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Gotocourt:
No b everything Dem dey hear two sides of the story, abi till she kills him . I've lost over #2B inheritance to this daughters of eve. Be guided

That’s true. He should leave the daughter of Delilah so she don’t kill him. As a man you need to have maximum morale. I think the man has a weak frame that’s why the lady isn’t taking him seriously. He should try to boost his morale and stop taking bullshit from women. If I was the one, she’ll go to her parents house to learn to treat a man well and the second time, she should be out of the relationship.

As a man never tolerate shite from any lady cos once you’ve started, there’s no going back😎
🚶‍♂️

SpencerForbes:
Seems you married a runs girl or agbero. I’ll love to hear her own side of the story and also know the root causes of the problems at home before I can say my mind.
Leave first, don’t decide before I speak my mind. So you will understand the truth.

She is not a runs girl or agbero but a church girl to the core, if she sing you will think Angels will come down but in aspects of this marriage, she is not worth it, and regard hearing her side of stories, I can't sugar coat my part in order for me to look lie a saint, in a forum that I don't know any person personally and for the root cause, I don't know why she is misbehaving because anything that man can provide for his family, I have done that in regards to feeding, accommodation, clothing, emotional, and otherwise so I don't understand her behavior and moreover thanks for your input

SpencerForbes:
That’s true. He should leave the daughter of Delilah so she don’t kill him. As a man you need to have maximum morale. I think the man has a weak frame that’s why the lady isn’t taking him seriously. He should try to boost his morale and stop taking bullshit from women. If I was the one, she’ll go to her parents house to learn to treat a man well and the second time, she should be out of the relationship.

As a man never tolerate shite from any lady cos once you’ve started, there’s no going back😎
🚶‍♂️

My family has pack her things out and I have called her family to let them know that their daughter is not in my custody anymore

guest1234:
She is not a runs girl or agbero but a church girl to the core, if she sing you will think Angels will come down but in aspects of this marriage, she is not worth it, and regard hearing her side of stories, I can't sugar coat my part in order for me to look lie a saint, in a forum that I don't know any person personally and for the root cause, I don't know why she is misbehaving because anything that man can provide for his family, I have done that in regards to feeding, accommodation, clothing, emotional, and otherwise so I don't understand her behavior and moreover thanks for your input

How long did you guys date🤔 so we can all learn. Hope you’re not this people that after 3 months, you’re already engaged🤔
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guest1234:
My family has pack her things out and I have called her family to let them know that their daughter is not in my custody anymore

Best decision👍
Go and sin no more. Thank God you’re a man. Forget all you’ve invested in her and move on.
🚶‍♂️

SpencerForbes:
How long did you guys date🤔 so we can all learn. Hope you’re not this people that after 3 months, you’re already engaged🤔
🚶‍♂️

We dated for five years before we got married last years

Guest1234 don't take this advice lightly.

Wannabenz:
You did well Brother. Try and stop every communication with her even if it comes from an ordained person. Don't link up with her in any way. Stay happy for yourself. Glad you're free now.

guest1234:
We dated for five years before we got married last years

And in those five years, she never exhibited such traits or love blinded you🤔
Or you thought she could change??
🚶‍♂️

What were the fights about? For things to get to the point of stabbing...

It might be a good thing to report the neck stab, just so there's an official record. Take picture evidence of the wound, hospital reports.

Stay away from her. In fact flee. Block her number, communicate strictly via email, so there's a trail.

If you are careless you could still end up dying at her hands.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

guest1234:
She is not a runs girl or agbero but a church girl to the core, if she sing you will think Angels will come down but in aspects of this marriage, she is not worth it, and regard hearing her side of stories, I can't sugar coat my part in order for me to look lie a saint, in a forum that I don't know any person personally and for the root cause, I don't know why she is misbehaving because anything that man can provide for his family, I have done that in regards to feeding, accommodation, clothing, emotional, and otherwise so I don't understand her behavior and moreover thanks for your input

I've got a ex that's a church band member with agbero👿 orientation. I chop beatings 😩for her hand, those lots are possessed for that church front 😅😂🤣

Did you really have to wait for her to actually stab you like she said she would before you decided to leave? What if she had succeeded in killing you? The moment someone starts threatening you with knives and scissors or any object meant to kill or injure you is the moment you should walk away. Whether you're a man or woman, if someone's threatening you in these manner, leave. I'm sure you've seen the gruesome killing of Irina Zarutska who was stabbed in the neck and how she bled, slumped and died all within seconds later. This was a random and not a domestic situation but it goes to show how quickly someone can die after being stabbed, and she, unfortunately, did not receive any warning beforehand. May she rest in peace. Next time, do the needful for yourself upon hearing such threats.

