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The phrase women are evil is a complete fallacy. It's a joke taken too far!

Women are calculative even while with you, they're in for what they can benefit from you and then move on once their mission has been accomplished. It is not evil, it is called smartness. You're the one foolish not to realized this. You sent her money, bought her clothes, paid her bills, money for hair, school fees and then invested in her, knowing fully well she can sleep with any guy she wishes to yet you still went ahead to do things for her.

Same you will still come online to insult and blast them for eating your money when it was obvious they didn't point a gun at you to make the transfer.

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Bannies are evil bro....

Nothing wey anybody wan tell me..

Whats foolish about trusting someone and having an agreement with them...?

An agreement? Did they sign a binding agreement contract?

brain54:
Whats foolish about trusting someone and having an agreement with them...?

Samantha125:
An agreement? Did they sign a binding agreement contract?

An agreement is a mutual understanding...


or arrangement between two or more parties. often formalized in writing. It can be verbal or in writing.

When two people agree, commit or in understanding to be in a relationship then they are actually in an agreement.

Marriage is formal agreement.


Samantha I thought you were a lawyer!

Before you commit to a person, always observe closely and make findings about who they truly are, the kinds of male and female friends they keep, the kind of family they are from, the kind of lifestyle they live and lastly, be very principled as a man. Have some do's and don't.

Such as Don't train ur girlfriend through school but you can assist if need be, but it must not be all the time.

Secondly, always watch out for yourself first. Don't over do in a relationship.

Thirdly, give what you can afford to loose without any form of regret later in the future.

Lastly, always follow your instinct when you sense fowl play and that's because our instincts are always right at all time.

Always remember that she is not your wife yet. Only marriage comes with certification that she is yours, relationship doesn't come with any of such ownership.

That's why I'm asking you whether there was any contractual agreement obligating her to reciprocate? Because if not, she can simply deny everything and consider all those things he's done for her as nothing but gifts.

So far, no one forced him to pay for her school fees and buy her those gifts, he did it out of his own freewill.

when you say verbal agreement, you mean those pillow talk agreements?

brain54:
An agreement is a mutual understanding...


or arrangement between two or more parties. often formalized in writing. It can be verbal or in writing.

When two people agree, commit or in understanding to be in a relationship then they are actually in an agreement.

Marriage is formal agreement.


Samantha I thought you were a lawyer!

Samantha125:
That's why I'm asking you whether there was any contractual agreement obligating her to reciprocate? Because if not, she can simply deny everything and consider all those things he's done for her as nothing but gifts.

So far, no one forced him to pay for her school fees and buy her those gifts, he did it out of his own freewill.

since when is being nice out of one's own freewill a bad thing? is he not supposed to feel hurt when someone he is nice to hurts him?

If you want to be nice with your own pockets, go ahead, but don't expect anything in return since it'd have been done out of your own freewill.

frank317:
since when is being nice out of one's own freewill a bad thing? is he not supposed to feel hurt when someone he is nice to hurts him?

Samantha125:
That's why I'm asking you whether there was any contractual agreement obligating her to reciprocate? Because if not, she can simply deny everything and consider all those things he's done for her as nothing but gifts.

So far, no one forced him to pay for her school fees and buy her those gifts, he did it out of his own freewill.

when you say verbal agreement, you mean those pillow talk agreements?

Since when do pple sign contract /agreements or affidavit before expecting reciprocated feelings in a relationship ...

...but if the table turns after dating a guy for years and ddnt marry yall...you won't say this same thing here ....

#....women and double standards.....

Those "gifts" weren't given to a random stranger on the streets...

They are implied agreements/inference.

People ought to be trustworthy enough to keep their words... which takes me back to my original comment here as they is nothing wrong in trusting people to keep their words!

Samantha125:
That's why I'm asking you whether there was any contractual agreement obligating her to reciprocate? Because if not, she can simply deny everything and consider all those things he's done for her as nothing but gifts.

So far, no one forced him to pay for her school fees and buy her those gifts, he did it out of his own freewill.

when you say verbal agreement, you mean those pillow talk agreements?

If you're gonna be crying about how ladies spent your money and left you afterwards, then maybe it's time you start suggesting that you guys enter into binding contractual agreements that'll enforce legal obligations before spending on them.

