. tbh its a recipe for disaster

its time to embrace the freedom and autonomy of singlehood. the only thing that you need to have is yourself, thats why you die the same way you came into this world : alone