I hope you have reported her to domestic violence agency and also charged her to court for assault and threat to life?

Don't just divorce her, save other men out there from falling into her trap.

Kayberg:
✓ Remove your "Point 1".
No sane family will watch the wife of their son murder him in the name of marriage before reacting.
"Points 2 & 3" are good enough and well said without "Point 1".

1. Marriage is between a man and his wife, not his family and his/her family have no right to interfere in their marriage or their divorce. They can come in to help their ward move his/her things from the marital home after a divorce but they have no legal right to come in to throw the other partner out even if the other partner is legally required to do so.

All that gra-gra barbarian sheet Nigerians are used to doing is reason why nothing seems tow ork of make sense. The sooner people begin adopting more civil ways of doing things, the sooner they begin to see common sense begin to reign in their lives and hopefully society.

Gotocourt:
That guy get shallow reasoning, very anyhow mentality

Some people have been raised with the spirit of suffer head, that means, anything wey person do them, as long as you go preserve your self image and the persons from outsiders, you should keep calm..


Shebi that gospel artist wey her husband beat to death, shebi her pastor come dey testify say him no know say the matter serious like that, na so-so look up to God and pray for your spouse till you kpie, spouse go still find way move on ASAP...


Don't be surprised the late military officer that got burnt by himself(according to the wife Lamba tales), wanted to move on from the marriage but he kept asking himself, what would people say, that I left marriage of 6 months, force man like me...


We both know where all the force man dey now..... No wonder our leaders could do and undo anything and the masses would just groan for a second and find a way to bear it, and the cycle continues...

Procashtips:
I hope you have reported her to domestic violence agency and also charged her to court for assault and threat to life?
Don't just divorce her, save other men out there from falling into her trap.

I have always wondered why Nigerian men and women do not report abusers so they are at least blacklisted to save others from potential harm. It is equally as stupid as people refusing to file for custody of their ward in court or child support after a break up of relationship only to later whine that they never got anything from the other partner. It infuriates me.

calabaman:
✓ I guess you aren't married Sir After the rigours of counselling. Billing upon billing onto marriage plans.
You would understand that leaving is almost always a last option, in the case of op to save his life.
I don't call it weak... But being matured and saving his investment.

Not attempting to hold brief for those you were responding to but this narrative which insists that leaving should be some sort of last option needs to be forever done away with. It was introduced by ancestors and religious snake oil sales men who mined the lives of those they caused to remain in abusive relationships for their benefits. Our ancestors where able to deploy much of that against women whom they mostly abused, while your pastors and imams use that lie to delude millions of men and women into filling their prayer halls every single day.

I have never met anyone who benefitted from remaining in an abusive situation past the first day. I have instead met me so many who have had their psyche shattered by the abuse attempt to weave a nice story from their experiences. All one can feel for such individuals is pity and maybe more pity+-- no award awaits them.

I say this to say that at the first sign of abuse -- physical abuse, emotional abuse, financial abuse, people in relationship with cheaters, etc. --one ought to leave. Abuse is abuse and once is more than enough reason to flee. 🥱🥱🥱

Gotocourt:
Guy , you fold my hands big time. Marriage has always been btw families. Dem for go baby mama route na

Marriage has never been about family. Rather, your families have instead attempted to hijack marriage, but the law has almost always remained that it is between a man and a woman.

SpencerForbes:
And in those five years, she never exhibited such traits or love blinded you🤔
Or you thought she could change??
🚶‍♂️

Nothing of such happened during my stay with her for those years and last year after our marriage, she started this misbehavior this year.

guest1234:
Nothing of such happened during my stay with her for those years and last year after our marriage, she started this misbehavior this year.

