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Chilipepper:
My brother's wife has refused to mourn him because he died with his sidechick: Lady seeks help

the beauty of death is that wether she mourns him or not bros don waka.who mourn help.

He deserves it.

One thing I like about women is they are very brutal in their decision making ,they don't allow themselves to be manipulated by any side talks,hope men can learn from this and stop listening to emotional talks from women.

Men are told to take their cheating wife back because of children.

This generation is full of weak men ,see their useless comments

Saybal:
One thing I like about women is they are very brutal in their decision making ,they don't allow themselves to be manipulated by any side talks,hope men can learn from this and stop listening to emotional talks from women.

Men are told to take their cheating wife back because of children.

This generation is full of weak men ,see their useless comments

Only a weak and low self esteemed man will take a cheating wife back. Anybody saying otherwise is your enemy.

Know this and know peace ☮️
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Is it that we are extremely selfish as Nigerians or what we just don't process it before talking? No wonder this country no dey move forward.
A husband betrayed his wife (a woman you made covenant with), only to end your life with a side-chic.
These people still have the guts to be asking for mourning.

Well said, op get the side chick to mourn him pls, stop taking woman right for granted.

dheolexaone:
As men would say, that they are polygamous in nature, a definition used to scatter the system as if God gave Adam 2 wives from onset.

Any cheating man, I repeat! any cheating man that neglected his family while alive to follow the rule above especially in marriage to frolick up and down, dies and dies to meet his creator peacefully or sorrowfully.

His remains are nothing but regrets. Let the family mourn him. Respect is reciprocal.

Live responsible, they won't hear.

Since you bring God into the conversation we might as well get some clarity

The ideal of 2nd wife came from a " Woman" sarah i.e Abramham wife before that there was no Man that thought of it

If God was against the ideal of 2nd wife, he wont have blessed the maid with a child ahead of sarah

Yoruba will say ti a ba'n jaa bii ka ku kor i.e if we are fighting no be say make we wish death.. holding grudges against the dead violate logical reasoning n God

SpencerForbes:
I’ll attend for my own sake and leave her to make her own decision if she wants to be there. I didn’t marry him for her, she should have known before marrying him so that was her decision and she’s facing the consequences.

But I won’t try to force her. If she wants to come, I’ll let her make the decision cos she’s the one that’s hurt not me. But I’ll pay my last respect to my dad.

Who knows if the mum was cheating also but was just too smart for anyone to know🤔

Thank you for your honest answer. Nice discussing with you. Have a nice day and weekend ahead

Kalulu44:
Thank you for your honest answer. Nice discussing with you. Have a nice day and weekend ahead

Thanks 😊🎩
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Dogalmighty17:
Showing up all made up the way she did and leaving as soon as he was committed to the ground will indicate that her character is a possible reason why the husband looked outside in the first place.
I am not excusing the late husband's cheating. But whatever it is, he remains the father of her children and if she has nothing else to mourn for, that her kids will grow up without their father is reason enough.
Secondly, her actions indicate she is outrightly cutting ties with her husband's people. Possibly, that will be the last time they'll see her or the kids.
The way the husband died is shameful. The wife drawing attention to it by her actions, embarrasses her in-laws and her children. Of course there will be mourners at the burial who are not family and they will be wondering why the wife left. They will get to know the reason why and whatever positive memory they may have about the late husband, will vaporise.

Any woman who can openly disrespect and disregard her in-laws like that is a woman who never had much regard or respect for her husband in the first place..


Kobojunkie avoid me. You go show here now now.