And why pay for a lady's school fees when the both of you are neither engaged nor married?

WatchYourSix:
Since when do pple sign contract /agreements or affidavit before expecting reciprocated feelings in a relationship ...

...but if the table turns after dating a guy for years and ddnt marry yall...you won't say this same thing here ....

#....women and double standards.....

brain54:
Whats foolish about trusting someone and having an agreement with them...?

It's foolish for an adult to think he/she should gain access to the life of another adult through the giving of gifts and not through the signing of a solid contract that grants some clearly defined access. Without a defined contract, your so-called trust is built on air

Samantha125:
If you want to be nice with your own pockets, go ahead, but don't expect anything in return since it'd have been done out of your own freewill.

is this only when it comes to women or generally... who is nice to anyone and not expecting something in return... shebi he picks his money that you want him to dash people without expecting anything in return. even your own parents who train you expect something in return... u think someone wants to train a girl in school and not expect anything in return... his hard earned money? what kind of thinking is this?

Kobojunkie:
It's foolish for an adult to think he/she should gain access to the life of another adult through the giving of gifts and not through the signing of a solid contract that grants some clearly defined access. Without a defined contract, your so-called trust is built on air

Gaining access to another adult through gifts ...

Or what I term emotional bribery or blackmail is different from building a partner or helping them grow by paying their school fees for example. I don't see anything wrong in helping someone you are in a relationship grow to be better in whatever way.

And let's try and be practical here do you go about signing a contratual agreement with everyone you decide to be in a relationship with?

They is nothing wrong in trusting someone that gives you their words to be committed to a relationship.

Blame the defaulter for being dishonest rather!

brain54:
✓ Gaining access to another adult through gifts ...
Or what I term emotional bribery or blackmail is different from building a partner or helping them grow by paying their school fees for example. I don't see anything wrong in helping someone you are in a relationship grow to be better in whatever way.
✓ And let's try and be practical here do you go about signing a contratual agreement with everyone you decide to be in a relationship with?
✓They is nothing wrong in trusting someone that gives you their words to be committed to a relationship.
✓ Blame the defaulter for being dishonest rather!

There is nothing wrong with giving of gifts or helping to build someone. However, there is everything wrong is assuming that this giving of gifts should grant one access to the lives of those who receive these gifts/help.

2. Yes! Making a commitment to someone either to be a boyfriend or husband is a contractual agreement

3. There is everything wrong with it since the trust you can have has to be as defined by the terms and conditions of the contract you have with said person and not your whims. So, long as you are in a relationship with a human being, your safety and protection should remain primarily your own responsibility. It is never OK to throw caution to the wind.

4. How can a person be said to be in default when there is no clear evidence of him/her defaulting?

brain54:
Gaining access to another adult through gifts ...

Or what I term emotional bribery or blackmail is different from building a partner or helping them grow by paying their school fees for example. I don't see anything wrong in helping someone you are in a relationship grow to be better in whatever way.

And let's try and be practical here do you go about signing a contratual agreement with everyone you decide to be in a relationship with?

They is nothing wrong in trusting someone that gives you their words to be committed to a relationship.

Blame the defaulter for being dishonest rather!

abeg dont mind these people.... they just want to twist something so straight forward just to win an argument

Kobojunkie:
There is nothing wrong with giving of gifts or helping to build someone. However, there is everything wrong is assuming that this giving of gifts should grant one access to the lives of those who receive these gifts/help.

if to people are in a relationship there is an agreement thats why they are together... when men start treating you ladies like u are saying you will be crying all over the place. a man and a woman come togther, tell themselves they are in love, and start doing nice things to each other to show their love, and the girl goes about sleeping with other persons and u are justifying it and blaming the man... what kind of thinking is this?

If you're gonna trust someone with your money, always leave a room in your heart for disappointments, especially if you're in a romantic relationship... And don't spend on her with the expectations of receiving favours in return.

And please, next time don't bring my profession into these useless nairaland banters, because some of us have strict boundaries between our workplace and personal lives... My life doesn't revolves around being a lawyer.

brain54:
Those "gifts" weren't given to a random stranger on the streets...

They are implied agreements/inference.

People ought to be trustworthy enough to keep their words... which takes me back to my original comment here as they is nothing wrong in trusting people to keep their words!