Damn 🤦‍♂️ All I could say is either she has a side cock or one daddy in the Lord is playing with her brains or she has a new friend that’s teaching her shite.

I’m so happy you left the relationship tho🎩
🚶‍♂️

Sammy101111:
You did the right thing .She can't give you peace so it better she should leave . God I no one marry two wife or divorce please give a woman that will give me peace of mind because I no like wahala I can't shout or argue with woman

my brother pray and be watchful .

Clap for yourself you have done well enjoy yourself by yourself 😊

SpencerForbes:
Seems you married a runs girl or agbero. I’ll love to hear her own side of the story and also know the root causes of the problems at home before I can say my mind.
Leave first, don’t decide before I speak my mind. So you will understand the truth.

She will certainly have her side of the story. She will tell you op made her stab him by not fighting back when she slapped him. No be woman again

Kobojunkie:
I have always wondered why Nigerian men and women do not report abusers so they are at least blacklisted to save others from potential harm. It is equally as stupid as people refusing to file for custody of their ward in court or child support after a break up of relationship only to later whine that they never got anything from the other partner. It infuriates me.

It's hightime Nigerians started removing unfit elements from the society for good.

Kobojunkie:
1. Marriage is between a man and his wife, not his family and his/her family have no right to interfere in their marriage or their divorce. They can come in to help their ward move his/her things from the marital home after a divorce but they have no legal right to come in to throw the other partner out even if the other partner is legally required to do so.

All that gra-gra barbarian sheet Nigerians are used to doing is reason why nothing seems tow ork of make sense. The sooner people begin adopting more civil ways of doing things, the sooner they begin to see common sense begin to reign in their lives and hopefully society.

All these epistle of yours is very very pointless.

Interfering in their marriage is a different thing here. When things go wrong as for the partner becoming abusive and violent, if it's your child or sibling, you'd sit and watch them get killed before you act; all in the name of not wanting to interfere?

That is not interference even… that's intervening.

Your view here is why some people (husband or the wife) end up getting killed/murdered in their marriage by their abusive partner because they want their families to stay away from their marriage when things go south.

Kayberg:
✓ All these epistle of yours is very very pointless.
Interfering in their marriage is a different thing here. When things go wrong as for the partner becoming abusive and violent, if it's your child or sibling, you'd sit and watch them get killed before you act; all in the name of not wanting to interfere?
That is not interference even… that's intervening.
✓ Your view here is why some people (husband or the wife) end up getting killed/murdered in their marriage by their abusive partner because they want their families to stay away from their marriage when things go south.

1. Wrong! What OP described is an interference. Look up the meaning of the different words so you do not keep confusing one for the other.

2. Wrong! The reason most people end up getting killed is that they remain in abusive relationships for longer than they reasonably should. Also, family interference has been linked to the escalation of violence in many situations.

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

stabbing is a no no

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Congratulations 🎊, you walked out alive

I thought I was a gentle man, but you surpass me by far!

My ex saw my meekness as weakness!

This lady would have been beating if not that I am a giant!

But the day she raise an object to hit me, I took the wood, pinned her hand down and gave it a big scar, that whenever she sees that scar, she will remember never to raise a weapon at a man.

Finally, I became wealthy after she left!

3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months. (We share a lot together). I pray your finances balloon as mine did, after she left

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

You're supposed to fight for your Marriage and pray for your wife.

Anytime the evil spirit descends on her to become violent, hold her and say, "Babe, this isn't you. Please come back to me in Jesus name", the evil spirit will disappear and normalcy will return.

Congratulations sha.

Kobojunkie:
1. Wrong! What OP described is an interference. Look up the meaning of the different words so you do not keep confusing one for the other.

2. Wrong! The reason most people end up getting killed is that they remain in abusive relationships for longer than they reasonably should. Also, family interference has been linked to the escalation of violence in many situations.

What the OP described was intervention to prevent the unforeseen.
Someone they've been having issues with, who they know to be violent, suddenly stabbed their son/brother in the neck and you expect them to sit and watch what will unfold?

What if the stab was deep?
What if the stab cuts through an artery and he died?
Will you be saying these?

I forgot you're Kobojunkie.