You have a very good point

Chilipepper:
My brother's wife has refused to mourn him because he died with his sidechick: Lady seeks help

The man is a very poor man. If he had something,she will mourn him to stupor.
I mourned my father for 5good years.
Dey there.

chidiokay:
Since you bring God into the conversation we might as well get some clarity

The ideal of 2nd wife came from a " Woman" sarah i.e Abramham wife before that there was no Man that thought of it

If God was against the ideal of 2nd wife, he wont have blessed the maid with a child ahead of sarah

Yoruba will say ti a ba'n jaa bii ka ku kor i.e if we are fighting no be say make we wish death.. holding grudges against the dead violate logical reasoning n God

Brother in Lord, I am never against a man that chose to marry a second wife. His choice.

But there is a big difference in marry second wife and a serial cheater.

My target is on serial cheaters based on OP context.
Hope u get.

MaziObinnaokija:
He cry,wailing, rolling on the floor,sympathisers coming and going won't wake up the de@d.MOVE ON

Africa and woke culture, mourning the dead is tantamount to what exactly?

Kobojunkie:
Na to lift verses out of context to get them to saying What they really don't you liars dey always take first in. If you go back through many of those same books you lifted those verses from you will find other passes which deal with how to handle enemies and so on! 🥱🥱🥱

Abeg, carry this una nonsense religious delusions waka pass me today. I get better way I wan focus on. 🥱🥱

Hahahahah always shifting the goal post and running from pillar to post

Mariangeles:
I would've said they should get the side-chic to mourn him, if it is that important to them, but since they both died together, let everything just end there.

The widow woman has gotten the closure she needs to move on.

There's nothing wrong for a woman to mourn her late husband.

dheolexaone:
Brother in Lord, I am never against a man that chose to marry a second wife. His choice.

But there is a big difference in marry second wife and a serial cheater.

My target is on serial cheaters based on OP context.
Hope u get.

broda david, nice to meet ya'

are you sure there is a difference between a cheater and a polygamous man, as a matter of logical reasoning

a man can be a serial cheater and not be polygamous till he dies BUT there is no Man polygamous that wont pass through " cheating" coastal road

apparently you dont like Men that serial cheat, buh can you marry a polygamous man

If you harden your heart pass stone, na you sabi.
Everybody must chop breakfast sha...

If na you wetin you go do?

Mourn bawo?

SpencerForbes:
But the husband can disrespect her😂 I believe it’s a thing of choice and if she doesn’t want to, then it’s justified cos it wasn’t agreed in the family that the man will be polygamous. If you make any decisions be ready to face the consequences. The man made his decision and is bearing it. Let’s leave the woman to make hers too.

Just imagine if it was your mum, would you even allow her to go to the burial🤔
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good 👍🕒😊 question🙋

Saybal:
One thing I like about women is they are very brutal in their decision making ,they don't allow themselves to be manipulated by any side talks,hope men can learn from this and stop listening to emotional talks from women.

Men are told to take their cheating wife back because of children.

This generation is full of weak men ,see their useless comments

Absolutely nobody I have heard of in this life has ever been told to take a cheating wife back for the sake of the kids.

I'll dash you N1million if you can produce that couple.

They tell women to do it, but once a woman has been caught being unfaithful that's it o

Even on this site, one man was cheating, then his wife decided to do her own back (not physically but just sending messages). He threw her out, ignored his children, moved his gf in, broke up with his gf, expected his wife to come and beg him, then got shocked that his wife moved on and now goes about constantly playing a victim here.

And NL men supported him.

If it were me, I'd attend the funeral for the sake of my kids but I'm leaving once internment is done. And that will be the end of my public mourning period. And I shall tell my children why.

Must sh e mourn him

This happened in real life to someone I know

Their dad, cheated like mad. He was also polygamous (nearly killed his loyal first wife to marry a 2nd wife). Then still had girlfriends outside. He died on top on one of the side chics.

Only the loyal first wife mourned for him and never remarried.

2nd wife showed up to confirm if she and her kids were inheriting anything.

Some of the side chics showed up at the burial to try and catch some new sponsors.

And the repercussions of his lifestyle affected his sons till this day: he has no living grandsons to carry on his name and legacy (he was a big man).

