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Kobojunkie:
Because most men are kings of the Nation of Israel formed by Moses who were allowed to have many wives by the Law of Moses, abi? 😩😩😩

There ought to be.a law ....🥱🥱🥱

GloriousGbola:
Don't mind the OP. It's a stolen story as I have read it somewhere else.

another made up story

you think in this decade i need to go to my ex house to know he/she is married? when we have facebook, instagram whatsapp status?

and you want to give us the bs story of a kind step mother

in this nigeria??

there is only one real moreal to your made up story - and that is that a woman should ensure she is not financially dependent on her husband

as for the husband - if he actually now has four children - he is not smart at all in this decade. na the first two pikins go suffer am pass

starpower:
see, men are only attractive because of money, when a woman have good genes and can provide easily for herself, no desperation for companionship. A divorcee lady in mid-forties once visited my office, how the kids and her relate sef is attractive on is own. Nobody should think one gender is better, it things of the mind. Most ladies attracted to me now as a married man are just mostly looking for free money. My wife is pretty and smart, I don't think she would have a problem moving on except she creates unworthy expectations. I will find it hard moving on, because I naturally don't think I like those attracted to me and putting in effort into chances I hate it. I don't easily fall for emotions and I have quite some funny expectations that being young is better than, 33 years and be pretending to call oneself youth, remove money and attractions disappear.

Predictor3:
If men are only attractive because of money, then men are done for. But , fortunately, that's not the case. If that was the case, there wouldn't be incidences of house boys sleeping with their oga's wives or a poor handsome man sleeping with a richer guy's wife or girlfriend.
Don't think you understand women. They don't know what they actually want in many cases.
But one thing is sure, men react to a whole lot of other things other than a man's bank account or expensive car

starpower:
you are right!, am just letting the writer know we all as human become lesser desirable after aging sets in but what favours most males is having means, not that they are actually better than women. Most men think it easier to move on and think new partners really like them Most money is the real motivation.

Montana23:
I saw everything I needed, im from a polygamous home

Ttalk:
That story is a typical example of SE who feels Nigeria cheated her, she went into war but Nigeria forgave her and begged her to come back with a starter package to start afresh, but she was not pleased and always make reference to the initial misunderstanding, she nag and nag with every member of the family who are tired of her complex.

Now she back to take the position of the first wife but the a husband Nigeria has moved on.

Getting a second chance when occured is should be seen as miracle

ariesbull:
My cousin ended her five-year marriage the day she found out her husband cheated. We all begged her to think twice, to calm down before walking away. But she was done. She packed her things, took her two kids, and left.

For a year, the man went from one relative to another, begging for forgiveness. He apologised, promised to change, did everything a repentant man would do. But she stood firm. “I deserve better,” she said.

She got her own place, started afresh, and later met a married man who treated her well. For a while it looked like she had found peace until his wife showed up one morning and scattered everything. The man disappeared, and she was left humiliated.

Not long after, another man came along. He stayed just two months before running off when money became an issue. No message, no explanation.

Then came an Alhaji who promised marriage but only if she sent her sons back to their father. He said he could not raise another man’s children. She ended it right there.

Three years later, she woke up one morning and asked herself, what if I go back? The man still loved her, the kids missed him, and maybe time had softened her heart.

So she went to his house early that morning, ready to reconcile. But a pregnant woman opened the door. Her ex-husband had moved on.

It has been over ten years now. The woman who once turned heads no longer does. The suitors stopped coming. Her kids are back with their father, cared for by their stepmother who now has two of her own.

Life does not always give you a second chance. Sometimes pride takes what pain never could.

Maliq

Kobojunkie:
If your friend had simply stopped at starting afresh, instead of jumping headlong into meaningless relationships, she probably would have been better off.

Yes, she did the right thing by abandoning her abuser — the man who cheated on her. No woman or man should remain in an abusive relationship, no matter how much their abuser begs. Her mistake was in roping herself with other men afterwards without first ensuring she had properly healed from the previous abuse, and also her own lack of self-awareness and dearth of self-love.

