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VOsimhen144:
it’s very clear u aren’t even up to 25yrs old… E be like u dey ur prime age nd i go advice u to utilize ur prime age and learn carefully, else u gonna learn, nd u gonna learn d hard way. Everything is not about money, millionaires nd billionaires also faces tough challenges in marriage.
Nd again u need to take life easy, everybody eyes dey red, wit the way u are going,,, make dem no go use u count scores.

Stop quoting that girl, she delibrately type gibberish to attract people like you to darg her which she enjoys. She knows exactly what she's doing

Control yourself from mentioning her, you won't die

greatgod2012:
Dear sister, I want to believe you're just pulling legs, because, you see this life, ehn, in the twinkling of an eye, life can turn around. In marriages, life can happen, anything can happen. Like Poco typed up there, being broke isn't an issue, but an unfaithful, aggressive and violent man, even with very fat account, can never be a party or instrumental to a beautiful marriage.

Besides, what if he was wealthy before marriage and life happens inside the marriage, rendering him hopelessly broke, would you rather divorce him because of that?

Finding the right partner isn't enough but being the right partner is the main thing.


Caaz, thanks. Chairvover is doing great.

Ishi, thanks for this thread too.

Poco, I admire your maturity and understanding

She doesn't need your advice, she is aware of all these things you just said. She's just using those jobless guys who can't control themselves from quoting her to catch cruise, she knows how to press their mumu botton

It is always the man sacrificing time, money, resources, energy, what is the woman sacrificing? Where are d stories of women sacrificing for men, all these men r simps

Jennyclay:
Love is very sweet only if there’s money.

Honestly, life is too short to be fooling around with broke men

yes, Love is sweet with money but we have broke and hungry pussy more than dick.

Jennyclay:
Biko, whoever broke man that wants to hit his head on the wall by my comment should hit his head.

I’m not the reason they are broke, Biko

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Why must it be Igbo women always, y'all after a mans money why ?? Na only una de find money for this Nigeria ni ??
Even without asking where you come from, from your comments i already know where you from.
And e no go pass Imo state. I am from Imo state, here in Delta state people complain a lot about our women.... Money money money money what is that!!!
I can't date poor men comments here and there all from our womens😌.

Funny thing again is,90% of ulo ndi akwuna here in Delta state is completely overpopulated by our sisters.

Omor nawa oo.
Ikegburu

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immortalcrown:
All the storytellers are females.
Is it one-sided?

As expected. Meet their needs, that equals love.

Shaketable:
It is always the man sacrificing time, money, resources, energy, what is the woman sacrificing? Where are d stories of women sacrificing for men, all these men r simps

. You are absolutely right to question the goodness of the tales told by the OP of those marriages being good, as it does seem that those particular marriages instead showcase the man having to do much of the sacrificing rather than it be bought couple doing for each other. That is one of the reasons why I didn't bother to indicate any of them as good since I am well aware that the typical Nigerian image of a good marriage, good man or good woman... most of the time depicts a one-sided view, never really balanced.

Ishilove:
Bad news sells. A LOT. Which is why most people will click on stories of bad marriages because it reinforces the increasingly popular, albeit demonic worldview that "marriage is outdated."

I am sharing some lovely stories here to encourage the singles that there are still good marriages out there, you just need grace to meet the right person. People don't talk about good marriages, so join me in celebrating these ones I'll be posting here.

You are very much right, Ishi!

Those who missed out on getting good spouses and those who have passed their prime without being married would tell lots of bad tales to demonize marriage and get young people scared of getting married.

There are good marriages around but nobody talks about them! Me I'll be very happy to meet and marry my soulmate soon and enjoy marriage

Jman06:
➜You are very much right, Ishi! Those who missed out on getting good spouses and those who have passed their prime without being married would tell lots of bad tales to demonize marriage and get young people scared of getting married.
➜There are good marriages around but nobody talks about them! Me I'll be very happy to meet and marry my soulmate soon and enjoy marriage

WOW... you think the tales of bad marriages out there are told by people who wish to demonize marriage? 😩😩😩

Also, do you think telling these unbalanced stories of what you consider to be examples of good marriages—many have rightly pointed out that these tales in the OP read more of tales of men doing all the sacrificing — is right as it seems more an attempt to invalidate the fact that the vast majority of marriages out there are bad? Why

2. Sure, there are good marriages, but they are only a handful when compared to the numerous examples of bad marriages out there. So, what exactly is your purpose for trying to claim that there are those out there demonizing marriage when married couples are all the evidence for why marriage is not for everyone?

Jennyclay:
Love is very sweet only if there’s money.

Honestly, life is too short to be fooling around with broke men

Not really.
Love is sweet if you met a partner with the right heart. Some couples are poor and still leaving happily.

True love makes you surmount every storm/challenges while growing together

Good old days. The men we have now are nothing to write home about.

Juoflife1:
Good old days. The men we have now are nothing to write home about.