I love reading stories like this

frank317:
✓ if to people are in a relationship there is an agreement thats why they are together... when men start treating you ladies like u are saying you will be crying all over the place. a man and a woman come togther, tell themselves they are in love, and start doing nice things to each other to show their love, and the girl goes about sleeping with other persons and u are justifying it and blaming the man... what kind of thinking is this?

I don't know what you intended for me to do with this rant of yours.

Again, the giving of gifts and doing of favors DOES NOT grant you access to a person's life. If a commitment is what you desire, then enter into a contractual relationship that clearly defines said commitment.

Who forced him to train her when they're not married.

My parents never expected anything in return from me.

frank317:
is this only when it comes to women or generally... who is nice to anyone and not expecting something in return... shebi he picks his money that you want him to dash people without expecting anything in return. even your own parents who train you expect something in return... u think someone wants to train a girl in school and not expect anything in return... his hard earned money? what kind of thinking is this?

Samantha125:
If you're gonna be crying about how ladies spent your money and left you afterwards, then maybe it's time you start suggesting that you guys enter into binding contractual agreements that'll enforce legal obligations before spending on them.

And why pay for a lady's school fees when the both of you are neither engaged nor married?

As If yall don't cry more when they don't marry you......abeg swerve....

Women are smarter when it comes to lifetime choices.
Even the poorest and least Educated girl will go for the best man. It's innate. They make everything transactional.
However, men are the prize yet they fail to use it

Samantha125:
Who forced him to train her when they're not married.

My parents never expected anything in return from me.

Somami Samantha.
Somami samantha

Goo0dHardDick:
The phrase women are evil is a complete fallacy. It's a joke taken too far!

Women are calculative even while with you, they're in for what they can benefit from you and then move on once their mission has been accomplished. It is not evil, it is called smartness. You're the one foolish not to realized this. You sent her money, bought her clothes, paid her bills, money for hair, school fees and then invested in her, knowing fully well she can sleep with any guy she wishes to yet you still went ahead to do things for her.

Same you will still come online to insult and blast them for eating your money when it was obvious they didn't point a gun at you to make the transfer.

So after narrating evil behavior common to many women, you foolishly concluded they're not evil?

What a stupid post.

Meobizy just left the WhatsApp group.🥱

Is she an orphan? She should ask her father for whatever she needs.

Goo0dHardDick:
The phrase women are evil is a complete fallacy. It's a joke taken too far!

Women are calculative even while with you, they're in for what they can benefit from you and then move on once their mission has been accomplished. It is not evil, it is called smartness. You're the one foolish not to realized this. You sent her money, bought her clothes, paid her bills, money for hair, school fees and then invested in her, knowing fully well she can sleep with any guy she wishes to yet you still went ahead to do things for her.

Same you will still come online to insult and blast them for eating your money when it was obvious they didn't point a gun at you to make the transfer.

ReacherSaidNoth:
So after narrating evil behavior common to many women, you foolishly concluded they're not evil?

What a stupid post.

Before you commit to any woman it is important you research deeply about her if she worth your commitment. Dude if you fail to do this and they eat your money or give you a nasty behaviour it means you are foolish

frank317:
since when is being nice out of one's own freewill a bad thing? is he not supposed to feel hurt when someone he is nice to hurts him?

Being nice to a woman is complete foolishness and a joke taken too far.

Women don't like nice guys. They don't like you when you do things free for them or give them things for free. This is why nice guys finish last. Women love the hard ruthless guys. Be sweet and romantic but be Ruthless!

Goo0dHardDick:
Before you commit to any woman it is important you research deeply about her if she worth your commitment. Dude if you fail to do this and they eat your money or give you a nasty behaviour it means you are foolish

This is silly reasoning. Men falling or not falling for the antics of bad women does not make the action of those women free from judgement.

This is like saying victims of robbery are foolish and the robbers themselves have done no evil.

meobizy:
Is she an orphan? She should ask her father for whatever she needs.

Exactly my point.

She didn't point a gun at your head and commanded you to do anything for her. You just didn't have the balls to tell her NO to her demands, that's where many of you guys are getting it wrong.

Dude be bold and tell a girl no whenever she asked for anything from you, if she wants to leave kindly show her the door to fk off! That's how to be a man!!