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I was going through the thread and there was a lot of pain and struggle, I guess it's nothing to be surprised about. The thing is, they have a commonality.

There was a Russian physicist who claimed to discover how the universe works and wrote a really big book about it called reality transurfing. In it he describes a lot of things, and I'll like to mention one of them which seems to be very common, and that's the Idea of excess importance.

Have you ever noticed how people often attract the very thing they’re trying to escape?
The one who fears loneliness ends up in relationships that make them feel invisible.
The one desperate for money keeps meeting setbacks and scarcity.
The one who wants peace often finds themselves surrounded by chaos.

It’s not that life is cruel — it’s that life mirrors what we energize the most.

Whenever we give something excess importance, we create an imbalance in our inner state — a kind of energetic “charge.” And because nature always seeks balance, life responds by bringing the opposite pole into play.

The person who fears poverty gives it power — every thought of lack becomes a silent request. The person who worships success with desperation attracts delay and resistance. The one who obsesses over being loved often draws people who confirm their fears instead.

It’s not punishment — it’s balance.

The world doesn’t respond to words like “I want” or “I hate.” It responds to feeling.
And the heart doesn’t distinguish between positive and negative emotion — it only feels intensity.
So when we spend our days emotionally charged by worry, fear, or frustration, we unknowingly send out a powerful signal — one that calls back experiences carrying that same emotional tone.

That’s why it seems like we attract our opposites.
The ambitious meet the passive.
The kind meet the ungrateful.
The driven meet delay.

It’s not random — it’s resonance.

Let me give an example:
Let's see someone is like oh I have money and people are suffering so I want to help them. Nature doesn't understand people suffering but you to see that thought and energy you give at excess importance and so it's like there is a charge that is too much here and so we need to balance it with something that removes it. So the generous man attracts someone that takes advantage of him, does so use like people are wicked and ungrateful I will never help anyone again. This nature restores balance.

The more importance we attach to something, the more the world moves to neutralize it.
And the more we resist what we dislike, the more life reinforces it.

So when things go wrong, the question isn’t “Why is this happening to me?”
It’s “Where have I placed too much importance?”

Often, what we need isn’t to fight harder, but to release the tension — to stop charging our reality with desperation, control, or emotional weight.

When we stop demanding so much from life, life begins to respond.
When we stop seeing ourselves as victims or heroes in constant struggle, balance returns naturally.

You don’t have to force outcomes — reality unfolds around the quality of your inner state.
If that inner state is peace, peace reflects.
If it’s tension, tension reflects.

What's the solution? Not fight, but to go with the flow, set and intention and rid oneself of desire and importance. Of course there's a lot more, but perhaps this will get you started.

Oh, in case I forgot to mention, the world reflects you relationship to it, like a mirror. For example saying you hate poverty and you want money doesn't bring money to you, the world will reflect, your hate, of poverty, and your want of money, that is the nature of the mirror. If you were to say instead I am rich and have money................, that's a start.

Emceecee:
I was going through the thread and there was a lot of pain and struggle, I guess it's nothing to be surprised about. The thing is, they have a commonality.

There was a Russian physicist who claimed to discover how the universe works and wrote a really big book about it called reality transurfing. In it he describes a lot of things, and I'll like to mention one of them which seems to be very common, and that's the Idea of excess importance.

Have you ever noticed how people often attract the very thing they’re trying to escape?
The one who fears loneliness ends up in relationships that make them feel invisible.
The one desperate for money keeps meeting setbacks and scarcity.
The one who wants peace often finds themselves surrounded by chaos.

It’s not that life is cruel — it’s that life mirrors what we energize the most.

Whenever we give something excess importance, we create an imbalance in our inner state — a kind of energetic “charge.” And because nature always seeks balance, life responds by bringing the opposite pole into play.

The person who fears poverty gives it power — every thought of lack becomes a silent request. The person who worships success with desperation attracts delay and resistance. The one who obsesses over being loved often draws people who confirm their fears instead.

It’s not punishment — it’s balance.

The world doesn’t respond to words like “I want” or “I hate.” It responds to feeling.
And the heart doesn’t distinguish between positive and negative emotion — it only feels intensity.
So when we spend our days emotionally charged by worry, fear, or frustration, we unknowingly send out a powerful signal — one that calls back experiences carrying that same emotional tone.

That’s why it seems like we attract our opposites.
The ambitious meet the passive.
The kind meet the ungrateful.
The driven meet delay.

It’s not random — it’s resonance.

Let me give an example:
Let's see someone is like oh I have money and people are suffering so I want to help them. Nature doesn't understand people suffering but you to see that thought and energy you give at excess importance and so it's like there is a charge that is too much here and so we need to balance it with something that removes it. So the generous man attracts someone that takes advantage of him, does so use like people are wicked and ungrateful I will never help anyone again. This nature restores balance.

The more importance we attach to something, the more the world moves to neutralize it.
And the more we resist what we dislike, the more life reinforces it.

So when things go wrong, the question isn’t “Why is this happening to me?”
It’s “Where have I placed too much importance?”

Often, what we need isn’t to fight harder, but to release the tension — to stop charging our reality with desperation, control, or emotional weight.

When we stop demanding so much from life, life begins to respond.
When we stop seeing ourselves as victims or heroes in constant struggle, balance returns naturally.

You don’t have to force outcomes — reality unfolds around the quality of your inner state.
If that inner state is peace, peace reflects.
If it’s tension, tension reflects.

What's the solution? Not fight, but to go with the flow, set and intention and rid oneself of desire and importance. Of course there's a lot more, but perhaps this will get you started.

Oh, in case I forgot to mention, the world reflects you relationship to it, like a mirror. For example saying you hate poverty and you want money doesn't bring money to you, the world will reflect, your hate, of poverty, and your want of money, that is the nature of the mirror. If you were to say instead I am rich and have money................, that's a start.

The bolded works like magic... asin keeping my head straight, yet "Unbothered."