2. Wrong, life more than gave your friend numerous chances at a second chance. She refused to take advantage of them to the fullest. Life has nothing to do with what became of your friend, as your narrative clearly shows. There are so many of our mothers and grandmothers who were literally abandoned in marriage, who went on to live better and more fulfilling lives outside of marriage out there as examples to any woman who wishes to use her second chance outside of marriage to her benefit.

Unfortunately, this story is typical of a certain kind of woman... the kind who doesn't know or even realize how valuable she is as a human being; this kind typically believes her worth is nothing until a man accepts her. It is a shame that professional psychotherapy is still not fully embraced by many in Nigeria.

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Tell your friend it is not too late for her to pick herself and start over again loving herself first. That is the only way to heal and get her self in esteem back where it ought to be -- up high. No human is born needing others for validation and self worth. 🥱🥱

jessylaurel:
Moral of this story?

Stay with a cheating man right?? Mtchew

Diamond098454:
I don't like this story , cheating is not good. We should stop glorifying infidelity just because the person involved is a man

Man man man I don't understand

Helpout12345:
The story might be made up but it's also a very common reality.

And the main moral of the story is that divorced women with children find it difficult to get another single man/ never married men to date or remarry them.

That doesn't mean a woman should not divorce her husband for whatever reasons that suit her. It just means that she has a very high chance of facing similar hurdle.

Kobojunkie:
Polygamy reduced you to seeing a your own mother-- a human being -- as merely a cog in the wheel that is polygamy and nothing more?😩😩😩

ariesbull:
My cousin ended her five-year marriage the day she found out her husband cheated. We all begged her to think twice, to calm down before walking away. But she was done. She packed her things, took her two kids, and left.

For a year, the man went from one relative to another, begging for forgiveness. He apologised, promised to change, did everything a repentant man would do. But she stood firm. “I deserve better,” she said.

She got her own place, started afresh, and later met a married man who treated her well. For a while it looked like she had found peace until his wife showed up one morning and scattered everything. The man disappeared, and she was left humiliated.

Not long after, another man came along. He stayed just two months before running off when money became an issue. No message, no explanation.

Then came an Alhaji who promised marriage but only if she sent her sons back to their father. He said he could not raise another man’s children. She ended it right there.

Three years later, she woke up one morning and asked herself, what if I go back? The man still loved her, the kids missed him, and maybe time had softened her heart.

So she went to his house early that morning, ready to reconcile. But a pregnant woman opened the door. Her ex-husband had moved on.

It has been over ten years now. The woman who once turned heads no longer does. The suitors stopped coming. Her kids are back with their father, cared for by their stepmother who now has two of her own.

Life does not always give you a second chance. Sometimes pride takes what pain never could.

Maliq

johnlegend01:
How stupid women think leaving their marriage to become side chicks of other married men is sickening.

Montana23:
➜I was actually asleep when I got your message..who are you to determine my mothers life or destiny , who are you to judge the life one has chosen, is ur life perfect..please reply with good message without having to ridicule anyone..
➜ be matured..as a woman own up to your hustle and forget what a man is doing..
➜ if you got real things to handle you won’t be jumping over what a man’s doing same goes for man too..respect yourself

Montana23:
➜my mum had about 4 house before she died, my dad always cheated but she never left..after she died my took care of us in every way he could as a father but if she has moved out their will be no one to guide me and my siblings.

DMCY:
Left her cheating husband to go date a married man. The street will always claim their pound of flesh

Kwinesther:
The f00lish cheating husband left a woman that is meant for him alone (his wife) at home, to start sleeping with dogs that sleeps with every TOM,DICK and HARRY in the street. He loves to eat and drink from dirty and contaminated pits compared to a clean pot... some men are very f00lish logical creatures indeed.

DMCY:
She left her home to go hookup with a married man, is God not wonderful? Why the heck was she pained in the first place ?

Kwinesther:
He left his wife that is meant for just him alone at home to sleep with a public pit toilet, maybe one or several of them, is God not wonderful? Why the heck is the man so f00lish, dirty and Unreasonable?