Na your first wife be your ride or die, even biblically it is so. God didn't call Adultery a sin for nothing. And every man in the Bible who was polygamous ended up having it bad, so why do men look at their mistakes and want to model their lives on that. Leave Adultery and Polygamy alone.

But men will never accept this fact and change.

Is there a prescribed standard for mourning the dead? Na wa oo. Especially a husband who died while on Foreign Service. Please go and find something doing in your life. Laziness is your problem. You should be grateful that the woman has not yet gone on Social Media with pictures of your brother and stated how and where and who he died on top of. You should actually be praising her. With the type of wives of today, she would have gone to Social Media already for her two minutes of fame and followers.

Chilipepper:
My brother's wife has refused to mourn him because he died with his sidechick: Lady seeks help

If it is the other way round, will your brother mourn her with sack clothes?

At least she came for the burial.

This is arrant nonsense....
Your bro broke that connection that bond them together...Better allow her breathe...

allthingsgood:
As that all he was known for tho?
She mustnt mourn if she feels that all the man was worth. Let her go and marry the one that doesn't cheat.

so if she no marry she will not live her life.

Naija man and their obsession to project marriage on women

Onegai:
This happened in real life to someone I know

Their dad, cheated like mad. He was also polygamous (nearly killed his loyal first wife to marry a 2nd wife). Then still had girlfriends outside. He died on top on one of the side chics.

Only the loyal first wife mourned for him and never remarried.

2nd wife showed up to confirm if she and her kids were inheriting anything.

Some of the side chics showed up at the burial to try and catch some new sponsors.

And the repercussions of his lifestyle affected his sons till this day: he has no living grandsons to carry on his name and legacy (he was a big man).

Na your first wife be your ride or die, even biblically it is so. God didn't call Adultery a sin for nothing. And every man in the Bible who was polygamous ended up having it bad, so why do men look at their mistakes and want to model their lives on that. Leave Adultery and Polygamy alone.

But men will never accept this fact and change.

no beg them make them leave adultery.make them continue. We need more land ladies

Its the 1st wife who's the loyal wife that gets the most embarrassment and disrespect yet they will still be faithful after death. Its the Stockholm syndrome for me

Onegai:
Absolutely nobody I have heard of in this life has ever been told to take a cheating wife back for the sake of the kids.

I'll dash you N1million if you can produce that couple.

They tell women to do it, but once a woman has been caught being unfaithful that's it o

Even on this site, one man was cheating, then his wife decided to do her own back (not physically but just sending messages). He threw her out, ignored his children, moved his gf in, broke up with his gf, expected his wife to come and beg him, then got shocked that his wife moved on and now goes about constantly playing a victim here.

And NL men supported him.

If it were me, I'd attend the funeral for the sake of my kids but I'm leaving once internment is done. And that will be the end of my public mourning period. And I shall tell my children why.

she no fit piss for the man grave or laugh during his burial? These clowns no know say they're teaching women how to be more brutal

razzydoo:
If you harden your heart pass stone, na you sabi.
Everybody must chop breakfast sha...

na them

Always like to dish what they can't take

Saybal:
One thing I like about women is they are very brutal in their decision making ,they don't allow themselves to be manipulated by any side talks,hope men can learn from this and stop listening to emotional talks from women.

Men are told to take their cheating wife back because of children.

This generation is full of weak men ,see their useless comments

lol they learnt from who please?

By this your quote, I have an accurate estimate of your Quotient.

SAMBARRY:
na them

Always like to dish what they can't take

Zonefree:
There's nothing wrong for a woman to mourn her late husband.

Of course, there's nothing wrong with that, but he dishonoured and treated her like trash while alive.
Even if she did, it'll just be outwardly, and mourning is not just in outward appearance, you know?
Owuhu ihe ana-agwa mmadu agwa.
Di ya mejoro ya.

By the way, elee ebe i tiri ishi?
Oleekwanu otu Imo state di?