I believe that goes for both genders😒
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Juoflife1:
Good old days. The men we have now are nothing to write home about.

The good old days when your ancestors would literally kick out a woman and her children— render them outcasts in the community — at will when he is done with them?

Kobojunkieee:
The good old days when your ancestors would literally kick out a woman and her children— render them outcasts in the community — at will when he is done with them?

Seems you only see negative things in the system. Use your logic and not chatgpt stats in reality.

LordVoldemort02:
➜Seems you only see negative things in the system. Use your logic and not chatgpt stats in reality.

I prefer to see things as they are.... neither negative nor positive... just the way they really are.

I know you religious-minded folks like to separate reality into positive or negative; I don't. I just see reality as it is.

Kobojunkie:
I prefer to see things as they are.... neither negative nor positive... just the way they really are.

I know you religious-minded folks like to separate reality into positive or negative; I don't. I just see reality as it is.

Nah I’m not religious but your stats are flawed. Majority of our grand parents lived happily together than this generation. If your stats are correct, why is the rate of baby mama and single mothers higher than our forefathers??
Your response will determine if I’ll engage you or not.

Kobojunkieee:
WOW... you think the tales of bad marriages out there are told by people who wish to demonize marriage? 😩😩😩

Also, do you think telling these unbalanced stories of what you consider to be examples of good marriages—many have rightly pointed out that these tales in the OP read more of tales of men doing all the sacrificing — is right as it seems more an attempt to invalidate the fact that the vast majority of marriages out there are bad? Why

2. Sure, there are good marriages, but they are only a handful when compared to the numerous examples of bad marriages out there. So, what exactly is your purpose for trying to claim that there are those out there demonizing marriage when married couples are all the evidence for why marriage is not for everyone?

And one of the world's notorious Enemy of Marriage just quoted me!

There are more good marriages than bad ones ! The fact that people seldom talk about the good ones don't mean they don't exist! The bad marriages attract more attention than the good ones because people like you would give them all the publicity in the world to discourage others from getting married!

LordVoldemort02:
➜Nah I’m not religious but your stats are flawed. Majority of our grand parents lived happily together than this generation. If your stats are correct, why is the rate of baby mama and single mothers higher than our forefathers??
Your response will determine if I’ll engage you or not.

Storyland! 🥱🥱🥱

Jman06:
➜ And one of the world's notorious Enemy of Marriage just quoted me! There are more good marriages than bad ones ! The fact that people seldom talk about the good ones don't mean they don't exist! The bad marriages attract more attention than the good ones because people like you would give them all the publicity in the world to discourage others from getting married!

That statement in bold is more than enough to reveal your particular delusion. Abeg, make I waka!

Nice thread, positive stories like this, needs to gain traction, so we don't absorb the negative narrative about marriage and Miss out on God ordained relationships. Remain blessed 🙏

Ikeepgoing:
➜Nice thread, positive stories like this, needs to gain traction, so we don't absorb the negative narrative about marriage
➜ and Miss out on God ordained relationships. Remain blessed 🙏

That makes no sense! Why shouldn't you absorb the negative narratives as well? Reality as we know it is a combo of all the "Positives & Negatives". What makes you think that by fixating on one and not equally on the other, you can get anywhere close to reality in the end?

2. Which god ordained what? The divorce/abandonment rate has consistently revealed that the vast majority of marriages out there are not good marriages. Are you insisting that this god of yours ordained even that? Or does your god only ordain it when it looks good, but the moment it all goes sour, no be him again?

Nigerian ladies will only love you more when there is money to spend for there problems .

Idaytesj29:
All these beautiful stories of men bringing women out of shit, cleaning them up, prospering them and marrying them.

Big question is, Can a woman do this same thing for a man?

The answer is known and in our mind. It's men that truly loves. Women are just in business of looking for comfort

Guy swerve with your negative energy.

Basically; competent men with the capacity to subdue the chaos in the Nigerian environment make for happy Nigerian marriages.

Ishilove:
This one touched me. In the midst of sorrow, love was cemented.

If the product is so good why aren't more people marketing it?

Why the need to manipulate, pressurise and trick people into it?

You don't light a candle and hide it under a bucket.

There are more good marriages than bad ones!
The fact that people seldom talk about the good ones don't mean they don't exist!

Jman06:
And one of the world's notorious Enemy of Marriage just quoted me!

There are more good marriages than bad ones ! The fact that people seldom talk about the good ones don't mean they don't exist!. The bad marriages attract more attention than the good ones because people like you would give them all the publicity in the world to discourage others from getting married!

Nigerian woman will first love your money before loving you.

Ishilove:
Guy swerve with your negative energy.

Truth has a way of hitting hard. Unless you have an answer to the question. Your response is not needed.

Police don't lock male and female detainees in the same cell. 2ndly, you will surrender your shirt so which one did he gave her to sleep with?